Stop Spending MY Money At The Strip Club! | KARAMO

My next guest, Aaliyah, is in love with her man, De'Jawn, but she had to put him on relationship probation after she discovered he was cheating with strippers. She now is suspicious that De'Jawn is up to his old tricks and needs my help to unlock his phone. Everyone, please help me welcome Aaliyah to the show. How are you doing?

Good, how are you? You look nice.

Don't play, 'cause your outfit is everything.

Yeah, you got me beat, you got me beat.

Okay, this is cute. Thank you, you're so welcome. Okay, so Aaliyah, besides you being fly, tell me about your relationship.

Okay, so me and Dejohn have been together for 4, almost 5 years now.

Okay.

We do social media together. I obviously love him so much. He's so fine.

Oh, y'all a beautiful couple.

Thank you so much.

Yeah.

And we recently moved to Houston. I don't know, I just noticed a change in him when we moved to Houston.

How did you find out that Daijon was cheating on you?

My friend is a bottle girl at like clubs and stuff in Houston. My friend sent me this stripper page on Instagram and was like, "I think like your man is at the strip club." And like I see him in the background. I asked him, "Where you at?" He's like, "The club." So I was like, "Send me a picture of the club." And he wouldn't do it.

Y'all men ain't learned yet? When the girl call you, she already know what's up.

So he wouldn't do it, yeah.

I don't know how, I don't get it.

I don't get it.

I just don't get it.

They're dumb. So I waited till he got home. I'm like asking him, so where were you? And I smell alcohol on his breath. Like I know he was there for sure and he's drunk and he's trying to love on me, hug me, kiss me like, oh, I miss you, I miss you. Like bro.

Mm, okay.

Don't play with me. So I was like, "Bro, so just tell me you were there, blah blah." And he was like, "I was there, but I only went because my friends wanted to go and I didn't wanna be the only one to say no." So at this moment now, when you learned about this, what did you learn about his strip club habits? So he has his own card and I have my own card and we have a joint account. At first he was using his card, but then he was starting to use our joint account. And I'm like, "Bro," We use that account to like save. I'm like, he's being that disrespectful that he's about to go into our account and throw my money on these bitches?

Yes.

On their ass.

'Cause that's your money that he's using.

Right, right, right, right. And like I even told him so many times, if you really wanna go, we could go together. But you going out and doing that on your own, like I don't like that. I hate that. Like, 'cause I don't wanna be with a boy that's addicted to the strip club or something like that. Like that's really weird to me.

So what happened when you confronted Dejohn?

He realized that I knew. And I told him, honestly, I'm not about to deal with this like any much longer. So you can either stop or like respect my wishes or we're done.

So you put him on relationship probation? What is that?

Yeah, I told him he can't go out. I want his location, which I still haven't got. And like I wanna be able to just go through his phone whenever I want to and stuff like that. We're still working on the location though.

Okay, so the probation is almost up and that's why you want me to unlock his phone?

Exactly. I don't want him to start sharing his location with me. So I have nothing to worry about. He claims he's always at the gym and stuff, which he is an athlete, so I believe it. But I'm like, there's times where I'm like, "Bro, no, you're not." Yeah.

Jay John says he stopped going to the strip clubs. Do you believe him?

I haven't gotten over it completely, so really I don't believe a lot of things that he's telling me.

So why did you forgive him?

Because I love him. And I just feel like he can change.

You know?

But I also told him like, I don't want my love to blind me from what I deserve and like—

Well, good for you. Come on through, yes.

So hopefully, I just want him to change so we just can like get back to what it was or even better.

So for me unlocking his phone, you want location?

Well, mostly, yeah, because then I'll know where he is and I know like exactly where he's at.

That's an easy ask. I mean, 'cause I mean—

Exactly.

That's a very easy ask, location.

And he'd be like, don't be with someone If you don't trust them. I'm like, okay, well I did trust you, but you ruined it.

You gave me reasons.

Exactly.

And listen, locations and just the phone and a DM, we can go through that stuff really quickly. That's a simple thing for us. And the fact that your main thing is really just locations, that's even simpler. So okay, this should be easy then. All right, listen, Aaliyah put her man Dejohn in relationship probation and his time is almost up. So let's meet Dejohn right now. Dejohn, nice to meet you.

What's up, what's up, what's up?

You look smooth as well.

Thank you, thank you.

So, De'Jawn, your lady here put you on relationship probation.

Right, and I'm a grown man, so I do wanna tell everybody like, that's childish. Like, I've been with you for 3 years, you're trying to—

De'Jawn, how did you get busted in the first place?

