EP 143: Are You a Coward or a Hero? Take the Test...

Welcome to the making of a dm. My last seven days unboxed, it was wild.

Not only that, buckle your seatbelts because I'm going to share something with you that's going to shock and all you, more importantly, it's probably going to piss you off.

So with that said, let's get started.

What I know and how I I did it to discover freedom there ain't no question mark Kevin's when he stepping the doubt he's closing deals Time to tell him what the deal stand for. I'm a deal maker, a deal maker. But I'm not just a deal maker, I'm a dream maker.

Hey there, it's your boy, Mark Evans, dm coming to you from beautiful Parkland, Florida.

I'm overlooking the course here. It's an all brown right now. They're actually killing all the grass in 4-1-2023, they're going to be redoing the whole course, shut it down for nine months. No big deal. I'll be in Ohio. But it's sometimes you got to go through some hard stuff I. E Kill stuff off to grow something more beautiful. Anyways, I'm just getting off of a crazy, crazy events. I jumped on a jet, rolled out with my buddy Bobby and his wife and my wife to Austin, Texas for three nights recently and it was absolutely amazing. It was a couple's retreat at a high level wellness center in Austin, Texas where we got to connect and really deep dive on personalities, understand what makes us tick and all that. You know, I see a lot of great people and entrepreneurs get disconnected with their spouses on the journey of growth. And we'll talk more about that today. But before I do, I have to say thank you to everybody listening to my voice. You know, I've been here showing up every week for many, many shit. I think maybe three years now and I'll do it for many more. I love to come on here. I get the messages. You know I just got a message today from a guy that's about to be homeless. He, he, you know, just last six years have been rough and he can't get out of his own way. Not throwing shade on him. It's just truth. This happens. I see this happen with a lot of great people where they use an injury or a bad situation as an anchor to hold them in that negative place. And listen, we all go through hell. Some crawl, some walk, some run, some jump and some just lay there naked rolling around in hell wondering why it's so hard. And I'm not Sure. Why people do that to themselves. We all do it a little bit in different ways, but it's a very, I hate to see that. But the show gives them insight, it gives them, it gives them hope, it gives them knowledge. And the show's free. Doesn't cost you money. He was messaging me, he's like, man, I can't wait to get money to pay you and hire you. Well, I'm not for hire is what I said. And that's the truth. But I do have that group, the DM Family, the DM Alliance. That's the only way to get my network. I'm so busy actually building real companies, I can't, I don't do one on ones. I don't do anything like that. However, inside the DM alliance and DM Family, something really cool just happened. Once I got back from Austin, Texas, literally, we landed on the jet, get out of the jet, jump in the car and go directly to the hotel. We had 150 people come in town for the movie premiere, the documentary premiere I have coming out. And it's to say it's amazing. I hope I don't get, I hope I don't get emotional because it was an emotional in a positive way. Many, many, many, many, many things happened in the last seven days. I'll share with you here, but I just want to say thank you. Like I said, and if you get a chance, all I ask, you know, we call it gentleman's agreement or you know, the handshake agreement, whatever you want to call it, I'm here to help people. And that includes you and many other people. People we won't even get to ever meet, maybe in person, but we'll get to be able to make an impact. And when you leave the five star reviews and share the show on your social media, share it with a friend. Let them know, like, dude, I'm listening to this crazy guy. Once in a while he gets excited and starts cussing up a storm. I E me, I'm doing it because I'm talking, you know, this podcast show really is for me and my family and just happens that you get to listen to it. I forget as this gets bigger, there's a lot of people listen to the show. Tens of thousands of people have heard the show. My goal is to have millions and I can't do it by myself. I need your help. I don't run ads for the show. I don't do any of that. I, I just want to be super valuable to you as a listener and in doing. So I'd love for you to give a five star review on whatever platform you're listening, share it on your social media. Talking to a buddy, hand it to a friend. This is a good way to find out who your real friends are. If you listen to my crazy ass and then hand it to them and they listen to me. You guys have a lot in common. You have something going on because we're talking real talk and positivity and forward progress on the constant. So back to the event. So I had six events in three days. I believe that's right. So as soon as I land at 4 o', clock, I have an event with the DM family at 6 o' clock where we have these mermaids come in and swim and all this stuff. It's a mermaid show in this bar called Shipwreck and food catered in, drinks, all that fun stuff. But most importantly, the families, the husbands, the wives, the kids, you know, people are hanging out, connecting. And this is a high end. This is the 50k group. It's 33 people, you know, and there's a wait list. It's pretty cool. Amazing people. It's a male only in this particular situation, but they do bring their spouses and kids to the events. And what excites me about that is I'm watching my kids are getting older. Drew will be four in April, Marcus seven will be eight in August. And many of these guys and have been in the group for many years. Actually most of them have been in there for at least four years plus. And I watch their kids grow and they