Walked Into A Bar & Met My Dad?! | KARAMO

At this point, I just wanna know who my dad is.

Of course. So your potential father, Sean, had something to say before the show. I want you to take a look at this.

I have no doubt that Shaniqua is my daughter. When she was born, she looked exactly like me, but her mom told her that another man was her father. I held this secret in for 30 years. I was at a bar with my friend and I noticed Shaniqua was there at the same time. With her friend. So I went and told her, listen, I noticed y'all was flirting with us, and I got to let you know that I am your father. She was really surprised. She was shocked. And then we spoke for a couple of hours, and it kind of started to make sense to her. We developed a really great relationship since then. I have 8 kids total, including her. I say I have 1 son and 7 bitches. And she fits right in. Half my kids doesn't believe she's my daughter. She needs a father. She really do, like everybody else. And I know that's my daughter though. I honestly know that's my daughter. And I will finally prove everyone wrong when the results come back and she is my daughter.

Wow.

Wow.

Sean was doing so good saying you was his daughter until we heard that 7 bitches comment. I was just like, what happened there? Besides that, how do you feel about what he said? Because he said that he claimed you and that he believes you are his daughter.

Well, he does. But as I was always told, one man was my father.

So your mother told you a different man. Do you know who that man is?

Yes.

You do. Have you ever been in contact with that man?

Yes.

You have? Have you done a DNA test or?

No, sir.

Got it. So what did he say that day to you in the bar and how did that make you feel? 'Cause I would've been shocked. Like I'm trying to have a little cocktail and then you coming to me talking about you my daddy. I don't know, like.

I was angry.

Yeah, why were you angry?

Because at the time I was like 30 years old, something like that. And a lot of years passed without me having a father.

Got it. Did he tell you he had seen you before?

Yes.

Yeah, where was it? Tell me about that.

It was a time when I was a lot younger and I sold drugs. I caught a charge, you know, when I was in court. He later tells me he was there.

He was in the court?

Yes.

Wow. Do you think Sean is your father?

I don't.

You don't, wow. Did you have a father growing up?

No, I did not.

You did not, yeah. So who did you think were your fathers, just the other guy?

A guy named.

Okay, and your other alleged father was in prison growing up? Is that true?

He's been locked up 42 years and he's still in there.

He's still in there right now?

Yes.

Okay. Do you have a relationship with his other kids? 'Cause he said he has one son and seven daughters.

So— Within the time of knowing him, I have been introduced to several of his kids and I am close with some of them.

And so you have a good relationship?

Yes.

Do you feel a connection with them?

Yes.

You do. Do you want him to be a father at this point?

It's not a want 'cause like I said, another man has been part of my life.

Yeah.

But he's a good guy.

Yeah, so he's a good guy, so you would want somewhat of a relationship with him?

Yes.

Well everyone, let's welcome Shanika's potential father, Sean, to the show to hear his side of the story. How you doing, sir?

Hey man, how you doing?

Thank you for being here.

Yeah, no problem, no problem.

Appreciate that, sir.

You got to be kidding me. So who you think the father is? You think [MASKED] is the father?

Yes.

You got to be kidding me.

I'm not sure.

You got to be kidding me. So we could have been done for business, right?

Yes.

Years ago.

And that's on who?

Who did it?

That's on you, right?

How's that on me?

How's that on me? Because it took you so many years to come to me and say you was my father.

It took me so many years to come and tell you when your mother, I mean, your mother was messing around, I was 15 years old. You were born when I was 16. I was a kid. You was gone for years, right there you were gone. She went back to the town that she was in.

So how would I know that it was his son?

You was gone, but how would I know? She said it was his.

Right.

So what made you look for me 30 years later?

After I seen a picture of you, of one of my kids, and I was like, dog, that's got to be mine.

So why you didn't try to get a test to prove it?

Your mama wasn't giving me no test.

You're grown, you can do what you want to do.

I need a kid.

I'm grown, I'm grown. All you need is me.

But how was I gonna do that?

All you need is me.

Call me.

How was I gonna get to you?

Reach out to me before you reach me then and say, I would like to take a test.

