My Mom’s Sneaky Link Might Be My Father! | KARAMO

Please tell me about your search for your biological father.

Okay, it started when I was a kid.

Okay.

So my brother that I have here today, I know that we share the same mother, but his father could also be my potential dad.

Okay.

But also, there's another alleged father.

Oh.

So pretty much when I was younger, I grew up with both families.

Oh wow.

So I had the best of both worlds.

Hold on, so both families accepted you even though they knew that there could be somebody else? Yes, I blew out the horns. That's beautiful.

Yes.

'Cause you often don't hear that story. Usually one side would be like, you know what, somebody else claiming them. Right, right. We don't know. Right. That's great.

No, I grew up with both. It pretty much was like back and forth.

Back and forth.

So as a kid, it never really bothered me.

Because you had enough family.

Yeah, yeah. I'm like, okay, they love me, they love me. So I just accepted it as for what it was. But once I got older, it was like, I need to know.

Yeah.

I need to know, so.

What I think is amazing about that is 'cause people think that things, showing a child love or having these things is gonna confuse a child. So we hold secrets.

Right.

And what you're saying is, baby, I— There was none. There was no secrets and I felt loved. I knew everybody, I knew what was going on.

Yes.

Wow, that's amazing. So what's, yeah. So what's your mom telling you? What was your mom telling you growing up?

Just pretty much that she was with my brother that's her with me father. And then the guy that could be allegedly my father too, she just, she said that was like her sneaky link. That was just somebody she dealt with 'cause he cheated on her. We find it funny. I'm really not, it's not like traumatic for me because my mom has always been very open with what had happened. So yeah, she just tell me like, I had two dads.

It was Nicki Lee.

He could be your dad, he could be your dad.

Yeah, okay, yeah. So now you wanna take the DNA test because?

Okay, so I wanna take it now because I would want to build, like we really don't have like a close-knit relationship, me and my brother's father.

Oh, okay.

And I would really, because I am hoping that he is, so I really would like to build like a closer bond with him and I can't do that without knowing for sure.

So even though he was there, there was still some apprehension?

Yeah, because he really didn't, he was incarcerated, so I was like, I was like 12 or 13.

Got it, okay.

So yeah, like he really wasn't around coming up, but I was around like his mom.

The whole family.

Yeah, right.

Got it, understand, understand. So once he got out—

And then I have kids, so I would like them to know.

Got it.

Because I don't know.

So what about the man on the other side?

I pretty much feel like if today that Roman's father is my father, he would still accept me.

Okay, yeah, yeah.

He's not in the picture. I haven't really talked to either one of them.

Neither one of them, okay then. So you are more so close with all their family members?

Right, right.

Got it, understand.

—family member.

So question. Yes. When you were younger and your mother was very honest about the fact that she had a sneaky link and the fact that she used to date this one, why didn't they take a DNA test then? I'm not sure.

Honestly, and this is just my opinion, I feel like they didn't feel the need to do it because I was satisfied.

Yeah, so they were just like, fine, we're gonna rock the boat.

Yeah, like she was okay, like she accepted either way. Got it.

Yeah. Did either of them take a DNA test for you today? No, but— So now their fathers took a DNA test.

No, but Roman's dad, his brother, Oh, okay. Yeah, he been participating from beginning to end. Got it. And he, growing up, he was more so like the father figure. Got it, okay. Yeah, yeah.

So yeah. So each, so your brother took the DNA test. Right, my mom, the uncle. And then the other uncle and then you, got it. So that's how we'll find out, okay. So what do you hope this DNA test will bring you today?

I'm hoping that me and Roman are siblings on both sides.

I'm hoping we're full siblings. Full sibling. All right, well everyone, I wanna welcome Roman to the show so we can hear his side of the story. This is your potential brother. Yes. Yeah. How you doing, Roman? I'm pretty good, how are you? Thank you for being here. Y'all are adorable.

How did you think? I don't know. You?

They look alike, don't they?

Yeah. Yeah. And that's another thing, like I really feel like, 'cause growing up, like I always feel like we look alike, we talk alike, we act alike. This my brother. Yeah, that's your brother, okay. Like I know we got the same mama, Oh my God. I don't know. Like before I came, I'm like, regardless, I'm gonna be okay. But I do get emotional about it because like regardless, he have always just been like there.

Yeah, that's your rock.

But he did tell me after today he was done with me. Really? Why?

Yes. I gotta take a break. Like this has been a lot for me trying to figure out like who's her dad. So I'm like, I need to recover.

He really don't care.

He feel like Well, we 30. Why you wanna know now?

Got it, yeah.

And I had to explain to him like, growing up you really didn't have to question it. Like you knew. Yeah, you knew. And I didn't. So he supported.

Yeah. And so you came here today to support your sister. Why was it important for you to be here?

It's important because like we always had like a close relationship and if my dad is potentially her dad, it's kind of sad because our grandmother is no longer here. And like she said, she has kids now. And so the way our grandma was in my life, her kids are not going to get the opportunity. Got it.

So. Got it, got it. What's making you emotional right now?

