A daughter frustrated by her mother's constant worry learns to ask directly: "Mom, in this moment, I actually need you to validate what I'm feeling." Setting this boundary lets her keep living her life while opening real conversation with her parent.
She will look at me on numerous occasions and say, "I'm just so worried about you." And I'm like, "Well, I have a good job, I have my own apartment, I pay all my bills, I'm not in debt, my credit's great. What are you worried about?" Maybe I'll just say, "If you're a mother someday, you'll know." No, that won't work either.
That won't work either. No, what you should do when you feel like she's saying something that's making you not feel validated, Say, "Mom, in this moment, I actually need you to validate what I'm feeling." I think that's a great way for y'all to start communication. And while you are using that specific language, because now she's heard it, so I'm giving you a tool so y'all can move forward, you continue to live your life. Go on your vacations, buy your coffee, and make sure you say, "Just use this as a step to figure it out a little bit more." You can do it, okay?
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