My Boyfriend Is A Lying Ass Hoe! | KARAMO

So my guest Ashley says that she used to weigh 300 pounds, but after a weight loss journey, she was thrilled when Ronnie came calling. 9 months later, she has a list of women that she believes he's cheating with. So we're unlocking his phone. Everyone, please welcome Ashley to the show so we can hear her side of the story. Can I have a hug? How are you?

Good, how are you?

So first of all, congratulations on your weight loss journey. Thank you. Thank you. I can't go on to, I don't wanna talk about him yet. I wanna focus on you and give you some praise. So how does it feel to know that you said, let me make this change for myself?

It feels good. It feels good. It was a long journey, but you know, it feels good.

What gave you the strength to continue on that journey?

I don't know, just wanted to be able to do more with my kids and be able to interact with them more.

I mean, you were beautiful then, but you're still beautiful now.

Yeah, I couldn't do too much. I mean, they get out there playing baseball and stuff, you get out of breath. I just wanna be able to interact with them a little bit better and be involved in their activities and stuff.

Yeah, so do you feel physically, I mean, other than physically, do you feel emotionally and mentally different?

Yeah, I do feel a lot mentally different. It gives you a little bit more self-esteem when you get all that weight off of you.

Good, good, good. Okay then. And my last question about your weight loss, I mean, they don't stay on it too much, but I like to, I know what the journey is. I've had some friends who have been on that journey of weight loss. That's a commitment.

It is.

For yourself, for your health, for your future. And I know that there's moments that you probably were like, I don't know if I can do it.

Yeah, it was a big commitment.

You did it, girl. Congratulations. Congratulations. Okay, so now, You got a new man?

Yeah, he a lying ass too.

Lies.

So you wanna lock his phone, what's going on?

Mm-hmm, I'm nosy as hell.

Okay, we nosy all the time too.

I know what to look for and I'll go on there and I'll see like the little notifications and I'll see where women has messaged him. But then when I go over here to Messenger where they come from, they gone. So what they gone for?

Oh God.

Why they gone?

Got it.

It's 'cause you erased them 'Cause your ass is lying and you cheating and you just a lying ass cheater.

Got it, okay. So you told my producers that once you lost weight, that's when he gave you the attention. So you've known Ronnie for a while and he didn't give you attention?

Yeah, we grew up in a small town. We went to school together and everything. And yeah, he started messaging me probably like 2 years ago. He messaged me for like a year and a half before I even responded 'cause I told him he need to learn some manners before he come holler at me.

Come on, speak, speak, okay, okay. Yeah, I ain't doing that. So tell us about the list of women you think Ronnie's messing around with.

I know who it is and I know like if you're not doing anything wrong, why are you deleting them?

You compare your relationship to him with like a swinging door?

Yeah, 'cause we just go back and forth, back and forth, back and forth.

Back and forth, back and forth. And y'all 9 months in, this supposed to be honeymoon phase.

Yeah, we done passed that phase.

Yeah, how long did the honeymoon phase last?

Oh, I don't know, maybe a couple weeks.

Couple weeks, that's it?

Yeah, the hairline ass.

Does Ronnie accuse you of cheating?

Yeah, he says I'm cheating all the time. I don't cheat, I don't got time to cheat 'cause I'm too busy getting into his shit to see him cheating.

Too busy running around I'm running behind him. That's the realest thing ever. I ain't got time to cheat 'cause I'm worried about your ass.

Yeah, 'cause I'm trying to find out where you at, why you cheating.

Okay, so Ronnie turned over his phone to our unlock the phone investigators because you wanna know where Ronnie was on February 5th. You wanna know if Ronnie is communicating, that's a very specific date. Okay, Ronnie, you wanna know if Ronnie is communicating with any women from your list from Facebook Messenger. And you also wanna know if Ronnie has any explicit photos in his phone. So why February 5th?

