EP 103: Poor People Love To Say Their Balanced

Welcome to the Making of a DM Balance. Is it hurting you or serving you? In this episode, I'm going to share.

With you something most probably will not like.

So with that said, let's get started.

There ain't no question Mark Evans. When he's stepping it down, he's closing deals. Time to tell him what the DM stand for.

I'm a deal maker. A deal maker. But I'm not just a deal maker. I'm a dream maker.

Hey there, it's your boy, Mark Evans, dm.

Thank you for being here.

Beautiful day, Parkland, Florida. A lot going on.

I need your help on something as we are making some big moves.

But I want to share my schedule over the last 1112 days with you.

I have a point where I'll share it with you as well as today's episode is going to be an extension from last week. Got a lot, a lot of feedback from last week's show about do masterminds work and more importantly, the piece about balance. There's a lot of a lot of miscommunication on balance going on in this world, clearly, and I'll share some insight on that, hopefully help you out here. But the help I need is five star reviews and sharing these shows with your people. Social media, tagging me, tagging the post, letting people know what's cool or not cool. I'm fine either way.

Just share the message.

You know, I do this 100% free for you. That's whatever. I'm doing it because I do love helping people that want to help themselves. So if you could take a minute and just do a quick forward to your buddies or post on your social about this show, that would mean a lot to me. You know, a lot of times people.

Are like I can't do anything, I.

Don'T have any money. Well, you have a voice.

You might have two followers.

You might have 2 million followers. I don't know. It doesn't matter to me. But you just sharing the message shows me that you're trying. You're being resourceful, taking advantage of what you do have, not what you don't have. So appreciate you if you can make that happen. It means a lot to me and the five star reviews are insane. As I'm talking to you today, I'm getting ready to prepare to leave here tomorrow around noon. I got to head up and go speak to 200 entrepreneurs from all over the country. And it's always an honor. I don't really do a whole lot of public speaking unless it's for a buddy of mine and I kind of know and they've planted seeds with me for many, many years.

It's kind of a cool story.

How I met this guy. His name's Matt. How I met Matt is he was doing a charity. He was doing a charity event. He was raising some money for kids that can't walk and they needed wheelchairs. And I made a donation of $5,000. Not bragging or whatever, just sharing, like, truth. And made a donation and got I think 50 wheelchairs or whatever the cost was back then. This is a long time ago, by the way, and just did it because I saw him do a post and I respect his work and I just wanted to support him through his vision and his mission. And that's always a great, A great piece in life and feels very good helping people out. I've never shared it except just now, obviously. But when you see someone that you know is respectful, hard working, doing some cool stuff, a very powerful way to connect with people is through charity and donations. So, you know, it's always. It's ultimately. And I didn't do it back then because I didn't understand what I was doing. But it is a real hack. If you want to really connect with someone, the best way to do it that I've ever seen is through their charitable contributions. So because they're doing a charity event, you step up and do something big, get recognized and let them know, hey, man, I respect you, I appreciate you, and, you know, here's a couple bucks. It's very cool.

So I was sitting here going over my schedule.

I don't really look backwards often, but I was thinking like, man, it's been a. My wife said something interesting yesterday. She's like, wow, you've really, you know, been gone, you know, done a lot of stuff, been gone, moving around, you know, shaking and baking, if you will. I left on the 24th. I headed over to Tampa to hang out with my boy Sean and meet some business people and stuff. I'm done. I'm doing stuff with and I've done stuff with. I was over there till the 27th, the late 27th. Got home at like 2 o' clock on the 27th. And I was down at another event in Miami that night. Didn't get home till 1 o'.

Clock.

