Karamo tells someone worried about their partner that security can't come from another person. If your partner isn't doing anything wrong and you still don't trust them, that's your work to do, not theirs. Your insecurity can make them withdraw and feel bad about themselves.
It's not about the affection she's giving you or not. It's about the fact that you're unable in this place in your life right now to trust the woman you're with, to trust your partner.
I'm not completely agreeable with that because I feel like if she instilled that in me and I knew that she wanted me, I would feel more secure.
Yeah, so where I say to that is no one can make me feel secure. I can, in the sense of I have to either trust my gut to say she's doing something and leave or I have to allow them to then show me that they're doing something wrong. And right now she's showing you she's not doing anything wrong to the point where it's affecting her self-esteem and she's walking around with her head down.
Okay, that's her decision though. And like I said, the phones really don't have anything to do with it. Y'all aren't there to see situations that take place. And I feel like I have every right to feel how I feel and I'm not gonna sit here and let somebody talk down to me or condescending and tell me it's because of this and this when you don't know. I'm definitely not talking down to you.