My Girlfriend Has A Wife?! | KARAMO

So spill this tea, girl. So you found out that your person was legally married. When did you find this out?

Oh, about briefly 3 months after.

3 months ago?

No, 3 months of us dating.

3 months of y'all dating?

Yes, we've been together 2 years now.

2 years y'all been together?

Yes, I been knowing her since '15. We was best friends in high school.

Okay.

So how I found out, basically we were on the couch, phone started ringing. It says beautiful wife.

Uh-huh. What's up? Like, what's going on?

Yes, like, is this just a contact name?

Yes.

Or is like, what is this? So she's laughing. So she's just like, you know, oh yeah, that's my wife. I'm like, okay, on paperwork?

Yeah.

She's like, yeah, I got married in prison. I went to work and I went to court. We're on paperwork. I'm like, okay. So then I'm just like, okay.

And how'd she get married in prison?

Child, don't ask me.

Okay.

What I did not understand, I was still communicating with my ex-girlfriend that was in jail. And you knew about that. Uh-huh. So I just felt like that was your space to tell me.

Got it, because you were being transparent. You're like, why couldn't you just say you were?

When I go outside to answer the phone, you knew who I was talking to.

Got it.

So.

And this is both of y'all in 3, you're in 3 months?

Yeah, this was like—

So you could have been like very transparent.

Yeah, and then once I found out, I tried to be kind of like, I'm gonna be honest, kind of young-minded about it and was like, "Oh, that's nothing, I can ride over that." And feelings got deeper and yeah, me and wife ended up bumping heads. Of course she ended up finding out about me.

Yeah, do you think she's still in love with her?

Yes, me personally, I do.

Okay, so are you afraid that she will leave you once this other woman is released?

No, Anyo, because it's like she had opportunities to leave me.

Yeah.

And she didn't.

Got it.

And it's just like—

Are you making her choose?

No, that's the thing. That's why I'm here. Because if in your mind you feel like you have to choose, that's what I wanna know. 'Cause if you have to choose, then I, that would, I'm—

You already out.

Yeah.

Got it.

I'm not a pick me.

Okay.

Do you think she is doing more than just talking to the wife?

I honestly don't feel like that. I will be surprised.

So you don't think she's talking to anybody else? She thinks just the— You're suspicious of the wife and that's it? He's so shady. See? No, no, no. See? So when did you first start suspecting that there could be cheating?

The year of 2024, we were really like on a tippy-tap row 'cause that was the year I found out. And I ended up having to move back home to California and she was in Houston and a lot of things happened. Like another girl answered my phone call.

Oh.

And I'm like, okay, I went on a date.

And what was her excuse for when another woman answered the call?

I blocked her. Whoop-de-doo.

So she said because you blocked her, that's why she felt like she could get somebody else to—

'Cause we were arguing that day and it's Valentine's Day and I can hear in the background like she's fighting for her phone. Like the girl had to be like, had her phone and answered it 'cause I called from no call ID and she answered it on her own.

So has she become more secretive with her phone?

Mm, yeah.

Okay, in what ways?

Like let's say if your phone ring and I ask, who is that? Why? Why it matter?

You're like, 'cause I asked.

'Cause it's my business. You're my business.

Yeah.

And we each other's business.

Do you see a future with her?

I do, honestly, I do. I do.

So what will happen if we find something in her phone today?

Honestly, it depends on what I find out because I know y'all communicating. She tells part of the truth. Like, y'all talk to her. It ain't about nothing. Then what do you talk for?

Yeah. But— So you wanna know the full truth?

Yeah, the full truth.

You came to the right place, baby.

Yes.

So listen to this, all right? 'Cause we gonna find the full truth. All right, so listen, it's time to hear Christian's side side of the story. So everyone please welcome Christian to the show. Hey, how you doing, Christian?

I'm cool, I'm cool.

I done heard a mouthful about you.

I know it.

But I wanna hear your side of the story. So you got a secret wife?

It ain't no secret. I just ain't tell her and it wasn't no 3 months neither. Look, she say, she say.

I want y'all to hear that. She said, I ain't got no secret. I just didn't tell her.

She said, do I have a girlfriend?

Uh-huh. So semantics.

No, I don't have a girlfriend. You didn't say, "Do you have a wife?" You would've then told her, okay. Yeah.