First of all, her friend, she doesn't like me, okay? So I was at the strip club, yeah, I admit it. And she basically told Aaliyah that she seen me on some video and I was basically in the video at the strip club. Strip club. So she called me and was like, where are you at? And I like, yeah, I did lie.

So I mean, not to state the obvious, but why you like going to the strip clubs?

I like seeing thick girls, honestly. I like seeing ass.

I didn't want to state the obvious. We know where you're going.

Yeah.

Okay, if you really want to be with someone with a fat ass, go be with them. Like, if you really want to be with one of those strippers, go be with one of the strippers. I mean, like, I could pull.

So how much did you How much do you really spend at the strip club, do you think?

Probably like $500 a night.

$500 a night?

Yeah.

Got it. Adding it up, it's more than that, but.

So what have you been doing since you've been in relationship probation to show I wanna make this work?

Honestly, I have been trying my best. I have like, I've been like, when she FaceTimes me, I show her. Like I tell her where I'm going. I stopped going to like the strip club. I'll be at the gym for real. Like I'll tell her.

She doesn't know that.

Yeah, she doesn't know, but like that's what, I guess that comes with trust and everything.

And that's why I want his location. Like I wanna just be able to see it and I don't wanna have to be able, I don't wanna have to call him and be like, show me this, show me that. Like I really wanna see 'cause—

So have you given her your location?

No.

Okay, but that's the one thing she asked for because the other things you stated, first of all, like picking up FaceTime, those are bare minimums. You should just be doing it anyway in a relationship.

Exactly.

And so the one request she had to say that she could rebuild the trust was you giving her location. So why haven't you given it?

I just don't wanna feel like I'm being followed or stalked. I don't really like that.

Dejohn, Aaliyah doesn't trust you. How does that make you feel?

I don't like it, honestly. I feel like our relationship's been going downhill and like she's never really trusted me.

Do you think you can be trusted?

Yeah.

Okay. What do you want Aaliyah to know?

The thing about it is like everybody like doesn't know. Like I do sound like the bad guy, but I've asked for wishes too, just like Aaliyah. Asked me to stop going to the strip club. I asked her to stop watching.

Are you about to start deflecting? Hold on.

What do you mean?

Are you about to start deflecting? Sorry, I catch red flags really quickly. This is why you don't be in a relationship with me or don't, listen. Are you about to start telling me that we're here talking about you being at strip club, you not respecting her boundaries, you breaking the trust, and you about to tell me that you said, well, I asked her to do this and she didn't do this?

Yeah.

That's called deflecting. The focus is on you.

I guess.

We're not gonna deflect.

Listen, I see what you're saying, but like, There's both sides, it's double standards, right?

Not when trust has been broken by you. There's not both sides of this story. The fact of the matter is that you broke trust. I'm gonna ask you one quick question. Has she broken your trust, point blank? Yeah. How has she broken your trust? Did she cheat on you?

She hasn't cheated on me, no.

So then how did she break your trust?

She broke my trust when it comes to watching porn. So that's what she does.

It's porn.

Listen, listen.

Okay, let me say something because, hold on.

Well, I didn't get to finish why you broke my trust. All right, go, go. So I don't want her watching porn and masturbating to other people every day. I don't want her doing that and I don't like it.

So let me go back to what I was talking about deflecting. So you're okay with you going to a strip club and having the audacity to say to me, I want women who are thick, I want this, when you know you're going there to be sexually aroused, but you have a problem with a woman Saying I'm gonna be in the comfort of my home looking at a video?

No, no, no, no, listen, I'm not saying that's why I'm going to the strip club or that's any part.

I didn't say that's why you're going, but I'm saying you're trying to say that she can't do one thing when you're doing the exact same thing.

I worked on it though.

Let me say something. You are physically going somewhere, taking the time out of your day to go throw money on these bitches when I'm at home doing what? Like what, watching porn? Porn is not video.

Do you watch porn? No. You a liar.

He's lying.

You a liar. I'm not falling for that. You a liar. You a liar. I know you watch porn.

Listen, I don't watch porn. I don't.

Well, guess what? I'm going to unlock your phone. I'll look for porn. De'Jawn, is there anything that you want to say to your lady?

No.

OK. Are you ready for this?

Yeah.

All right. So when it came to texts, apps, and GPS, we found nothing because DeJohn refused to let me unlock his phone. Why?

Why? Because first of all, listen, listen, that's personal. That's personal. I feel like my texts and apps, that's personal.

Well, if there's nothing in there, why would you not show?

