My Husband Hides My Keys, Takes My Phone, & Watches Me Sleep! | KARAMO

Gina, a survivor of an 18-year abusive marriage, describes her fiancé John's controlling behavior: he hides her keys and phone, prevents her from seeing her children alone, and accuses her of cheating on TikTok and email. Karamo mediates as her children urge her to leave.
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John is so paranoid he thinks Miss Gina is cheating on him through a weather app and a calculator. It's ridiculous. I don't understand it. I also had my own issues with John too. We was on the phone with Miss Gina and we heard John in the back getting real loud, so we rushed over there to the hotel they were staying at. And as I'm trying to step in, he tries to slam the door on my foot, and so we start fighting. He swung his little hips He missed and I hit him twice in his face. He stumbled back and I fell the wrong way and broke my foot. He ain't that good at fighting either. He tried to hit me twice but missed both of his shots and then ran like a bitch.
We've been going through this since the day they've met and it's enough already.
Mom, I love you, but it's time to move on. You deserve way better.
Does it bother you that your kids don't like your man?
Oh, absolutely.
Are there things that your kids are saying that are that are true?
Oh, every bit. Every bit.
So you're confirming what they're saying is true?
It is very true.
Does he really sleep outside of your bedroom?
He does. Not every night. If I decide, if we get into an argument, then he, if I say, oh, I'm gonna go in the other room and sleep tonight, I'll go in the other room and I look up and you're laying in my hallway watching me.
Got it. And how long have you been with him?
We've been together almost 3 years and we'll be married a year in October. In the beginning it was great. About 6 months down the road, I start seeing some controllingness, some possessiveness. I had recently just got out of an 18-year marriage with physical abuse. So I, he treated me so well and he was like everything. And then about 6 months later, I'm like, who is this? To be honest with you, I have not held my car keys in like 4 months. He takes my keys and my phone and he puts them in the pillowcase where he's sleeping. I'm not allowed to see my children without him. I'm not allowed to, just for example, if we go to a gas station, he takes my phone in the gas station with him and the car keys. I can't even take my youngest child to school without him.
So I'm gonna be honest with you. I hate to ask you this question because I think that sometimes when someone has come out of an abusive relationship, it's easy for them, people outside of them to be say like, well, what have you done? What have you done? And I hate that. But in context for us in this moment, I'm gonna ask you, has there been situations where maybe where you have stepped out of why he may not trust you?
I've never cheated.
Got it.
Never.
So I wanna be clear with everyone. John wants me to unlock your phone.
Right.
Correct?
Correct.
Because he wants you to prove that you're not cheating.
Yes.
Okay.
He thinks I cheat on TikTok. He thinks I cheat through email. He thinks I cheat through MyChart for your doctor's office. I mean, just any website, you know, any social media. He's even went as far as, this was just last week, a guy that I dated like 3 years ago, he starts calling him on Messenger and threatening him. I'm like, I have not talked to this man since I've been with you.
Well, I wanna see what John has to say about all of this. So everyone, let's meet John and hear his side of the story.
You know exactly why I don't trust you. You know exactly why I don't trust you.
And why is that?
The things that you say to me.
So he says this to justify. So he, I mean, can you imagine every day of your life that you wake up being accused of cheating? Every single day.
I couldn't imagine that.
All day. Okay. All day.
All day.
So I'll say, so I get mad and I'm like, yep, I'm texting somebody. Yes, I'm cheating.
Yes, I'm cheating. Yes, he called me. I've been talking to him all day.
So then why do you think she's cheating on you? Just because She's just saying she's—
No, her daughter had in her phone the guy's number up under her name.
Okay.
I didn't save her number. You take her phone, you reset it, everything. Half the stuff on her phone, I don't know how it got there. You have her phone.
Okay, I don't trust her.
Okay, but what are you doing? And so I say to him, if you don't trust me, why are you here? You called her out your own mouth. Why are you here?
'Cause I do love her.
It doesn't matter.
I love you very much.
What he does is he tries to justify it. His actions. He's never held himself accountable for anything. Just recently, last week, I'm going, he asked me to do something in his Cash App and a female pops up that's sending money. He tells me, no, he tells me, oh no, I never called her, I never anything. So I called the girl. She's like, he absolutely did call me. And she said, not only did I talk, I don't care. You've never caught me doing anything. Would you stop?
Okay, I done it because you did it.
Okay.
I know we just met your daughter, Kaliyah. I wanna meet her boyfriend as well, who's on the video, Corey. Corey, do you have anything to add to this?
I mean, yeah, like he real like real weird with stuff. Like when I come around, he come around, I come around, he get real quiet. You feel me? He ain't talking like how he talking now 'cause he, He feeling himself too much right now. But I feel like Miss Gina just need to leave this man. I don't—
I mean, you haven't even been around long enough. You don't know what's going on.
You're exactly right.
I haven't been there from the start, so you feel me?
I tried to give her a chance from the beginning.
You've been here since I met her. You just been around for the last, what, few months?
Yeah, in fact, a year.
He's been around for a year. Okay, we've been together going on 3 years.
It doesn't matter. They still see what's going on.
Is it true, Gina, that you at one point, 'cause my producers told me this, that you picked John up from another woman's house once?
I absolutely did.
She wouldn't admit this on the record. No.
As I'm asking her questions about you being in another woman's house, your only response has been either, well, you allowed it, and then secondly, well, what about someone else? That's deflecting. So we're on you right now. You decided for 2 years in your relationship to cheat on her? Why did you make that decision and why did you think it was okay?