You know, it was from 5 to 1am it's about an hour drive for me to get there. But, you know, down there networking about 450 investors and business owners and crypto people and my boy Dan and Ryan, I Got to hang out with my boy Stuman and all those guys. But, you know, and then got back and then up kind of just hanging out. I was wide awake at 6am because I got the kids screaming around, doing stuff, you know. And then the next day, jumped in the car at noon. Me, my wife and kids, been headed down to Key Largo. Got down to Key Largo. I had a company team building event, you know, where we met. I paid for everyone to fly in, paid for everyone's rooms and food and all that fun stuff, and hung out with them for a couple days just to see what's working and what's not. What's cool about that is I haven't met 90% of these people face to face ever. I've talked to them. Some of them I know, Some of them I don't know because I typically when someone comes new in our company, I don't do the hiring process and all that much anymore, actually. I haven't done it for a long time. But I will call as a CEO and say, hey, welcome to the company. Appreciate you and all that good stuff. Just kind of make the connection and let them know that they do matter, they are important. And if they're in the company, they're not just a number. You know, the team really does care. We talked to a lot of people to hire an individual. So as I'm sitting there and get done with that, get back on Wednesday and then Thursday, about 4 o', clock, head up to Delray Beach, Florida, and we have a media company meetup. Again, I'm picking up the tab for about 60 people. Hanging out, having some hors d' oeuvres and drinks and all that stuff and just connecting. It's really cool because that media company I've owned for August will be seven years. And I like to be an industry leader. I like to lead the pack. I don't want to just talk about stuff. I want to see what's working and what's not working and how we can all help each other and just have an open forum conversation, if you will. And I bring my competitors, if you will. That's what a lot of people would call them. But I look at them as collaborators. I bring people that buy traffic from us, sell traffic to us, clients that we work with, clients that we haven't worked with yet, people that I know are spending and investing millions of dollars a year in traffic, in media. And we just sit there and we talk and we put on the show and we pay for everything again. And that's at night, got home at 9 o' clock at night, up at 5am at the gym at 6am and boom, on the road by 8 in the meeting room from 9 to 5, hanging out with 60amazing people all day, you know, and I promise this all does have a point to everything I'm sharing with you today but and then back home. Today's Saturday as I'm talking to you and I'll be leaving at noon tomorrow. But what's funny about today is my day's been thrown off drastically as us walking home from the gym, my wife called me crying. She was in pain. She actually sneezed, as crazy as it sounds and slipped a disc in her back and she couldn't move, which is crazy as you know, that alone sucks. But we have two little kids and you know, and all that stuff. So she was in, it wasn't good. So I've been dealing with that, running to the stores, getting medicine and heating pads and cooling stuff and then hooked up with a guy, get her into a chiropractor to do some, you know, take some images and, and help her out as much as possible till Monday. But it's actually 3:45 as I'm talking to you. So we just got back and I had to do this podcast show and like I said, tomorrow I'll be speaking, I leave to go speak to 200 people and I'll be back late Monday night. And then Monday night my sister in law comes in town. She'll be here for seven days.

So the reason I share all that.

Crazy shit with you, oh by the way, I have team meetings and one of the biggest things I'm proud of as well as we launched the Dealmaker Mastermind group, the 1k a month group. We have over 80 people in there within two weeks. We are now closed as of March 3rd at midnight. I talked to every single person. To be exact it was 193 people. I talked to a lot of people did not qualify to get in. People I felt that were just looking for get rich quick which I don't teach or advocate in any way, shape or form did not make the cut. And anyways I talked to 193 people in all in 11 days. I'm sharing this with you because I talked to a guy like I said on my way to Tampa the first time and I kind of got upset with him and he has two little kids and he talks about this word balance, Mark. Balance. What about balance? Keep in mind he's dead broke and he can't fucking balance the checkbook because he has no money to balance. So I'm sharing this with you because when I'm getting ready to do big weeks like this, I kind of know they're coming.

I sit down with my wife and.

Talk with my kids and say, hey guys, here's the deal. I'm up to something big. I'm working on shit. I got some stuff going on and you know, it's called communication. You know, I used to not be that good at it. I still kind of am lacking in it sometimes. But when I'm doing something big like this, I have to communicate with my family so they know that I'm not going to be as. I'm not going to just be hanging out all day like they think I'm hanging out anyways, right? So say, hey, here's the deal. Got a lot going on. But the first trip I took, I was with Mark for those couple days and then I was with my entire family. Actually had my in laws in town as well. And then I'm with my teams and you know, so it's not like I'm like out running around and shit. I'm actually doing stuff and working and meeting and connecting with people, right?

So I think about this balance stuff.

