Update: Is My Husband Still Gambling? 👀💰 | KARAMO

So you know that I love checking in with past guests from the show, and I'm so excited to be checking in with Shawntia and Ian today. So Shawntia and Ian came to the show in November, and Shawntia was desperate to prove to her husband that he had a gambling problem. Let's take a look at the last time they were here. She has over $13,000 worth of debt because of her husband's gambling obsession.

I'm the parlay king. She say I got a gambling problem. But I ain't changing for nobody.

The parlay king himself.

Yeah, clap it up. I got OWD, obsessive winning disorder. Why did our water get cut off if you don't lose?

Shawntia's not the only person who thinks that you have a serious problem here. Your cousin Alonzo.

That's funny.

She's crying, bills aren't getting paid. This don't even involve you.

You are the problem.

It's you.

You are the problem.

Family members are here telling you that you have a problem.

It's my money.

I'm not gonna stop loving you, but you gonna have that by yourself.

So your wife just said that y'all are about to separate.

I mean, I'm just trying to get money, man. I'm tired of being broke.

You are not winning in life. Let that sink in. You about to lose your wife. You about to lose your family. You about to be by yourself.

I may have a little bit of a problem We're gambling.

You took a big step there. And for the first time since you've been out here, I see a man. I don't see a jokester. All right. What I wanna do for you is I'm gonna pay for credit repair for you so that this credit can get good. You hear me? Joining me now, everyone, is Shawntia. Shawntia. Hi. How are you, beautiful?

I'm good.

So how have you been since the last time I saw you?

I've been fairly good. I mean, it didn't, it wasn't always that way with me and him. I ended up moving out at the end of November. Things get worse before they get better, right?

Yeah. So, and that was a big step. You felt like you needed to move out. I know we talked about that, but you knew, why did you make that decision?

Things with me and him got worse. They really did. He didn't get any better. We were fighting a lot and then I just needed the peace of mind and better place for me and my kids.

Good job. I appreciate you. Yeah, give it up for her for doing that, for choosing yourself. I know that can be a hard decision when you're in a marriage that you love someone.

It was really hard.

Yeah. So, you know, we talked about your credit and that was one of the things that I said to you, like, you gotta get your credit together because he's been gambling, he's put you in debt. So how's your credit going?

Oh my gosh, man. I've gotten a few things removed from my credit. It's great. It's going up. When this apartment gets off, it's up. I'm buying a house this year.

Good job. Good job. I did that because I wanted you to feel like you actually support.

Thank you so much. I appreciate you so much.

Thank you.

You're welcome. You're welcome. Like for me, if I'm giving out something, it needs to be something that's going to actually help somebody to get to another level. So I'm glad that you're utilizing it and that it's working out for you. So I gotta go to your man, your ex-man, or your, I don't know where y'all at. So how's your relationship with Ian? Y'all together? I know you moved out. Are y'all separated? Are y'all divorcing? What's going on?

We live in separate houses. We still co-parent. We're kind of like dating, getting to know each other all over again.

Good job.

Something like that.

Okay.

Yeah.

How's the co-parenting going?

It's going all right. He's at my house quite a bit.

Oh, he is? Okay.

But some days I work at 5 in the morning, so it's convenient to not have him I don't have to drag the kids out or have them stay over there, keep them in their routine.

What I like about what you said is that y'all are getting to know each other again. And I think sometimes when couples get together, they feel like, oh, you know what? We already know everything we need to know. And there's actually always room for more talking and growing. That's why I say that at the end of every show.

Yeah.

And so I love y'all.

I actually, he's been showing me somebody that I've never met. It's good. It's a good thing.

Good job, I love that. So Ian is also here with us today. Everyone, please welcome Ian back to the show.

What's up, what's up?

Ian, how are you doing?

I'm doing, you know, managing.

Yeah, listen—

Day at a time, every day at a time, you know?

One day at a time. Let me tell you something, you have, there's guests that stay on my heart and my mind and you are one of them because people don't understand because, you know, you were out here joking They don't understand what a big of a step it was for you to admit that you had a problem. And I think sometimes people are just like, oh, he coulda did more. And they don't realize when somebody is struggling with addiction, for even them to make that, I was just so proud of you. So I gotta ask you, yeah, give it up for him. He made a big step. I gotta ask you first thing, when was the last time you gambled?

I ain't gamble. No more.

Good.

That ultimately since—

So when was the last time, November?

Since the show.

What about the Super Bowl?

Yeah. Nah. And that sucked because, like I said, it's my birthday week, so.

But at least you stayed strong. I'm proud of you for staying strong on that. Yeah, seriously. You told my producers that you were putting in work on yourself but not getting any abs. What did you mean by that?

Yeah, as you can see, I still got like a kind of a round figure, but this, uh, this mental up here is kind of— I can do— I could probably lift up like probably, probably a truck or two.

Good, good. So you're getting—

don't put me to the test on the, uh, on the actual weights.

So you're working on your mind, you're working on it, you're working on your mental state?

Yeah.

Is this the first— is this your first time in your life working on your mental state? In your emotional state?

Yeah, it's the first time I really slowed down and recognized that I had more than one problem.

Mm, yes. What else did you recognize you need to work on?

The man in the mirror.

Mm, okay, good, good. Ian, you know something I love about you, I keep telling you, is that What you don't realize is that you have a subtle strength that resonates with a lot of people. And I know a lot, a lot of people who use jokes like you do to sort of laugh off things that's going on in their life. But what you do is that you stop the jokes and you start to have to confront what's going on in your life. And I'm very proud of you for that, brother. I'm very, very proud of you. Most definitely. I'm very happy for you.

Most definitely.

I wanna know, do you feel like— Do you feel like you're winning at life now?

Not really, but it's just beginning.

Got it.

So we gotta do everything one thing at a time.

Ian, I got some news for you. You're actually winning at life now. You are. Last time you was here, I had to tell you you weren't winning at life. You actually are winning at life right now. The fact that you are able to say you are working on your mental health, the fact that you are able to say you have not gambled since the last time you were here, The fact that you are still able to acknowledge your wife's needs as she's moved out and be a good co-parent, you are stepping up and being the man that you needed to be. You are winning at life.

Yeah. Yeah.

You winning.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

It's just that you were chasing such a different win for so long that you don't even recognize this is the win. This the win.

This is very good. I really never even thought I would see the day I never, it's been different, it's been nice.

Good job.

Talk about that big glow up.

The glow up is real.

Good job, I love hearing that. I say it all the time, I can't fix everyone's problem with one conversation, but I can give the tools to start. And I can see right now that y'all have started, y'all on the right path. Shawntia, you are doing what you gotta do as a woman for yourself, for your kids, and I respect you for that. And Ian, I'm so proud of you. This is the hard part. People do love you just like me. And I want you to know that there's so much love out there. When you went on social media, people's love was pouring out to you, both of y'all. So people love you and we're watching you and we are rooting for you. We were all rooting for you.

And we are still rooting for you.

We are still rooting for you.

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Yeah. Listen, thank you so much for checking back. Thank you for coming on the show and being vulnerable and sharing your story.

Thank you so much. You're welcome. I can't thank you enough.

I love y'all, seriously, I love you so much. Hold up, hold up. Where are you going? I know you wanna watch more Karamo, so click here to subscribe and click here to watch more so we can keep talking and growing, friends. I love you.