My Husband Is Constantly Accusing Me Of Cheating! | KARAMO

So, Felicia, tell me why you are here today.

Well, I'm here because my husband is constantly accusing me of cheating. I can't even go down and meet the DoorDash driver without him accusing me of doing something. He's always in my phone. If I'm sitting on the couch, he's at that end. He's like, what you doing? I'm not doing nothing, bro. Like, you know what I'm saying? I've never cheated on him.

Why do you think he started accusing you of cheating?

He started accusing me because There was this client of his, he's a barber. So I actually, I'm not gonna lie, I thought dude was cute. So I text him, what are you doing? He text back. It was just, you know, 2 little text messages. And from that, Ray just flipped, like—

Well, what did the first message say?

The first one, I basically just asked him what he was doing.

Okay, got it.

And then the second one, I said, yo, you wanna fuck?

Girl, that escalated real quick. I thought you were gonna be like, what did you eat for lunch?

Yeah, nah.

How was your day at work?

Nah.

Okay, is that Sukiyana who said?

Yeah. Is that Sukiyana?

Oh yeah, okay.

So I didn't even plan on meeting up with dude or nothing. I honestly don't know why I did it.

You were just being funny?

Yeah. Honestly, if he probably would've been like, okay, I'm gonna come pick you up, I probably would've went. He did say, he did say yeah.

Yeah.

But I just like never text back after he said yeah.

Oh, okay.

So from those 2 little messages, so how he found out we were on vacation and the phone that I used to use, I gave to my son.

Okay.

I don't delete anything because I had totally forgot I even text him. So, Ray was at the hotel, he was sleeping when we left, so I called him to see what he wanted and he was like, I'm gonna ask you something and you need to tell me the truth. So I'm like, what? Like, what are you talking about? He's like, why the hell was you texting Jay? I'm like, no, I wasn't, I wasn't doing that, what are you talking about? He starts flipping out on the phone, I'm like, babe, calm down, I wasn't doing nothing, like, what are you talking about?

Is it because you had forgotten because it was like time had passed?

I totally forgot.

Yeah, I had totally forgot. So he's just like flipping out over the phone. He's like, get back here right now. I'm not gonna lie, I was scared to go back. And when I got there, he was standing outside with his stuff. He slammed his phone down on the car. He's like, you're a hoe. You always doing stuff. He was like, you just be out here making me look bad. No, I don't, bro. Like, I don't do nothing to make you look bad or none of that. It was only 2 text messages.

Yeah. And how'd that affect your relationship at that point?

It affected it a lot because now I can't do anything without him constantly hovering over me like he's my dad or something.

Got it.

So, and that right there is upsetting to me. It's embarrassing because when we're around other people, my friends and stuff, he'll act like that. It's embarrassing to me.

Oh, he does it in front of friends?

He does it in front of friends. He does it in front of my mom. In front of his mom.

And y'all have been together for 13 years now. Has the relationship always been rocky?

No, just the last 2 years.

Last 2 years?

Yeah.

Okay. And when did this text message happen? Within those last 2 years?

Within the last 2 years, yeah.

Okay then. So it was like, this is what changed.

This is what changed everything, yeah.

Were you happy before? I know the relationship was rocky, but like—

Honestly, if I was—

13 years, you're young. So y'all got together when you were babies.

Yeah.

So have you been happy?

Honestly, if I was, I probably wouldn't have sent a text message.

That's honest.

So I feel like, you know, I love him. I love him a lot. Like, I love him to death and I wanna be with him for another 13 years. I just feel like he wasn't giving me what other men try to give me every day. He doesn't give me that attention that I need. Every woman, we need it. We need that attention. And he doesn't give me that attention. I can step outside and get attention anywhere I go. So I just want it from him.

Has Ray ever cheated on you?

No, maybe some Facebook conversations with other women, but he's never met up with nobody.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah, okay. What do you think your family thinks of Ray?

My mom does not like him at all. She thinks he's lazy and she says I deserve better. Mm.

Got it, got it, got it. Well, listen everyone, I wanna bring Ray out and see what he has to say about all of this. Everyone, please welcome Ray to my show.

Bro, seriously? Seriously? Embarrass me like that? I'm sorry, Karamo.

Nice to meet you. I can understand. I can understand. It got me too. Listen, it got me too when I heard it.

That's embarrassing.

Uh-huh.

I love strong, hard.

Yeah.

I work every day, every day.

Okay, yeah, you do, but we not gonna sit here and do that either though, so.

Yeah, but you're not gonna embarrass me like I need to.

You're not gonna sit up here and act like I just be doing shit.

Yeah, yeah, you do, you do.

