Wife's Shocking Confession Damages 14 Years Of Marriage | KARAMO

Around 4 or 5 years ago, I had a party for my wife. It was her birthday. Her mother had backed me in the corner, drugged me, and sexually assaulted me at the party. I woke up and she was on top of me with another one of her family members that I really couldn't see 'cause I was drugged. So my genitals was out and they was kissing me and hugging me. My wife's mother accused me of trying to come on to her, but she was the one who assaulted me at the party.

4 years ago. What bar do you give her? 'Cause anything she do, she do it for herself.

Got it.

You ain't got no money to do nothing. Thank you for my 4 grandkids. That's about it. Other than that, he's a freaking bum. He ain't got no money. You can't keep a job over 90 days, okay? He need to leave the drugs alone. How about that? You talking about your marriage. Oh, your marriage is already over. You think you in love. That's not in love. Being abused is not love. Verbal, mental, or physical. That's not love. And that's what he does to her. So if he gonna tell the story, tell it right, 'cause I don't want you broke. Ass.

I hear you.

Okay. I'm not gonna be bothered with that.

Is he at least a good father?

I just said anybody could be a dad. It takes a man to be a father. I'm the man and the father.

You right, you told me, you right, you told me.

I'm sorry, y'all.

You right. I think it's time to meet your daughter's husband, Elmer.

Oh, he need to sit his ass over there.

We're gonna meet Elmer and he's gonna sit on that side of the couch. So everyone, let's say hello to Elmer.

First and foremost, I have nothing to lie about. I was sexually assaulted.

You're such a freaking liar.

I was drugged.

Can I say something?

No, you cannot.

I stopped using drugs.

Stop talking.

I stopped using drugs a long time ago. I smoke weed right now a little bit.

Ooh, you're a freaking liar. Listen, excuse me. Really?

Excuse me. I smoke weed right now.

Really? What about your Percocets you pop every day?

Can I say something? Let me step over here.

What about that?

I pop Percocets because I broke my back.

Oh, really? Oh, you broke your back? If your back's broke, how in the hell are you walking around?

Man, this is Karamo.

Huh?

Tara, Tara, Tara, I want to hear. Let me hear his side. Come take a seat down for me.

I came here to make it dead serious.

Okay.

I'm on the verge of losing my wife. That bum shit. I'm far from a bum.

Take a seat for me. Let me hear your side. What about what? So you're saying in this party that you feel like—

What party that you threw for my daughter?

Listen, at the end of the day, I don't wanna lose my wife or my kids. After my little experience, I told her to ask her mother a million times. Why would I keep saying this? Why would I keep saying it if nothing never happened to me? I'm not gonna lie about that. The only person who had keys to my apartment was her mother.

Oh no.

You're saying that at first, 'cause I'm trying to keep this the same with the story.

Keep the story together.

At first there was a party, but then you're saying she had keys to get in by herself?

Listen, Karamo.

So was there a party or not? I'm just trying to get this.

Listen, my wife had a party. I could've said, "I'm gonna throw you a party for your birthday because I know you ain't been feeling a little up to it or whatever." Right, right, right, right. But you didn't listen. That you can ask about my ex when she come out here.

Right, right, right, right.

See what I'm saying?

I can't do this for her. Because you've lied so much, you can't even keep your story together.

Have y'all ever gotten along in your family?

Hell no.

It been days she came to me and said, "Son-in-law," and give me a hug that you doing a good job by the kids.

And that's when you had a job. Well, when you doing a good job.

I gotta have a job to get your respect.

No, you gotta keep a job to get my respect and keep a job to take care of my grandkids.

It's been 14 years that you and your wife been together. Why would you think that she'd wanna break you up? I mean, because of what?

'Cause it's her brothers.

I know her brothers, I know her sisters. The other son, I can call him right now. His number in my phone. He don't fuck with his mother.

Oh yeah?

He don't fuck with his mother and he will come out and say, I don't fuck with my mother.

Oh yeah?

For your son to tell me that the one who you wanna sit on me when we going through something to tell me that, man, I ain't got nothing involved to do with that.

Do you honestly think that she's the only issue in your relationship?

Listen, I've passed up everything I ever been through with her. I keep it so real that she know I keep it real.

Have you ever cheated on your wife? No. Never?

