My Husband Ghosted Me After I Gave Birth | KARAMO

So your husband ghosted you one month after you gave birth?

Yes, it was like one of the most traumatic experiences I ever been through in my life.

Yeah.

Just to start it off, basically like he was somebody that I really thought would never hurt me. You know, we were in a relationship for a little while.

Yeah.

And it was his idea to get married, you know? I'm sorry.

No, no. It makes sense because if this is somebody I love and we've decided to have a child together and then you say I'm giving birth and he disappears.

Yeah, and it pretty much went like that.

Where did he go?

He went down south because he has other children and I know how it seems, but from my understanding, when we got married, he told me that he spoke to everybody and they were okay with him coming to New York. But come to find out that was a lie.

Got it.

He never told his family, he didn't conversate with his baby mother. So his mom thought that I kidnapped him and she called me, "Where's my son? I can't get in touch with him. Everybody's been trying to call him." And that's when I found out like our marriage started off basically with a lie.

Oh my God. How they thought you could kidnap a grown man?

That's what, hello? And I was like, I had to tell her like that I wouldn't, That's not my character, you know? And first of all, like, your son is not all of that. So it's like, don't do that.

Yeah. Did his family even know he got married?

No, they didn't until I told them when she called me.

So he wasn't telling anybody. So there was sort of this double life he was living in a sense. Interesting. He told you he was just gonna visit his kids.

Yes, he told me it was like their birthdays. Their birthdays are days apart from each other. And he told me he was just gonna go visit his kids and come back. He even bought the ticket to come back. Then when it was time for him to come back, I'm calling him like, "Hey, what time does my mom need to get you from the train?" And he's like, "I'm not coming." No explanation. He was just like, "I'm not coming." Wow.

How long after this had you given birth?

I wasn't, my baby wasn't even a month yet. So he was like 3 weeks.

So you're like just dealing with a brand new baby thinking that the man that you married is gonna be on his way back so you could be a family. And he's like, Nah, I ain't coming back.

Right, exactly. Wow. And it put me in postpartum depression, honestly. Like, I was by myself, which he knew I was gonna be, and he did it anyway.

'Cause my producer, I think, told me you ended up in a shelter.

Yeah, so I wanted to go to a family shelter just to like get better opportunities.

Yeah, of course.

Which it did bring, and he was with us at first until he just left.

Left, okay. So you were in the shelter at that time? —when he left? Okay. And while he was gone, did he support you at all?

No, he did not. Things were going bad for me, but they started to go well for him. So he was working, he had a bunch of income, and I remember one time I asked him to buy our baby's Pampers, and he said he didn't have the money to get it, but then I logged into his Cash App. I logged into his Cash App, and then I seen he sent a girl $100.

Oh. Mm-hmm. Okay, we have a timeline of your relationship that I wanna see. So in this timeline, it says that you met March 2023, you moved to New York. May 19th, 2023, you married at a courthouse. So y'all got married very quickly. Yeah. February 28th, 2024, baby was born. So y'all went real fast within that time period. That March 2024, he leaves for North Carolina. And then October 2025, cheated with your friend? Yeah. He cheated with your friend? Yes. And then he cheated again in December?

Yes. Okay. Whew. I know. Yeah.

Okay, so what's the status of your relationship right now?

I don't know. It's like complicated. It's back and forth, 50/50.

It don't sound that complicated to me, but okay, I can understand. It don't sound that complicated. It sound pretty clear. But I can understand how you feel it's complicated. Are you suspicious about his motives for coming back? Yes, I am.

Because it was just like the timing, like, okay, everything was going well for him. He didn't want anything to do with me. But then once things started to decline for him and he lost his job and he seemed like I was doing well, now he wanted to get a piece of the action, I feel. Oh, got it. So that's what made me feel like he—

Got it. Like now you good, so he wanna come back. Right. Okay. It's time to meet Jamell and hear his side of the story. But I know y'all judgmental. So we gotta hear his side before y'all start judging him, okay? So everyone please welcome Jamell to the show. Jamell, I had to preface my cousins over here because my cousins are like me, they get a little judgmental and they was gonna judge you and we ain't heard your side of the story yet. So I wanna hear your side. All right. So thank you for being here. Thank you. So let me ask you point blank, Your wife is pregnant with your child. She gives birth to your child. You say you come right back. Why did you abandon her and your newborn?