So much and you know, just the commitments and it's funny how we lie to ourselves. People are using balance as a way to justify their lack of action, as a way of like acting like they're fucking being some superman human being by being balanced. I don't know anybody that's balanced, by the way. Anybody at all. Not one person. And I've never understood balance. You know, I, I think there's a. You gotta find a path. I forget what. Ed. Ed. There's a guy named Ed. Miletti talks about this, but it's kind like I'm not ever balanced. I have a lot of shit going on. I have a lot of companies cranking. I'm looking to buy a couple companies right now. So you're dealing with lawyers, you're dealing with, you know, auditing companies. I mean there's a lot of conversations, a lot of meetings. I'm dealing with tech people on the new websites we're working on. I'm dealing with the new, you know, the 80 plus investors that we brought on board and business owners into the DM1K group. I'm doing live videos in there, an hour a week, you know, working on a 500 person event in Cleveland, Ohio at the end of June. So we're negotiating, not negotiating But I'm talking more like, here's the location, we're going to do it. I'm with my assistant and our party event planners and all that shit. And like, what's going on? And you're chunking out half a million dollars for this? 300,000 here, 900. I mean, a lot of moving parts.

And I've never thought about balance.

I've just been very aware that you.

Have to be cautious of this again.

I talked about this in 2005 with my grandmother passing. It was a very big wake up call for me where I like working. It's fun to me. I like helping people. I like making a lot of money and I like growing and pushing the limits. But as I'm sitting here talking to you, I've been busy. I know a lot of times people from afar think I'm just hanging out, smoking cigars all day, doing nothing, hanging out back of yachts, flying around on jets and shit. And sometimes that is true, that is what I'm doing. But the majority of time it's definitely not what I'm doing. I'm sitting here working, I'm writing, I'm doing webinars, I'm doing podcast shows, I'm doing events, I'm creating books. I have two books in the works right now. I have hundreds and hundreds of people that I'm communicating with on a weekly basis.

Oftentimes one to many, but oftentimes one on one.

The 193 people talk to. I did not hand that off.

I did that personally. To talk to every single person, it was not easy.

It was fucking hard, to be honest with you.

I know it sounds silly saying it's hard to make calls, but listen, every single person is important that you're talking to. So I take it very serious. And when I'm talking to them, I'm focused, I'm listening. It's very heavy because they're not calling you and say, mark, everything's amazing, dude, I'm crushing. I'm making millions of dollars. I don't need any help. I'm talking real talk shit. Like things that, like things that I need to understand to see if I can help them and where I can help them and what we can do today to start getting better results tomorrow. So it's very tacking.

Reminds me of the old days when I used to work in construction and do all the physical labor. It's interesting. Physical labor is different than mental labor. They're both, you know, I'm not saying one's more important than the other. But one thing I do know is I want to get rich with my brains, not my back. My brains, not my back. And I deal. I, you know, initially, I kind of got to do both. But people see me and they're like.

Dude, you have all the cars, all the house, and all this cool shit. You must be, like, so happy. I am happy, but I'm not. Like, there's so much more. See, I don't think people really understand. Again, back to the word thought auditing.

The words thought auditing.

What does happy mean to you? It will evolve. Happiness evolves, right? Being content evolves. Right now, I have two young kids. I'm very focused on the family life. Hanging out with the kids, going to Taekwondo, playing golf, going fishing with my son, hanging out with my daughter. You know, driving the golf cart around town. I'm very happy and content with that. But I'm also very happy and content with me growing companies. I want to grow, I want to push. I want to see what I'm capable of.

I'm only 43 once, right?

So as you're building this life of yours, you need to understand these crazy words we just say so simply, but I just want to be happy. What the fuck does happy mean to you? But, Mark, I just need to get balance. What does balance mean to you? Not what you read or what you think it is, but what is balance to you? Like I talked about last week, if you didn't listen to last week's show, you probably should, but I'll just kind of, like, give you a synopsis of it. The guy told me he needed balance, and he hasn't worked for two years.

And he has no money, but he's.

Balanced because he's at home with his kids.

Now, I don't know about you, but.

I don't know how the hell anyone could be balanced or even feel remotely balanced, sitting at home with their dick in their hand and can't pay their bills, waiting for their kids to come home from school, saying, but I feel balanced. I'm balanced, man. What does balance mean to you today? What does it look like? All you guys say, I want to be rich. Cool. What does rich mean? I always love it, Mark. It's a lot of money.

It. What's a lot of money mean?

And I could promise you the majority of the time, a lot of money in their head that they're saying is not a lot of money on the grand scheme of things. See, we use words as if it's no big deal. The words you're using or not using are fucking everything up you're doing.

I promise you. I know it did for me and everyone else. I know.

That's a lot of money. What does it mean? What does a lot of money mean on both sides? It costs a lot and it's worth a lot. I don't know what it means. I value time way more than money.

Way more than money. Do you?

Today, when I'm taking my wife to.