But we're 24 and 23.

I'm not gonna ask, "Do you got a wife?" Yeah, 'cause you just assume she don't got a wife. Okay, why weren't you being honest in the beginning? What were you afraid of?

'Cause we was just kicking it, chilling. I didn't think it was gonna go that far.

Okay then, okay. Do you think she can trust you now?

Yeah, she could trust me. I don't talk to no other females.

You don't talk to any females? Okay then, are you waiting for your wife to get out?

No, I don't even know when she get out. I ain't communicating with her like that on account of trying to be serious with her. Yeah.

Okay, so there's no communication with you and your wife?

Yes, communication, but not for real. She was right there the two times.

Communication but not for real, what does that mean?

Like not seriously. Like since she been in jail, I done talked to her twice.

Okay then. Why haven't you gotten a divorce?

I'm not gonna get a divorce on account of how you want me to get a divorce on your time, and it's just not gonna work out. I gave it time.

Not at all.

It's not, but that's what it is.

Okay, well, let's take her timeline out of the equation. You're free, you're not in jail, you are in a relationship. Why wouldn't you just wanna get divorced for yourself?

'Cause if I do that and I'm not emotionally ready to do that, I'm being real.

So you're not emotionally ready to get, to be outta a relationship?

Exactly, exactly.

Okay then. Do you think she wants you to choose?

Yeah.

You do?

I know she do. She want, of course that's what she think.

But me— She not innocent.

I know I'm not. I said that. I didn't want no dates. I know I'm not innocent. I said that the whole year of 2024 was a shit attack.

She ain't innocent. She's smart with hers.

Uh-huh.

Yeah, like I can't catch you how you catch, I don't know how to go through with the moves.

But you have though.

That wasn't deleted, that was there. You can't delete recent messages.

Exactly, it was there for you to see.

Have you ever cheated on her?

No, not in my knowledge. That's not cheating.

What? Yes.

What?

Okay, well then neither one of us cheated on each other then. You cheated, you went on a date. I never went on a date.

Okay.

You have a whole video of you singing "Let's Get Married" to your wife, kissing her, on your knee.

Is that true? Well, let's— That was in the beginning. We talked about, like you said, you said you've never cheated, but she told us that somebody else asked her Someone answered your phone. Who was that? On Valentine's Day, much less.

It was not on Valentine's Day. What was it then?

The day after? Wow.

Well, that still doesn't take away from somebody answered your phone. You were focused on the date, not the app.

I was getting some money. So she was like, can I use your—

She felt comfortable to answer your phone.

Yeah, I don't know what she did that for. I ain't gonna lie, but it's still not cheap.

The girl was getting her money. I hear her in the background like, what are you doing?

So I'm like, if I let you do that, it's not for free.

Got it. And does she constantly accuse you?

Yeah, she constantly accuse.

Accuse you of what?

She act like a detective.

Uh-huh.

You looking for stuff. Say for instance, I be drinking, I go to sleep, that's her cue. She going through my phone. So yeah, I'm gonna change it. And I change it to the same stuff. So it ain't like I'm changing to nothing special like I'm hiding.

This is her excuse. Let's say we get into an argument, right? And 3 days go by and she like, get my phone, put on a movie or get my phone, do something. Something and I go to get it, password changed. Oh, I was mad at you.

What?

'Cause you got control issues. She got control issues.

Make it make sense. I have control issues.

She get on my Instagram, she unfollow people.

I unfollow one person, your wife.

With nobody to do.

Does your wife know you're in a relationship?

Yeah.

Mm-hmm. Yeah. I ain't hiding nothing.

I'm not an Easter egg neither.

So what will happen if the accusations continue?

I say it all the time, I'mma leave.

Okay, and why did you want your phone unlocked?

I want my phone unlocked to prove a point, like I'm not cheating.

Okay.

I'm not, and I'm really not. Our problem is one thing and one thing only.

Communication and you're still in love with your wife and you still have that phone unlocked.

I have love for her, I don't feel like I'm in love with her 'cause if I was in love with somebody, I wouldn't be cheating on them.

Well listen, I think it's time to unlock the phone. Christian, we unlocked your phone. Leilani, you want to know if Christian is DMing with other women. She says she is not. My Lockdown Phone investigator searched her DMs and found that Christian is not telling the truth. We found suspicious screenshot that shows a sex worker menu. What about your place? You stay with your mama?

