My BF Ghosted Me On My Birthday! | KARAMO

So what's going on today?

First, before we get into that, I just wanna say that I'm a major fan.

Oh, thank you.

And I love you. And you really get— y'all, I'm from the hood. And Karamo get a hood hope. 'Cause we don't go to like counselors, we don't get like, you know, help, seek help that we need. So a lot of the help that we need, we get from the nosy neighborhood. And we see ourself here. And you bringing your son just took it to another level. It was so sincere. Thank you so much.

I love you for that. Thank you so much.

I love you for that. I tried.

I try. So, Meezy, now tell me what's going on today. That was very sweet, thank you.

Thank you, you're welcome. Bino thinks I'm controlling. There is an age gap, 6 years.

Okay, that's not bad.

He's a gambler and he's just not responsible. And again, I'm older than him, so I don't have a lot of time to waste.

Yeah.

But at the same time, I understand that he's young, so I try to kind of give him a little leniency, but nah, he been blowing it. Like, he been doing too much.

Tell me about your birthday trip. What happened?

I just wanted to do something different and wanted to take him somewhere different. So I paid for everything that we were going to do in St. Thomas, but it was my birthday. So I said the least he could do was get the plane tickets there, right?

Yeah. Uh-huh.

So 3 or 4 days before my birthday, we had an argument, but I don't feel like it was that serious for him to go on continuously and miss My birthday, no call, no show. And you know, that's, no call, no show 2 days, you fired.

Yeah.

I gave him 3.

Still nothing.

Nothing.

Nothing. So did you go on the birthday trip by yourself?

I did not go.

Oh.

But I just went to the club that night and I like popped hella bottles, had a lot of fun. And yeah.

Have you cheated on him? Are you showing him nothing?

No, I haven't cheated, but he says I'm very flirtatious.

Okay, are you flirtatious? I'm a Scorpio.

You said it, we said it.

Come on now, you know. Were you shocked that he ghosted you for your birthday?

Very much so. Because he know, like birthdays and Valentine's, that's really all we got. 'Cause we ain't got no, like I don't have any kids or nothing like that. It's like my puppy. I have parties for my puppies. So he know if it's my birthday, what's going on, right?

So the age difference between you two again is 6 years, right?

Mm-hmm.

And how long y'all been together?

3.

3 years. Okay then. And what's going on with you and this guy from the club? The one that you talking about he was trying to run off?

Well, I go to the club, I'm in there like buying bottles. They got like signs, sparkles, everything coming through like to the section. So I'm kind of seeing this guy, not gonna lie. He handsome. He real handsome. So I'm seeing him. And I'm tipsy though. My friend, she don't drink, she don't smoke, she don't do nothing. So she like, I'm gonna drive, I'm gonna take you home.

Yeah.

So he was kind of by my car, but when he saw us coming across the parking lot, he was like, hey, I know she's kind of tipsy, but I wanna take her out to breakfast. And you being her friend, you can go with us so you won't think I'm doing nothing to her. So me and my friend, we go eat. He like, hold on y'all, I'm gonna be back. First thing we thinking, this nigga finna run off on the tab.

You know what I'm saying?

We like, where he going? He just invited us here, he finna go.

So he went to the store across the street and he came back.

back to the restaurant with a bird, a card, and some flowers.

For your birthday?

He was like, it's your birthday, I noticed that in the club. So I was like, oh!

Yeah, yeah.

Mind you, I hadn't heard from Bino in 3 days. He sent me a text message with a handshake, y'all, said happy birthday. Not even a emoji with a cake.

Yeah.

So we just kinda, you know, talked and did a little Facebook flirting. We kinda kept contact on Facebook and like texting a little bit.

But nothing else happened?

But nothing else happened.

Okay then.

What's the name of this guy that didn't leave you high and dry?

that took you to breakfast? Nico.

Nico?

Yeah.

Okay. So my producer told me that when you and Bino argue, he tries to win you back with flowers. Is that true?