The chiropractor, actually coming home from the chiropractor, I look over and there's a fucking sea of cars everywhere. I tell my wife and kid, I'm.

Like, what the hell's going on over here?

They must be giving out $100 bills everywhere. Nope. You know what they're doing? It's BJ's. It's the line for the gas. The line for gas to save 2 cents a gallon. I shit you not. I got a video of it. I couldn't even believe it myself.

They clearly will never buy anything. I don't want to sell them death. I don't want to do anything with.

These types of people.

I can't. I don't understand it. They're literally sitting in line for hours to save 40 cents, 50 cents a dollar, like $10. Whatever the it is, it's not worth it. I don't even know what gas cost. Why? Because it doesn't fucking matter. I gotta drive. I need gas. I'm gonna pay whatever it is. If not, go back and dig a fucking oil well and produce your own gas, for God. I don't like people consume their brain with shit that will never do anything. Gas is expensive. What does that mean? How much is gas prices? I don't fucking know.

It's funny, Dina's dad, actually most people in my family, when I first started buying nice cars, I bought the Rolls. And the first thing they said, oh, I bet you that thing gets. How many miles a gallon does it get? And I look at them, I genuinely don't know. And I'm like, it's a good question, I guess, in your brain, but do you think I'm spending $350,000 on a car worried about fucking gas mileage?

Seriously, think about that.

This is what people fucking consume their brain power with. So many people are consuming their brain with shit that will never do anything for them except frustrate you, overwhelm you, piss you off, discourage you. There's Nothing encouraging about $5 a gallon for gas. If you only have 20 bucks in the bank because you only got 4 gallons in you. It's only going to get you so far. Oh, man, I bet you insurance is expensive on that.

I don't even fucking know how much insurance is. If you're worried about how much insurance is, you're not buying a $350,000 car. Right? It's all relative. The old mark that knew the price of everything. Because that's how I was raised my entire life.

My mom and dad. Still, if I go out to dinner.

I guarantee, Jesus Christ, the fucking steak, $13. I get that thing down at the store for 12, 10 or whatever. This is his mindset for real. Great guy, but this is how they think when I hang out with them. I'm going to say, dad, mom, order from the left side of the menu.

What does that mean? On the right side's the price. The left side's what they want. See, I talk about calling it minimizing your dreams, minimizing things in life. My dad, he'll want to eat a filet mignon, but he'll see the price is $50. So we'll settle for the Porter house for $28. It's only fucking $25. Like, dude, you're. You're 60 years old.

Like, you're not living forever. And I'm paying for it. For God's sakes, eat the best. Let's go, man. What if this is your last fucking meal? Straight up. Have you ever thought about in these kind of terms? You're assuming you get to pick a dinner tomorrow. You're assuming you're going to wake up tomorrow. There's a lot of assumptions in life. I've never met anybody that died saying, man, I knew I was dying today. Have you? You probably, or possibly could, I should say not, wake up tomorrow. That's a real thing. 150,000 people a day die.

Why isn't it you or I today?

Could be this might be my last podcast show. That's why I fucking show up and share real shit. Because I want to be known as the fucking real talker. Straight up. I want people to come and look in my fucking casket and say, this guy changed my fucking life and he's the real fucking deal. And I want him to look at my kids and my kids be proud of their dad because he wasn't some fucking tool bag saying he wanted to be balanced and had no fucking money to take care of him. But yet he was around. He was a cool dad. I'm not trying to be cool. I'm trying to be an amazing leader. And an example for my kids. There's tough conversations in that. There's things I have to do that I never want to do, but I have to. Why?

Because it's my job.

It's my purpose. I've committed to doing and being the best at these things. I fail every day, but I get up and I fight at it again every fucking day. If you see in my office, I.

Have, like, Richie Rich punching a money bag. I feel like that's what I'm doing.

Every day, punching a bag. The difference in the bags, though, is, you know, they don't hit back. But my kids are watching, they're paying attention, they're listening.

Balance. You know what I want my kids to say? Seriously, Something to this effect.

My dad's a badass. If he says he's going to do.

It, he does it. He will fucking move mountains to accomplish his goals. I've never seen someone so focused and determined to making things happen in life.

Not waiting for things to happen, but making things happen. He was tough, but he was fair. He was hard on me, but it.

Was for the better of me.

He knew I had more inside of me than I had in myself. He believed in me when no one else did, including myself. He lifted me up. He was never the guy to give you a handout, but a hand up. What game are you playing over there? This is the difference.

