She Said I Wasn't The Father Of My Only Son! | KARAMO

So how did you find out that your son may not be your child?

All right, one night we were just having a good time, we was just drinking, this after we reconnected. We was just laying down speaking on certain people that we had dealings with when we wasn't together. So after that, I ain't really think nothing of it. She told me somebody name, but it went in one ear and out the other. So I say fast forward, I wanna say 3 months, about 3 months later, we getting into a heated argument about my son Zaylen. So as we talking, She hit me with a whammy. She told me, "I don't know why you worrying about it anyway. He might not be yours." Now mind you, now mind you, this is in the middle of an argument. Like, we're having an argument. I'm trying to correct my child. And like, I'm in my head, I'm like, why is this getting hit me at one time? So I asked her again, I said, "So what happened?" But she didn't respond. So me not wanting to make it a big deal and just dwell in it, I just left it alone since she didn't respond. And I mean, after she didn't respond, I thought about the guy that she told me about in the bed. And I just reconnected the dots and that's how I got where I was getting to.

So this was, Zayden would be your only child?

Zayden, yes sir.

Is your only child?

Yes sir.

Okay then. And are you close with him?

Oh yes sir. We like father and son, but more like brother and brother.

Yeah, 'cause y'all are so close.

Yeah.

How long have you and Sierra been together?

In total, I wanna say closer to 3 years, but off and on like a little bit over a year and some change.

Okay, a year. And during that time y'all had a child together. And how old is your son now?

My son, 2.

2 years old.

Yeah, he about to turn 3 in July.

Wow. And then when was it that she told you that he might not be yours?

I wanna say this was like in November, so some months ago.

So like a month ago.

Damn.

Yeah. No, no, no.

Only reason I said that. It feel longer than what it really is.

Well, you got a 2-year-old, so of course it gonna feel longer.

Yeah.

But then secondly, also sometimes we disassociate. When you get hit with information like that, saying that you're not the father of a child that you have been taking care of, that you love, that you just said is like your brother, your best friend, that's hard.

And I think the only reason why I didn't dive into it, 'cause she said might, so I just thought she was saying it outta anger.

The anger, yeah.

Until it sat in my mind so long, I'm like, nah, I gotta do something about this because—

Yeah, I know you said y'all relationship been on and off. How was y'all relationship in the past?

Really had like only a few steps and stumbles. Like only thing we probably have a problem with is communication and I know I'm stubborn, I'm a Taurus, so I'm stubborn. I really don't take kindly to like stuff that's not in order and organized. 'Cause that's just the way I was raised up. And so that's what we clash heads about. She more free flowing and stuff like that.

So you need organization, you need structure.

And that's what Zayden need and that's what he want.

Got it. And she's more like, let it just be. Were you together when she was pregnant with your son?

Actually, this is how it is, a funny story. When we met, we was like 2 to, I'm gonna say 2 to close to 3 months in a relationship. And we was working together. She just abruptly moved back to Lafayette. And I'm wondering in my head, I'm like, okay, I ain't think nothing of it. But we was always texting through Facebook and stuff, like not nothing, just like, hey, how you been doing and stuff. And one day she just texted me and be like, I'm back in Baton Rouge. So we connected and she introduced me to Zayden. She said, that's how I was introduced to him, after a year. Oh wow, after a year.

Wow, okay then. Got it. So if she had doubts at that time, she could have just told you right then and there.

That's what I'm saying.

Okay.

That's exactly what I'm saying.

So the fact that you didn't meet your son till he was 1, you built a quick relationship?

Oh, yes, sir.

Okay then. Are you and Sierra together now?

Uh, 1 to 10, I'd say 5.1. 5, okay. Depending on these results.

So depending on these results. Do you wanna continue a relationship if he's not your son?

I ain't gonna lie, I don't really know at the moment 'cause I don't know how I'm gonna feel. But at the moment, yeah, I mean, I don't wanna leave her.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I get it. Well, everyone, we need to hear Sierra's side of this story. So everyone, please welcome Sierra to the show so we can hear her version of what's going on. Hey Sierra.

Why you be lying so much?

Why you mean you don't wanna be here? Talking all this and that. If you would've been here, stayed with me, he would've been like you want him to be.

How you gonna stay with me if you gone? I can't teach him that in one year.

Man, let's be for real, man. Come on, bro.

Man, this on you.

If you would've just stayed with me.

This on you. This on you.

This on you.

You the reason why we here. If you would've just told me in the beginning, or if you had any type of faith.

