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The worst thing you can do is lie to yourself #KaramoShow

8 Sept 2025 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker addresses the paradox of wanting commitment while simultaneously sabotaging it. He argues that the most damaging action is lying to oneself, because self‑deception fuels self‑sabotage. By examining a listener’s claim of wanting commitment, the speaker reveals that the true feeling is a fear of commitment and an inability to discuss it with a partner. He offers a first lesson: be brutally honest with yourself about your real motivations, recognize the gap between stated desire and underlying fear, and learn to have an open conversation with your partner about commitment rather than avoiding the truth.

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If you still wanna engage with these people, why get married? Because I want to be committed, but I sabotage myself. So let me tell you, give you a first lesson on how not to sabotage yourself. By doing that? No, it's about being honest with yourself. Something I teach people all the time is the worst thing you can do is lie to yourself. Because the minute you start lying to yourself and you start believing them is when you start to do what you call self-sabotaging. So I asked you why don't, you said, I wanna be committed, but the actual answer is. I want to be committed. The actual answer is, I don't want to be committed and I don't know how to have a conversation with my partner about that. Let's try again. Do you wanna be committed? Yes. So you just not gonna learn.