In a polyamorous throuple, one partner felt increasingly sidelined as her partners Key and Kayla secretly deepened their bond, went on dates without her, and confessed love around her birthday. The breaking point came when she learned Key had proposed to Kayla and they were discussing having a baby together.
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It was something really hard for me to get used to, but they put way too much focus on building their connection instead of trying to get me comfortable with everything and building mine and Kayla's connection actually.
What are the things that they do behind your back?
She used to leave me with the kids and they would get to go on date nights and—
Why didn't they include you and invite you?
I guess because of the kids, but there was never, an option to just find a babysitter. It was kind of just, oh, I'm leaving, I'm doing this.
Okay, I gotta be real with you because I've never been in a polyamorous relationship, but I do know what it's like for the person you love to start to have an emotional connection with someone else. Did that break your heart?
It absolutely did.
Tell me about that moment because I just, 'cause you know, it's easy to look at like, oh, this is a throuple, so like this is crazy. But like at the end of the day, your emotions are caught up. You have a family together.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah, I wanna say it was around my birthday last year, February, that I found out they were telling each other they loved each other. And me and Kayla never got to that level. So I was really hurt that they were progressing without me.
Did you break up with her for a little bit?
I didn't break up with her until after the baby thing.
Uh-huh. So when you found out that they were secretly talking about having a baby.
Yeah, that was the last straw for me.
Did you ever confront them?
I confronted Key. She just said like one day, like after us, or that was when I really realized how serious and how they were falling in love with each other.
So Key also, which my producer just told me, proposed to Kayla in December.
She did.
While you were broken up.
Mm-hmm.
How did you find out and how did you feel?
So I went and looked online and saw Kayla saying that she was officially a fiancée. And nobody really knows, but that really did break me. I was depressed for a couple days at least.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah. Are you and Key and Kayla back together right now?
Not officially. I'm trying to work through emotions and I feel like us all coming up front with our feelings is necessary completely to move forward.
What do you need from them to have this relationship work?
We all need an agreement of what we all want together.
Okay, let's hear their side of the story. So everyone, please welcome Key and Kayla to the show. Hey, how are y'all doing? Please take a seat for me.
Hi.
So Kia, I'm gonna start with you. Yes. Why did you want another girlfriend?
She was lacking in some areas, but not enough to where like I wanted to leave her.
What are the areas that you felt like she was lacking?
