In this candid talk‑show style segment, host Karamo moderates a conversation with two participants (Speaker B and Speaker C) about sexual dynamics in a marriage. The dialogue explores several intertwined issues: (1) the participants’ attitudes toward porn consumption and whether it constitutes an addiction; (2) the importance of explicit consent regardless of relationship length, highlighting fears of rejection and communication gaps; (3) differing expectations around sexual frequency, with one partner wanting 5‑6 encounters per week while the other feels that is excessive; (4) how work fatigue and daily responsibilities affect desire and performance; and (5) alternative forms of intimacy such as non‑sexual touch. Throughout, Karamo repeatedly probes for personal experiences, emphasizing that consent, mutual understanding, and realistic expectations are essential for a healthy sexual relationship.
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Okay, so in all sincerity, do you think you have a porn addiction?
Nah, I don't.
No, you don't think so?
Nah, I think it's normal to watch porn.
How often are you watching porn though? Are you watching porn 1 time a day, 2 times a day, 3 times a day?
I don't watch porn every day.
It depend on my mood, honestly. 'Cause honestly, I don't like to have sex every day 'cause I work, like I said. So sometimes I do be tired. But the times that I do wanna do it, I'm not trying to roll over and ask for permission to do it. You know what I'm saying? I feel like, that should be coming on already. Like, shoot, we ain't did such and such, so let me go ahead and give him some. If I gotta ask, then I really just go handle my business myself.
Well, I mean, just because you're married, there still needs to be consent. So why is it during that time that you feel like you don't wanna have sex?
That's how I feel, Karamo, and I understand maybe we was just raised different. I just always thought you ask, and sometimes when I ask him, I can say, "Babe, you wanna have sex?" He say, "Why you ask?" I mean, I just don't wanna go and just jump right into it and then you reject me.
Who asks to have sex?
You get what I'm saying? I don't wanna be rejected.
No, like, look, okay, you might ask, First of all, I don't even know nobody who asks to have sex.
In any relationship, I know, even if you're 5 years, 1 year, 10 years.
Don't nobody say, hey babe, can I do it? Can we do it?
The practice is, do y'all feel like, I wanna know from you all, do you feel, 'cause from my point of view, no matter if you're together for 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, it always should be consent. Hey, you in the mood? You wanna do something? Do y'all agree? Even the men, yeah. Come here and talk to me real quick. Okay, so we got a man right here who says he feels that there should always be consent. What are your thoughts?
Yeah, I think you should ask because you don't know her mood.
So you don't want to get rejected.
You know what I'm saying? Rejected by my girl?
Yeah, 'cause if you try to just move on her, she might be like, "Get off of me." You're making a good point because the rejection then leads to insecurities. It leads to arguments.
And that's what I told him before, Karamo. I said, he was like, "Why you don't do it?" I said, "Bae, I don't want to be rejected. I don't know if you gonna be wanting to be turned on and that's gonna make me feel some type of way, make me be pissed off." And he like, "No, why would I do that?" But it's a different mindset.
Does anyone feel like her expectations, your partner's expectations of sex 5 to 6 times a week is a lot?
That is a lot.
Yeah. Oh, come here, sister. She said yes. Yes, yes, yes. I need to know. So she says 5, 6 times a week. You think it's too much? Girl.
What? 5, 6 times? Baby, when it's all good. That's probably because you not working.
You just not.
'Cause you got to work and cook and all that. And like, that's a lot.
Do you think it's because, this is a pretty good point. Do you think it's because of the fact that you're not working right now? I know that's a decision you both made. Yeah, I mean, I don't have a job on my hands. Yeah, so you have a lot more energy energy. Can you understand that for him, outside of the arguments, but can you understand for him, like, I'm working all day, I'm trying to provide, that maybe I'm too exhausted to perform right now? Can you understand that? She said no. Okay. I mean, I can. She looking at me like, no.
I can, but I'm just like saying, like, you my man.