Because this is how nosy I am. I went on his Google account. Well, I guess he didn't know it, but there was someone talking about, why does her feet swell? And it's got his voice on there asking, and you can hear another woman in the background. So like, and then he tried to say he was at his grandma's house. You was not at your grandma's house. That is not your grandma's voice on there. You was a lying asshole. And I wanna know where the hell you was.

Listen, it's only because of the way you saying it, because I'm not trying to lie, but you like, he's a lying asshole.

Yeah.

I wanna know where you was.

Okay.

'Cause I'm about to go knock on her door.

Got it. Well, there's two sides to every story, so I think it's time we hear—

His side is lying.

His side is lying? Well, I still wanna hear Ronnie's possible lie side.

Yes, we gotta hear his lies.

So everyone, let's welcome Ronnie to the show so we can hear his side of the story.

His mouth don't even move and he already lying.

Ronnie, how you doing? Nice to meet you. By the way, you just walked out here, she said you was already lying. You ain't even say nothing, she said you was lying.

I never have to, I'm always lying.

He lying anyway.

You lying anyway. So Ronnie, what do you have to say about what Ashley has said?

Is there any truth to it?

She's lying to you.

No, she's lying to you. You mean she ain't telling me the whole truth?

What's the whole truth? Tell me yourself.

What I do, run after you? Try to catch you lying?

No.

Okay, okay.

Well, you told my producers that you're sure that Ashley is cheating. Why?

Well, one time she admitted on her own that she went and stayed with her ex.

Come on now. We was broke up, but we ain't gonna bring all your little dirty laundry out while we been broke up.

It's always when we broke up. She creates problems when there is none.

You is the reason.

Well, that's what she said.

So has there been a time that you two broke up and then you went to your ex?

We broke up all the time. No, I ain't run to my ex. I got my ex to pick me up and give me a ride somewhere.

Whenever I was almost begging her not to leave.

You was not begging me not to leave.

But she didn't want to hear that. You was not begging me not to leave.

You was not begging me not to leave. You were acting a fool.

Yeah.

She specifically wants to know about February 5th. Where were you on February 5th?

I have no idea.

Okay.

I don't even know when that was.

How you don't know where you was at?

Okay.

I don't even know when that was.

How you don't know where you was at when you was asking Google about somebody's feet swelling?

If I was asking somebody about their feet swelling, I was in Google. 'Cause you were on a rose with little Harley's feet? No, man.

Yeah.

Okay.

Okay.

You tell my producers that Ashley creates issues so that she can leave to cheat. Do you really think she does that?

Yeah, you see how she is, man.

Like she's— He says I'm crazy. You make me crazy.

Okay. Okay.

Ronnie, what will you do if the results come back that Ashley is cheating?

I'm done.

You're done?

No, well that ain't gonna happen 'cause I don't do nothing.

You're done. You're done. And if she finds out that you're cheating, should she be done with you?

Yeah, absolutely.

Okay then.

So you hear that, he's saying that.

Absolutely.

You'll have all the time in the world then.

So if there's no trust issue, and this question for both of y'all, why are y'all staying?

'Cause we crazy.

Okay, this is the first woman that I actually gave my heart to, that I tried to actually love instead of just using for sex or whatever.

First woman you tried to give your heart to. Your past relationships, you never gave your heart to?

I was a womanizer, ain't gonna lie about that.

Okay, that's—

He's still a hoe.

Well, Ashley did turn over her phone to our unlock the phone investigator because Ronnie, you want to know if Ashley is on any dating apps?

Yeah.

You wanna know if she's receiving any explicit photos from men and if Ashley is receiving any texts from any men. Right. Okay then, well I think it's time to unlock the phone.

Yeah.

Yeah, let's see this.

Yeah, see this, homie.

Well, Ashley, we unlocked your phone first.

Okay.

All right, here we go. All right, Ronnie, you want to know if Ashley is on any dating apps. She says no. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched her apps and found that she is telling the truth.