I'm playing a different fucking game than most. Talked about this on one of the shows. I don't remember what episode, but death motivates me. Do you think someone's gonna come to.

Your fucking casket and say, man, Johnny was so balanced. This fat fuck was so balanced.

Come on.

I'm not the most physically fit dude.

But I'm at that gym pretty much.

Seven days a week. My problem's not the gym. My problem's eating right, but the kids are watching. Daddy's up. I have to edit the schedule because Daddy said he's going to do it. Most of the I do. The kids wouldn't even know initially that.

I did not do it.

The problem is, once they recognize I.

Didn'T do it, it's too late. Dad's a liar. Dad's a con man. Dad's all talk. Dad has never accomplished dad, who. He's. He's just. He's just. He's a cool dude. That's about it. I hope that. Well, first of all, that will never happen with me. I'm very crystal clear with my kids that dad works. And you're going to work your ass off too. If you set a goal, you do not fucking stop until you hit that goal. Yes, that's how I talk to my 2 year old. Yes, that's how I talk to my 6 year old.

That's how I talk.

I want the best out of everyone, mostly out of myself. Because I can control me. I can't control anybody else. Some of you are sitting over there like, God dang, I don't want to be your kids. The truth is I think I'm raising some amazing human beings. I could be wrong. I don't think I am because I have consulted a lot of many people to learn how to be a better dad, how to be a better leader, how to know when to push and pull and all that good stuff. I want to instill confidence. You know how I instill confidence with my kids? I want to lead by example. I want them to know daddy fails every day, but daddy doesn't stop. You know what I mean? This balance shift's really, it really is a problem in the world. There's so many people out here, great people that genuinely bought into some bullshit book or course or something they heard or saw or have been taught to be balanced. Show me something great that's balanced. Show me it doesn't exist. Balanced. Now, I'm not saying be reckless, I'm not saying not be aware, but balance is a very. Like, you just got to understand these terms and what you're actually saying, more importantly, because what you're saying, and this goes deeper, this comes down to the power of questioning. The power of questions. Most people listening to my voice right now suck ass at asking direct questions. And if you suck ass asking direct questions to someone that could help you, I could only imagine the questions you ask yourself. For example, someone raises their hand at an event. Hey, John, what's up, buddy? Hey, Mark, thanks for having me at. John, what's your question? Well, you know, hey, first off, thanks for having me and yeah, hey, here's what I'm thinking and you know, I've been doing like everything they're saying, they're building this lie in their head. They're saying it with words, by the way. You know, I've been working really hard for the last 26 years and things are just really starting to come to fruition now finally. But it's like, shut the fuck up.

What question do you have? What's your question? See, the thing is they have to tell the story out loud to justify the shitty thing they're about to ask. Straight up. They already know the answer. They Think that by saying shitty stuff up front is going to change what I'm going to respond at.

Because around again we talked about king of the dipshits around. All the king of the dipshit buddies and all that they hang out with. You're right, Johnny.

Balance is key, buddy. But you can't take off this month.

Remember, because Steve's above you and you don't have any time. He's got priority over you.

But balance is so key, Johnny.

Questions. Most suck at asking questions. And the reason I bring questions up into this on top of this is balance.

If you can't ask good questions, how.

Can you understand what balance even means? All this stuff I'm talking about is high level entrepreneurial work. You gotta work. You're your biggest client. You are your biggest client. You know, a lot of people ask me who has mentored me. Lots of people's mentored me. But my biggest mentor is me. I mentor myself every fucking day, every minute, every hour. Having a bad day. Let me give you an example. I talked to a buddy right before this call. He's having a challenge. His challenge is a challenge I had for the first 12 years of my business career. It's no longer a challenge for me. I don't have the challenge anymore. Told him exactly what I did. He's like, holy shit, you're right. I've been beating my head against the wall for the last 14 days about this. But why was he beating his head? It wasn't because he's dumb. It's just because he's asking the wrong question and he's coming up with the wrong answer. If you ask the wrong question, you're going to get the wrong answer, or an answer that doesn't help support the true question you're trying to ask yourself. So I ask myself questions in different ways. You have to understand what is balance. Why am I seeking balance? Right? And balance isn't evolving, it's a moving target.

For example, if my wife left today.

And she took the kids for a week to go hang out with her mom somewhere, I would have seven days. I would fucking work like a maniac 24 hours a day for the next seven days.

Not because I have to, but because.