Listen, ever since I got married, I never cheated. Have I talked to a female on Instagram? Only on Instagram, yes. Yes, that's it. That's it, that's all. And then when I got caught, I said that I would never do it again or I would never meet no person.

So you don't believe that talking to a woman on Instagram is cheating?

I mean, yeah, so I changed it. You feel what I'm saying?

So the question was, did you cheat? And you said no, so you have cheated.

Listen, 'cause—

Contradicting yourself.

It's not funny though.

I'm just listening. I'm just trying to, I'm just taking notes. I'm taking notes to get both sides. So in your opinion, why are you so close to divorce?

Because at the end of the day, it seem like that it doesn't matter what I do. Somebody in my wife ear. I can see the change in her.

Can you explain to me from your opinion what's going on here?

So my mom and Elmer never got along.

Okay.

The reason being my mom thinks I deserve better, which I do. I've been through a lot with him, cheating.

Oh, so he has cheated more than he said?

I can't just tell you that he had sex with somebody 'cause I don't know. But between the Instagram for the last 14 years, it never stopped.

Okay.

I wanna say he tried to stop 2 months ago, but that's not enough. We've been together for 14 years.

2 months ago, got it. What else has he been through?

Him being in jail. Mm-hmm. I went homeless just for my daughter to be with him.

Mm. And I heard there's drug use.

He take Percocets.

And so what do you think happened between him and your mom that night at the party? Was there a party? Because I found inconsistencies.

There was a party.

There was a party.

For my 25th birthday.

Okay.

And no, I do not believe my mother did nothing to him.

Got it.

Yeah, my mom have a key, but why would she come and molest you?

Got it. So now there's a pattern here. So, and you don't believe that he did anything with your mom?

Hell no. Excuse my language, but what?

No, no, no, no. So do you think your mother is the biggest problem in your relationship?

My mother ain't no problem. She want better for her child. Like that's what any mother gonna want better for their child. Like my mother seen me go, she seen me go through.

So what do you think the other issues are with Elmer?

He's controlling.

Has Elmer ever been a good partner?

Yeah, like we had good times, we had bad times, but the bad is outweighing the good right now.

So why do you marry him?

Because I love him. Like I do love him and we have 4 kids together. It wasn't always bad, so.

Do you wanna make it work with him? Enough said. Well listen, let's bring Elmer back out to the stage right now so we can talk to him. All right, so I'm gonna disregard the party and the allegations. And the reason I'm doing that, and I wanna do that here, is because tracking this, we don't have clear evidence to make accusations like somebody sexually abused you. And I just wanna make sure that is, that's not saying that I don't believe you, but I would need more facts to go deep in that. But what I do have facts on is that you two in this marriage, it's not working. Do you still want this marriage to work?

I love my wife. At the end of the day, I changed the whole, and she can really tell you honestly, I changed over a lot to be with my family and to be with my kids. I didn't have a father really growing up. So me and her sat down before anything and made a pact. I said I would never leave my kids 'cause I was raised in a broken home. You feel what I'm saying?

I get it.

So I made a pact with her, you know what I'm saying? Like we really did that. Nobody, all I'm saying, 14 years. You could have left me and moved on.

Elmer, I have a confession to make. 3 weeks ago when we got into the big fight, You went through the diary, you seen that I had another man in our bed. Sorry to tell you, but it's true. I did have another man in the bed and I slept with him. I wanna tell you I'm sorry, but honestly I'm not because all the things you put me through the last 14 years. And I'm not gonna stop talking to the person 'cause you put me through so much. I just want all this to be over. Like, we could get the divorce and it is what it is.

Okay, here you go. What's going on in your mind?

I ain't got nothing to say. She got it, she got it.

Just everything I've been through with him.

She got it.

It's like he forced me to do that and I'm sorry that I'm not sorry, but it is what it is.

Yeah. I mean, hearing what you said, that has been the symptoms of your relationship, of course I will never excuse anyone, male, female cheating, but I do understand 14 years of being frustrated and tired. And if I've experienced it in 30 minutes and I'm exhausted, I can only imagine what you feeling in 14 years. So I wanna bring Elmer back out. Elmer, do you wanna come back out? I don't know what your wife's done.

I understand. I totally understand. I can't even get mad. At the end of the day, I knew I was coming for her. We talked about it. No matter what, I wanted to work with her. You know what I'm saying? No matter what. She told me that day, she said they didn't go that far.