No, we're not gonna do that. We're not gonna do that.

Every time a text come in, I'm like, yo, who is that? Oh, it's nobody, it's nobody. But soon as my phone go off, you all up in my shit. What you mean? I don't do nothing.

I see you smiling. Why you smiling here? Do you go through it too?

I be all in his phone. What's funny?

So you said earlier to me that you said you don't think that he cheats or anything. So why are you in his phone?

I don't know. I just, I don't know. I feel a little guilty maybe. I don't know.

Okay, okay. Did you know the guy that she was texting?

Yeah.

Okay.

It's my client.

Wow, it was your client.

And I told her when I started cutting hair, I don't want you talking to none of my clients. None. And you know you broke that trust. So I can't trust you like that. I can't have you on a leash out like that no more.

She said there was an issue with a roommate. What happened there?

Oh, with that? Oh man, he was a close friend, but I started to notice she was getting a little closer. So football Sundays, I would go to my guy house and I would ask him, hey, you wanna come watch the game with me? He would say, yeah, but then here she come. Oh no, I asked him to do this or help make food. You know, something like, what? Like, why he can't come kick it with me?

Yeah.

It's a guy thing.

Yeah.

You know, so I started getting a little suspicious about that. And then when he left home, she crying like she in love with him. And I'm just standing there like, damn, that hurts me.

I cried. I cried because he's my friend.

Got it.

And nothing ever happened between me and him. And we were super close. You, there is, you can be friends with the opposite sex and not have no type of sexual attraction for them.

Okay, but you don't love him like you love me.

Right, I don't.

But— I'll never put any friend before you. You and my son, that's all I care about.

Have you ever cheated on Felicia?

No.

Never?

I mean, I've, you know, talked to girls in the past, but nothing like intimate or nothing like that.

So you've never physically cheated, but you've emotionally had conversations where you've gotten invested?

Yeah, yeah. I felt like I wasn't getting the attention.

And I feel like that too.

Do you wanna be with Felicia?

Hell yeah.

Okay. Oh, you said that with your chest.

All right, heard.

And how's the relationship with her family? 'Cause she just told me her mother don't like you.

Yeah, I don't understand what her mom problem is with me.

You don't like her either.

Well, yeah, only 'cause she comes at me and I don't do nothing. I raise our son, I take care of you. I think, I don't, honestly, I don't know what her problem is with me.

Well, I'm getting a ping right now.

Ooh.

It looks like we have a voicemail from Felicia's mother, Gina. I wanna see what she has to say.

Hi, Karamo. I'm Gina and I'm Felicia's mom. And I'm letting you know that she does not need to be with Ray. She deserves much better. He's a dirtbag. He doesn't shower anymore. He doesn't take care of himself. He badmouths my grandson and talks about his weight. Like, the list goes on and on. She deserves better. She's a beautiful, smart, compassionate person. She deserves somebody that values that and treats her with respect and kindness. He's not the most terrible person in the world, but he has become worse and worse I mean, he's even got as bad as peeing in bottles and putting it next to the couch. And their apartment is maybe 500 square feet. So the bathroom is 10 feet away from where he's laying. You know, he doesn't shower anymore, walks around smelling like cigar cigarettes and armpits.

Are they gonna come on back out? I had to hear this. I couldn't walk away. I was gonna come back there, but I need to finish hearing this message for her because it gives context of like, if there's any obstruction in this relationship that'd be causing the pain. Her mother made a lot of accusations about you.

She was lying.

She was lying?

Yeah.

Okay. She said one of the things that, 2 things mainly stood out to me is the way that you communicate with your son. She's saying that you say things about his weight, that you talk about him in a negative way.

Is that true? No, he doesn't. My son is chub. My son is 13 years old and he's—

He's about a big boy.

He wears a size 11. My son is big. So we just, you know, like, you need to be a linebacker, boy. Like, you know, stuff like that. It's never— I wouldn't allow anybody to, his dad, his grandma, to disrespect my child.

So there's no shaming your child?

No. She just babies him a little too much.

She does.

Okay.

A lot.

Okay, and you're saying she also said things of like that you're using the restroom in bottles instead of going to the restroom.

That's a bald-faced lie.

Uh-huh.

That's a lie.

And I don't even know why she would even— you don't even live with us, so how would you even know what happens?

Exactly.

Like, why would you even say that? That's disgusting.

I'm not gonna lie, looking at you, you fresh. Like that beard, everything, the eyebrows.

Yeah, I mean, I've been all the way clean.

I mean, you can normally see from somebody's—

I don't look like I've been in bottles, like really?

You can usually tell from somebody's hygiene and the way they look like, well maybe they— Right. Okay.