watch my kids grow. And what gets me really excited is, yeah, it's cool. Dads are growing companies and growing business, growing life, getting healthier, doing more things and getting a bigger voice and making bigger impact. But what about our kids? It excites me to see that as we're sitting here in this process that our children are going to do deals together one day. They 100% will do deals together and that excites me. So as these DM guys are hanging out in there, you know, there's 33 guys we're talking, there's a lot of kids running around. Some are small, some are bigger and they're connecting and they see what the dads are doing. And you know, don't you think by natural progression they're gonna be like, hey, at 14 years old, I got a, you know, I got an app, I got this, I got that. 16, 17, 18, whatever age they're able, they're very entrepreneur, spirit, in this room. So it excites me to see that our kids one day will be doing deals together. And that's exciting times. But anyways, so we do that. That goes from 6 to 10pm and back at it. I'm up at 4:30 in the morning, gotta get some work done before the meeting. We have a meeting at 8:30. So from 8:30 to 1:30 it's a private session. We're sitting in a square table talking, it's a boardroom style table and we're connecting. And I'm going to share with you the big takeaways from these events because it's very important that you understand you're not alone. Because it's something that I see that's going. It's catastrophic and it's coming, it's already here, but it's only going to get worse. I want to make sure we're very crystal clear on this. But as that goes on, you know, I have a couple people come in. I speak one, my buddy Bobby, he sold a company recently for a billion dollars. They do tens of billions of dollars a year in revenue and gross rev and their net rev is pretty big. And they sold. And he sold his piece. His piece. His brother's still part of the company and that's worth many more billions. But he came in and got to be able to shine some light on what's going on on his side and what he's seeing on his level. He helps, you know, he has groups where you gotta be worth a hundred million minimum and kind of what they're working on, where things are going, you know. Cause right now the market, the world, people are going crazy in many different levels. So that's going on. So he shares his knowledge, which is amazing, helped a lot of people. And then my buddy Tony come in. He's a big online guy, social media, you've probably seen him on Millionaire listing bunch of times. He's out of California, him and his wife. But he's able to drop some knowledge on what's working, social media, what's changing, why they're changing it and how to, more importantly, how to take massive action and get massive results from it. So private guys, private conversations, you know, at a high level. And then we get done. 1:30, we're on the bus at 1:30, we're at a cool place called the Extreme Park. We're going to do go kart racings, our kids are playing golf, or you know, not golf, but bowling, go karts, arcade, all this crazy stuff. But wives are talking Connecting. The husbands are acting goofy. Some of the wives get in there and get on the go karts and all that, which is fun. And then we get done with that and head back to the hotel because we got to change quick because at 6pm that day we have a movie premiere, the documentary premiere of mine. From trailer park to millions. And I have my mom, my dad, my uncle, my mother in law David, her, her boyfriend slash husband kind of thing. Now they've been together forever. My wife, my kids and 150amazing people from all over the country, all over the world actually, that came in to support this. And I said it's neat because the documentary, you don't know or may not may know, it's not about glitz and glamour and flashy cars, flashy houses and all that stuff, even though it's cool and you know, I have that kind of stuff. But that's not the meaning of it. The meaning of is, is how I got it is, you know, how you can get it and how we can connect and how we grow and why I where I started from, where I'm at today and just see it and some really neat things happen there. Very emotional. The first time I ever got to see it myself actually. So I was seeing it with the audience, real time with my kids and my wife and my parents and all that and got to stand up and my mother in law stood up and said some pretty cool stuff actually. I'm probably indebted to her for life now. But you know, if your mother in law is saying nice stuff to you, you're probably doing some pretty cool stuff behind the scenes. And a lot of stuff we don't even talk about here or on social media and all that. I'm just doing it because it's who I am and that's why I want to help people get more money. Because when you get more money, you become a better person of who you are. You can do more cool stuff. You're already a good person, you just enhance it. So if you help people out a little bit when you get a lot more money, you can help a lot more people with a lot more. And again, if that's not who you are, that's cool too. But like I, you know, I just heightens me and I'm a big giver. I want to for my family and for others in many different ways. So we get done with that. Another late night, 10 o'. Clock. Remember, I'm in bed usually super early. So I'm in bed pretty early. But back in bed, you know, 10:30, 11:00', clock, I'm wired so I can't really go to sleep. Back up at 4:30 and hitting it again. And then the next day we have a hundred people in a room. And it's the DM alliance, which is a thousand dollar a month mastermind group we have as well as the DM family. We mesh them together to connect and level up people at many levels. It's just an amazing community by the way. And if you're listening to this and you're part of the community again, thank you. It's very grateful. You know, I have, I, I have the best job in the world by far. So we