So I'm gonna do this again for you 'cause I'm going to give you a shot a shot to be the man that this woman believes that you can be. Your phone is right here. Would you like to give me your phone in my hand and I will check your locations? I am a Houston native, born and raised. And trust me, I've been to every single one of them clubs you've been to. So would you like to give me your phone to allow me to check your phone for locations only since you're worried about me going through your photos?

Go ahead.

All right, can you unlock your phone? Great. Can we get the photos as well?

Wait, what? Photos as well? No.

So what is it in your photos that you're worried about that I'll find?

There's stuff of me and her.

We're not looking for that type of stuff.

And other stuff, I'm not even sure actually, so.

Other stuff.

No, nothing. I don't know, actually.

So was there a time in your life that you were doing something that could still be on your phone?

No, not necessarily. It's because I never know what I might, like, I don't know, talk about, screenshot. Like, I've been having my phone for years, so I just don't know. Not trying to say, not to make it I'm guilty, I just don't know.

Why is it so hard for you to just share your location?

Like, where are you? I don't know, I'm just, I don't know.

You realize you broke the trust. It's only gonna get worse.

Well, yeah, but I just—

And you're gonna lose a real one because I think you've gotten used to the fact of how easy how beautiful, how intelligent, and how giving this woman is, and how understanding this woman is. I promise you, you are underappreciating what you have in front of you right now. And all you're doing is pushing the greatest thing away from you.

The truth is, like, I have been at the strip club, and that's why I'm not showing my location. So I told you.

So she didn't say anything?

See, like, the thing about it is like, I'm not even surprised now. Because like he's disappointed me so many times. Like duh, that's why. We all know why he wasn't showing.

So what's your tipping point?

It's either gonna stop or I'm done. But it's like I already said that. So really the only thing that can save this relationship or even begin to like, you know, get me to trust you is share your location or we're done because like I can't.

So if he shares the location, you see he's going, What are you gonna do the first time he goes?

Break up with him.

Is that what it is?

Like, there's no question about it.

There's no question. She's setting a clear boundary that you can't go. Do you think you can actually respect that boundary?

Mm.

That mm told me all you needed to know.

Yes.

So he's letting you know that he ain't gonna be able to respect that boundary. Let me, here, let me go for this. Let me come. All right, this is your phone. I'm not gonna go through it. Because you admitted for the location. But do you wanna turn on the location for her right now so she can share your location?

What?

Let me just let you know something right now. He's a red flag. That right there, you know that's a red flag, right?

Like you're just embarrassing yourself. Why would you?

Say it again for him, sister.

You're embarrassing yourself.

You are?

You're making me worse. I did it though, I shared my location.

But you do understand that you're embarrassing yourself?

I just wanted to put in my password.

So this is what I'm gonna say to you. You've seen these immature behaviors that's showing you red flags is that you were establishing a future together with a joint account. Those type of things at your age now, you can't stop saying to yourself like, well, I can just let that slide. You can't let those things slide. So you gotta say to yourself right now, Yes, we had a dream, but sometimes dreams get deferred. Listen, I'm not trying to break y'all up. What I'm saying to you, you've set a boundary. He goes to the strip club once, you leave. But as you're setting that boundary, you need to be thinking about your future. I know this was your young love and I know you were like, we gonna move to Texas, we gonna take over this world. Let me tell you something, you are strong enough, you are smart enough as a young woman that you can figure out how to do this on your own. You can find someone who's gonna love you who's not gonna be immature. And I'm not telling you right now, I promise you I'm not telling you to break up. I wanna give you a shot. Shot to show her that you can be the man she wants you to be. But you got a lot of unhealthy behaviors that are not okay. First of all, stop deflecting. You know you're doing wrong. Don't come over here and try to deflect on her when you know she not doing wrong. Don't ever dip into y'all money again. If your money is out, that means you don't go to the strip club. You need to figure out what's going on with your own life. And if you're mature enough to have a relationship where you can be vulnerable and openly communicate with somebody, 'cause right now you showing me you don't got that. All right?

Yeah.

You got that?

I got you. And Aaliyah, like I just want to tell you, like I do love you and you know what it is.

So—

She don't know what it is.

Well, you don't know what it is, but I'm gonna get to that point.

'Cause none of us know what it is.

I'm gonna get to that point where we can be like this again and we can be happy.

Give him the shot. He did what you asked for finally. But listen, don't be here waiting forever.

No, for sure.

Don't wait forever because time is valuable, it's precious. It's the only thing that we can't get back. So know that you can get the love you deserve if he's not mature enough to handle it. You got that? You are fly enough on your own. You can make it happen. Hold on, where you going? I'll tell you where you're going. Right here to subscribe and right here to watch more.

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