Two people argue about why one slapped a woman. Speaker A keeps demanding a reason. Speaker B won't revisit it. The point: stop looking for a single explanation for abuse. The victim was trapped in a cycle that left her unable to answer.
I heard you say earlier that you slapped her. She wants a reason why.
I can't go back that far, you know, to try to bring it back up today.
Okay.
I cannot.
'Cause you're looking for a reason. You wanna know why.
I asked the question at the time, at the time it happened, what the reason was, and it's because you look like your father. Those were the reasons. I just need you to say that. That's it. I can say it and not mean it. So what truth is that gonna be? For me to even say it. If you— Well, I can tell you this right here.
Just listen to this. I know why that happened. You're looking for, was it because I look like my dad? Was it because of this? Was it because you thought I was self-centered because I was saditty? What was the reason? And the reason she can't give you an answer is because she was in a cycle of abuse in her mind that she's like, I don't even have an answer for you. And so the thing for me that I would say to you is that you have to stop looking for that reason.