In this episode of KARAMO, host Karamo mediates a heated discussion between Chrissy and her long‑term partner AJ about persistent jealousy, phone privacy, and intimacy issues that have built up over a ten‑year relationship. Chrissy expresses frustration that AJ, a truck driver who spends up to five days on the road, frequently looks at other women’s booties and Instagram posts, which she interprets as a sign of possible cheating. AJ admits to occasional boredom and scrolling, and reveals past use of dating apps (Tinder, Hinge) and a hidden folder of photos. The conversation uncovers deeper layers: Chrissy’s four miscarriages and her age‑related fertility concerns, AJ’s fear that she may be leading a double life, and a past sexual encounter Chrissy had with a rapper during a break in 2020‑2021. Karamo conducts an “Unlock the Phone” segment, confirming that AJ’s phone contains no explicit photos but does have old dating‑app activity, while Chrissy’s phone shows a 2021 text exchange with the rapper, which AJ was unaware of. Both partners admit to feeling the relationship may be ending, citing lack of communication, location‑sharing issues, and unmet emotional needs. Karamo offers therapeutic advice: each partner should write down three concrete needs, practice eye‑contact, and engage in intentional intimacy exercises. The episode blends confrontational counseling with reality‑TV entertainment, highlighting themes of trust, technology‑mediated infidelity, reproductive loss, and the challenges of maintaining connection in a long‑distance, long‑term partnership.
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Okay, so first it's like basically the BBLs. The BBLs, he likes booties. I understand he likes booties and everything like that. But at the same time—
You got booty.
I got booty right here.
Thank you, girl. I saw.
What you gotta look for?
Baby, listen.
So I'm like, why do you have to look at all these females and I got all the booty that you can have?
Understandable, understandable. Do you think he's looking at these other women because he's cheating?
Somewhat.
Somewhat?
Yeah.
And how long have you felt this way?
For a long time, since I first met him.
First met him, all right. So when did you find out he was looking at these girls online?
When we first got together and he was 24 when I got with him.
He was 24? Mm-hmm. Okay.
So I could kind of understand basically that it was the age difference and everything because—
Well, y'all were only 4 years apart.
But it was—
So it's not that much.
It's not that bad, but he's still young. I was going on 28 at the time. Got it. So it's like, you know, girls mature better than men. I get that, I get that.
Men.
And so I felt like basically, hey, well, hey, you being 24, you still got a little bit of growing to do.
Got it. So you were giving him a pass for looking up the Instagram and the BBLs on there?
But I could, I told him about it though.
Oh, you did tell him? I tell him about it. So you say like it's something you need to work on and grow through?
Yes.
Got it. So what does he do for work? Let me—
He's a truck driver.
He's a truck driver?
Yes.
How many days is he gone?
Sometimes he's gone for, sometimes he's gone for 5 days.
Your body is insane, man. You know that. You know they messier than me, right? They are messier than me.
I love it down there.
Okay.
But sometimes he'd be gone 5 days, home 2 days. Okay. And stuff like that, so.
Okay then. So do you think he's cheating when he's on the road?
Somewhat of a say so because when I ask him, do he be looking at women, he'd be like, no. And I find it in his phone and stuff like that. And then he'd be like, oh, I'm bored. What do you need to be bored for if you got pictures of me in your phone? Yeah.
And so when you confronted him about your concerns, he just says, "I'm bored." He'd be like, "I'm bored." He'd be very dismissive.
He'd be like, "I'm bored. You're crazy. You don't even know what you're talking about. I'm not like your other exes, so I'm different." Men is gonna be men.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But I mean, I'm surprised by that 'cause y'all have been together for how long? 10 years?
10 years.
10 years. 10 years together and you're saying like, this is bothering me.
Yeah, it's been bothering me. But at the same time, Karamo, I'm trying not to cry. I love this man. Like, I honestly love this man to death. And I will fight somebody over him. Like, that's how long, and he knows this.
Is this affecting your intimacy?
Yes, it is.
Okay, and how, in what ways?
Because I feel like he's looking at these other females and then wants to have sex with them. With me and that's just how I feel.
Yeah. Does he accuse you of cheating?
Yes, he do. And I feel like when he starts accusing me of cheating, that's when he be looking at them females in that phone.
Yeah.
Okay. Got it. She talking about, that's right. Okay. And how does he try to catch you?
There's no way that he can catch me, Karamo, because of the simple fact of—
You see how I tried to do that? You saw I tried to do that. I'm like, so how does he catch you cheating? And she like, he don't catch me. I'm like, okay, what happened?
He can't catch me 'cause first off, I got two dogs. I can all. I got cameras.
Oh, so you said you can't cheat 'cause you got two dogs?
The kids itself, see?
So back up, 'cause you said when I asked you how does he try to catch you cheating, you said that there's cameras?
There's cameras in the house, the outside house or whatever. So if you got done, pull up in the driveway or whatever, it's gonna alert the front door.
Got it. Do you two have children together?
