When your partner's past trauma makes them overprotective or controlling, stop using "I" statements about your own hurt. Ask them what they actually need right now instead of letting their history run the show.
She has never healed from the relationship they have. And in her mind, it is yesterday. So the things she experienced when she hears you talking, she still believes that could possibly happen to you. And that's because she doesn't know your growth. And that's real. The same way everything you feel is real. And I'm not telling you to excuse this. I'm not telling you, but I want you to have perspective. She's telling you this because she's trying to protect you. It's misguided, but what she's trying to do is say, this happened to me, watch out. At this point now, no more of talking about the past. If you really want a relationship, no more of saying I got rejected, I did this. All those I statements have to turn into you, baby. What do you need? What do you want? What do you need in this moment?
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