I love it, I enjoy it and keep my mind busy, I'd be focused. It's just a different level. I don't have two kids to run and catch around. I would do me at the highest level. So balance changes.

But what sucks on my side of.

This, on this side of the desk, if you will, or Outside of the audio is I see a lot of great people that's bought into this bullshit. You know, they even like, even people.

Like, dude, how do you stay so productive?

Define productivity. I know a lot of fucking broke productive people. A lot. They're productive on the wrong shit, right? Just because you're productive doesn't mean you're profitable just because you're productive. And by the way, most people that say they're really productive are very delusional, right? Oftentimes good is good enough. Some people are trying to get perfect. And not only that, nothing's ever perfect. Nothing is ever perfect ever. It just doesn't exist. And if you're perfectionism, you're a procrastinator. That's what perfectionism is. It's a form of procrastination. It allows you to justify your bullshit to be a perfection. But I can't do it until it's perfect. I had a couple guys that had a company and they built out. They spent a lot of time, lots of hours, many, many hours. And they bragged about how hard they worked on it and how amazing it was. And they showed me and I was like, this is bullshit. It's all bullshit. And they're like, what do you mean, man? What do you mean? Well, first of all, you're assuming, you know all this stuff's going to happen. It's not 90% of shit you wrote down. I can't imagine it ever happening. Secondly, you know, this is a business that makes money. Like everything you're doing here is non financially active. It's not a financial activity. These are things that just happen. These, a lot of this shit's to be, it's just to be expected. But they spent like when I say multiple weeks collectively on this thing. It might have been months. And we worked together and literally most of the shit they wrote down, as I stated, never came to fruition. The problems they thought were problems were never a problem. The things they don't understand because they're only pulling from limited information and knowledge. How can you build a perfect formula if you don't have real life experience? How can you build any formula? It's all theory at that point, right?

So these words, these things, the, that.

We all created in our brain, what does it all mean? I really want. I, I can't stop talking about thought auditing. It is something that has changed my life and changed everyone's life. I know that uses it. And it's something, it's just I, I wrote about it in Magician versus Mule I didn't even. Again, I'm not smart enough to come up with these terms initially, but it's something I've been doing a long time. Everyone writes down goals, but they don't write down their thoughts. Well, your thoughts, the questions and thoughts will equal your goals. If you're not accomplishing what you want, it's not because it doesn't exist. It's because something in your operating system, in your brain, isn't allowing the dots to connect to get the result that you're seeking. I do a cool thing with my DM family, the 50k group guys. I sent them all a big check in the mail and I said, and these are, these are all guys doing seven figures a year minimum. And I said, I want you to take time and I want you to write down a number that's going to be in your bank account liquid in five years from this date. And it was the biggest mind for these guys because they're trying to figure out how. Like they don't want to throw. Here was our reasoning. I don't want to throw down a crazy number. That's not possible. Who said you had to? And what is that number anyways? And why is it impossible or a crazy number? Right. Because some of the guys numbers that they wrote down are very ultra manageable from my perspective, based off of the information I know about them.

So then you get this whole thought.

Process of I don't want to let myself down. Let's say if they have 5 million in the bank today and they might.

Be like, I want 25 million in five years.

Well, that's an easy formula that's probably very doable at a very simple level. Just keep doing what you're doing, multiply it by five years, that's 25 million. Right? And it's very accomplishable. But they're better than that. I'm using as examples. It's not what someone said, but like there are guys in that group that I know did not stretch their brain. See, the thing is the brain goes to work on things that you direct it to go to work on. And if you say, man, I want balance and you don't understand what balance means, it's probably not going to serve you. Actually, it's not going to serve you. But I want growth, I want life, I want to make a lot of money, I want to spend a lot of time with my family. Cool. What's a lot of time mean? See, do your kids go to school or do they not? Do you have a nanny or don't you? Does your in laws help you or not? Your family help you or not? Are they growing up? Are they not grow? There's so many variables, and if you copy me, you're going to get messed up too. Why? Because I have different goals, I have different dreams, I have different aspirations, I have different cadence. I have a different plan. We all do. That's why when I see people talking about, you know, writing down, like, their, their production plan daily, like how, how they stay productive and all this, you know, a calendar or journal or whatever, everyone functions different. I've bought every journal, I've bought every production calendar.

I bought all this.