Oh, oh my goodness.

All right, Ronnie, you want to know if Ashley is receiving any explicit photos from men. She said no. My unlock the phone investigator searched her photos and found she's telling the truth. What?

I was telling the truth. Oh my goodness. Oh my goodness.

Ronnie, you want to know if Ashley is receiving any texts from men at all. She said no. My locked-up phone investigator searched her texts and found she's telling the truth.

Oh my goodness. Oh my goodness. No, I need more than that. I gotta have more than that. I'm sorry, babe. A little bit louder, a little bit louder, a little bit louder. I'm not sure which account. I don't saw that. A little bit louder. Tell me a little bit louder.

I'm sorry.

Okay, thank you.

You said you saw that.

Which account did you look?

We searched all the files.

On the phone, the whole damn phone. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Say it one more time. I'm sorry.

All right. Well now Ronnie, we unlocked your phone.

Whoa.

All right, so Ashley, the first thing you want to know is where was Ronnie on February 5th? He said he was at his grandmother's house.

We know that.

My unlock the phone investigator searched his GPS and found nothing because his GPS was turned off.

GPS location was turned off, yeah.

And it's interesting because your GPS was then turned back on. Yeah. So why do you turn your GPS on and off?

To mess with her?

Because I know she's not— She's gonna make me crazy. See how you do? See, you wanna make me crazy.

She did say you were the reason.

Yeah, you're the reason I'm crazy 'cause you do shit like that.

Okay, so, but why would you do that? Like, if you know that you're having issues with the woman that you said you're giving your heart to.

Yes, I would.

Why would you?

Because it wasn't always like that.

Okay.

But then whenever she started, I noticed that she started tracking my location and stuff like that. And I just started messing with her and just cutting it off.

'Cause you wanna make me crazy. 'Cause you rich and sexy.

I never thought about it.

But why not just keep it on completely and just say, hey, instead of me turning this off, we needed to create a new boundary where I'm asking you not to check my location.

Because whenever I did—

Because a boundary is healthy and when you say I'm gonna turn on and off, that's where it becomes unhealthy. But finish your point.

But whenever I did leave it on, she still accused me of cheating.

Is that true?

Well, I don't know about right now.

I mean, she still accused me. She'll probably still accuse me after this.

No, if you act like you got some damn sense, I ain't gonna accuse you of nothing.

Okay. Well, Ashley, you also wanna know if Ronnie is communicating with any other women from on your list of Facebook Messenger. He said he is not. My unlock the phone investigator searched his DMs and found that Ronnie, somebody in there said is not telling the truth.

Yeah, he ain't telling the truth. I already know, I already know he ain't telling the truth.

We found 15 conversations.

How many what?

15 conversations, but they were related to your business. So they were not anything sexual in nature. They were related more to—

Y'all won't let me say anything.

You'll get to see the messages.

Just wait, wait, wait. He probably got one more something to unlock. I'll tell y'all I'm sorry if I'm wrong.

So he is talking to them, but it's not, we didn't see anything of engaging in sex. But there is communication. So if you have a suspicion that he's talking to them, yes he is.

So basically what I told you was true.

Okay.

Okay. Well, Ashley, you also wanna know if Ronnie has any explicit photos on his phone. He says he does not. My unlock the phone investigator searched his photos and found He's telling the truth. He doesn't have anyone else.

Okay, I'm sorry.

I'm sorry. That sucks, son.

So how do you feel knowing that yes, he was communicating, but from what we can see in the deleted messages, it is just about business?

Okay, well, I told y'all I was sorry.

Again, a little louder.

I'm sorry.

I will tell y'all this. There clearly is some type of trust issues from your past that y'all gotta really work on. Right. Yeah.

We don't know how to communicate with each other.

I can tell.

I try to, but I don't think she does.

Yeah.

Like she always thinks it's an argument or I'm trying to argue if I just try to tell her how I feel.

