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Strength in every squeeze #karamoshow #motherson

22 Nov 2024 · 0 min

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In a brief conversational exchange, Speaker A offers compassionate, coach‑like advice to Speaker B about navigating a tense situation involving the child's resemblance to the speaker's ex‑partner. Speaker A emphasizes that the child is a separate individual, not a proxy for the ex, and urges the parent to avoid intervening in the child's romantic relationships. Instead, the parent should set clear boundaries (“No, I won’t get involved”) and focus on listening to the child's experiences. To help the parent manage intense emotions, Speaker A introduces a physical grounding technique: squeezing the speaker’s hand as hard as possible to channel pain and reduce emotional overwhelm. The dialogue ends with the parent agreeing to listen and use the hand‑squeeze method, highlighting a preference for personal emotional coping over directing pain toward the child.

Jeffrey's not your ex. Yes, he reminds you of him, but he is not him.
I know.
But hold on, hear me out. He is a child that came into this world not understanding what was going on between you and your ex. I know my child. I know you do. You just got, it's, it's— But that's because he hasn't been there. What he's doing, I don't like. I know, but the way to teach him to be better is not to fight with him. The next time he says, "Hey mom, will you be involved in my relationships?" You say, No, because you getting involved is causing more stress on you. It's causing more stress on me. Everything. But what you can do on this stage is listen to what he's been through. Can you do that for me? Yeah. I'm gonna listen. If you feel like you wanna scream, I want you to squeeze my hand. Squeeze it as hard as you can. Squeeze it, squeeze it, squeeze it, squeeze it, squeeze it, squeeze it. There you go. No, I want pain. No, because I'd rather— I'm gonna listen. I'm gonna just be quiet. I'd rather you be good, 'cause I'd rather you give me that pain versus you giving it to him. Okay.