Yeah, but that's when I seen you. I seen you. I feel like I asked for it because you're grown, I'm grown.

You found me in my 30s I'm old enough to give you DNA, right?

Really?

Shawna, I got a little perspective here because I didn't fully understand that the entire time, first of all, that you were young. And then on top of that, that your mother was constantly saying, no, you're not the father, you're not the father.

No, no, no.

Because if someone's telling me you're not the father, you don't have the liberty just to say, let me take a DNA test now. Let me just be in the child's life because she's denying it. She's gonna stop you. And if you would've tried to take actions, there's a strong possibility you could have got locked up. And so I do understand more now why you were not there. But she said you saw her in court. How old were you when you went to court?

I was young.

You were young?

Yes, very, in my, like beginning of my 20s.

In your 20s. So why didn't you tell her then if you were in court then?

Exactly.

Because I mean, she's in court. I mean, I left before she was there.

I would've loved to look back and knew somebody was there. I imagine having some man behind bars that's supposed to be your father and then having a mother with a drug problem who wasn't there to have your back and you were in there. And you say you are who you are.

Do you have a relationship with her mother now?

I mean, we talk, we always have.

Did you know the other man who may be her father?

Yeah.

Do you feel like you've been a father figure to her since you saw her in the bar that day?

No.

You don't?

I'll be honest with you. No, I hadn't been. But all my kids, and I apologize what I said.

Why you call him a bitch?

I just been saying, that's that joke I be joking with him.

I was like, what's going on?

I apologize about that.

Okay, great, great, great.

But no, I haven't been there for her.

How do you feel if she's your biological daughter?

She's my biological daughter.

Yeah.

I'm doing this for my kids. I'm doing this for my kids to prove it to my kids. See, 'cause they don't think so. 'Cause she's, she's—

His kids didn't even accept me at the beginning.

They didn't even want me to be his child. He told them and they was like, no.

Oh wow.

Like one daughter said, Dad, where was she at? And basically some of this, what she's saying is what she said. Dad, where was she at? If that's her sister, where was she at? Why you just not tell me this and all that? I was in a messed up situation.

I just wanna know, is that the reason why you didn't tell me? 'Cause you thought more about the women than you thought about me?

It's a whole bunch of reasons.

Is that why?

No, that's not the reason.

'Cause that's how I feel.

The reason I tell you.

I feel like you covered me up.

And what about y'all agree? Your mama should've told you.

And told you you weren't in a relationship with this other nigga. Your mama should've told you. That's who should've told you, was your mom.

She told me and she said you were not the father.

Thank you, thank you. So how you blaming me? How you blaming me for that?

Your mother, girl, your mother.

I blame you for how long you waited to tell me your part of the story.

That's always two sides to the story and I never heard yours. It ain't no bullshit. I always heard her.

It is not no bullshit. I didn't grow up with her, however. You bad then, you gotta be a bad.

She told me what you should have been saying a long time ago.

I don't care if you would've thought she would've got mad if I told you what. If you say I am the father, I'm taking this belt off and I'm whooping your ass. I'm telling you that 'cause you talking back right now. You talking back.

You said you got 7 babies, baby, I'm one.

So Sean's daughter Briana is here so we can hear her side of it.

Where she at? Oh, she coming back here.

Yes. But Dad, I feel like you wrong in this situation. Yes, I feel like you wrong.

Thank you.

Because at the end of the day, like, you don't know if she your daughter or not. And to be honest, you got one son and six daughters. You got seven kids. So we don't know for sure if she's our sister. And if she is, I would accept her being my sister because I like her at the end of the day.

Me too.

But you can't just go out saying somebody your child. Like, Dad, I love you, but at the end of the day, you wasn't really in our life growing up. So I want you to hold— hold your accountability and be responsible as a dad. Like, it's wrong. That is how I feel because I feel like he's wrong.

Sean, what's going on in your head right now? What are you thinking?

He don't like what he's hearing.

But you're the dad at the end of the day. You got to, you got to—

The point of a parent is to make sure—

Sean, what's making you emotional right now?

Because, you know, I'll be honest with you. She right. I wasn't there.

Yeah. I was a dad.

I was in there live.