Yeah. I'm not gonna lie. Karamo, Karamo, look at this shit. I got enough flowers. But my thing is, why don't you give me these things before we get into it? You can buy me flowers randomly on a regular day.

Yeah.

I don't know. He just a siren. He just a siren.

I don't know.

And so the flowers come just from arguments or when he does something else?

Um, sometimes arguments. Sometimes they'll be because he finna do something.

Got it.

Give flowers, like anything.

Well, um, Bino is here because he wants to hear your side.

I would want me too. I would want me too.

Yeah. Well, I think it's time to hear Bino's side of the story. So everyone, please welcome Bino to the show.

Hey, hey, hey, don't clap.

Bino, how you doing, man?

What's going on, man?

Nice to meet you, man. Thank you for being here.

What y'all laughing for? Y'all laugh too hard out there.

So why did you break up with Meezy before her birthday?

Man, 'cause I ain't gonna lie, when we had got into it, she was telling the shit I ain't shit. I ain't gonna be shit. I never was shit.

Oh, okay.

Then so shit, I packed my shit and got up outta shit. You see what I'm saying?

Yeah.

So shit, what else you want me to do?

Yeah.

I ain't shit.

Probably.

See what I'm saying?

'Cause at the time I hadn't talked to you in 3 days, so What am I supposed to say? And it's my birthday. Like, you acting like nothing.

Oh, so she said this shit after your birthday?

No, this was during the argument, but her birthday was like 3 days after the argument.

Got it. When y'all got into the argument, she said you went missing for 10 days straight. Where did you go?

My auntie house.

Your auntie house?

Yeah.

And you don't believe that?

Hell no.

Okay.

And then he said I put my name on his forehead. I ain't gonna tell him what he was doing embarrassing me. Like, he do stuff like that. Like, yeah, I don't know. I don't know.

Oh, that's your name up there?

Mm-hmm.

Oh yeah, okay.

You know how we do.

Uh-huh. Bino, you told my producers that Meezy was controlling. How does she control you?

She thinks she my mama all the time. Look at her face right now. You see what I'm saying? You see what I'm saying? She thinks she my mama, but you know, it's that little age gap thing.

Are you cheating on her?

No, I ain't.

Okay.

Then he gonna say, I think I'm his mama. No, 'cause he would be much better. I'll be going upside his head. I'll be whooping him. You be whooping him? I'll be doing all kinds of shit to him.

No. She whoop me.

She whoops you?

Yeah.

Why you lying?

So you ain't pull out that extension cord the other day and—

I ain't hit you with it.

You pulled it out?

I swung it like just so you could feel the wind.

See what I'm saying?

He always say that and it's not funny. And he really be trying to hint that I'm old.

Yeah.

But I'm not.

You know what's going on.

Okay.

So why do you want Meezy back?

Because I love her though. I ain't gonna lie. Like, it's way more than just—

He a dog. I am too. Roof. We going bone for bone. No, I'm just playing. But that's what's going on. We got what we got. So why do you believe that?

You believe that Misiya cheated on you?

Yeah.

That's my first time hearing that, Karamo.

Wow.

You got some more of them cards? We gotta take all this in. This is a lot.

Why are you so bothered about the guy from the club? 'Cause she said you tried to run him off.

Ain't no try.

You ain't on no try. You ran him off.

Come on, man.

Okay, okay. So you ran him off.

Yeah.

But why were you bothered by him? She said nothing happened. They just like—

And you dumped me, so why you try to run him off?

First of all—

What's up with that, cousin?

First of all, I didn't, cuz, I didn't, just don't play.

No, don't cuz, that's my cousin, not your cousin.

This is Karamo. So you ran him off?

'Cause can't nobody treat her better than me. You know what I'm saying? Even though we got—

But you left for 10 days.

Okay, if I want a Sour Patch Kid, I know where to find the candy.

Uh-huh.

And he know I love him, so.

Got it, okay. Well, it's time to unlock the phone. You know, you wanna know if Meezy is communicating with any other men or if she's communicating with a man she met on her birthday. Meezy, we unlocked your phone.

Ooh.

Here we go.