No, I miscarried four of them.
You miscarried? Yeah. Okay, so sorry. Yeah. Has the loss of the pregnancies affected your relationship?
I feel like it has.
Yes.
Okay, in what ways?
Because I feel like I can't give him a baby right now because I'm 38. I feel like he's looking at these females to try to see if he can make a baby with them.
Uh-uh.
Are you two married?
No.
Okay, so you're not married, why not?
Because I feel like if you do this, basically when you're a girlfriend and boyfriend, that you're gonna probably still do the same thing as a husband as well.
Got it, okay. Well, I think it's time to meet your boyfriend AJ. So everyone please help me welcome AJ to the show. How you doing AJ?
Doing all right.
Good to meet you. Take a seat for me, man. All right. So I gotta ask you point blank, are you looking at other women online?
No.
It's all love.
I'm bored.
What do you need to be bored about? Like honestly, what do you need to be bored for? If you got pictures of me in your phone, why do you can't look at me?
But you don't send me any back. It don't matter. I ask you every day to send me something.
Because I don't send it to you because of the simple fact you looking at other women.
Those other women ain't you. I'm thinking about you more than any other woman. I can't tell. On that phone?
I can't tell.
Don't let my phone control what we got going on.
I can't tell.
Well, you don't want the phone control what y'all got going on. Why do you let the phone control you?
That part.
That's a good question. I'm sitting downtown, like I have nothing to do. I'm secluded to a truck. Sometimes my phone is there and I'm opening it up and stuff just pops up and I just start scrolling. Maybe I might screenshot a little bit, but it be by accident.
Screenshot a lot.
Okay.
Screenshot a lot.
If she asks you to stop, and if this is the woman you love, 10 years y'all been together?
Yeah.
She's asked you to stop saying, "This is bothering me." Why is that such a hard ask?
It's not. I stop sometimes.
Well, it is. Hold on, let's go back. We gotta be real.
Yeah.
It is because you haven't stopped. So why is it such a hard ask? Because I'm all about being honest here.
Sometimes I don't know if she's, willing to keep going with me, so.
I tell you multiple times over and over that I'm here for you. I've been this long with you for 10 years.
Yeah, but when I'm gone, I'm not sure what you're doing. You're always turning off your location.
I'm not turning off my location. My location is always on. What are you talking about?
Yeah, but every time I ask you.
You the one that turns off your location when your phone goes dead and I can't reach you when you're on the road.
No.
So it sounds like seeing pictures is something that is important to you.
Not necessarily.
It's way more important to me.
No, I'm just like sometimes I just—
The only reason I ask that is because you said you're also asking her to send photos and it's okay, you're an adult. Sometimes in sexual situations, some people like it to be in person, some people like the foreplay of seeing pictures. If that's something you like, is that, so you like the foreplay of seeing pictures ahead of time?
Sometimes.
Okay, majority of the time. 'Cause you asked her for photos as well.
Yeah.
Okay then. I'm trying to get you a place to be honest.
The more honest you can be, the better. I'm trying to get rid of, like, what I'm doing.
All right, so we have, my producers are messy, I'm gonna tell y'all that right now. They just told me that they have 3 different women.
Really?
And they wanna see if you could tell which one is your girl. They wanna see if you could tell which one's your girl. Do you know which one is your girl? Which one is Chrissy? Y'all so messy for this. Y'all so messy.
All of them.
Which one is your lady?
All of them.
This the 2025 dating game.
I know my one.
10 years, you should know by now.
Yeah, all of them.
You said all of them?
Yeah.
No. He was right. Trick question, he was right. Come on, Craig. Okay, okay.
Okay.
All right, you got that right, okay. My messy producers, I love y'all so much. So messy. Why y'all gonna put booties up there? All right, so, okay, so listen, so you do know your woman.
Yeah.
Which is good.
I've been with her so long, it's like I can't forget it.
Yeah, okay then. So I'm gonna ask you this. When you're looking at these photos, do you ever try to talk to the other women?
No.
Never? Okay then. I'm gonna ask you point blank, are you cheating on her?
No. Okay. Absolutely not. I love Chrissy, man.
You love her?
You sure you love me 'cause you still look at other people's booties.
Okay.
I feel like I'm not loved because you make me feel less of a woman. I feel like they feel like I'm less beautiful as a woman because of what you look at and what you screenshot on your phone.
Yeah, but you can't let my phone dictate what goes on in our relationship.
Man, you be telling these women that you're beautiful. You don't tell me that I'm beautiful.
I tell you you're beautiful every day.
Once in a blue moon, once I say it.
She says y'all have lost pregnancies. How's that affected your relationship for you?
Terrible.
Terrible in what way?
What could've been, you know? I've been trying to start a family since we really met. Like, it's somebody I love. I just wanna see.
Yeah.
Like, family and the full home.
Do you see a future with her?
Yeah.
You do see a future with her?
I love Chris.
If we find something in her phone, will you stay with her?
Yeah.
