In this therapeutic‑style YouTube segment, Karamo, the facilitator, conducts a candid conversation with Angela, a mother who began drinking heavily after age 50. Angela explains that she turned to alcohol to numb both physical and emotional pain that accumulated from a lifetime of prioritizing her children’s needs, managing bills, and neglecting her own well‑being. Karamo repeatedly reflects her statements, validates her feelings, and points out that drinking only perpetuates the pain cycle. The dialogue reveals the strain on Angela’s relationship with her daughter Victoria, who has set firm boundaries—she wants to support her mother but cannot do so while Angela is drinking. Angela admits to “passing a threshold” where she can’t remember events, a key moment of self‑recognition. Karamo encourages her to own the problem, consider healthier coping strategies, and acknowledges the small steps she’s taken, while also warning that continued alcohol use will erode family connections. The exchange blends empathy, confrontation, and motivational prompting aimed at moving Angela toward accountability and recovery.
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Hold on, let me talk to your mom real quick. It's very clear language when someone says, "I drink to ease the pain." And that's why I first want to acknowledge what you're going through. Because I've worked with individuals who have drank, who identify as alcoholics, who identify as, they don't identify as alcoholics, they just, you know, but one thing that's consistent in those people is that when there's so much pain inside of them, it is hard to sit and be in that pain. And so it's like after I get everything done and I'm making sure that I set up, which is how you've survived your entire life, it's been, let me make sure everything's done for these kids. Let me make sure everything's good. Am I hitting it on the nail for you?
Yes, exactly.
And then it's like, listen, I'm hearing you and I see you.
I didn't start drinking until after I was 50 years old.
I get it, I get it. And so you're drinking for the pain. You're drinking because—
But it's more than just a physical pain.
Yeah, I know it's a physical, emotional pain.
It's an emotional, a mental thing. I was 18. On my own, never had my bills, the lights turned off, never.
I know.
I work hard.
I see it. So you've lived a life where it's like, I'm gonna handle all this stuff. But because you were handling all these things and you were putting priority on your kids and the bills, you didn't have time to focus on your own. Not at all. I get it. And so now you're 50 and you're plus, and you're trying to now say, let me ease my own pain.
I'm trying to.
Because I never had time. But the thing is, The thing is, is that unfortunately easing your pain this way is never going to ease the pain. It's never gonna get rid of that pain. But you asked who's gonna be there for me. And the thing is, is your daughter has been there for you.
Yes, she has. And I love her for that.
She was there, but she's saying that, Mom, I wanna be there for you, but I can't be there for you when you're drinking. And I don't want you to lose her and I don't want you to lose the rest of your family because I'm gonna tell you, looking at you, you deserve for somebody to give you the hug that you didn't get, the support you didn't get. You deserve all of that, but she can't give it to you and other people can't give it to you if you're drinking.
Listen, please, it's so much.
I know.
That I've had to do and is still doing. And then when I'm alone in my room, I wanna relax and rest.
You wanna release everything that's hurting you.
And I can't do that.
You wanna avoid it. I know, but there's a healthier way to do that is what I'm trying to just tell you. I'm trying to tell you turning to that is never going to ease the pain. You'll be in a cycle until your last day of trying to ease the pain and feeling like I've found time for myself, but you're not gonna find it that way. You will find it in owning up to the fact that yes, Maybe I drink too much. Can we stop there? I don't believe I do though.
That's the problem. That's the situation.
I just don't.
I don't. Okay, that's fine.
That's fine. I'm not gonna force you to say that. I'm not gonna force you to say that. Can you acknowledge that when you drink, it's not healthy that you can't remember things?
Okay, I passes a threshold.
Yeah?
That I don't remember.
"Okay, fine." You just took a very big step and I wanna acknowledge that. Please give her a round of applause for that. She just admitted that sometimes she passes a threshold. She admitted she passes a threshold and she don't remember stuff. So when you say, "Well, I feel like she should know," she might've been past that threshold.
Can I just say one thing? Victoria, I release you so you can worry about you. Don't say this now. But we still got responsibilities. It's that but. But we still got responsibility. That light bill still gotta get paid.
You can't do that. Hold on, hold on, hold on. You were taking some healthy steps forward. This is what I'm talking about, Karamo. Angela, Angela, Angela, Angela, don't do this to me. Angela, don't do this to me. Angela, don't do this to me. Angela.