Find the one that works for you. You know what works best for me? Yellow notepad and paper. I don't need to write down my goals daily. I got big goals and I'm focused on them. Every goal I've ever written down, I've accomplished every goal. Maybe that means I'm not writing down big enough. By the way, at this point, I have way bigger goals I've not accomplished today because every, every six months, I'm resetting my goals. Right? Have you ever heard people talk? They're like, man, I'm dreaming too small about money, right? Or whatever it is. And the reason is, is because it's an evolution process, you realize what you're capable of through the journey. I've just realized over all these years, if you never learn anything from me, listen to this and learn this. Fall in love with the journey. Get to know yourself better and fall in love with the journey, because it's never going to end. I know. Maybe you're sitting there thinking, dude, if I just had $5 million, it changed my life.

Cool.

Fall in love with the journey. $5 million might help your life. It might make some things a little better, but you're going to always be moving towards something bigger. That's how we're built as humans. And if you don't, you're going to lose it all, period. This is why people win the lottery, lose it because they don't have the wherewithal like you do to be on a show. Like listening to a show like this and understanding what makes you tick, what makes you go, what makes you grow. Words mean a lot. And when someone says balance, I really know that someone actually is really saying, I'm up. I need help. I'm scared. I'm broke. I'm worried. Like, there's words that mean certain things. If you're seeking balance, you're not communicating. You got to communicate with Yourself, first and foremost. And like I said with my family, I got to communicate with the fam. Like in June when I have that 500 person event. The buildup to that is very intense. It's a lot of work. I'm going to miss a couple things that I don't want to miss. I'm sure of it. But my purpose is way bigger than that moment. And I'm doing it not to be, you know, hide from my family, but to better my family. I not doing it to hurt my family. I'm doing it to better my family, right? So I sit down with them and say, hey, the storm is coming. Here's what that means. We're going to be, it's going to be a little crazy over the next two weeks and if you can help, help me. But just so you know, I might not be as responsive. I'm here always for you. It's not that, but daddy's got to work. I can't be hanging out the pool all day with you. I can't be taking you just riding around on the golf cart all day without, without any direction. You know, Daddy's really focused right now, right? My kids, my 2 year old, she's about to be 3. She's like, she doesn't really understand that yet necessarily 100 but she definitely knows. And then, but I, I do get to put her to bed at night. I do get to wake up and grab her in the morning and you know, bring her down, have breakfast and all that. I still keep those actions in play but like the focused action is different. So balance. I want you to be balanced in your way of balance. Balance is just a word that makes people feel good, right? And I'm telling you, at the end of the day, if you're using balance to justify your lack, you're pretty much a fucking loser straight up. Because you're better than that. It's not about balance. It's about vision, results and action and communication. I do know, like I said when I thought balance was, you know, because we've all been here, right? Well, dude, I need balance. To me, it's not a balance, it's about a reset. Sometimes I just need to be aware. If I feel super off, it's because I'm not communicating and I'm not paying attention to what I'm really here for. See, the thing is I have core values running. I have an operation internally of core values that I'm building from. So when I did not, which I used to first 12 years, I was just Balls to the wall, make money and everybody else gets destroyed around me. I just didn't care, you know what I mean? So I just wanted to make money. I thought that's what made me successful. Just make money. And that's not what makes me money. That's not what makes me successful. I should say what makes me successful is being a great leader, a great visionary, a great doer. Someone that gets beat up all day but still shows up and wants to do it again. I want you to succeed. I want you to enjoy the fruits of your labors. But again, I want you to build something that you're proud of. And I can't imagine being proud, sitting at home, not being able to pay the bills, thinking that I'm being balanced with my family. I just don't believe that's a real thing in any way, shape or form. It's actually a massive delusional process and a problem. And my biggest fear with that, besides you, if that's you, is the people that are around you watching you behave like this. You're better than that. You're capable of so much more. And sometimes they all go get dark and it gets crazy. But you got to fall in love with the journey. You got to get the big picture. And you start executing daily wins, micro wins. I, dude, I'm searching for any win. I can wake up at six. Boom. 559.

Yes.

Winning, right? Boom.

That's a win. Get excited, put on your shoes, lace them up perfectly.

