She Loves To Party, But Will She Lose Her Marriage? | KARAMO

Tell me, when did you start seeing the red flags?

Okay, he was in jail and right when he got out, it didn't even take a month, Karamo. It didn't even take a month.

A month.

He went ahead and he went to his family's to reunite and at that time I was working. He came back home and something told me to look on his phone. Mm-hmm. And once I looked on his phone, I seen a girl. First thing I see is a girl taking a picture.

Yeah.

Just like this. You know, body shot, booty out. And I knew like, at that point in time, I was like, that's not no friendly picture.

Yeah.

And it was of his ex.

Oh.

We were already engaged at that time, so that—

So how long after he got outta jail did you get married?

3 months. This will be our 3rd year.

So 3 years married.

Yes, this is 3 years.

Got married 3 months right after he got out.

Yes, that's us. You know, I just didn't, you know, I didn't care about the dress. I didn't care about nothing. We literally just went, right after work, went to the chapel.

Yeah, but what did he say when you called him a month in with the photo? What did he say?

He said, "Oh, she sent that to me." Okay. I'm like, "Well, are you gonna say anything?" He didn't say nothing to her, nothing.

Got it, okay then. So why did you separate over the summer?

Okay, I like to go out. I'm from Vegas, okay? And I'm from a city that never sleeps. So of course you wanna go out. It doesn't take much to go out. I've invited him, but you know, I like to go and I like to party. So he complains about it. I'm like, well, you could come out with me. He don't want to, but he—

So you are inviting him?

Yes, I am. So he's like, well, you're supposed to be a wife. He's like, so it's either me or the party. So yeah, it's not, I'm not gonna do ultimatums. So I wanted to be stern and I said—

But there is some, if you're his wife, there is compromise into figuring out what's gonna work for this relationship. And if he's saying, hey, sometimes the going out makes me feel a certain way, the same way if he was doing that, you'd want him to respect you, right?

Yes, but I'm inviting you. That's one thing because I feel like maybe we rushed into certain things. Because I didn't know how antisocial he is. Like, I was like, don't you wanna express your freedom and be out and do the things you never did?

Did he cheat on you this summer?

He did.

He cheated on you this summer?

He cheated on me.

Uh-huh, what happened?

I was going out with my girls.

Yeah.

And then I brought one of my homegirls home and we had a threesome.

Okay.

We had a threesome and I thought this would bring us closer. So—

They talking about girl.

Yes, I did, I did. And—

So then how did he cheat?

So what happened was, Sam told me to look in his phone.

Okay.

And I seen the girl that we had a threesome with was talking to him, but it was dated before the threesome.

Oh!

So I'm over here like, what's going on?

But what did he say? 'Cause when she walked in the house, was he acting surprised or did he like lead on that like—

So I just assumed, I just, I assumed the worst. And I came to him as if I knew something, he didn't deny.

Got it, okay.

So then, you know, I confronted her like, girl, you could have said something to me.

Yeah.

She didn't even message me back.

Got it, okay, so that friendship is gone. So if his phone confirms more lying, what's your next move?

I love him, he's my bestie, that's my bestie. Like, me and him, I just feel like we have so much, I know his life, he knows my life, I'm comfortable with him, but you know, if it is, I would hate to, but I'ma have to get on, I'ma have to get on with my life. Look at me, I look too good, I can't be doing this.

Okay, well I think it's time to meet your husband to hear his side of the story. So everyone welcome Darius to the show. How you doing, Darius? How you doing, Karamo?

I'm good, man.

Nice to meet you, man.

Nice to meet you too.

Yeah, thanks for being here.

Hey, man.

So I'm asking you directly. You said she out here lying?

Yeah, she out here lying.

So what's she out here lying on?

What's she out here lying on?

You know, there's a lot of things she stay going through my phone. Oh, so this already, yeah.

I don't. Well, let me ask you directly. Have you ever cheated on her?

Besides the time with the girl that we, Both planned on messing with her, having a threesome. Besides that, no.

But she said that you were talking to this girl before.

Well, I've been knowing this girl for years and years and years.

But why didn't you just let her know, hey, I'm talking to her? If you said y'all were planning on this threesome, why didn't you?

We weren't talking like that. We weren't talking like that. Just like a hello, how you been, every once in a while.

Is that what you saw? You saw just a hello, how you been, or did you see more?

No, I seen, oh, Oh, so now you're not answering my phone no more?

Karamo, they talk more than me and her talk.

Okay. What happened during the 2-month break?

During the 2-month break, we was on break. Things that happen on the break happen. But not nothing too crazy, just, man, I had to slip up with that same individual, that same girl.

Oh, so that same girl came back in the picture?

Yeah, she stopped by and you know, that's about it.