I mean, she allowed, I mean—
No, no, no, we can't deflect. Why did you sit there with another woman knowing you had a woman who loved you enough to do these things?
But I was with this woman before I met her.
So then why didn't you stay with that woman and never drag her into it?
I mean, she could have made that.
No, you was talking about—
So why didn't you make that choice? Why didn't you make that choice?
I mean, she could have made the choice to leave me alone if she wanted to.
He never accepts responsibility for himself.
Gina, what happened at the hotel last night?
Oh, so at the hotel last night, well, first let's start from the driver that picked us up. I was flirting with the driver.
Okay.
Okay, never said one word to this man. There's all of us in the truck. We leave there and then we get here and we order food. So he has to go down and get food. So the first thing he does is come over, he grabs my phone. The second thing, he unplugs the hotel phone.
Yes.
So I can't have any.
He takes the hotel phone out the outlet. Yes. So that you can't talk to anyone.
Yeah. I mean, you, I do not.
At this point, I was back and forth, me and my son, my youngest son, were back on the phone and all of a sudden I get this call and it says, Danbury, Connecticut. It ended up being my son playing on the phone, and he came back with my phone and said, look, it was your son playing on the phone. He never apologized. It doesn't matter. You're crazy. You are crazy. He's crazy.
What were your past relationships like?
I mean, they all were.
I mean, I— were they similar to this? He's lying. Did you have any— was there any ever domestic violence in your past relationships?
Yes, I have domestic violence. Yeah.
Okay, were you ever charged?
Yes.
Okay, I thought so. Well, the thing is, is that you asked us to unlock her phone to see if she's cheating, right?
Yes.
Well, it's time for us to unlock the phone then. John, you told my investigators that you want to know specific things, that you want to know if Gina was involved with a specific ex. Yes. You also want to know if Gina was messaging seeing men on Facebook. And you also wanna know if Gina has photos of other men in her phone. Gina, before I unlock this, is there anything that you feel like you need to say?
No, we did discuss that there was the message on there that might show up on my Messenger, but he's very aware of that. And there's also a number on there from my ex-boyfriend that he called him from my phone.
Got it.
So that's why it would be on there.
Understandable. John, so you're fully aware of everything outside of that, correct?
Yes.
Great. Well, it is time now to unlock your phone.
Okay.
John, you want to know if Gina is still involved with specific ex. My unlock the phone investigator searched Gina's texts and she is telling the truth.
I told you. I told you. I told you.
Okay, I wanna see the rest.
John wants to know if Gina's messaging men on Facebook, on Instagram, on any of these things.
Right.
Gina, you have said no.
Right.
My unlock the phone investigator searched Gina's DMs thoroughly and she is telling the truth. John wants to know if Gina has photos of other men in her phone. Gina says she does not. My unlock the phone investigator searched all of Gina's photos, present and deleted. And she is telling the truth.
There's something wrong with that.
See, I don't care what I do. No, no.
Tell the truth.
What am I gonna tell the truth about?
Now, all you talk shows, the women is always telling the truth, the men is always lying.
In this situation, in this situation.
Yeah, the men are always lying.
So listen, so in this situation, you know, I'm very transparent on this show about my own personal life. This is what led me to be in this position. And I've talked very clearly about the fact that my mother was in an abusive relationship with my father for many years. So I don't take this stuff lightly. And we can unlock phones, we can do booing and all that, but at the end of the day, this is a relationship where you are controlling, isolating this woman, and I don't think this is okay. We have more unlock the phone results for you. You can look at this backstage. I don't really care what's in it, because your life and safety is more important to you.
I never.
No.
Sir, sir, sir, sir, sir, sir, sir, sir, sir, sir. I am not saying that you have hit her or you have put your hands on her. I am not accusing you of doing that. They have not said that either. But what I do know is that where there's smoke, there becomes fire. And what I do know professionally is that there are patterns. That is why I was able to ask you without having any knowledge of your past, and if in your past relationships there was domestic violence. You clearly said to me, "Yes, there was." I then asked you, "Did any of them lead to arrest?" Very calmly. You said, "Yes. I have been in this situation with family members, with my own mother, and also with people I have helped." This is not okay. You sleeping outside of a woman's room trying to make sure, you breaking her phones, you doing all these things, unplugging phones at hotels. Let me be the brother to tell you this is not okay. And let me be the man to tell you, you do not deserve this. You were in an 18-year relationship where you were hurt, you were abused, and I get it. You found somebody who tricked you and made you believe that you were safe. He preyed on it. And because you got out of an 18-year relationship, you never got the tools. You never got time to fully heal. Let's be real. 18 years to this, you never healed. You never healed.
And that's my fault?
That is not your fault. And I'm not saying that's your fault. What I'm saying to you is that what's your fault is the controlling behavior that you're exhibiting and the things that you are doing are your fault. She does not deserve that. That is your fault. Yes, she's making a choice to be in this relationship, but I'm acknowledging it's because you didn't get the tools yet. So what I wanna do more than unlock your phone is give you some therapy so you can get those tools.
Okay.
Because you need to be with somebody who can help you to build your self-esteem and help you to recognize you don't deserve to be in this ever again. And so what I'm doing you right now is I'm preparing you. You can shake your head all you want. This is what I'm called to do, to make sure I identify people who do this so that I can help women like this be better. You hear me?
Yes.
You got to.
I want a divorce.
Tell him here.
Tell him again?
Tell him.
I want a divorce. I want a divorce.
I don't believe you.
See?
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