do that. That goes on until 4:30. I have two amazing speakers. I have some really neat things happening. One guy was, you know, both of the guys, which is interesting. Both of the guys that spoke, these are not big name guys that you would know. These are guys actually busy building real companies. One sold for a bill, like I said, Bobby. Another guy, Eric, sold a company for 115 million-plus, has a nine figure real estate portfolio. And they both was their birthday. They both dropped out of high school at ninth grade. And they both built huge organizations. So don't play. I need a degree. I needed this, I need that. No, you need to get your ass to work, you need to get focused and we'll talk about that. So that gets done and then we have a big party afterwards, kind of a Mardi Gras theme party. We have the band, we have the food, the drinks and all that stuff. But if you ever go to a Mastermind again, I invite families, I want their wives to come, I want their kids to come. We actually bring a babysitter with a couple babysitters with us, make sure their kids can play while we're having fun and relaxing and connecting. But if you're part of groups and they're not incorporating that kind of stuff, my biggest fear always has been to outgrow your spouse, outgrow your family. And the whole reason we're doing all this crazy shit is to give our family a better life. And if you're not, you're lying to yourself. Because lots of people tell me they're doing that, but they're never with their family. They work way too much for way too little, right? And they're at all these groups, they're all getting fucking wasted. They go, it's a drunk festival. It's a fuck fest too. Some of these guys are banging each other's wives and girlfriends or, or Strangers or whatever. I'm not. Again, I'm just talking the truth here. So I'm not about that. I'm about getting good people in a room to connect, to grow, to become better people. That's, that's the goal. So as this is all going on, I'm just paying attention and listening. And like I said, I'll share these common themes, but the biggest takeaway is you're listening to my voice. I want to be very clear here, so I want you to pay attention here. The number one problem people are dealing with right now is distraction. They're distracted, they're delusional, and they're distracted. You're on your ig, you're on your Facebook, you're on all these platforms, you have all this amazing technology and yet you still can't build the business you want. You can't hire the people you want or need. You can't, you know, produce a hundred thousand a month or a million a month or whatever numbers you're trying to go after. You know, most of you're chasing money, not building a business that has enterprise value. And that's the majority. Listen to my voice right now. If, if there's 10,000 people, listen to my voice right now, 9,980 of you are just making money. You don't have really an end to ends to the mean. It's just a transactional cash play. But the problem is you're making 50 grand a month and you're spending 52 grand a month on your personal lifestyle. So you're fucking broke. You just have a high paying job working for a psycho, I. E. Yourself. I know, I used to do the same thing. So once I got super clear on all this, it really focused and got me forced like, hey, wholesale real estate, that's a cash transactional business. I can't build it to sell, but I can build it to make a lot of money and extract that cash and go buy assets, go buy businesses, go buy real estate, build things, you know, do things that create cash flow, that create enterprise value and just keep re upping. See, I would make 50 grand. I was only spending 3, 4, 5 grand a month on my lifestyle and I was taking the rest of the money, just dumping it back into the business and other businesses. I just kept building and building and building. It's not cool, it's not sexy, it's not fast. It's never fast enough ever. But you, your future self, will thank you for taking delayed gratification. I promise you, if you just make money and buy real estate and make 6% cap, right? 6% interest on your money, the income that you make. The. The. And I'm talking just straight cash. You don't have to take debt on this real estate, depending on how much you're making or not making. But there's a lot of ways to skin this cat. But the biggest thing, like I said, is distractions. It was sad to me to see so many people so massively distracted with bullshit stuff that will never, ever, ever, ever matter in their life. So then I start thinking about after everyone leaves, I had two days to deprogram and, you know, like, process everything. I just connect with every single person, what they're up to, what they're working on, what they're doing, what they're not doing, what they need help with, et cetera. And I really got dialed in as to why a lot of people are distracted. And are you familiar with this term the coward versus the hero? We're both of those people. We're cowards and heroes. We both have it in us, and they both have a friend. And when you make this person your friend, you will be set free to another level. I personally don't think I've ever heard anybody really talk about this, but as I was deep diving and reading some books and just thinking about, you know, just soaking this all up. Truth is, on Sunday, I felt like I was hungover. I literally was laying down and my kid, like, I was playing with the kids barely. And my wife's like, what is wrong with you? I don't drink anymore, so I'm not fight, you know, alcohol hungover. But what it was is I just got. I just, I was mentally hungover. You know, there was so much going on at so many levels. And this coward versus hero effect reminds me when I was standing on stage, when I was standing on stage, I was sitting there thinking, and I've talked to my son about this and I've talked to you guys about this as well. But I'm scared. I'm nervous. I'm scared to do the event.

