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Set new boundaries #KaramoShow #relationship

8 Oct 2024 · 1 min

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In this segment of a relationship counseling session, the therapist (Speaker A) confronts a couple about two core issues: the partner’s unhappiness with their sexual relationship and the other partner’s problematic drinking. The therapist asks whether the drinking partner is willing to seek help for his alcohol use and whether both partners can commit to supporting each other’s recovery. Upon agreement, the therapist recommends that the couple engage in counseling to establish new boundaries, emphasizing that they have chosen to stay together and therefore need clear agreements about what is acceptable. The therapist explains that the couple’s communication breakdown stems from the drinking partner’s denial of his alcohol problem, which has eroded trust and openness. The overall message is that mutual commitment to treatment and boundary-setting, facilitated by counseling, is essential for rebuilding communication and trust in the relationship.

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She's been very vocal about the fact that she is unhappy with her sexual relationship and unhappy with your drinking. Right. So the question I have for you is, are you willing to get help with your drinking for yourself and then secondly for this relationship? I am. You are? I am. So can you commit to helping him as well if we gotta help him as well? Yeah. Okay, great. Now, if that is able to work, the next thing I would say is that you need to have some counseling so that you can talk about really the new boundaries of your relationship because clearly you are not leaving each other. And so I'd be a fool right now to tell y'all to leave each other. Y'all clearly are committed in this relationship for some reason. So if you're gonna be committed in this, then y'all need to set new boundaries of what's appropriate or not. Y'all are two consenting adults who have made a decision to stay in a relationship and y'all get to do what y'all want in y'all relationship. The reason y'all are not able to have those open communications is because you've never been able to admit that you had a problem with alcohol. So that shut down all willingness to have communication and trust. It does.