It really don't matter.

It do. It do matter.

It do matter.

But you here now. It don't matter.

That's the problem. That's the problem.

Sierra, Sierra, nice to meet you. That's the problem.

That's the problem. You, nothing matter. Don't nothing matter. I don't understand.

I gotta ask you point blank. Do you believe Zay'lan is his son?

Yes, because—

So then if you believe Zay'lan is your son, why even have that argument a month ago and say he's not yours?

Well, when you're mad, you're just gonna say—

I don't know if that's the thing I'm gonna say.

Female, dude. I wanted the feedback. Sometimes, you know, He likes to talk all that mess and be rude to me sometimes and I'm like, okay, so I'm telling him like—

So you wanted to hurt him back?

Yeah.

Okay then.

You ain't hurting me, you hurting Zaylan, man. You not hurting me. You just making it more difficult for them to even have a normal relationship as a family. That's all I'm saying.

So from your perspective, why did you wait a year?

I waited a year because 'Cause it was, like I told him, it actually was, it's a possibility that it could be for somebody else. But I know he's the father. I mean, I'm just saying it's a possibility. And I can't confirm anything because he passed. So.

That's the man who.

That could be possible is.

And that's exactly the reason why I think she came back just because of that. I don't even think. I don't think it's because of me. I think it's because the last option that was open is like, you know.

Sierra, were you grieving and looking for support?

At that time?

You said probably, it's okay to be honest. You said probably, it's okay.

I mean, yeah, since he passed, I mean, and I wanted to come back and, you know, work things out and let him.

Well, you could have just came to me Instead of just all that texting, you could've just told me then when he was born. I could've been at the hospital. I could've been signing the birth certificate. I should've been there.

You're right. You're right. I was scared.

Ain't no way his name, he don't have no, like, my last name, no, nothing. I mean, that's something that, I mean—

Whose last name does he have?

Mine.

Okay. Were you in a relationship with that man who was—

No, it was a friendship.

Who passed?

Correct.

It was just a friendship. Okay. But you loved him.

Did I love him?

Yeah.

Yeah.

You loved him. Yeah. Okay then.

She's saying that, but we started off as friends.

Yeah. Was the death sudden?

No, it was a murder. It was a murder.

So it was sudden.

It was sudden.

Okay then. When it happened, were you and this man on good terms?

So we wasn't, we was on good terms before I got pregnant. Then our friendship became a little bit more like benefits. It was that one and twice. Then found out I was pregnant. I did tell him, I said, I told him first because we was messing around. I said, this is your child, I'm having a baby. He said it's not his. I said, well, we're gonna find out when I have the baby. And then—

And then he got shot?

Correct.

Okay then. So is Toriano a great father?

Toriano is a great father. I mean, he has that love and genuine care that that I see when he cares for my child. So yeah.

Do you want him to be your son's father?

Yes, absolutely.

You do? Got it.

He deserves it and my son deserves it.

Got it. So if you want him to be the father, why tell him in a fit of anger?

I probably wasn't gonna tell him.

You weren't?

Oh no.

So the anger allowed the truth to come out.

So I wonder what else will happen when you get mad.

Sierra, do you have any other children?

I haven't told him about my other child.

What the fuck? Okay. So this is the first time you're finding out that she has another child?

Sir, it's my first time I found out that he probably got another daddy.

Okay, so not only are you finding out that the child in question may not be yours, but you're also finding out that she has another child outside of this. Where does that child live?

Hold up. She's with her godmother.

Okay.

She end up at—

What do you have to say to this?

That's why you went to Lafayette?

On the weekends, yeah. I go see her on the weekends.

Nah, I ain't lying, fake, lost for words, bro.

I mean, I—

My anxiety going off.

To be honest, I really don't think that has anything to do, 'cause we here for my son.

So how old she is?

I have no idea. Well, what it does have to do in this moment is it shows if—

Trust.

Trust.

This was before him though.

I know. Toriano, what are you feeling right now?

It's a lot of emotions running through my, I ain't lying.

What do you have to say to Sierra?

I trust you enough to, to just still consider what you saying. But after you told me what you just told me, I ain't lying, I don't really believe nothing you say.

Just because of the child? That's messed up.

Well, I think it's time to unlock the DNA truth. Toriana, come with me now. Oh, oh, step right here for me. So Toriana, in this envelope is the DNA truth of your 2-year-old child. On this stage, a lot has been revealed. You have found out that another man could be the father. You've also found out that the person you were in a relationship with was not honest with you about another child she had.