You know what I'm saying?

And I believe it. You know what I'm saying? I never had sex with another woman when we was in a relationship.

But don't nobody know that but you.

Okay, I'm telling the honest to God truth. That's all I wanna do is tell the truth.

Yeah.

Making a video and doing it for another woman is cheating. Like, what are you talking about?

Listen, listen. I really admitted that I had problems in the past, but she really said and told you, like she can tell you I've changed a lot of shit.

Yeah.

I changed a lot of shit. All I wanna do is my wife. All I want is my wife and my kids, man.

But you do understand how for her 14 years of frustration.

But she say it haven't been like that for a whole 14 years. It have not.

Come on, let's be serious. I didn't just go out cheating. Everything I've been through with you, you got problems with your hands and everything. I didn't just go out cheating. Come on, we not about to do that.

Latar, you done it too though, boo.

Yeah, I hit you.

Yeah, okay.

I did.

Okay.

But what you do 3 weeks ago?

Then we got into an argument. I snatched her phone or whatever like that. So she started yelling. I grabbed her by her thing and I put my hand over her mouth just so the building and the people in the building when they hear her scream.

What am I screaming for if nothing going on?

I'm done with this, man. I'm just done.

Well, she's done first. And I think it's the best actually, to be very honest with you. You want me to walk away?

You want me to hear I'm good?

To be very honest with you.

I don't wanna walk away. I love you. I really love you.

And you still gonna love me and I'm still gonna love you. Love ain't just gonna go away like that.

It really can't just go by. I love you, Slim, for real. And I'm sorry to even say Slim 'cause I'm not like, I can't even find words.

I'm not like this.

And she already know that.

We not about to be together.

That's the thing.

Can I give you a piece of advice? Can I give you a piece of advice? Because there's children involved in this.

And that's all I want.

And I know you wanna be a better parent, but part of the thing for you to be a better parent is you're gonna have to stop this narrative that I'm not like this. And I'm just an outside perspective.

But don't I accept the blame when I'm wrong? I admit I'm wrong.

I guess.

But see, she came with—

For 3 weeks ago, for there to be still a physical altercation, you are like this. The more you keep saying I'm not like this and then going back to the same behavior, all you're doing is keeping yourself in a pattern where this always would be unhealthy. And what will happen is your children will pick up that behavior and they'll do something and then they'll be like, "But I'm not like that." And you'll see that behavior later on. So what you have to do first as a man is say, "I am like this. I am like this and I need to get better help before I could ever be the man you need me to or I could ever be the father these kids need me to." And until you make that step, this will never be right. You're right. You're right. I wish you the best of luck. I wish you the best of luck. I really do. So I'm gonna talk to her for a little bit and I'm gonna wish you best of luck. Good luck now. I'm gonna bring your mama out real quick too.

I love you, baby.

I will say this right now. I witnessed what you could have been seeing this entire time and—

I was right. I know what I'm talking about because I went through it with her dad. And one thing I told her a couple of weeks is, I see me in you and see him as your father. No. My kids went through a lot. And the dad, like you just said, 3 weeks ago. She didn't even tell me till after the fact. I called her, it's 7 o'clock in the morning. I called her, all I hear him screaming, screaming, hollering, hollering. What I do? Jump up, put on some clothes, jumped in my Cadillac and hauled tail. You're not about to keep arguing around my grandkids. I got grandkids, that plays a big part. That plays a big part. I don't want my oldest granddaughter to think that it's okay for a man to talk to you like that, 'cause it's not. It's not healthy.

Are you willing to now help your daughter stay firm in this decision?

She don't have a choice.

Your mother says she gonna be here for you. Can you stay firm in this position?

She gonna stay firm, even if that mean me come to her house and stay a couple of weeks with her. I miss our bond. We got her and she knows that.

Are you gonna be able to stand firm in this decision?

Yes.

Good job. Listen, I believe, I'm so happy because at the end of the day, what I witnessed is that he has a lot more growing to do as a man. But he has to start acknowledging the man that he is, not that he believes that he was, he is still today. And that's gonna be the first step of him being better. And you just gotta stay firm in the decision. I wish you the best. The best of luck.

Thank you.

You got a strong mama right here.

I ain't going no place.

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