Yeah.

Actually, Meezy, we did not unlock your phone 'cause you refused.

Sure did not.

What?

I did. I did.

Why did you refuse to unlock your phone?

Because in certain situations when he choose to leave, sometimes he leave me high and dry and I have to get stuff done. Like, because you leave don't mean the rent not due. Because you leave don't mean the light bill due. So I have to reach out to like, I have to reach out not to no dude or nothing.

Hold on, hold on. I'm getting a ping and it's from the guy you met at the club on your birthday. Let me hear what he has to say. Hold on, let me hear what he has to say.

I'm Nico. I met Meezy at the club on her birthday. She was dancing, beautiful queen. I love chocolate, so I approached her like, dang, where your man at? And she tell me her dude just left her on her birthday. We enjoyed the night. We had drinks the whole night and everything was cool. And I was just like, you know, be a perfect gentleman, you know, make sure she make it home safe. And we ain't really talked much after that because she got unfinished business. But if this guy is cheating on Meezy, then I want her to find out today because I want us to be wearing matching PJs, if you know what I mean.

Oh!

Oh!

Um, Ne-Yo. So what I do know, what we do know is true is that you were honest about nothing happened that night. Yeah, yeah, nah, we knew that. Yeah, we know for honest nothing happened that night. And he also said y'all had not been communicating because you said you're handling it. But he also did say, you know, that he said if you doing something, he's ready to have her be the girl.

That's what he said. He said that, didn't he?

And he would like y'all to be in matching pajamas is what he said. How does it make you feel that he is still interested in you and wants something serious?

He was a great guy. Like, we communicated a lot. We had a lot of things in common, but at the same time, like, I'm not into leading nobody on. So I told him like, yeah, I got, you know, something going on and, you know.

Okay.

So we kind of mutually agreed to that.

Okay, well listen, Bino, we unlocked your phone.

Mm-hmm.

Why you laughing, cousin?

'Cause we didn't, because he refused too.

Bino refused too.

Bino, why did you refuse to lock your phone?

'Cause he the fucking guy.

I told them if they couldn't get her phone, they can't get mine.

Who said he—

Finish clapping.

No, ain't no clapping. No, no, this is the whole reason why we here. Like, no, no.

How you gonna unlock my phone and I can't unlock your phone? 'Cause where was you at for 10 days?

What you mean? That's the problem at hand. You just heard the man say he ain't do nothing with me. Like, you know me and him ain't got nothing going on. I haven't been talking to him.

Well, okay. Well, the thing is, is that, Bino, I know you didn't unlock your phone, but we here at the Karamo Show always make sure we get receipts. So yesterday you had a conversation with our producers and we recorded it. Take a look.

I can't give her my phone. Like, I can't.

What are you afraid she's gonna find in your phone?

After we broke up on our birthday, I was— I had an encounter with another little woman and she gave me a— so it went like that. I was just upset and mad, so I was just trying to get back at Meezy, you know what I'm saying? So it wasn't even nothing too serious. I can't give up my phone though. I got too much in my phone going on. If the investigators go through my phone and unlock my phone, any one of these phones, Meezy ain't gonna come back. It ain't gonna be no chance of me getting her back.

So, so on your birthday—

So on my birthday, you was up there getting your—

Look, look, man, look. I'm the only nigga to ever do this, man. Look, you don't want the roses?

You know I love you. Thank you, thank you. I'm gonna put 'em, I'm gonna put these right where they belong. Karamo, listen. He just said on my birthday he was getting fucked. He did.

Why your finger gotta be all right there?

That's why I be wanting to beat the shit out you. Then you be talking about I'm like your mama. No, no, I'm not, 'cause I would've been whooped you. Yeah, really, the audience can take one and pass it down. This enough for everybody in the crowd. I'm sick of you. You stay doing that sorry ass shit. And I done asked you several times, hundreds of times, jokingly, seriously, like, What happened? Where you been? What you been doing? He even got lying ass friends done called me. Oh, he ain't doing nothing. We been here just chilling. Just stupid.

