Who Are All The Men In Your DMs?! | KARAMO

So tell me about this stakeout.

Yeah, so probably like a week before, you know, all this stuff started happening, I just had an idea, like, let me go on Snapchat. You know Snapchat have a location or whatever.

Yeah.

So I picked my location, like share her location from her phone to my phone.

Yeah.

So like 2 weeks later, we had a whole bunch of back and forth. So I told her, you know, I'm about to go, I'm about to leave town. You can go do what you wanna do. So she went to Newberry, or I went to Newberry, and she went with her friends. So I, you know, posted on social media like I was really going Newberry. Whole time I didn't. I knew where she was. So I followed her location to where she was.

Are you sneaky?

Yeah, so she was making it seem, I'm texting her the whole time, like as I'm going to her, she's like, "Oh yeah, I'm at my grandma's house. We supposed to be doing this." Make it seem like she's doing something else.

But you watch her on Snapchat?

I'm right down the street watching it. Yeah. Literally right after I took that, I did a U-turn right after.

And went right after you did that? Yeah. Okay, okay.

So after that, I seen the car pull up. It was like a white car pull up. So knowing me, infuriated. I've been out there from 3 to 11, so it'd been like 10 hours. Right before the car pull up, I'm thinking like, you know, I'm about to go home. I'm tripping. That car pull up, 5,000 hot. So when the car pull up and he get out, I drive straight over. Skrrt, pull up. I let the window down like, what you got going on? He run in the house. And her friend come outside like, "Oh no, he's here for me. You know, I will call the police. You need to go on through. You need to go." So in my head I'm thinking like, if he's here for you, why is you out here talking and they inside?

You don't got enough sisters 'cause I would've told you. You not supposed to pull up in the car. You supposed to wait for them to go inside so that way you now, you know what I mean? 'Cause now you gave it away that you already there. So now they got time to plan a lie.

Yeah. Yeah.

You gave it away. You supposed to like, I'm not encouraging this, by the way. This is not behavior I'm encouraging, but okay. So what other stakeouts have you set up?

It was another one I had. It was probably months later. She still ain't know that the location was still on there. So same thing. She was like, oh, I'm going, you know, to my friend's house, da da da da. So I'm like, oh, okay, you lying again. So I go to the club, you know, it's a whole bunch of cars outside in the club. So, you know, I'm blending in very well. Aunt Tess was like, "What you doing?" She sent me a picture, like an old picture on her phone with the relatives, like she chilling at a family reunion or something. You know?

While she's at the club?

I wanted to say I was right there so bad, but I didn't. I'm like, "Okay, you know, have a good time." So I sit there just watching the whole time. Guys come up to the car, you know, they drunk, out the window, dancing on top of the car, having a good old time. So it was probably like an hour after me watching them, So when they drove off, I followed them on the highway behind them. And just to be funny, you know, like I was behind them at first, but I got beside them and, you know, drove real fast. You feel me? I could literally hear them in traffic in the car screaming, "Oh my God, that's him, that's him, that's him, that's him." After that, she took that location off so fast. I had no more.

[Speaker:KARAMO] What was her explanation for saying I was at a family or relative's house, yet she was at the club? [Speaker] Cap.

She's the type of female that, And she's wrong and you can tell her like, you know, I know you wrong, you know, trying to move. She will cry her eyes out and still be lying to you.

Oh wow.

Don't she?

Don't it? It's no, it's no extent.

Somebody laughing in here 'cause they do that toxic stuff too. Which one of y'all do it?

I know.

Okay, she talking about you. Talking about you.

I feel it.

So what's your biggest problem in your relationship outside of the lying?

That's really all I care for, man. 'Cause end of the day, I know like people gonna have, nobody's gonna be perfect. You know, and I have two kids with her, so really me, I'm just on, you know, just being real, you know, keeping it real.

So let me, 'cause no, this goes back. So you have two kids? Mm-hmm.

'Cause, okay.

And how long have you been together?

Since 2019.

2019. Okay. And you want a full-time commitment with her? No. Got it. Okay. So your goal is to co-parent? Yeah, basically. Okay. But you need to know if she's gonna be honest with you. Yeah. Because that's gonna dictate how you two are moving forward.

Yeah.

Got it. Well, Shantel turned over her phone to the Lock the Phone investigator because you wanna know if Shantel is still communicating with the emoji guy. Who the emoji guy?

It's like, you know Snapchat, how you can have like a little emoji.

Oh yeah, I know.

And you can make it look like you. So one of the dudes, I'm like, damn, they look like old buddy across the street, you know? So it got to the point that like every time I come outside, get in the car, I see them looking at me like, you know, like they don't want me around or they know more than I do.