Well, I wasn't planning on abandon— I wasn't planning on doing that. I wouldn't call it abandoning them.

It's abandoned.

Well, I wouldn't call it that, but— What would you call it then? At that point, I didn't know what to do at the time, but—

So you abandoned them? No. Okay. If you don't like my word, gimme a new word.

I don't have a new word for it.

'Cause it's abandoned. But, okay. That's the word. But it's okay. So you abandoned them because you did not know what was going on in your life right there. So explain.

Yeah, I didn't know what to do at that time. She was already accusing me of messing with other females at that time.

It wasn't an accusation, it was the truth. No. I went through his phone while I was pregnant and he was texting females.

No, but— That's the truth. Okay, but that's not cheating.

What is that defined as for you? I was just having a conversation. Okay, so then let me ask you this. Do you wanna fix this marriage?

Of course I do, I really do. I really love my wife, I love my family.

Okay, well I think it's time to unlock the phones. Jamell, we unlocked your phone. All right, Chartiana wants to know if Jamell is texting other women. Jamell says he is not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched his texts and found that Jamell Is telling the truth. You shocked by that? Yeah. Chartiana, you wanna know Jamell is communicating with other women since getting back together in October. Jamell says he's not. My unlock the phone investigator searched his phone and found that Jamell is not telling the truth. My unlock the phone investigator found evidence of Jamell that he has an OnlyFans account and he's engaging in private messages with other women in December.

You wanna explain? I don't know what that is. That's yours. I don't know. Really? You send a lot of private messages.

Private messages? Yeah, you do. Back to them? Yeah.

No, there's no way. No way. Yes. OnlyFans. No way. Yes. There's no way. Yes. OnlyFans. There's no way.

Why do people say no and there's a screenshot?

There's no way.

You know we all looking at the screenshot, right? All right, but it's not me sending messages.

That's not me texting females.

Okay, okay, okay. All right, let's go on. Chartiana wants to know if Jamell is communicating with women on social media since getting back together in October. Jamell says he's not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched his DMs and found that Jamell, in this instance, is telling the truth. My locked-up phone investigator did not find evidence of communication with other women on social media since you got back together in October. It's only since October, so let me be very clear. Okay, okay, okay. Prior, yes. Since October, no. Okay, just be clear. All right, Chartiana wants to know if Jamell is still in communication with the woman he was unfaithful with in December. Jamell says he's not. My locked-up phone investigator searched his phone and found that Jamell Is telling the truth. He has not communicated with her since December. He ain't gotta worry about it. Well, Chartiana, we unlocked your phone. All right, Jamel, you wanna know Chartiana has been texting other men since they got back together in October. Chartiana says she was not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched her texts and found that Chartiana It's telling the truth. Hold on. We did not find any text messages between Chartiana and another man. However, it's because my unlocked phone investigator determined that you tampered with your phone.

Oh, word. That's what we doing.

That's what we doing. You did it. You did it. All right, here we go. Jamel, you wanna know Chartiana has been texting other men since they got back together in October. Chartiana says she has not. Mock the Phone investigator searched her phone and found that Chartiana is not telling the truth. So who you been cheating with? My Unlock the Phone investigator found evidence that she had sex with someone who lives in her mom's building twice. Oh, word. Word. Can I go backstage, Karamo? Once on December 14th.

Can I go backstage, Karamo? Yes, we do.

And the other was this past Saturday. Can I go backstage? You had sex this past Saturday, girl?

You had sex?

Girl, she just ran like we all boring. Girl, she just ran. You know, she coming back.

Uh-huh.

You took off. Oh yeah, we saw it.

All right, all right, all right. No, hold on, I'm not done yet.

