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You’re pushing away the person you want the most. #karamoshow #shorts

24 May 2023 · 1 min

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In this YouTube short, Karamo counsels a guest named Larry, who feels compelled to prove his fidelity to his wife and is distressed by the emotional pain it causes. Karamo points out that Larry’s repeated accusations toward his wife are damaging the relationship and stem from deeper fears. He explains that recent family losses have triggered a fear of abandonment, leading Larry to preemptively push his wife away to avoid anticipated loss. Karamo validates Larry’s feelings, apologizes for his grief, and highlights the psychological pattern where grief and fear cause self‑sabotage in intimate relationships.

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It's not right. I shouldn't have to go through all of this to prove something to my husband. Do you see the pain that this is causing your wife? I do, I do. I'm sorry, okay? I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I mean, it's what I felt at the time, Karamo.
Larry, the thing is, is every time you ask her, you're accusing her and you're causing damage in your relationship. Damage? You're damaging your relationship. You're damaging a woman who has been true to you, who loves you. And the thing is, is that I started asking specific questions and you gave me my own conclusion without me even having to go any deeper. Yeah. During this time, you've lost a lot of family members. Yes. And I'm so sorry about that. But what's happening is that as you started losing family members, there's something that sometimes happened to us as human beings where we feel like someone else is gonna leave us. So when we feel like they're gonna possibly leave us, we start to push them away ahead of time. I need you to hear this. Yes. You're trying to push away your wife so that you don't feel like someone else is gonna leave you.