Okay. You also wanna know if Chantel is on any dating sites and if Chantel is communicating with any other men. Okay. Why do you wanna know this?

I wanna know it off of the strength of me. I'm the type of person I go off, you know, being honest and real. Like, especially knowing I got 2 kids with you. Like, you can go do what you gonna do, but be real about it. Don't leave me in the blind and cry, like, you know, crying your eyes out like you right and the whole time you know you wrong. Like—

You're not, yeah.

I'm not with it, man.

I get it. Okay then. I just wanna make sure because I gotta hear Chantel's side of the story. But I've witnessed these stories before. This is about co-parenting and not control. You sure?

It's not about control.

I just wanna make sure. I just wanna make sure.

It's strictly about my kids and making sure she got the right mindset to raise my kids.

I'm with you. I'm with you. I just wanna make sure. Okay. Well, let's hear what Chantel has to say about all this. Everyone please welcome Chantel to the show.

Now I know you don't got the world trying to make it look like I'm a hoe in front of everybody, for real.

Man, you know how you operate, man. I don't know why you coming at it like you doing.

Okay.

So you think he's trying to make you look like a hoe in front of the world?

Yeah.

Mm.

And it's not that.

Nothing. So things he was saying were a lie? 'Cause he claims you cheated with 50 guys. That's what he told my producers before I got here.

No, I have not slept with no over 50 guys since I've been with him. That's a lie.

Okay. So what do you have to say about the steakhouse? Did you know?

Every time he's following me, I know he's following me. He's not what he thinks he is.

How you know that?

I know.

I know.

You didn't know I was out there at your friend's house?

Yeah, I did.

So why would you still have a dude pull up you knew I was there?

Because he wasn't there for me. That was for my friend.

Oh my God.

And so what about when you were at the club and you said you were going?

Okay, I lied about that, yeah.

You did lie about that one.

We wasn't together at the time I went to the club. Yeah, I didn't tell you the truth.

Truth. You weren't together at the time?

No.

So if you weren't together at the time, why don't you just tell him like, "Hey, I'm at the club." 'Cause he don't need to know my business.

It don't matter. He don't need to know what I'm doing.

So then why not say, "Mind your business"? Why send the photo?

Because I just wanted to. He played with me, so I played with him.

When have I played with you in that stint?

All the time. Name one. We about to find out soon.

Oh, okay. And who's the emoji guy he said you're talking to?

We got a whole bunch of people that live in our neighborhood that got dreads. Emoji that a dude crossed his face.

They had glasses too.

Okay, they got glasses too, and?

Well, you communicate with him, so who is he?

I didn't communicate with him. He thought I did 'cause he was the person that got added back. And I added him and he think I'm communicating with him.

Okay, so since you've added him, you haven't communicated with the emoji guy? No. Okay then. He says he doesn't trust you at all.

Trust issues started from the beginning of our relationship.

What happened?

I have cheated before and you have cheated before.

How many times?

It don't matter. We wasn't together.

Do you think you're in a relationship right now?

Yeah, we are together.

You're in a relationship right now? Okay. Did you hear what he told me when I asked if y'all were?

Yeah, I heard him, but I'm just saying we are.

You are?

Yeah.

Jamar, are you?

No.

We are.

Absolutely not.

Look at his neck.

What it say?

My name. We together.

Okay. I mean, that don't really mean nothing. I used to— 5 years ago.

No, that did not happen 5 years ago.

Let me tell you something.

2025, that's 2025. I used to have somebody's name tattooed right here. Let me tell y'all something. It ain't there no more. It ain't there no more.

Well, we are together.

I don't care.

So let me ask you. He said he doesn't trust you. Do you trust him?

No.

You don't trust him? You don't trust him, okay. Do you trust her with your kids?

That's a good question, bro.

Did you know that he had doubts about you being a mother?

No.

Uh-huh.

I think I'm a great mother, but.

What type of names do you call her? Birdbrain.

Big Barbara.

Well, I think it's time to unlock the phone. Chantel, we unlocked your phone.

Okay.

Jamar wants to know if Chantel is still communicating with the emoji guy. Chantel says she is not. My Unlock the Phone investigators searched her texts and found that she is telling the truth.

How long? Like what's the timeframe of her telling the truth?

Period, period.

That's after I done blocked and deleted people, man.

Okay, I haven't been talking to nobody.

Jamar, you wanna know if Chantel is on any dating sites? Chantel says she is not. My Lock the Phone investigators searched her apps and found she is telling the truth.