Why?

Because it costs six figures to host these events. I'm scared to, like, disappoint you. I'm scared to let you down. I'm scared to not deliver the value that I think I can deliver to you. I'm scared. That's what a coward. I have fear. But cowards think plot and never do. The hero to yourself in your life is the person that gets close with fear, understands what fear is. I'm scared. I'm fearful Whatever, I'm afraid. But they take action. See, on the other side of fear is everything you want. Everything you want is on the other side of fear. So right now, maybe you're afraid to get your ass up and go to work out because you're afraid to look stupid in the gym. Maybe you're way overweight or a little overweight, or maybe you just don't feel comfortable in the gym because you don't understand. What do I do? Push and pull? Do I do pushups? Do I do sit ups? Do I do a pull? How much weight can it. Maybe it's not enough weight so I look stupid. You know, whatever that fear is, do you let it control you or do you control it?

See, the only difference with a coward and hero is the hero takes action in fear. It literally spits at fear in the face.

I remember getting on stage in front of 1200 people. Dude, I was shitting my pants.

But I'm like, what else am I going to do? Quit, Tap out, Become a coward. This is what I've asked for, this is what I've dreamed for, to make an impact in people's lives. And in that moment, I stepped my.

Ass on the stage, sweating, scared, excited.

Terrified, all in the same nanosecond. But I did it. And every time I stepped in fear and take massive action, the fear actually gets a little less. But also it starts getting me more confidence, gets me more focused. I can see the impact that we're making by having the real conversation on stage. I'm not the guy. I'm not. I'm not the best speaker, I'm not the best looking guy. I'm not the funniest guy. I'm not the tallest, the coolest, what? I'm me. There's 8 billion people on planet Earth and there's only one Mark Evans, dm. Then there's only one you. One. No one else in the world can be you. No one. And you're worried about someone on the other line on the screen that you probably don't even know. Or if you do know, you probably don't even like. And if you do, like, maybe you want to like impact them and help them, but you're afraid, therefore you don't do. Therefore you. You get stuck. You get stuck. And then as you get stuck, fear starts mounting. It's the snowball gets bigger and bigger and bigger. And then you're fucking 55, 65, 75 years old, and you know you fucked up.

And then that's when you go into depression at A whole nother level. I wish I shoulda coulda didn't become.

