A woman who defended her toxic mother growing up now defends her toxic partner. The speaker shows her the pattern: she internalized her mother's hurtful words as truth, so she stays in relationships where she's treated the same way. Breaking the cycle means rejecting those false beliefs about herself.
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You are a woman that didn't get the validation or love from your mother. You got rejected, you were talked to negatively. You're mimicking the relationship you have with your mother in this, and you found comfort in someone you could be vulnerable with, but then you then allow the relationship to grow into this toxic behavior. Yeah. You're a child that's been defending your parent your entire life. When I asked you what's going on with your mom, you started defending her immediately. 'Cause I love her, you know, and I don't wanna like treat her wrong. I get it, I get it. But see that same things of like, I love my mom even though the relationship is toxic, is the same way you just said I love this woman even though things are toxic. Do you see the pattern? Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. So what I'm trying to help you to understand is that you have to reconcile with yourself if her words are true. And let me tell you, the things that your mother has said to you when she's angry, those words are not true. Those things she said about you are not true because those things that you're believing are true is what's making you believe that you deserve to be in a relationship like this.