You guys had.

And I know this is all hitting you. I see you shaking.

Yeah, I mean, I'm really so lost for words. So much running in my head right now that I don't even know why is you hiding all this shit.

I hear you. Well, inside this envelope is the truth for you to get your answers. This is your truth to open, not mine. I wish you the best of luck.

Please let me handle this in the best way possible. Please let this be Toryano, Zaylon is not your biological son. Man, what the fuck?

I'm sorry.

No.

I mean, but you—

This shit really talked about at home. You see the shit? You see the shit?

I don't think that's right. I don't think that's right.

You see the shit? Y'all got the results? The real results? 'Cause I think she need to, she don't believe nothing. She don't believe nothing.

So what that mean? You not even gonna leave him?

You see what it means?

But I'm saying you there for him. I mean—

I'm not gonna leave him. I'm not gonna leave. You look at that. How can I leave him? How can I leave him? Look at his face. Come on, man. You worrying about him. We need to talk about the other child that I don't know about. See, these the responses I get.

Sierra, what do you have to say about this?

I mean, I'm sorry. I mean, I'm sorry. I mean, it's beyond—

Sorry.

Okay.

I don't understand. I don't understand. I don't understand where I go from here. I don't understand where I go from here.

Teriana, take a seat for me.

Should I go?

No, take a seat for me. Sierra, I appreciate you coming here and telling us this. I'm gonna have you go back to your green room and I'm gonna talk to him. Thank you for being here.

Oh, thank you.

Thank you for being here. Bye-bye. Why don't you go back to the green room? Give me this. Okay. This is a critical moment for you as a young Black man, okay? You have been in a relationship that's been unhealthy with her for off and on for 3 years. But what we have just confirmed, I heard you say something right there, and sometimes people don't realize the prayers that they're asking for, that they are granted. You just said, "Please let this be what it needs to be, God." And what it is is that you have gotten saved from being in a relationship with a woman who cannot be honest with you, okay?

You're right.

You have the opportunity, 'cause I just heard from her, she clearly knows you're a good man, that you're a father. And see what happens when girls like that do things like this, they can ruin a good man. And so before you get hurt by her, I need you to make a decision and be clear about that decision. That you have been blessed with the opportunity to be free from this situation. You okay? You understand?

I see what you're saying.

That young man, that little baby, I wish that he could have had you as a father, but you are not his father. But right now there needs to be some distance and separation. Clearly she is not making honest choices about her life. You said it right when you said, what else are you lying about? And I can promise you, if she lying about these two things that are big, oh, she gonna lie about the smallest thing. You're gonna need a moment to grieve because you've spent a year with this young man, this little baby, loving him, supporting him. But sometimes I believe that's the training ground you need for the amazing family you're gonna have later on, okay?

Yeah, yeah, you're right, you're right.

You gonna have some amazing family with a woman who loves you, respects you, who you can trust and that she can trust you. And you're gonna have children that are gonna be raised in a house full of structure and discipline. I understand now why she was not, she didn't wanna give your child structure because she don't got structure. Okay? You understand? It's real.

Yeah.

So pay attention. Listen, I'm not trying to have this little boy be out here with nobody in his corner, but that is not your responsibility. Okay?

Can I say something?

Of course you can.

I know it might sound bad or whatever, But I just feel like I still got, like, I can't take away the moments that we all shared together. I can't take none of that back. So it's like I'd be blocking myself off of, I put myself in another dark space just abruptly ending stuff the way it did.

Okay, and again, I'm not telling you to abruptly end. What I'm telling you to do is to not feel guilt that you have to stay. I've told you, I told you clearly, you can be a mentor to this young kid. You can be an uncle figure. You can be any of that stuff. I gave you that because I wasn't telling you just to say, "Nope, I'm done with you." You can be in the child's life, but I want you to understand that you do not have responsibility for this child, especially when the mother doesn't have responsibility for her own self.

Okay.

Okay?

Okay.

This is the type of woman who would drag you down. This is the type of woman who would drag you down. She will drag you down. You hear all them yeses? Everybody in here sees it and feels it. So do yourself a favor, grieve, understand that you have nothing to do with this. These are choices she made. And then make choices that are gonna be the best for you. Don't let this woman break you or discourage you from getting the family you deserve, okay?

Amen.

All right, I wish you the best of luck, all right?

Thank you.

You're welcome, brother. Thank you, Karamo. All right, friends, stay with us. We'll be right back with more.

Thank you.

Mm-hmm.