Very good friends with fear and get a real good relationship and understanding. When fear creeps in, what do you do? What do you do? When fear creeps in? This is why. This is the real fucking route. Why you're distracted. You're living in fucking fantasy land on Instagram and Facebook and TikTok and only fans or whatever bullshit you're on, wondering what everyone else is doing, why you ain't doing dick except getting more afraid. Because you're looking at snippets of people that have everything figured out, that everything is perfect. The backdrop's perfect. Man, she looks good. Or he looks good. Wow. They just sold a company for $150 million. It must be nice. Motherfucker, it is nice, but they did the work. You're looking at your 12 years of not doing the things you know you need to do, and you're taking a micro moment in someone's life that took 26 years to get to that point, but you only see that moment, therefore you think it is not accomplishable for you. The only difference is they looked at fear in the face and spit in it and kept moving forward. Right now, a lot of you are afraid. You're unsure what's going on in the market. Your business is fluttering. You're not cool anymore because it's not easy anymore. Everyone that fucking made it look easy will be out of business if they.

Ever really were in business.

Because it's easy to look like you're crushing it, making money when fucking people are tossing money at you because money is flowing so effortlessly. What are you going to do with this information I'm sharing with you? Now, I'm not saying eliminate Instagram, TikTok and Facebook, but what I'm saying is understand what they're used for you. I look at these channels as creation tools, not consumption tools. Now don't get it twisted. I look at pictures and videos of my buddy's stuff to support them. I like to know what my boy Sean's doing up in Utah. I like to check out what my boy Ryan in Texas is doing. I like to check out what my boy Bobby's doing down the street from me. It's neat to see him grow. It's neat to see their voices getting bigger. It's neat to see their following connecting with them at a higher level.

That's what it's about for me.

See, fear is in all of us. But what do you do with it is where the magic Happens. I have two amazing kids, I have.

A wife, I have my family, my.

Parents, my in laws and people I care about greatly. Do you think for 1 nanosecond I'm going to let fear get in the way of my vision and my goals? We've all heard the saying and probably you've even posted this bullshit. The other side of fear is exactly what I want.

Yeah, but are you doing it?

Everyone can post this shit, but can you actually do the the work? When fear strikes, you got to make.

That call to that investor that you can't pay back. Right now you're tight, you're scared. Don't fucking run from it, lean into it. You got that person on your team that you got to let go. You should have let go six months ago, but you got to let go today because you don't have the money to pay them. What do you do with that fear? Are you going to be such a dickhead that you're going to string this individual along? You put them back in the work marketplace right now. Why?

Because the marketplace is still kind of good.

Six or seven, eight months is not going to be as good.

So you know that. So instead of you got to have that fear, that conversation that you're scared.

To have, we got to man up, step up your game, have the real man to man, girl to girl, guy.

To girl, whatever conversation you need to have today.

It's something you've been putting off way too long. You know, I see all these people buying all this crazy amazing cars, amazing watches, amazing houses, Cool. Why are you buying it? Because you're afraid to look broke. You're afraid to look stupid. You want to fit in.

You're distracted at all levels.

You're distracted.

You know it and I know it.

More importantly, your results speak for themselves.

We all, including me and everyone in planet Earth, can get better at less distractions. But I'm amazed that growing ass men and women that say they want something when fear strikes, they shut down. They minimize their dreams because it becomes scary. Who says it's not going to be scary? Do you ever remember that first date, that first time you had to ask.

That girl or guy on a date how scared you were? And then you do it. You're like, eh, that was no big deal.

I mean, what's the worst that could happen? Usually getting on a stage, speaking on stage, what's the worst that could happen? I get on stage.

I remember a time in, in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. My boy Jim Toner's having an event, 400 people or so maybe 500 plus as I walk up on stage, I. I literally took a piss 27 times before I got on stage. Like, you know, nervous peas. I'm literally about dry heaving in and.

I'm like, dude, I'm going to die.

When I step foot on this stage.

You understand? My heart's pounding. I think I might have to go to the hospital.

It feels like I'm literally like trying.

To talk myself out of it, but.

I'm really talking myself into it because.

I said, dude, your dreams, your goals are. They're bigger than this fear right now. Yes, it sucks. Suck it up, Evans. Suck it up. Get your ass out there. I was self talking myself all the way to the stage. As everyone's clapping, I get on stage, I turn around, I start talking. I don't even know what I said.

