In this counseling‑style YouTube segment, host Karamo confronts a father (Speaker B) and his partner (Speaker C) about the damaging effects of his inconsistent communication and lack of involvement with their daughter. Karamo repeatedly asks the father to picture the negative outcomes he has listed—low self‑esteem, clinginess, abusive‑partner attraction, and a craving for sex—if he continues his current behavior. He points out the daughter’s repeated pleas for FaceTime and emotional support, framing the issue as the father’s defensive mode versus a needed love mode. The conversation shifts to concrete steps: the father mentions a new stable job and the possibility of paying child support, while Karamo pushes him to stop making excuses and commit to consistent, loving actions for his daughter. Throughout, Karamo emphasizes accountability, urging the father to stop defending himself and start actively loving his child to prevent the predicted pitfalls.
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All right, so the reason I got you to get up is because I'm hearing the communication issues, but again, the only person that's most important to me is your daughter. Correct. So I have a picture of your future daughter that I want you to look at, and I want you to look at this photo and realize this is what's gonna happen to your daughter because of the issues that you're doing now.
So I wanna ask you right now, is that the photo of your daughter that you want?
No, and that's why I spent the last, like I said, everything that she has adjusted addressed on this show. I thought I came to resolve those things.
But the thing is, is that it's not about resolving it with her.
I know.
It's about, I need you to look at this because we all know this to be true. When there is a young woman who has a father that she's begging to say, please FaceTime me, please talk to me, please show me some love. When your daughter is writing those letters, I don't give a damn about what you two are going through. This is what your daughter's gonna happen. And that's what I'm saying. This is your daughter.
I don't think you get what I'm saying, Karamo.
I do get what you're saying.
I get what you're saying.
You're like, I'm hearing this, I'm a third party, I don't know you. Do you want this to be your daughter?
No.
Okay.
So when are the actions gonna start lining up?
Like when I paid my last child support payment. You don't want me to be that new person. You're stuck on the person I used to be.
I'm craving for you to be that new person.
You don't want me to be that new person.
You know I keep up with you, you know I keep the relationship open, you know I don't cut her off from talking to you.
So I want you to tell me right now, hold on one second. What are you going to do from this point on to say, I'm gonna make sure this does not become my daughter.
Please answer that. I have recently got a more secure job that does not have me being all over the country with crazy hours. So I have more stability, more ways to prioritize my daughter. Because if I'm on a plane and I'm in a place where the flight is delayed—
Hold on, hold on, hold on a second.
I'm saying it from the past. I'm saying it from the past.
'Cause I gotta tell you something, brother. I'm listening to you. And I'm hearing you and you are riddled with a lot of excuses. And it is excuse after excuse after excuse. And part of that excuse is because you just told me earlier you feel attacked through your communication. And so you're constantly in defense mode instead of love mode. And the love that you need to be giving is for your daughter. This is what your daughter's gonna turn into. All your daughter's saying, "I need you to FaceTime me." If you call your daughter's mother and she says, "No, I'm not bringing the child," guess what? That's what you as a man, say I'm gonna walk my ass down this road that has no pavement.
I didn't do that? I didn't do that?
Like I said.
I didn't do that?
Like I said.
I didn't do that?
You did it twice. I didn't do that numerous times? You did it twice.
Okay.
I told you, stop defending, start loving your daughter. Stop defending, start loving your daughter. Your daughter right now is saying she needs you.
