A relationship adviser tells a couple in their early twenties that they need about two years apart to work on themselves. One partner has anger issues, the other shuts down emotionally, and they don't trust each other. The adviser says staying together without that separation will only keep them stuck.
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There's two things at play here. There's someone who has anger issues and there's somebody who shuts down. And when you combine those two things with a lack of trust, this is always gonna be explosive and you're always gonna be a cycle of you two not being able to communicate healthy. And so the problem is, is that until you learn how to communicate your feelings, which you're not there yet, as you two are trying to grow, you're not able to fix these issues because you're codependent upon each other and you keep triggering each other back and forth. I do believe that y'all are high school sweethearts. I do believe there was sweet love here. I do believe that this teddy bear is cute as hell. But I also believe, I also believe that y'all should take about 2 years, not 4 months, to be apart, to grow, and to come back together.
[Speaker] I have a question. So like, so like, if we do split up for 2 years, like, what's to say either one of us is actually gonna do anything that makes you, makes ourselves better. So what's the point?
Well, see, that's the point. That's where now, alone, you have to say, do I wanna be better? Because neither of you have taken the time to learn yourselves. You're 20 and 22, and this is normal for people who fell in love at a young age to get to a place where you start growing into different people. You don't need to bear this relationship any longer, okay?
