A parent says they accept their gay son, but Karamo pushes back: acceptance isn't enough. Real support means learning about his identity, relationships, and how to show up for him. Understanding is what builds the relationship.
Are you willing to learn about his experience as a gay man?
What do I gain from that?
You gain more understanding of your child.
I don't understand what you mean about learn.
So part of who your son is, is he's a gay man, which means like as he gets older, he's gonna have a relationship. He's gonna have, just like your other children probably have dates that they come over to the house, they'll want to meet you. So there's a part of that that I'm asking you, would you be willing to learn more about that?
I guess, I mean.
Yeah, I'm just asking.
It really doesn't, I don't understand what you're learning.
See, the same way that you said—
What are you meaning when you saying, am I willing to what? You saying accept him? I didn't say that. Because I accept him.
I didn't say anything about accepting. So what do you meaning learn? Would you be open to learning about your son as a gay man and what that entails? I can tell you if you really want to be able to get that relationship with him, You being able to say that I'm willing to learn will be a big step.