I remember stuff he did. I'm not gonna discredit him as a dad at the end of the day. But our relationship— Our relationship wasn't the best growing up, but I feel like over the years, me and my dad, we've connected more than we have used to be before, like with me growing up. And it's like we don't know if this our sister or not. No kid should have to grow up not knowing who their dad is. And I feel like you should know the truth, and I do love you still at the end of the day, whether we find out we're sisters or not. And I don't wanna hold you, and I'm not mad at you.

We know y'all love each other, but damn, neither one of y'all love me.

We love you, I love you at the end of the day, but I'm just saying. I'm just letting you know the real.

I became close with them.

I'm just letting you know the real.

I got closer with them than him.

I will say this, I do believe that there could be accountability for the way that you all were raised. I do believe that.

Yes.

100%. And I feel like the emotion is coming from that. But I will say to a small degree, I understand what you went through and I'm not discounting how you feel, God honestly, because you as a child, your mother deserved to give you the answers. He deserved to get the DNA test. You deserved all that. But I also do see your side. I can only imagine being in that place and being like, damn, I can't do this. Like you telling me this is not my child. What am I supposed to do here? But I do think you're right and I do think it's time to get the DNA truth. I think—

Yeah, me too.

I think that— Me too. I think that 44 years of pain that you experienced, I'm sorry. I think 44 years of pain you experienced in not knowing, I think also the pain you experience of having this popped up into your life and not knowing how to handle this. I think this has affected all of you and I think that this truth is important. Sean, this is not my truth to answer. This is your truth. So I'll let you get this.

And you asked the question I never got the answer. You asked me what would happen if she was not my daughter. I would make myself the honorary godfather.

Just take that place.

Well, hold yourself to it.

I already know.

What does it say? What does that say?

Can I read?

Yeah.

You can.

It says Shanika is not your biological daughter. I'm sorry, but I told you so. At the end of the day, Shaniqua, I still love you, but I knew it. I knew it.

Thank you for this. I knew it. Thank you so much.

I love you.

I always love you. Y'all feel my sister.

At the end of the day, you know, that's right.

We love each other for real.

Yes.

And it's okay, Dad.

I still love you from the friendship that we had.

We knew you was a rolling stone.

You might not have been a father in my life, but you did become a friend and my son knows you That's Papa.

I'm good, as long as you got what you wanted.

It ain't what I wanted. It's what you wanted. It's not what I wanted.

I feel like it's not what she wanted, but she grew up knowing somebody else.

You got what you wanted.

Well, what she needed and what she deserved as a child was answers and truth. And yes, that comes to a moment of you feeling rejected as well because there's a grieving that everyone has to experience. But at the end of the day, we have to focus on the fact that you were a little girl who should've gotten these answers, who should've gotten the guidance, who should've gotten the love that you deserved as a child.

I agree with that.

And because you didn't get that, it led you down a path where you didn't get the support you deserved.

Exactly.

And so I wanna make sure in this moment, though I'm very sorry, Sean, for the grieving you had to go through, the 15-year-old little boy that I can look at, there's also a child here and a woman here that deserved more. And I know this man is in jail and if there is support that we can give you to get him tested in jail.

That's fine.

We will give you that support because I do believe that even if he's not able to be there for you, you need your answers. You deserve your answers. Yes, I do. Thank you. Now I'll ask you this. Is there a way that he could still play a part in your life?

He doesn't have to be a godfather. He's silly. I'm gonna tell you something about this. No matter what he's known, what I've known, when I'm in town, I go see him. I spend time with him. I give him options to be in me and my son's life. I invite him to dinner. I invite him to go out of town. Let's do things together. Let's make our first memories. I've always said it, I've always done it. Ain't nothing gonna change about it. We both like the same football team, the same food.

I appreciate that and I apologize to you for going through all this.

I really do apologize. I love you.

I really thought you were.

I love you for real. I really, truly, honestly thought you were.

But yeah, I'll make sure that when we're backstage we talk to you 'cause we wanna support you in any way, okay?

Thank you.

Yeah, you're welcome. Everyone at home, thank you for being with us. And make sure to come back next time, friends, so we can keep talking and growing. I love you all.