Because I feel like growing up I was able to just deal with it a lot better. I wouldn't, I never cried about it. I always accepted it because they accepted me. But it's like, I don't feel like I would lose the bond with the other family, but it's just like 30 years.

30 years. Mm-hmm. Yeah, yeah. I mean, as much as you have the support and love, no matter what we have in our lives, you still wanna know, you want to know who you— The truth, yeah. The truth. You wanna know where you come from. Mm-hmm. Yeah. The only thing that I appreciate about the situation is that your mother didn't lie to you. No, she didn't. Like, that's what I appreciate because that could have been harder for you to have one full life and then find out like, What do you mean at 30 that there could be someone else? Versus at least you have the information, but now you need the full information. Roman, have you always known who your father was?

I did. It wasn't no question about me.

Roman, did it upset you that your father wouldn't take a DNA test?

Yeah, but it only upsets me because it's so important for her. I've already like came to terms with him and my relationship. And so like I don't allow his behaviors to like impact me anymore, but it's still emotional for her. Yeah, very. Very.

We upset in this too. Well, your mother Tamika is also here by remote. So everyone, I wanna talk to Tamika. Tamika, are you here? Okay, I see you. Hey, Mom. Okay, I see you. Come on, Tamika.

Girl.

I was scared. Girl. So how are you feeling today about getting the truth?

It's pretty much about Demetria. She been wanting to know for the longest. Yeah. And I'm glad that you and your team was there for her. Oh, thank you. Okay, she got me all over the place now. I was ready for this. But yeah, them two there is like my best friend or whatever. And you know, we've been close. Like she said, I've been honest with her from day one. I have no reason to lie. I was young. I did what I did, and you know, we here today. Yeah.

Well, I don't know if you heard this before, but I was actually singing your praise because your honesty is actually something That's a beautiful thing. I'm proud of you. Mom, you did it right. You did it right. You did it right, Mom. That's what I was saying too. How did it make you feel that both families accepted her so warmly?

I love that, you know what I'm saying? Because like I said, I kept it honest with both potential fathers. I didn't lie. I was messing with both of them at the same time because Roman's dad, we were in a relationship. But he called his himself going out there doing him, I'm like, well, okay, I could do me. Okay. You know, we all grew up in the same neighborhood or whatever, whatever.

Tamika sound like me. Oh, you wanna play the game? Okay, I'm gonna play the game too.

Let you do you. That's crazy. Yeah, you do. But it's reality.

It's reality. You wanna play the game? Yeah, it is. So Tamika, what do you think is going to happen today? What do you want to happen today?

I would love for her to finally get to the bottom of this. It's about time. Like she say, she have kids. My grandkids really need to know where they come from. So either way it go, I'm hoping that he do turn out to be her dad, but if not, then we just go on from here.

So you want Roman's father as well to be her father? Yes, I do. Well, Demetria, I think it's time to get to the DNA truth. You ready for this? Demetria, you have waited 30 years for this truth. You have been covered in love, as you said, by your mother's truth. You've also had people to support you, but now as an adult, you want your answers. I do. This is not my truth to open, it's yours.

So here you go.

You gonna be all right. You gonna be all right. I really feel like I am. And so I really want his dad to be my dad. And then like I say, either way, it really don't matter. And then like if he's not, I don't wanna know. I just would just rather like, okay, if he not, then the other one is. But I'm nervous because I really feel like if it come out and he not, then it'll make me just even more sad. Like, yeah. No, what was the reason? Wait, I'm just saying. What you think?

What you think? Oh, I think he is.

You think he is? Oh my— Do it, girl. He talking about do it, girl. OK. Oh my God. It say Demetrius Roman is your full biological father.

Oh, yes!

Oh my God. I know this.

You got your ass. That is your full brother.

It makes sense. It makes sense. It makes sense. It makes sense. Look at my mama. You OK, Mama?

You OK, Tamika? How you feeling? I am.

I am. It's been a long time coming.

It's been a long time coming.

No, for real, because I really appreciate him. I appreciate my brother. And then I appreciate you too.

Oh, I appreciate you.

Because you just don't know. I'm fanned out. Like, I'm fanned out. Like, I knew I wanted to come on here, but I'm like, he give me that boost to use him as a platform to get the results.

I appreciate that. I appreciate that. That's what I always want to be here to help us out and make sure that you get your answers answered.

I'm addicted. Me and my daughter, we watch you every day. Well, I'm glad we could be here to support you in this.

Well, listen, I'm so happy you got your answers. I'm so happy y'all are full siblings.

His daughter, let me read it again.

Okay.

You can't believe it? I gotta call my uncle because his, my, okay, my dad. Yes, your dad. Well, his brother, my Uncle Terrence, the one that did the DNA test with us, he gonna be so happy. Yeah. He gonna be so happy.

Yeah, he needs it. We also happy for y'all. I'm so glad you got the results.

Yes, and I appreciate it. Yes, thank you.

Of course, anything we can do. Well, thank you so much for being here. And also everyone at home, thank you for being with us. Make sure to come back next time, friends, so we can keep talking and growing. I love you all.