A parent in a blended family overcompensates with weekend stepchildren out of guilt, then is stricter with kids who live there full-time. This inconsistency breeds resentment as they grow up.
I feel so sad to say this to you 'cause you're such a nice guy. You're the problem. You're the problem. Did you know that? I thought, I mean, no. Yeah, yeah, you're the problem. And it's okay because you can fix this behavior. The thing is, is that bending families is hard regardless. You know what I mean? Like having a kid on your own is hard, but when you have other kids in there, but what's happening is, you have guilt because your children aren't around all the time. And so when you get your other kids that come one weekend, you don't wanna make them seem like I'm bad guy. You wanna let them know like, even though I'm not with you all the time, I'm dad, I'm fun, I love you, love me back. So you're parenting the other kids outta guilt and you're parenting these other kids outta sort of this sternness because they're in the house, which is unfair. Because what's gonna happen is that you don't want your kids to grow up and start resenting you.
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