So I'm gonna ask you this. What do you need to make feel like the relationship can be better communicated? Because I do see a playfulness and the playfulness will keep your relationship alive in these toxic moments, but it doesn't mean it's gonna sustain. So how can we get you to a place of communication? So when you feel like he's breaking the trust, when you feel like he's not there, what do you need so that you don't break the trust?

I just feel like sometimes he tries to get at me, like he tries to make me think.

Well, he clearly just admitted to that.

Yeah, he tries to make me think he's doing something, so then I react 'cause I'm gonna go crazy 'cause.

I don't try to make you think I'm doing something.

Yeah, you do, yeah, you do.

Well, you said you intentionally turn off the communication.

Yeah, I intentionally turn off the communication.

So that makes me think, you know, that he's doing something wrong.

I just don't want her to know where I'm at because she's steady tracking me.

Okay. I gotta close the door on it, you know? Okay, so my question is, when y'all get into these arguments so that y'all can try to find a common ground of communication, what do you need? I'm asking you first. What do you need?

I just need him to be honest with me and I need him, 'cause see—

But see, you can't say that. I feel like he give me an excuse. Hold on, 'cause when there's trust issues, the solution can't be, I need you to be honest with me. And I know this sounds crazy. I know it'd be like, well, just be honest with me. But the thing is that you're never gonna trust what he's saying. Which is why you're scared.

Yeah, 'cause I am being honest with him.

So you're gonna be in a cycle of saying, well, I don't trust you, so I need to be honest, but now you've told me something and I don't believe it.

Yeah, well.

So what else do you need?

What does it look like? I just feel like he don't give me enough attention. Like he's giving everybody else the attention and I need your attention.

Now here we go.

Yeah.

So now that's a solution that can solve the trust issues.

Yeah.

I want you to give me more attention.

Exactly.

What does more attention look like? Tell him.

Just, I mean, talk to me. Instead of having your radio boom booming every time we in the car, 'cause you said you gotta listen to your music and you can talk to me. Or when we at home, instead of laying on the bed on your phone, talk to me. Show me some attention instead of your phone.

So she's giving you two examples of places where—

Yeah, which is reasonable.

Have you ever heard that before?

Yeah.

And so why haven't you given her that?

Because, I mean, the only thing that she talks about is me cheating on her, I'm lying, and all that stuff.

'Cause you might be like that.

I don't wanna hear about it no more. Okay, so, So I'm hearing this. So because—

Because I'm being honest to her about it.

So you don't have to go through the ping pong anymore. He's telling you right now that he hears you. He wants to talk. Are you willing to talk?

Absolutely.

But you have to say in those conversations that I'm not gonna bring up the things that are going to trigger an argument.

I ain't gonna call you a liar and a cheater no more, I promise.

You can't.

I know, well, you can't say I'm lying about everything.

So when y'all getting this, so the commitment I'm hearing right now is you're saying that when you're at home, You're gonna give her at least an hour of talking in the car. You'll give a conversation and y'all are not gonna bring up things that could accuse the other person.

Absolutely.

Can you commit? Say, "I commit to doing that for you." I commit to that. You commit to that?

Absolutely.

Because that's the only way. What you need is attention and what you need is peace. So I want you to both to say, "Let's take this time to talk to each other. I'll give you the attention you need. We won't bring up the past, but also if we get triggered, we're gonna separate, give ourselves some time." and we gonna come back with respect.

That sounds great.

Sounds great?

We gonna try that.

You can try. You can try. Because really, y'all need less lying ass and more trying ass, all right?

Okay, I promise I ain't gonna call you a lying ass no more, okay?

All right. Y'all a fun couple, but it's too early for all this, all right? 9 months, this too early for all this. Try to get back to something healthy. You saying this is a woman that you love and you wanna try to give her your heart. Love takes work and both of y'all have to start trying to do that work now, all right? You got your answers, you got your answers. So I wish y'all the best of luck, all right?

All right.