In this segment of the YouTube show “My Sister & I Fell Out, Should It Be For Good?,” host Karamo mediates a heated dispute between sisters Deandra and Kenya (Speaker C). Karamo repeatedly asks whether the relationship can be salvaged, and both sisters affirm they want reconciliation. Deandra references a promise she made to their mother to always be there for their niece, emphasizing familial duty and love. Karamo prompts each sister to verbally express love and share specific qualities they appreciate about the other, leading to heartfelt declarations. The conversation then shifts to deeper issues: Karamo identifies patterns of abandonment and neglect that have built up over years, noting how these experiences cause the sisters to push each other away. He reframes a seemingly negative compliment about self‑esteem, turning it into a discussion about resilience and triggers. Throughout, Karamo guides the sisters toward more empathetic communication, encouraging them to acknowledge past hurts, reframe language, and commit to healthier interaction.
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I'm gonna ask you, do you believe that this relationship could be salvaged?
I do.
Do you believe this relationship could be salvaged?
I do.
You do? All right, your best friend is here and I wanna talk to her because she's in the audience right now. Deandra, how you doing?
I'm doing fine.
Good. You see the pain and I know you've been a part of all of this. For you, what do you think about the situation?
What I think is I'm tired of being put in the middle. I'm sorry.
No, it's okay.
I just hate to see them do this. I really didn't expect them to get up here and be like this towards each other. Like, I want them to be able to talk to each other. I want them to be able to love each other. I want Brica to be able to be an auntie to her niece. And y'all know y'all mama would not tolerate this at all.
DeAndre, you said you made a promise to their mother. What did you say to her?
Yes, I made a promise to their mom to always be there for Shakinya. She loves her sister. Her sister may feel like she don't love her, but Brica, Your sister love you to death. She will go out and fight anybody for you and you'll do the same for her. I think they just need to learn each other, get to know one each other and like you said, learn how to talk without yelling to each other.
Thank you so much for being here. I really appreciate it. Yes, sir. [APPLAUSE] Kenya, do you love your sister?
I love her to death.
Do you love your sister?
More than anything.
More than anything. So can we start right now with the communication and I would like for you to turn to your sister and say, "I love you," and tell her tell her one thing you love about her.
I love you. I know we are gonna fight, but I love you. You know I will go to war for you. Everything, like, literally words can't express that. I wish that you would see that. Yeah, I know I'm not perfect. I'm not the perfect sister, but You my sister. You strong. There's so much stuff that I love about you I can't ever put in words.
I understand, I understand. Can you tell your sister I love you and tell her one thing you love about her?
I love you.
I really do.
And this may sound weird, but I love that you don't care.
Don't care about what?
I care what people think. She don't. And I loved it.
So I'm gonna help you reframe that because sometimes, you know, just through nature, especially when we're trying to find words, our compliments can sometimes be negative and it can give the wrong impression. Do you love the fact that her self-esteem doesn't allow other people to trigger her? Both of y'all have, there's abandonment issues here. There's neglect issues here, correct?
It's a lot of it.
Yeah. And sometimes when we both experience neglect and abandonment, the people who we felt like should have been there, if they don't show up the way that we need them to show up, we then start to push them away. Because we still like, before you reject me again, I'm not gonna do it. And that's what y'all been building up over these years. I'm gonna tell y'all that right now.
