In this candid YouTube conversation, Karamo interviews Vinita about the tension between mentorship and mothering, her generational perspective, and her personal transformation. Vinita asserts that Karamo (and others) are mentors, not parents, and pushes back against perceived controlling behavior. She reflects on her past struggles with marijuana and alcohol addiction, a toxic abusive relationship, and a period of self‑destructive choices, including cosmetic surgery. Vinita describes how she broke the cycle by moving cross‑country, seeking peace, love, and healing, and how her relationship with LaTosha shifted from close friendship to strained distance. The dialogue also references a TikTok video Vinita made that chronicles her transition, providing context for her current mindset.
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You are my best friend. I see you as a big sister, but you're not my mother. And for you to say that— You're a mother. I told you that God told me to go to Texas and then turn around and say that you think that you could guide me and be a godsend. God is guiding me, just like I told you. So what has God told you to do now? What have you done in Texas that God has given you this message? But what makes you think that I need to be doing something in Texas? What makes you think that what I'm doing— Because you need stability. You need direction. But again, that's you acting like my mother. I'm 27 years old, Natasha. I am your mentor, young lady. Vinita, I am not your mom, I am your mentor. Latasha, you were my mentor at one point in time, but that mentorship ended when I moved to Atlanta and then we became simply friends. And moved to Atlanta, but yet, are you kidding me, Vinita? So you don't look at me as your mentor? No, Latasha, I look at you as my friend, as my big sister. Yes, I will come to you for advice, but as far as business, as far as what I wanna do with my future, like no, you're not a mentor in that area to me. Girl, I—
Vinita. Do you think you're making bad decisions?
I absolutely do not think I'm making bad decisions. But even if I am making bad decisions, I'm 27 years old. I can change. I feel like people from Latasha's generation, they are used to doing the same thing for years, right? Yes, my generation has to break the cycle. We have direction. And also, our generation is lost. And y'all also have depression. Y'all have sadness. Y'all stay in relationships y'all don't wanna be in. Y'all wanna work in jobs that don't bring you anything good like that. You do the same thing for years and that's not me. Like at the end of the day, like— I see more for you, Benita. And I see more for you. And I see more for myself as well. Then act like it.
Ooh, so Benita, I got a question for you. What is your relationship like with LaTosha?
My relationship with LaTosha used to be great. It used to be amazing. We used to talk all the time. We would go out all the time. I felt like I could confide in her. Going forward, my relationship with LaTosha has not been good at all.
Okay.
When I was making a lot of the bad decisions that I was making, In 20— like last year, LaTosha was there. LaTosha was not mentoring me through those bad decisions. I made a TikTok video talking about the transition of where I was and where I came to now. And she's seen that. She's seen me through all those times. And you were not so worried about what I was doing or the actions I was taking.
We actually have a video of that TikTok. I wanna watch that TikTok you made because I think it gives context to where you are.
All my life, I thought that when I made more money, all my problems would go away. But when I finally made the money, I realized that money was never my problem at all. My marijuana addiction started when I was 16, and the alcoholism followed right after. And I was hooking up with random men, and of course crashing cars, drunk driving. And I was so broken, hurt, and insecure, spending money on trips alcohol, drugs. I found myself in a very toxic and abusive relationship. When I was finally able to free myself from it, instead of getting the help I needed, I went and got my boobs done. The pain was still there. I was still so broken and unhappy. I finally decided to just pack my stuff up and move. Cross-country. Because the girl that I was 6 months ago is not the woman that y'all see today. And I just want to welcome you to my journey of peace, love, and healing.