Look, I love Karamo.

Did you know that? Did you know that?

Yes.

During the 2-month break that they had messed around?

She happened to go through my phone again and—

And that's how I had to find out.

Got it.

I didn't know before that.

In your opinion, what does she need to do to make this marriage work?

She needs to, you know, she needs to be more submissive. Like this new, yeah, this new generation, all this new generation, like all this new— They said you need to be more submissive.

She could be submissive. Amen.

They probably single women too.

So what else do you need from her? You need her to be submissive, what else? My producers would cook this.

Be more submissive. Respect me as the family leader.

Is this what you gave to them?

Yeah.

You said you respect him as the family leader?

Respect me as the family leader, you know, just let me take lead.

What else did you tell him? Stop reckless spending?

Stop reckless spending. All that, yeah.

Give him the final say?

Yes. Like, then I'm not saying that her opinion don't count, but I got the final say. What else?

I give him a back rub every day.

Why everybody acting like there's something wrong with this?

Every day he's talking about tickle my back, baby.

Why is everybody acting like there's something wrong with this?

Well, the back rubs is okay, but like some of this stuff is a little controlling. I'm a hardworking man.

I work construction in Las Vegas.

I got that.

12 hours a day.

But saying give me the final say is controlling.

You're a liar.

No, no.

Respect me.

Can I explain what I mean by that?

Would it kill her to have food on the table?

Oh, he did it.

Yeah.

What?

No, you did not.

What? Don't nobody cook for their men no more?

I can cook when I can cook.

You can? Yeah. I mean, don't nobody cook for their men no more?

The only one that gets me, the only one that gives me pause that's a little controlling is give me the final say.

Let me explain what I mean by that.

Okay.

Like if it's a family decision that needs to be made, now I'm not saying like her opinion doesn't count, 'cause it does and it will be considered, but when it all boils down to the end, I get the final say.

Well, that's controlling.

How? How is that controlling, Karamo?

That's controlling.

How?

Because if you saying like—

I'm not gonna, I'm a grown woman, I'm not gonna stir her wrong or lead her the wrong way.

Yeah, but her opinion, she's a grown woman, her opinion gets to to be valid and included in the conversation as your wife.

Absolutely.

Yeah.

Absolutely.

Okay. My producer said you question if she respects you. Do you think she respects you?

Listen, if she could go out with her homegirls and come in at 2, 3 in the morning, no. Okay. That's not respecting me at all.

Okay. Have you said that that's about you?

So there ain't nothing wrong with that? A married woman being?

Well, no, I said, no.

These are all these millennials.

Millennials. Yeah. I'm with you. 'Cause I said earlier, if you're in a marriage and you feel like, hey, this is something that I don't feel comfortable with, I think there should be conversations and respect. So it sounds like you're saying to me that you feel like, hey, you go out too much, I don't know if I like that.

No, I don't like it.

I know I don't like it. So then why, if your man is telling you like, I'm uncomfortable with this, why is there not a compromise in y'all figuring that out?

'Cause there's no compromising on me going out. There's no compromising on me going out.

That's unhealthy. You know that's unhealthy. You know that's unhealthy.

You see what I mean, Karamo?

I gotta go out.

You see what I mean?

I gotta go out.

She gonna sit up here and say there's no compromising with that. He either is gonna compromise with me. Listen, that's 'cause she hangs around a bunch of single women doing single women things. If she wanna be single, I mean, you know.

Okay.

It's not a single woman thing.

They said you did cheat though.

Huh?

They said you did cheat though, so.

But this is why. This is why. This is why.

Can I ask y'all, do y'all feel like y'all rushed into this marriage?

Sometimes I do. Sometimes I think that maybe he should've explored. I even told him, like, are you sure you wanna explore?

Do you wanna get married? Karamo, we got married of me being outta prison, just did 10 years. I was outta prison for 3 months.

What makes you believe she's cheating?

Because it's cheating when you out with your homegirls and y'all all over each other, slapping each other all on the ass and doing all. That's cheating. That's what we do. That's how I know, 'cause I seen it. So if she doing that when I'm there, I can only imagine what happens when I'm not around.

Well, you know, normally I'd have been like, you know what, sometimes girls, they have a different relationship. But because of the fact that she actually brought one of the friends home for y'all to have sex with, means that you could be like, what y'all doing?

Right.

So what will happen if you find out that she hasn't been truthful?

I'm gonna have to Spread my wings.

You ain't have to spread nothing.

But if she is faithful, I got her ring that I would like to give back to her if I find out that ain't nothing going on.

Why don't you have your ring on?

Ever since you went out of town. Oh, 'cause she wasn't acting like she needed it, so I had to get it back.

That's controlling, by the way.

