In this episode of KARAMO, host Karamo interviews two participants (Speaker B and Speaker C) about their experiences meeting individuals who may be their biological siblings. Speaker B describes his first meeting with Victoria and his ongoing relationship with Queeacha (also called Puyasha), recounting the mix of curiosity, doubt, and eventual acceptance when they reached out and shared photos. He reflects on growing up without a father, the pain of abandonment, and how his perspective shifted as he matured. Speaker C adds a complementary viewpoint, expressing the fear of disappointment if the DNA results prove the connections are not familial, and noting the lack of a bond built over the phone. Throughout the conversation, the participants discuss the emotional complexities of seeking sibling connections, the role of DNA testing, and the healing process that comes with time and maturity.
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So is this your first time seeing your sisters or potential sisters?
This is my first time seeing Victoria.
Yeah.
I have a relationship with Queeacha from a couple years now.
Got it. Okay, great, great, great. So how did you feel when Queeacha reached out and said that she's your sister? And then how did you feel when Victoria reached out?
I, with Queeacha, I had a million things running through my mind. Obviously, you know, it's always in the back of your mind, but when you're raised not knowing, after a while you just kind of chalk it up. And that's what I did for the longest. And when Kyasha did reach out, I was open to it because if, Growing up, it felt like there's a whole piece of you.
Did you believe immediately that she was your sister?
I wanted to.
That means, so part of you had doubts?
Yeah, I was already opening myself up to the possibility. When I seen her picture, I was like, "Now I'm sure." Yeah, yeah, yeah. It was a wrap for me.
And was it the same when you saw Victoria's photo?
All right, so Puyasha was the one that told me a lot of the information, like much like Victoria. When I was growing up, every time I would try to ask, I didn't get anything.
Did you have a relationship with your father?
No.
You didn't either. Okay.
That hurt because I grew up under the assumption that like he abandoned me.
Yeah.
You know, it took a while to deal with those issues. In that time, I was in a different headspace. When Victoria came around, much, much different headspace. I've been older, you know, I've matured a lot.
Now you've had time to heal with everything. You've had time to work through these issues. When you were a younger man, did you feel as if like, maybe I had siblings? Were you curious?
Of course, but you know, you just, you don't know, so you don't wanna get your hopes up.
Why would getting your hopes up about having a sibling be such a bad thing?
Because if they're not, I'm gonna be hurt that these are not my brothers and sisters.
Yeah.
Because I didn't build a bond with them. Over the phone, but.
Yeah.
I mean, one thing that I tried to stress, you know, once we found out the situation was that Regardless of what happens, family is what you choose. Family is not what you're obligated to have just because you share a bloodline with them. So regardless of what happens today, these are still my sisters.
