A family member tells the host she feels unheard and unloved by her mother. The host pushes both of them to set boundaries, own their patterns, and commit to doing better. Clear communication and emotional safety matter more than rehashing old hurt.
I'm not heard and I don't feel loved by y'all at all.
The first thing I gotta tell you is that your sister is right when she says when her mom calls you and vents to you, she is owed the conversation with her sister of saying, "Let's talk as sisters." So Mom, can you commit to not calling this daughter?
Absolutely.
And venting to her about this stuff?
Absolutely. Whatever it takes.
Is that going to help you to be there in a space where you can then start to heal and not feel like you gotta be caught in the middle?
Yeah.
Can you take accountability? Because when you react, you go hard.
I do.
But you gotta be better than that.
I tried though, Karamo. I do try to be better, but it's just for over the years, I've always been attacked and it's just now I got this guard up.
But what has happened now is somebody has helped them see where they can make steps. So can you be better, even better? Can you try?