Nor did anybody else.

Why? Because I'm so fucking nervous. I didn't even turn on the microphone and they kept telling me to turn it on for three minutes. I didn't hear him, I didn't see him.

I was literally, I was like.

And I don't know what was happening, but I did was so bad. I was shaking so bad. Someone had to run on stage, just flip a button to turn on my mic. Who cares? I did it. I care. So I, I do this five over 500 plus people. I get off stage, people come like, dude, you are so real. So, man, everything you said made sense to me, blah, blah, blah. I was just hoping to get off stage without passing out or dying. And then guess what? I've done this hundreds of times now and I still get nervous, I'm still afraid. But my goals and my dreams and objectives are bigger than this little thing, my friend, called fear. Who's controlling your life? You or fear? Who is it? Fear is normal. It's healthy. Actually, it's very healthy. Everything you have in your life, you once were afraid of it. Like that big house payment, that big car payment. When you invested in that coaching course or mentor course or books or went to college or went on that first date or asked the person to marry you, or had the wedding or did these things, they're scary, but they also make you who you are. You realize it's not that big a deal, my friend. This is the difference with cowards and heroes. There's too many fucking cowards out in this world. We need more heroes. And I'm talking directly to you. I don't care what level you're at, but you need to step your game up. I'm Talking to me too. We can all learn and grow from what I'm sharing. With this coward versus hero mentality, fear is real. I recently had to let someone go, actually two people. It sucks. I was scared, but I have to be a leader to my team. If I don't lead, we're going to bleed. The company will dissolve, it will eventually die off. Who wants to follow a fucking leader that can't execute the vision?

No one.

You're leading them off to get mass, like, killed. We must be conscious of fear. This is why you're distracted. See, I hear everyone here, surface level, so, oh, I need to make money. I don't know what to do. No, you're distracted, but let's take that deeper. Why are you distracted? Fear is why you're distracted. Because if you're focused and you got a plan and you're executing relentlessly, you're not distracted. You don't have time to be distracted. You're too focused on the objective. It's like when you're riding a wave, right? You're out in the waves. I don't really do this because I'm afraid of sharks, but I do it because I'm going to Hawaii in about four weeks with the entire fam. I'll be out there on a board. I'm going out. There's a wave breaking. Fear sets in. I'm not a good swimmer. Do I stop, turn around and come back to shore while my kids do go right over and right through? Because on the other side of that break, the other side of that wave.

Is where all the heroes are hanging out. It's amazing, it's fun, it's beautiful.

I overcame my fear, rode the wave over, went through it, flipped over. Whatever happened, happened. But I got to the other side. Maybe you got to make big financial decisions you're afraid of. Execute. There's nothing noble than losing it all because you're afraid. Don't put your head in the sand. Get in the game. People are scared right now. They have no clue what's going on. They're not focused on the real shit. They're focused on phony shit. You're on this fucking Instagram. Blue check. Dude, if I told you all the people that owe me money, if I explained to you, like, all these guys and gals with blue check marks that talk about all this cool shit. Oh, yeah, man. I'm not sure what plane or car I'm gonna buy this week. Motherfucker, you owe me 120 grand. You can't even pay that but you're on social media with every all these other fake fuckers. Like, good job, Johnny. Yes. You got this heart power, bro. Yeah, man, you got. Keep going. I got you. They're leading you to death and you're letting them because you're distracted. You're unfocused on your goals, your vision, your purpose, your agenda. Don't you want to leave a fucking legacy worth leaving? Because you ain't gonna leave shit if you're not focused. Your children are watching, your grandkids are watching, your family's watching, your friends are watching. People are watching you. If I looked over your shoulder for 24 hours, what do I see? Because I know you look. Oh, yeah. You don't understand, man. It's hard, man. It's different from you. It's different from no motherfucker. We all got shit going on. We're all scared. Are you going to be a coward or hero? Today, tomorrow, the next day? Because fear does not go away, ever. It's always lingering. That's why you got to become a best friends with fear. Is fear driving you or shutting you down? Is it constraining your growth? I get it. I've been this guy for many years. I wanted to grow so big. But as soon as I got to a certain point, I got complacent. I got lazy. Why? Because it started getting scary again. And when it got scary, I didn't surround myself around great people to help me get past my fear. I didn't have anybody to talk to. If I'm talking to me in fear, Fear's a pretty big fucking person.