Yeah, just keep going. Just keep going. Okay, so you had sex this past Saturday. He also found a picture of her that she took in December at his house and she posted it to her close friends on social media with the song. You know that song? You posted that on Saturday. Yep, yep. You don't look amused. At all. At all. All right, Jamel, you wanna know if Chartiana has been texting other men since they got back together in October. Chartiana says she has not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched her photos and found that Chartiana Is not telling the truth. My Lock the Phone investigator found a screenshot recording of a sexually explicit conversation with another man, and that exchange has since been deleted on Instagram. All right, Jamil, you wanna know if Chartiana has been texting other men since they got back together in October. Chartiana says she has not. My Lock the Phone investigator searched her DMs and found that Chartiana Is not telling the truth. My life of an investigator found 2 suspicious DMs on Chartiana's backup Instagram account. Did you know she had a backup Instagram account?

Yeah, I knew about it.

You knew about that one? Mm-hmm. Okay, can I see this?

What's that?

These are DMs that you had on your backup account. Oh, it said, oh. It's saying, I'm trying to have sex and then she's getting naked photos and videos as you see. Uh-huh. He was so shocked that—

Oh my.

Bro, I'm telling you.

This for you. I could, can I say something?

Tell your husband, not me. First of all. 'Cause girl, you made it seem like you ain't been doing nothing.

I didn't make it seem like that to him. I'm just gonna say it, I'm just gonna say it like that. But I'm not justifying anything, but you have to understand as well, like, You came up here saying that you wanted to be serious with me. Then in December, what did you do? This is all after that instance, right or wrong? You're correct. Okay. You said that you wanted to be serious with me and then texted a female in my bed. I had to pick up a second job, second job, just to take care of all of us because you haven't been working. And that's what you did to me.

So that gives you the right to have sex with somebody else?

I'm not saying that. I could have been— more open about it, but what I'm saying is, it's multiple factors of why I did what I did.

No, there's no, you can't justify that. Multiple factors.

Can you justify what you did? Can you justify what you did?

I haven't been having sex with nobody though.

As we've seen, I haven't been having sex with nobody.

You deleted stuff too, so. No.

Yes you did, and you know you did.

No, I did not. And you know you did. It's interesting that you called the show, that you called the show. Yes. And I think that I'm glad that you called the show because at the end of the day, what's the truth of the matter is, is that especially going back to that timeline, is that you two knew each other and it sounds like you again were in a vulnerable state and you decided to say, since we're both in a vulnerable state, let's try to see if we can work this out together. And you made a big jump that I don't think either of you were ready for, moving cross-country to New York. And at that time that you made that big jump, instead of really sitting in your emotions and saying, I'm afraid, this ain't working, I'm not sure what's going on, you all decided to go deeper and get married. You're in a vulnerable position. You were in a shelter at that time. You should have been focused on your mental health, but instead you were worried about a man who was scared and had to run back to his family. And you were scared. I was. And this is what I mean. And so there was no foundation. You were both scared and now you're both hurting because now I thought I could trust you. I thought you were the one that we could figure this out together and you're not. And I put my trust in somebody else that I thought who would be there for me and you were not there for me. And here I am alone and sad and scared. But you said, I'm gonna build myself back up. And you started doing that and you're still doing that. And so you said, okay, here's a glimmer of the woman that I thought that I saw. And I still wanna be that man. And so I do believe you when you said you came back because you saw a glimmer of that. You saw that, oh, she's successful, she's stable. But that was not a good enough reason to come back. Because you came back on the pretense of that maybe now I can latch back onto what I thought we were gonna build. But unfortunately she already built that without you. And then when you came back and you saw she built it without you, you went and tried to pick it up. I'm gonna find another woman in December. And so then she got pissed again and she went and did what she needed to do. So what do you want? If you say it, girl, I'm gonna say, oh, if you say it.

I think it is best that we do go our separate ways.

Okay, good. I thought you was about to say you in love with the toxic behavior, girl. Talk to him, just talk to him really quickly.

I love you and you know that, but I do feel like some things you can't come back from and that's, I feel like we're just gonna keep, I'm gonna cheat now, you probably mad about what you just seen, you're just gonna go do what you do. It's gonna keep going and maybe it's just not worth it anymore.

Be friends, co-parent, get to know each other. Build the trust, build the communication, build the empathy. And who knows, 3 years from now you might look at each other and say, "Hold on, no, actually I can respect you and I can value you and vice versa." One day y'all look back on this and be like, "Yo, you remember when we was toxic? We was on Karamo's show. Oh, a mess." And have a good laugh about it, okay? I wish y'all the best of luck, okay? I really do.