A daughter who yells at her mother to be heard explores why she's fallen into that pattern and how to break it. The coach points out both are engaging in verbal abuse and suggests finding ways to express pain without disrespect, to restore what their relationship once was.
There's a better way for you to communicate. As a beautiful woman, there's a better way for you to communicate your pain than disrespecting your mom.
But I don't know how to communicate.
I hear that, I hear that. Talk to me.
I don't know how to communicate without yelling because that's all she does. Got it, got it. Saying things to me to slander me, tear me down as a woman. You're supposed to be my mother, my hero, my protector.
Do you still feel like you verbally abuse her now? No. Okay.
The thing with us now is we have a relationship.
There's some middle ground here that something is missing. If she's saying that there was stuff I missed, your little girl's crying right now. There's something that's going on that's hurting her. And I'm asking you as her mother, what do you think this is? I mean, the only thing I can think about is like she said, I do, when they were younger, I used to get mad and yell and scream. So we can acknowledge that. Yes. That for a young girl, maybe that felt like you don't hear me and that you're not emotionally supporting me. [Speaker] Right.