That's a win. Some people can't get up in the morning. That's a win. So these are things as we're seeking the next level. One thing I want to do is just say again, thank you to everybody that hopped into the 1K DM family mastermind group. To say I'm honored is an understatement. To say I'm overwhelmed. Not in a bad way, in a good way is an understatement. I take this with great pride. I will do anything in my powers to help you accomplish amazing shit in life if you invest in yourself with me. That means a lot to me. It's not like you're just a number or you're just like, oh yeah man, blah blah, yes, I'll make money. It'll be a multimillion dollar year business for me. But it's a passion driven business that allows me to help so many great people like yourself to get to the next level. It won't always be easy, it won't always be fun, that's for sure. But One thing I can tell you, if you stay in the game, it will be worth it. You're hanging out with someone that's not a quitter. I don't quit. I don't stop. I keep moving. And I've been down, I've been kicked, I've been punched at the same time. And I get back up. And we will prevail. And if you promise me that you'll stick around. When toughs get time in your world, when you feel like there's no other way but out, but you stay in, that's when the magic happens. I'm honored for you to be on this journey. I'm honored to be on the journey with you, I should say, because it's an amazing journey in itself. I look for that one day when people are inside the DM family like that and we get together, which we will be in the end of June. But we'll all get together and just connect, Deepen our relationships, forge new opportunities, connect at so many different levels.

Not just business, but life.

Friendships will be forged, money will be made hand over fist in many levels. Lives will be altered and changed forever. And your family and your people around you that you're leading and guiding and that's following you and watching you will forever be changed. Why? Because you took action. You? Yes, you took action.

When the doors opened, you took action.

You didn't wait around, you didn't think about it, you didn't talk about it, you did something about it that says something about you. Just find that feeling when you want to quit. Get back in that state of mind when you feel like you want to toss in the towel because it's not happening fast enough. Because I could assure you it will.

Never happen fast enough until it happens.

It will not.

It will never happen easy until it happens. But you have to do something to make it happen.

And if you join the 1k group, you will make it happen. I will hand you anything I have access to to help make your life easier, to make your journey a little smoother. If you're willing to do the work, the results will show up. What's cool about this real life experiment, if you will, of living, is we have 80ish people in that 1k group in the first two weeks. I want you. If you did not jump on that, I want you, or if you're just learning about it, pay attention. You're going to see a wave of people on social media and in real life. Which social media is real life just different, growing to a whole new level. You'll see their cadence change. You'll see their image is changing in a positive way. You'll see them giving back at a much bigger way. Because I lead by example. I will share about giving all day long to you. I'll share how important it is and why it's important. I'm going to show you how to make so much more money so much easier. Not. Not simple. It's simple, but simpler. But you still got to do the work. But I'm going to show you a different way. I'm going to show you a different path, a better path. And I'm honored for that. I'm very, very excited. So I don't know when I'm going to open up the gates again, the doors, I should say. But next time I do, it'll be very limited, probably for seven days. And if it opens, I would recommend you take massive action on it. It's real. It's a real group of people doing real shit in real life and it's exciting. So balance. Get your shit balanced in your checkbook. And let's get our lives focused on action and results. Because whatever you think you're capable of, I would bet you're capable of way, way more. So with that said, hope you have an amazing day. I gotta go down to hang out with the family and go get some dinner and then off to go speak to 200 people. Make the day count.

I'm here to help and teach them what I know and how I did it to discover freedom.

There ain't no question mark. Kevin's when he stepping it down, he's closing deals. Time to tell him what the DM stand for.

I'm a deal maker. A deal maker. But I'm not just a deal maker. I'm a dream maker. The journey's where it's at.

It's all about the process.

Time to get over to the DM project from a small town in Ohio. So I know how it is. Can I come from a lot of money. I remember it as a kid. Wanted to make a honey rack. Didn't see no one making more than that. Graduated high school with a 1.8. They should have held me back.

I hope my principals and teachers are alive just to witness this.

I'm own boss. I'm out here running two way figure businesses.

I can walk away from it all and I'll be good. But I've been called to help people just like y'.

All learn the game.

It's time to ball everybody chasing the money.

But I'm not chasing the money, I'm out here chasing the purpose? Yo, I've been working, working my whole life? Got us where we at? Is it gonna get us where we wanna go?

It's time to push, time to learn, time to grow? I'm more Kevin's dm? I'm here to help and teach him what I, what I know and how I did it to discover freedom?

There ain't no question mark? Kevin's when he stepping to doubt, he's closing deals? Time to tell him what the DM stand for?

I'm a deal maker, a deal maker? But I'm not just a deal maker? I'm a dream, dream maker? The journey's where it's at.

It's all about the process.

Time to get over to the DM project. Deal maker, deal maker.

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