In this interview, Speaker B recounts how a chain of contacts—starting with her god‑sister, a hairdresser, and the hairdresser’s connection to Andrea’s brother—led to the discovery that Andrea might be her biological sister. She describes the shock of their striking physical resemblance, feeling like a twin, and the ensuing identity crisis of not fitting into her existing family. The conversation explores the tentative acceptance from Andrea’s family, the complex dynamics surrounding their shared father who suffered brain cancer, was incarcerated, and gave conflicting statements about paternity before dying. Speaker B reflects on the emotional weight of attending the father’s funeral and the lingering sense of not belonging, while expressing a deep desire for a genuine sibling bond.
So how did you end up connecting with Andrea?
Oh my goodness. I had told my god sister about my dad.
Yeah.
And our hairdresser, she was at an appointment and she was telling our hairdresser about my dad. And then she said his name. And at the time, my hairdresser was dating Andrea's brother. And she like, wait a minute, that name sound familiar. So she did a couple of phone calls and she called me and she was like, I think I might have found your sister. I'll call you back. And it went like for 30 minutes, like back and forth, back and forth. And then she called me like, I found your sister. I'm like, I got a sister? She like, girl, you got a sister. So I was excited. That beauty shop phone chain? That beauty shop phone chain?
Wow.
I was so excited. And I'm like, wow.
How was it the first time you met her?
I was so shocked. And we both, I'm quite, I don't know how she felt, and you definitely have to ask her, but she look more like me than I look like me. Like, you crazy. If she not my sister, that's my twin. Like, my daddy, I look more like her daddy than her. Like, you gotta, that has to be my sister.
Yeah.
My, all my siblings, They like, oh my God, I look like nobody in my family. So who am I? Like, can I belong to somebody? You know?
Yeah, I hear you. I hear you. How did she take it when she did, when she got the news that you could be her sister?
I mean, she was willing to meet me. So I came to her house, like they brought me to her house. So I don't think like she was like opposed to it, but I know that because I'm just gonna say that I don't think because her family doesn't totally accept me, like she can't totally accept me and like she won't open herself up to me and like, 'cause she really don't know.
'Cause you don't know.
So we have like this spurt of a relationship, but I love her with my soul and I just want her to love me like that. Yeah.
Does she ever talk to you about your father?
We don't talk about him like that.
Yeah. Don't talk about him.
No.
Why not?
Because I don't know. You gonna have to ask her. Maybe 'cause she not for sure. Maybe like they say, everybody just got a twin.
Did she ever talk to her father about you?
When she first went to go see him in prison, or at a point, he said I was his daughter. Mind you, my dad had brain cancer. So when she went to go ask him again, like, 'cause I was gonna go see him, she was gonna work it out where I could go see him, and he said I wasn't his daughter. But he was on his deathbed and cancer was eating his brain. So that's what everybody went with.
Did you have a chance to meet him when he was in prison?
I never got, he died before I could get on the list.
And I know you said that you went to the funeral. What was that moment like for you?
Weird. Like I wasn't really feeling like I belong.
Yeah.
And, and—
Because you just told me that Andrea's family was having doubt.
I mean, yeah, like her brother, Definitely, he like, "Oh my goodness, this my sister's sister." But it's a lot people don't think that we're related. And they don't think that she my sister. And that's my sister. I don't care.
