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Respect each other’s trauma #KaramoShow

5 May 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment of the Karamo Show, host Karamo addresses a married couple about the importance of recognizing and respecting each other's traumatic histories. He points out that both partners have endured significant trauma—particularly highlighting the wife’s experience with sexual assault and the resulting dissociative coping mechanisms. Karamo explains how these past wounds can create conflicting needs: the husband seeks transparency and trust, while the wife has been consistently transparent for years. He urges the husband to explicitly acknowledge and respect his wife’s trauma, encouraging him to verbalize his respect. Throughout, Karamo balances empathy with direct advice, emphasizing mutual respect as essential for healing and relational stability.

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What I'm realizing right now is that both of you have had traumatic pasts. Yes. Both of you. And I do believe you've supported each other through your traumatic past, but I also don't think there's an equal respect for each other's past. Disassociating, especially when it comes to sex, when you've been a survivor of any type of sexual assault or molestation, is a real thing because you have to compartmentalize of like, what does this mean to me? What does this mean to my body? What does this mean to my safety and security? And so for you, I understand your trauma is different. And so what happens is they're conflicting because you're like, I need a woman that I can trust. I need transparency. And she's given you that for most of the years, almost all the years, actually all of them. Let me be clear, all of them. All of them. Because this is the only man I ever changed for. When you came out, she told you. It's just that what you're wanting is more. You want more clarity because it's triggering your trust. But I want you to be able to respect what she's been through. Can you look at your wife and say, "I will respect your trauma"? Yeah. Look at her and say it. I respect your trauma. And I respect yours, baby. Listen, you got me on this show, I don't even like people. And I do. I don't even like people. Hold on, at least you like me now. I like you both. Okay, okay.