You must have had to go delete all your social media.

No, I did not.

There ain't no way, bro.

No.

Jamar, you wanna know if Shawntel's communicating with any other man. Shawntel says she is not. My unlock the phone investigator searched her phone and found she's telling the truth.

That's crazy, man.

Why are you so shocked?

I still won't believe it.

I told y'all.

I still won't.

I told you. Why?

For what I done witnessed already.

What? I mean, you don't know anything.

But it's still no evidence.

The only thing you gave me facts for, 'cause I track facts on this show, is that she lied to you about where she was. You also said that she lied about saying that she admitted to something and then next day saying it, because she's admitted to both those things. But you haven't given me any concrete facts that you've seen her cheat with a guy other than emojis and stuff.

'Cause you don't have any concrete evidence. I hope you don't do this.

I just don't wanna respectfully like, you know.

Let's unlock your phone.

Well, Jamar. Jamar, we unlocked your phone. All right, well, Chantel, you wanna know if Jamar is actively using any dating apps. Mm-hmm. Jamar says he is not. My unlock the phone investigator searched his apps and found he is telling the truth.

Oh, oh.

Chantel, you wanna know if Jamar has been talking to any women during your birthday month. Jamar says he has not. My unlock the phone investigator searched his phone and found that he is not telling the truth. My investigator found messages on Jamar's phone between him and 5 women during Chantel's birthday month of August.

Yeah. Hey, it is what it is, man.

He don't care. He just don't know what I'm doing.

All right, Shawntel, you wanna know if Jamar is communicating with any women over the past 90 days. Jamar says he is not. My locked-up phone investigator searched his texts and found that he—

Is not telling the truth.

Is not telling the truth. My investigator also found 7 messages between Jamar and other women. We have, can I see this? Oh, Rob. Oh, Rob. What's in the bag, Rob? Okay, hold on. This, who, homie hopper? Homie hopper. It don't matter about what I got, the money you got, or the sex, even though it was that good. Okay.

That's on my, that's me.

That's your phone.

Who else phone is it?

Oh, listen. She said, "I'm in the car on my way to do, you know it." That's her right there.

Oh.

Y'all good, boy.

We good here. Yeah, we good, we good. We fine, we fine. Oh yeah, so she's, okay. Mm-hmm. So yeah. So you talking to Homie Hopper.

Can I see it?

Of course you can. Why you got that face?

I don't think she need to see that one.

This is yours to see.

Oh my God.

Dang. Bitch.

I can't wait till we get home and make sure I do what I need to do.

Normally I don't condone violence, but after we saw Homie Hopper, I'm gonna let that one slide. So, okay, so how do you feel, Shawntel?

I feel good. I can't wait to get home.

To do what?

Everything that he said I was doing. That's cool.

So instead of doing that, maybe you decide not to call him your boyfriend no more.

Yeah, true.

Maybe you listen to the man when he says, We're not in a relationship.

Mm-hmm.

And maybe you find yourself on your journey growing, being better and healing for you and your two kids. Mm-hmm. And then you find a man who's gonna love you and be with you the way you wanna be. What is it about this relationship that got you stuck?

'Cause I love him. I want our kids to grow up in the same household. I've been with him since I was 18 years old. I'm just comfortable with him. And I feel like in the future that we really could be something together one day. So that's why I've stayed.

So a couple of things that I'm gonna address one by one. First of all, I want a stable home for my kids. I love that idea, but your home is not stable. So if you really are wanting your children to be happy, of course I want a healthy household. I want parents to stay together. That is my dream. I came from a broken home. I wish that more could stay together. But I also know that staying together just for staying together's sake will damage those kids more in the long term.

I agree.

You also said something and it's a big factor. I'm comfortable here. I'm comfortable. When I hear somebody say that, that means their self-esteem has been affected. It means that I've gotten to a place where you've broken me down, I'm used to this cycle, and this cycle seems normal to me. So therefore, I'm comfortable in the toxicity. If you stay in shit too long, you gonna forget it smells. 'Cause I'm gonna tell you right now, I don't need to track your location to see the direction of this relationship. It ain't going nowhere. So please, I hope that you two make better decisions for those kids. He's being upfront with you. I wish right now I could be like, man, you came out here and said, I'm not in a relationship, I don't want her. I do believe the leading on has to stop because your children will see that and believe that's what a healthy relationship is. And I don't want that. But you gotta be the one. To work on your self-esteem, Chantel. Yes. To know what you deserve and move on. Well, listen, I wish you all the best of luck. Make sure to come back next time, friends, so we can keep talking and growing. I love you all. Mm-hmm.