Oh, that ain't me. That ain't me.

That ain't me.

Who's that?

I ain't gonna lie, I let my homegirl use my phone. She do her little thing.

You know what's crazy? I'm sorry, I can't. I actually, you know what's crazy?

What's crazy?

She is innocent. I'm saying that that screenshot, that's the same, that's the girl that was using your phone, but the girl that was texting us From—

It don't matter, it ain't me though.

Okay, we'll give you that. Listen, all we do is find it. If you got an explanation, you got an explanation. Y'all believe it, then we go. All right, Leilani, you want to know if Christian is texting other women. She says she is not. My Lock the Phone investigator searched her texts and found that she is not telling the truth. My Lock the Phone investigator found, searched her texts and found 5,658 texts with one particular unsaved number saying, "I love you," and asking for phone sex. That's her.

That's you?

That is me. Okay, listen.

Look, I had to, I had to, I'm like, "Wait a minute." She got about 50 numbers. Yeah, but that's me.

So that's you?

Okay.

So what about the other ones? The other texts that we found?

Not all of them. Not all of them, I'm telling you.

I mean, we ain't gonna go through all 5,000.

It can only be her and her.

So the one out of 5,650, so 5,657. Is somebody else, but the one was you?

Look, I'm gonna say, 'cause I do, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I do. I change my numbers like draws.

Okay, okay, so all the same number. Okay, all the same number, I got it, okay. Come on now. All right, here we go, all right. Leilani, you wanna know if Christian is receiving phone calls from her wife. She says she is not. My Lock the Phone investigators searched her calls and found that Christian is not telling the truth. There were 22 collect calls this month and the last one being on Tuesday. I got friends in jail, I swear I got a best friend in jail.

In jail, my friend was on me.

But those two different numbers. What?

You know my uncle in jail, everybody in my family.

Your uncle don't call you. Your uncle do not call you.

He did call me this morning.

Your uncle called you three-way from your daddy.

No, like real talk, we do not disappear from each other. We don't.

We don't. We do have a friend in jail.

Literally, the two phone calls, when my wife called me, she was right there, except for one time. I have three from her.

She's cheating on you. Actually, pause. You was in front of me one time when you talked to her on a jail call.

One time. Well, listen, here we go right here.

One time.

Here we go. So Leilani, you wanna know if Christian is communicating with other women. She says she is not. My unlock the phone investigator searched her phone and found that Christian is not telling the truth. There were 17 suspicious messages with unsaved numbers talking about posting other women. What is this about? Raf, can I see that?

Okay, that's probably, hmm, posting.

Let's see. Thanks, Rob.

Yeah.

Okay. All right, so this just the same minute we need to be on. It's just showing this so far, I guess.

Explain it. Oh. Explain it.

Hey, pipe down. Pipe down.

Single down.

So you know about this?

Now, yes, I do know about that. Okay. That's actually me. Yeah, I'm actually texting somebody on her phone.

Got it.

Due to my phone was broke.

Okay.

Come on now.

Come on nothing.

So it sounds like everything that we found, everything that we found, you're fully aware of. What I will tell you this is I just wanna say something to you really quickly because I could end this conversation 5 minutes in. You on my show wanting to find out if your girlfriend is talking to her wife. Just take that in. Just take that in. I don't care what else in the phone. Your girlfriend has a wife. So my advice to you two is find your independence. But to find your independence, you need to find what love looks like. If you keep mislabeling this, you're gonna find yourself trapped in this and 25 is gonna turn into 30 and 35 is gonna turn into 50 and you're gonna be back here dealing with the same thing. And I'm telling you, I've seen women in your situation who all of a sudden now hit 45 and they're like, "Oh, why did I learn this at 23?" I'm telling you right now, if you don't stop confusing love with codependency, you are going to be trapped in a cycle.

But they, that's, I'll take that. It's just, I don't know, there's—

Yeah, it's a lot to take in, girl. But you came to the right show. You said you want the truth, I'm gonna give you the whole truth. Most definitely. All right, I wish y'all the best of luck. I've given you all the advice I can. Listen, everyone, stay with us, friends. We'll be right back with more. Good luck.