Why would you?

Just stupid. And then I want to tell you this, Karamo. He put that out there.

Sexual intercourse with another woman. It was more than what he said. I know it was just oral on her birthday.

It wasn't just oral.

He said it's oral.

It was way more than that. If he put that, it's way more than that.

But listen though, come on. You mean to tell me if I'm gone, And it's your birthday and all this going on. You ain't did nothing with nobody.

She didn't. We just heard from the man you suspected. The man you suspected just confirmed they didn't do anything. He had no reason to lie. He wants your woman, so he could have easily said, yeah, we did something. Could have been just a lie.

You could have been said this. This is not what I— do you know this my favorite show? You know I didn't come on here to be— you embarrassing. You embarrassing as hell. Like, you dumb. Like, you ain't have to do nothing. But pay for your plane ticket to get where we was going and come back. You did that on purpose. It's more than that. He did that on purpose. Whoever this girl is that did that, he gotta be doing some type of shit. That's why he want you to go through their phone. Like, you just randomly meet somebody and get a phone number? You been knowing her. It been something. No.

Man.

No.

Okay. So, Meezy, I'm gonna say this to you right now. If we cousins and you a super fan of this show, You know the advice I'm about to give you.

Yeah, you gonna lean back and you gonna say that's trifling behavior and I need to do what's best for me.

Which is? Which is? Which is?

Just going on about my business and starting over.

So you said earlier you had a mustard seed of hope. That mustard seed of hope has been buried. When a man disrespects you on your birthday?

Any day.

On any day, but especially on your birthday.

Especially.

There's no respect for you or this relationship. And that's true, Bino, you know that. You have been using flowers, you've been using these tactics because you knew that she had this mustard seed of hope and you've been allowing yourself to get away with stuff. And there's an emotional immaturity that's happening here. And I'm not sure what happened to you in your own life. I keep hearing little symptoms of like, you say things like, you're like my mom or whatever. There's something in your past of why you feel like this is the way you need to engage with women. But you have to grow up because what you just did is that you lost a good one here. You lost a woman that was trying to be with you, support you. And I'm not saying everything was perfect and I'm not saying that her behavior was always perfect. I'm not saying, but what I do know is that I don't believe she's cheated on you.

And all I'm doing is building him for somebody else. I'm not bossing you. I'm not trying to tell you what to do or nothing. If you can't do it here, you can't do it nowhere. So you need to go be by your damn self.

What do you have to say to her? What do you have to say to her? And I want you to take a moment right now and be not only honest, but be vulnerable because like literally, if this really my cousin right here, she gonna do what's best for her.

And who is the girl?

You don't know though, but I ain't gonna—

But what you wanna say to her?

I apologize for how me made you feel. Yeah, I guess wasting your time like that.

Well, shut up. I ain't gonna lie. Karamo, I done heard this so many times. I don't feel no type of way. And I wish these were no sorry flowers.

Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Listen, you gave her flowers, but I'm gonna go ahead and plant some seeds in her head so you can leave the show. Thank you so much for being here.

Appreciate it, man.

Okay, cuz.

I did not expect that to go like that, cousin.

You need to know the truth. This man is not gonna change. You gotta let go. I know, I try to give this conversation and tell women all the time, when you looking and holding onto the potential a man could have, the potential a man have, it keeps you from looking at the reality. And the reality is he's never respected you like he needs to respect you. He's never loved you the way you deserve to be loved. What you need to do after this situation is take a moment to be with yourself, heal, and I promise you the right one will come next. Thank you.

Okay?

Please, no more potential. Look at the reality. That's what it is. And that's for everybody at home. Stop looking at the potential. Look at the reality. That potential will keep you stuck in a routine and a situation that is unhealthy and it's gonna keep you unhappy. Stop looking at potential this man could have, this potential this woman could have. Look at the reality of who they are. Okay? I wish you the best of luck, cuz.

You know what I mean?

Thank you.

I love you guys. All right, make sure to come back next time, friends, We can keep talking and growing. I love you all. Come here, gimme a hug.