He took the ring.

Karamo, who's side you on?

I'm on the side of the truth. I'm on who's side.

I'm on the side you on, Karamo. But you cheated.

You cheated too. Well, listen, let's do this. Let's do this.

It's time to unlock the phone. Let's get to see what's going on in here.

Unlock the phone.

All right, here we go. Darius, we unlocked your phone. All right, Megan, you wanna know if Darius is talking specifically with a former ex. He says he is not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched his phone and found that Darius is telling the truth. Megan, you wanna know if Darius is texting a woman named? He says he is not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched his texts and found that Darius is telling the truth. Is telling the truth.

Mm.

Right.

Megan, you wanna know if Darius has been interacting with sexually explicit material on TikTok. He says he is not. Monopoly investigator searched his apps and found that Darius—

Telling the truth.

Is not telling the truth.

Huh?

My investigator found—

Good.

That Darius has liked over 100+ explicit videos of different women on TikTok.

Hold on, hold on, hold on. What'd you say?

No, no, no, no. 100%?

You said I liked over 100.

Yes.

Ain't nothing wrong with liking a video.

That means booty's involved. But something that's very important here is my investigator also told me that Darius, you only brought your work phone here. You left your iPhone intentionally back home.

Oops.

It wasn't charged. I needed to charge it. I didn't charge it. I didn't discharge it. Oh my God. No, for real. No, honestly.

Darius, we have chargers here. You know we could have charged your phone, right?

You know we got chargers here, right?

This is my first time. I didn't know what was going on.

What's going on?

Okay, well Megan, we unlocked your phone.

Oh.

Yeah. Oh, oh, oh.

I have nothing to hide.

Darius, you wanna know if Megan is sending any explicit photos to other men. She says she is not. My Lock the Phone investigator searched her photos and found that Megan is telling the truth.

Better be telling the truth.

Darius, you wanna know if Megan has been communicating with any other men or women on social media? She says she is not. My locked phone investigator searched her DMs and found that Megan is lying. Is telling the truth. Darius wanna know if Megan is texting with any other men or texting and she says she is not. My locked phone investigator searched her texts and found that Megan is telling the truth.

Hold on. However, however. Hey, y'all must ain't search good enough 'cause I didn't see no myself.

Who you talking about?

I'm innocent.

My investigator found that the messages with two specific women have been recently deleted. But outside of that, since we couldn't see those messages, we did pick up something else interesting. You were talking, Megan. Take a look, y'all.

I told him about the other guys, but he doesn't know that I told him I only had posted one video, which I posted some videos. I do some feet, feet posts on there. I told him it was just feet, but I think I probably have a little twerky video on there. He doesn't know how to maneuver on that, on that page because you have to be signed up to be on the page. Okay, I ain't gonna lie to y'all, she don't know, but I love people and say I kind of like her.

I like her. I have a soft spot for her. I really like her. I've known her for a while. It's hard not Well, we did, you know, we did kiss before we left.

Right.

Okay.

Right.

I don't know what to say about that one.

What you mean you don't know what to say about that one?

But that was a little lie.

No, so because this is what you got going on with her, this is why you always accusing me of stuff because of the shit that you really doing. No. Right?

No, because of what you actually did and what you actually doing. That's what it sound like going on to me, Karamo.

Well, I'm gonna tell you this.

You did your time, but now what I really want to know What I realize is you need to take y'all's time because—

Yeah, probably.

Y'all need a reset. Y'all need a reset.

We really do.

I know y'all been together for 3 years, but what y'all been building in 3 years is an unhealthy way of communicating with each other. Because what's happened is that the trust is not there. That's right. There's a lack of real communication, honesty, and transparency. And that goes on both of your parts. That's right. Your wife is telling you right now she's for the streets. She's letting you know she's not giving it up. So now you gotta make the decision. Vice versa, you clearly have not had some sexual experience that you wanna have, and I think you need to be more honest with your wife saying, "Hey, like I actually wanna see other women sometimes." Y'all stuck on a level right now because neither y'all wanna really talk about what y'all really wanna talk about.

Well, if you put it that way. If you put it that way.

So what do you wanna do at this point? Do you wanna end this?

I wanna end this.

Do you wanna end this?

I don't wanna end it. I wanna work through this.

He doesn't want you going to the club. So what is it to work through?

I gotta go to the club.

Get your ass on to the club, man.

Like I said, listen, the conversations, y'all, and listen, y'all need just go.

They have to go to the party.

Just go back and have some real conversations. Conversations, all right? Either y'all get back to the basics or this relationship needs to end. I love meeting both of y'all. Y'all are fun. Thank y'all for coming on my show. And everyone stay with us, friends.

We'll be right back with more.