And I definitely wouldn't be with him like that, yeah.

So what is she seeing that I'm still not seeing? Because I'm hearing a little bit from you.

I think it's more of the, we're not giving each other the attention that we need to be giving each other. We're not, I feel like we don't love each other like we did when we first met.

Mm-hmm.

But I mean, I'm—

You agree to that?

Yeah.

Okay.

But I'm willing to work on that.

Yeah, me too.

I'm willing to go another 15 years with her.

Well, I gotta tell you, if I'm gonna give y'all all of my advice right now before I unlock both of your phones, is that I do see love here. I do see young love that has been growing together. You've been trying to figure out the world together. I do think y'all have run your course though. I think y'all want different things. I think you're a different woman than you were when you were 22 when y'all met. I think you're a different man than at 22. I think she's probably grown a little bit more and I think that you're more comfortable with the same old same old than she is. Am I hitting that on the nail?

Yeah.

Right.

And I don't think y'all are giving each other the ability to explore who you are. And that's what I mean by running its course. But we still got some phones to unlock. So first, I'm gonna unlock Ray's phone. All right, here we go. Felicia wanted to know if you are still messaging women on Facebook. Ray, you denied it. And my Unlock the Phone investigator searched your DMs, and he's telling the truth. He is not messaging other women on Facebook. All right, number 2, Felicia wanted to know if Ray has been looking at porn. Ray claims he's not. My Unlock the Phone investigators searched your apps and your browser history, and you're telling the truth. This man is looking at this woman alone.

Told you.

By the way, we go through deleted browser histories too. So Ray, you have no porn apps on your phone?

No.

Okay. Number 3, Felicia, you want to know if Ray is still communicating with the woman that you caught him cheating with. You said you are not. My Unlock the Phone investigators searched Ray's texts and he's telling the truth. How do you feel about that?

I feel good.

Okay.

Now listen, now it's time to unlock your phone. When we asked Felicia though to unlock her phone, she had some very interesting things to say about it. So I want y'all to take a listen to this.

So wait, she said she talked to you about the unlock the phone? Yeah, I don't wanna do that.

Why don't you wanna do it?

Because there's a lot of stuff in my phone.

We do not look at anything unless it is revealed to us. Related to exactly your situation.

It's related to my situation. Like what? I talk to a lot of people on Snapchat, and I flirt a lot. I got a little Snapchat relationship with somebody, and it's one of his clients. So it's like, hmm.

Wait, is that today?

Oh no, that's no.

Oh, okay.

This is new. Oh, he doesn't know. This happened after we. Okay. We have already been talking.

So, so Felicia, this has really turned from an unlock the phone to a Karamo confession. What do you want to tell him right now? Because we just heard it. What do you want to tell him?

Um, I did mess with—

What? Are you serious? So you willing to throw everything away?

And no, I came here to tell you that because I wanted to get it off my chest and tell you the truth so that we can move forward.

Is there anything else you want to confess about?

Man, it's gonna be hard. Hard. That, that, that just cut, man, that cut me deep.

And also, I miss.

Who is?

The roommate.

The roommate. Ray, come back here. Let me talk to you.

I just wanted to tell you the truth now, like so that we could get past it. That's what we're here for.

Okay, Ray, what are you thinking? I need to hear you, man. What are you thinking? What are you thinking?

It's gonna be hard.

So you now do know that she has talked to the guy that she sent that text message, your former client, and she also had slept around with your roommate. Come on out on the stage. Let's talk about this.

Come on out.

Okay, so you said that you wanna grow past this, and I know you're in shock right now. I can see your eyes are welling up. You're in pain 'cause you didn't know anything about any of this.

I don't know. I better not ever see dude.

Now I'm gonna say this. Somebody said period, but this is your wife. This is your woman. So even though you mad about that, this is her. What you gotta say to her about this?

I'm sorry.

I love you a lot. It's gonna be hard getting over this, but I don't wanna lose you.

My advice still sticks. I'm looking at this holistically of who you are and where you were at 20 years old and where y'all at now. And I understand you're staying in because again, somebody, like I said before, who doesn't want things to change, want things to be the same, is gonna be like, you know what, I can work through this. But your girl is telling you to your face that she was unhappy, she has slept around. And I'm not judging you or calling you a bad person. You made your choices the way you need to make your choices. But I don't think this is gonna stop here. And everybody around y'all, outside of the accusations your mother made, are saying y'all unhappy and telling her she deserves more. And maybe you deserve more so that you can grow, you can grow too. You deserve more here. So I think y'all got some real conversations to have about— Yeah, we do. Where y'all growing. I wish y'all the best of luck though.

Thank you so much.

Seriously.