And it.

A lot of times it beat me. Not anymore. Because I know there's people that's been down the path, you and I. Even though you think your story's unique, there's many people have your story and more. But don't forget, you're unique in one way.

No one can be you.

You've been given an amazing gift to be alive to hear this message. The question is, what are you going to do with it? See, at the end of the day, I see too many fucking hokey pokey. Oh, dude, you gotta feel good. Some guy was messaging me, Mayo. How is it order of, you know, health, money and happiness? I'm like, dude, what the fuck are you talking about? I don't need money to be happy. It just makes me a happier person when I have more money though. Why? Because of what I do with it. What does happy mean to you? What does wealth mean to you? What does health mean to you? It means something different for all. But he's using his coward bullshit to justify his shitty non action results in his life. Fucking guys. Nine years deep with an injury and he's still using it as an excuse as to why he can't make money. He's like, well, maybe you didn't understand my question. No motherfucker, I understood your question. I understood it great. You don't understand the fucking question, homie. You don't.

I do.

He's looking for the golden goose. He's like, oh yeah, that's it.

Fear is controlling him all day long.

I can be healthy, I can be happy and I can be wealthy. Some days are working out better than others. But every day is a new day. Get your ass off the couch and go execute. It's not pretty. I was up at 2:30 this morning. I'm excited for what I got going on yesterday. Me and my wife woke up and said hey, after we just got back from Austin and all this other shit. Hey, remember we're supposed to take a week, a month somewhere.

Cool.

Yep.

Let's do it.

Now where do you want to go? Jamaica, Me heard the kids, all that boom. Schedule done. So I got a lot going on in my mind. This is an unexpected week trip that's happening tomorrow, literally within 48 hours. Not even that. 40 hours or less from the time the conversation happened to execution. So now all of a sudden, right, got a lot going on. See, the truth is, I've talked about.

This in several shows ago.

Most of you think you don't have enough time to accomplish what you're trying to accomplish.

I beg to differ. I think you have way too much fucking time. That's why you're distracted.

I don't have time to be distracted. I have a lot of families, a lot of people, a lot of stuff going on. They rely on me to lead, to make big decisions, to execute the vision. I don't have time to be distracted. Don't, don't think this is a hundred.

Percent, by the way.

See, that's another problem.

Everyone thinks everything everybody says is literal.

Well, if he does 100% and then you get down on yourself, when something flutters, we all up. We all get overtaken by fear sometimes. I get it. But listen, it's not how you feel.

It'S what you do. I feel fear every day. That's why I hire great coaches. I just hired someone recently. $10,000 a month for 90 minutes a month. Because I'm. I have a company that's growing massively and I'm scared. I'm scared to fuck it up for everyone involved. Because there's a lot of families feeding off this. And I want to be a great steward of this opportunity. There's people willing to help you if you're willing to get serious with yourself, me included. The Dealmaker alliance is there to help you. The Diem family, we're there to help you. They're both different, but they're both great. They connect you, they help you, they guide you. They're there for support. They're there to talk you off the cliff when you're scared. Like, dude, I'm scared shitless. I'm getting ready to spend a hundred thousand dollars a month on marketing. Am I stupid? Is this dumb? Is this reckless? Blah, blah, blah, blah. If anybody's ever interested in the DM family or DM alliance, you can always shoot me a message on Instagram or Facebook for that matter. Ark Evans dm. Make sure you know it's me. And just say DM alliance or DM family and I'll get you some information. I'm not here to sell you that. But the most of you aren't even going to do it anyways. Why? Because you're afraid. Thousand a month.

Oh my God. So much money.

If a thousand a month is a lot of money, that's fear telling you that's a lot of money. There's no fucking way a thousand dollars a month is a lot of money in any way, shape or form. It might be to you, but I promise you, new iPhone come out every month. Your ass would have a new iPhone every month for a thousand a month. Because you gotta have the next best thing. Gotta have the next new phone. Yeah, yeah, yeah. What's driving you?

Why are you so distracted? Why are you so weak that you.

