Our Moms Were BFFs, Are We Sisters? | KARAMO

So growing up, who were you told was your father?

Well, I've got 5 siblings and they all have what's supposed to be my father's last name. I'm the middle child and 3, I have 3 older ones with his last name and 2 younger ones with his last name. I've always questioned why is it I didn't have his last name if I was his kid. It doesn't make sense to me as to why my older siblings and my younger siblings have his last name.

Makes sense to me.

When I asked my mom, the story was that they were trying to hide it from my older sibling's grandmother. But still, that doesn't, that makes the story even more confusing and it doesn't make any sense because why did the younger two have his last name? Still, who is my dad?

[Speaker:KARAMO] So what was the relationship like with the man that you were told was your father?

[Speaker] Never really had a relationship growing up with him. He was always in prison.

[Speaker] Got it.

[Speaker] Drugs were more important to him than his kids.

Got it, I understand that.

And we, I don't know, I just, it's just been, it's been hard.

Yeah, of course. It hurts.

Confusing.

Yeah, because like, I don't have a relationship with this man, but at least I could carry his name like my siblings. And for some reason I've been the one that has been selected not to do that. Have you ever met with the man whose last name you do share?

I've never met him in person, but I've talked to him on the phone one time.

You have, okay then. And how has all of you, all of this affect your relationship with men?

I don't get close to men. I don't really have, I keep my distance.

I'm sorry about that. I'm sorry about that.

It hurts, but I guess I'm used to it.

Yeah, yeah, which you shouldn't be.

No.

So why is this DNA test important to you today?

I just want peace of mind.

Yeah.

36 years now I've wanted a relationship with my father. I've wanted my dad to be a part of my life. I mean, what little girl doesn't?

And how's your relationship with your potential sister, Brandy?

We have a really good relationship. We're good friends. We talk all the time, meet up all the time.

And who is Brandy to you? I just wanna be clear.

Half sister.

She's a half sister. So she's with the same mother?

No, same father.

Same father.

Potential father.

Potential father. Okay then. Well, I think it's time to hear what Brandy has to say about all this. So everyone, please welcome Brandy to the show. Hi, Brandi.

Hello.

So how do you feel about what was just said?

I agree with it. It's just been a long time waiting and wanting to know and questions. Yeah, questions.

So if you two are sisters, then it would clear up that your father is actually the one who has all the other siblings' names. The father that was in and out of jail would be your father.

Correct.

Okay then. And what have you been told about Brittany's relation to the family?

Karamo, it's messy.

Yeah.

Let me tell you.

Okay. Okay. You come to the right place then, okay?

My dad was with my mom first and then supposedly while they were giving birth to me, or my mom was, he was cheating with her mom.

Oh.

Yeah.

And ever since then he's been with her mom. He married her mom.

Got it.

Yeah, so.

Wow. So were you close to Brittany as children?

Yes. Oh yeah, we were close.

Yeah.

We grew up in different households, but we were always at each other's houses.

Because you all knew of each other.

I would run away from home and go stay at her house and yeah.

Yeah, so you were pretty close growing up. Yeah. What differences have you noticed between Brittany and the rest of the other siblings?

The looks mainly.

Yeah.

And just kind of, we're a lot more outgoing. Brittany's a lot more shy.

Self-reserved. Yeah, so stay to myself. Yeah.

Why don't you tell me that your moms were best friends?

Best friends.

Wow.

Yes, when this all would happen. And so, and they remained friends afterward, after it happened.

Yeah, good for them. So that's why you all were able to have a good relationship, because they both stayed friends. Yep, makes sense to me. Do you have any relationship with your father, or is it—

I do.

You do?

I do.

How do you all talk?

Every day.

Has he ever said anything to you about Britney? He thinks He thinks it's his. Do you think that it bothers Brittany that she doesn't have a good relationship with the potential father?

Yeah, I know it does. It seems like every time we meet up and chat, it always comes—

It always comes back to that conversation.

It always leads back to, is that my dad? Or I don't think he's my dad because of this.

So I'm confused. If he thinks that Brittany is his child, why hasn't he tried to build a relationship then?

He doesn't really try to build a relationship with any of us. I think the only reason he has a relationship with me is because I've built that relationship. I forced it upon him.

Yeah, so you are the one that's actively trying to get a relationship. So this DNA test is important to you, we know why. Why is this DNA test important to you? For her. For her.

I see it hurt her. I want her to know. I wanna know, I want her to know, and I want, I just want it all to be—

Peace of mind. Yeah.

Yeah, I think it's time to get to the DNA truth with you. Brittany, you have waited—

36 years.

36 years for these answers. And I don't think you have to wait a second longer. Here's your truth to open.

Not gonna change anything.

No, I promise.

You're my sister either way.

What's going on through your mind right now?

I'm scared. It hurts. But I'm ready for that peace of mind. I'm ready to know.

Yeah.

I think we deserve to know.

Yeah.

You are my biological dad.

There you go, love. There you both go. Here you go. Here you go as well. How's that feel? Good. Yeah. Yeah.

It's just, he's just into his drugs and that's just who he is.

Yeah. I mean, the one thing I say is that the sad part is that you didn't even have to have this doubt.

Yeah.

You know, if like they would've just taken a chance choice and made the choice to put you you would've went through your entire life believing and knowing that is your father. But the fact that they singled you out, it bothered you.

It made me question, I questioned it my entire life.

Yeah, I'm sure.

I felt like an outcast.

Yeah.

You know, they'd all talk about their last names and their dad and here I am and I've got this different last name and—

We were always big with our last name.

It don't make any sense.

Yeah, it didn't make any sense to you. But at least you have your clarity now. So now that you know if he is your father, Would you wanna change your last name on your birth certificate?

No.

No, yeah, 'cause now you've lived with this name.

I've lived with my name for as long as I've—

And you don't have any relationship with him?

I don't have a relationship with him, and at this point, I don't think he's ever gonna change. He's always gonna have his drugs in his life, and I've got 3 children of my own.

Yeah. And you're just focusing on your family now.

Yes, my family and my kids.

Well, I will tell you this, the trust that you don't feel for men, I hope that you can figure out a way, and we can give you some resources backstage to really help you to figure out how to trust. Because that trust in men, I think, is more about a trusting in yourself. And trusting that you know wherever you are, you belong, and that you're secure. And knowing that no matter where you're at, you can handle the situation. Because really what I'm hearing, as a child, your security was taken away. Your safety was taken away. And when a child's security and safety's taken away, they don't know Can I handle the world? And it stops us from trusting those who come in our lives. Yes, it does. But what I want you to know is that you can handle it. You've been handling this entire time and you've done an amazing job of handling it.

Thank you.

And so if you can trust yourself by reminding yourself, I've been doing it, even when I didn't have answers, when even then I didn't know who's gonna show up, I showed up for myself.

I have to.

Yeah, you've always done it.

I have to for my kids.

But now that means that if there's a man that comes in your life, you can say to yourself, no matter what his choices are, I can trust my choices. And that will allow you to open up and be a little bit more vulnerable, okay? So hopefully you can use that as a tool to take that first step in finding the trust and love you need. But I'm so happy you got your answers, okay?

Me too, thank you.

You're welcome, someone. Thank you for being with us. Make sure to come back next time, friends, so we keep talking and growing. I love you all.