You will stay with her? Got it, okay. That's good to hear. Well listen, I think it's no better time than to figure out what's going on in both of y'all's phones.
So it's time for Unlock the Phone.
All right. Here we go. AJ, we unlocked your phone first.
Oh, really?
All right, Christy, you wanna know if AJ has explicit photos of other women. AJ says he does not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched his photos and found that AJ is telling the truth.
Okay.
Yeah, we even checked that old hidden folder you used to have.
That's where I found all the pictures that you were talking about.
Yeah, we checked that hidden folder you had. Kristin, you wanna know if AJ has been texting other women. AJ says he is not. My unlock the phone investigator searched his texts and found that AJ is telling the truth. All right, Kristin, you wanna know if AJ has been using apps to communicate with other women. AJ says he is not. My unlock the phone investigator searched his apps and found that AJ is not telling the truth. My unlock the phone investigator found two dating apps On AJ's phone, Tinder and Hinge. So AJ, you wanna talk about the dating apps?
There was a time where I felt like it was over, you know? And I went on apps just trying to see what was next, so. Mm-hmm. Yeah.
When was the last time you logged in?
It's been a while, like over 6 months ago, I believe.
Well, that is honest. It has been over 6 months, but that's recent. So you've been contemplating thinking this relationship is done?
Yeah.
And why?
'Cause I feel like she's living a double life. Her phone is secluded. Every time I come home, try to go through it, she wipes it clean, so.
Mm-hmm.
So I will tell you this, we have not seen anything in the apps that said that he was meeting up with anybody. It was a lot of browsing.
But why would you have to browse on the Tinder? Tinder is basically for you to find love somewhere else.
He said that he felt like maybe this relationship was about to end 6 months ago. Yeah. It seems like you were feeling the same way, if I can be honest.
Yeah.
Okay then. So both y'all are in the mindset of like maybe this is done.
I told him I want it to be done. There's been times that I wanted to.
And I heard that.
And so that's why you went on the apps. Okay. Well, you think that your girl is living a double life, so we've unlocked her phone as well. Chrissy, here we go. All right, so AJ, you wanna know if Chrissy has been using using apps to communicate with other men. Chrissy says she is not. My Lock the Phone investigators searched her apps and found that Chrissy is telling the truth. AJ, you wanna know if Chrissy has been sending explicit photos to other men? Chrissy says she is not. My Lock the Phone investigators searched her photos and found that Chrissy is telling the truth.
Telling the truth.
AJ, you wanna know if Chrissy has been texting other men? Chrissy says she is not. My Lock the Phone investigator searched her texts and found that Chrissy is not telling the truth.
All right.
My Lock the Phone investigator found 20 texts between Chrissy and her friend discussing her sexual relationship with a rapper named. Now this was from 2021. This was from 2021, but it did show that during 2021, you and the rapper, you two had made love and they did—
That was when we was on a break and basically you already knew.
No, we was still together.
No, we wasn't. We took on and off breaks or whatnot, and that was on the off break that I had with the rapper.
Did you know about that?
No.
He knew about, he didn't know about the text messages.
So you knew about this guy. Does this person, that's somebody who triggers you?
Yeah, all the time.
It does trigger him.
I can't even listen to the man music.
And it's because you feel like there could be something going on? Yeah.
The man locked up.
Got it. What are your thoughts here?
What I thought?
So you didn't know that they had a sexual relationship back in 2020?
I didn't know it was love in between them, no. Yeah, seeing love is, yeah.
Uh-huh. Wow. We was on a break.
Yeah, but.
As the producers implied, on a break though.
How you gonna fall in love with somebody on a break?
Who fell in love with who?
Well, it says love. Because it says, and I love. I love how he makes love.
Making love, you have to be in love with somebody.
Love how he makes love to me and loving that person, that's two totally different things.
And that's why I'm not seeing no action when I come home.
No, I'm—
'Cause you still loving how he makes love to you.
No, that's not even the reason why. The reason why is because of the simple fact of what you do.
Yeah.
I gotta tell y'all this. "One of the things I realized in this relationship is there's a breakdown of each other's needs." So let me tell you something, this is a simple fix, especially like if we're talking about a couple because you both have the desire to be together. Instead of saying do better, you both need to write down the 3 things that each of you want. I'm giving you a key first step in couples therapy. You say, "I need you to call me and say these words." And I know sometimes in 10 years of relationship you think like you should just know. But unfortunately we don't. You have to put that clear effort in to let her know and you have to let him know as well. Turn to your man and you turn to your girl right now and I want y'all to hold hands. And I want y'all to look each other in the eyes right now. Get close to her. Get close to her. When was the last time y'all got this close and was this intimate?
Yeah.
I know for, lemme tell you something, I know for a fact y'all have not stopped and looked each other in the eyes like this for a while.
Not in the eyes.
I know, I know y'all haven't. He ain't took his eyes off of you. I'm gonna tell you, I read body language and I know this man still loves you and wants you.
