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Stay quiet and do the work #KaramoShow

17 Oct 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment of the Karamo Show, Karamo recounts a painful period from his youth when he and his siblings lived in a hotel with his mother, describing how watching his mother stay quiet and keep working shaped his own coping mantra: “stay quiet and do the work.” The conversation shifts to Speaker B, who labels herself as “toxic” and struggles with self‑criticism. Karamo challenges that label, reframes her as “sensitive,” and links her negative self‑talk to past trauma, urging her to change her narrative for the sake of herself and her children. The dialogue concludes with concrete relationship advice: after returning an engagement ring, Karamo suggests maintaining a friendship with clear boundaries rather than pursuing a romantic partnership, emphasizing supportive but non‑romantic involvement.

I'm stuck. You're not stuck. You're not stuck. I am. So let me tell you, and I've shared this on this show before and I'll tell you again. There's a point when I was younger that me and my siblings had to live in a hotel with my mother. This is not something I'm ashamed of.
Oh my God, I'm definitely not ashamed.
And I didn't say you were. What I'm trying to share with you—
Makes a strong person to do that.
What it did for me is watching my mother stay quiet and do the work showed me to stay quiet and do the work.
And that's what I was doing.
You're not doing it.
But not now, I'm not. And that's why I didn't take everyone and make them do it. See, even right now, you're not staying quiet. Yeah, because I'm toxic. I'm toxic. When I'm alone, I can maintain.
You're not toxic. You're sensitive. You gotta stop saying these negative things about yourself. Yeah, it comes from my trauma. I get that, but you gotta start working on that because the way you're doing that, they're gonna pick it up. They're gonna, your kids are gonna pick it up. You understand? There is an ability for you to get out of this, but you have to make better decisions. I'm glad that you didn't do the proposal. If you want to show her that you care about her, what you can do is say, "We can be friends and I'll help you out when I can." Allow her to be a support, but not in a relationship. You gave the ring back. Smart decision. Smart decision.