Let a distraction control your destiny? It just goes to show. And I'm not here to beat you over the head with this shit. But this has to be said. I'm not here to be your friend today, nor am I ever actually. I'm here to help you. And the hard truth will set you free.

Today is the day you make the.

Decision.

To get your ass back on track.

To lean into fear.

To do the things you know you need to do. But you're afraid to do.

You know it. No one has to tell you. You're the one looking in that mirror, naked as fuck at yourself. Only you. What do you see? What are you talking about? Who's talking to you right now? Is it fear or is it the hero? Because Fear is always there. Fear's always there. Do you know how many days and how many, how many times a day I'm afraid?

Many.

Every time I push through fear, I get a little bit more confident, get a little bit more zing in my step. There's no leader out there that's ever not understand what I'm talking about. It's the only way to lead to the highest level. Do you think like a boxer or UFC guy, gal gets in a ring, they're not scared to death. They're in the back dry heaving and puking and their pants before they get.

I don't care who they are, Mike, any doesn't matter. They're human. We're all human.

But they don't tap out.

Too many.

What? What? Why I'm here today is so many.

People, so many great people that could change not just their world, many people's.

Worlds if they get out of the way of fear, overcome fear, push forward.

Jump over, get through it, keep driving, keep growing.

Too many great people are letting fear control them. And that's why I'm here today, to bring awareness to it. To kick you in the ass, hopefully piss you off. Hopefully piss you off enough you'll actually do something about it. I'd love to see nothing more than you to be massively successful, massively happy, massively, you know, healthy.

It doesn't not take away from me if you are all of that and more.

I'd love to hear your story.

I'd love to hear what you thought.

About this show today.

Because this show has been on my mind and my heart for many months.

And today I just had the balls to come out and say it. Because it really clicked when I saw all these amazing people sitting in that room with the same problem, distracted. And then you go deeper. Why are we distracted? Well, I'm kind of afraid. Afraid of what? Afraid of the market shift, afraid of doing this, afraid of hiring, afraid of firing, afraid of blah, blah, blah. Afraid of a blah blah, blah.

We got to get to the root.

If we want to solve the real problem. No more surface level. It's time to get to work. And I shared this on a quick talk from the walk. If you're not following me on ig, I'm sharing stuff all the day, all the time. But the quick walk from the walk today is this. You ready? This is the truth. Success is never convenient. And if it's convenient for you, I'd probably think you're not successful. Get pissed or do something about it. It's not Convenient. I have a million things going on. I made a commitment to my wife and family that will take at least one week a month for this whole month, this whole year, 2023, and go somewhere special. It's not convenient to leave right now. I got a lot of as soon this is the truth. This is my schedule. I get back on the 14th at 10pm I literally, the next morning, I got to be in an event with 15,000 people to speak at on the 15th at 8am and then I'm there on the 16th and 17th, and then I get in a plane on the 18th and go speak to another 150 people.

Keep in mind, I hate fucking flying.

But the destination's more important than the fear. The commitment's more important than the fear. And then I get back on the 19th late at night again, and then back on the 20th, I'm at it again. And then on April 8th, off to Hawaii, get back on the 20th of April and then get back and then leave. Back on the 28th to Ohio, come back on the 7th. I'm bouncing, growing, pushing, prodding.

Never convenient. Never. Like I'm scared shitless to fly. And if you're in the DM alliance, you know this because I shared letters that I share with my family before.

I even fly, every single time. I just want you to have the biggest, most amazing life possible. And I know it's not possible unless someone helps you overcome what we're talking about today. The way to start overcoming it. Understand what fear is, Understand what's driving the fear. And execute. To get over the fear. It won't be easy, it won't be convenient, it won't be fun. But it'll be worth it.

Execute.

Execute fear.

Execute.

Your confidence just keeps building and building and growing and pushing and prodding. And before you know it, we're sitting there on the back of the yacht smoking cigars, talking about this moment. Today's podcast will change someone's life. The question is, is it your life? So with that said.

In the doubt, he's closing deals. Time to tell him what the DM stand for. I'm a deal maker. A deal maker. But I'm not just a deal maker. I'm a drink dream maker. The journey's where it's at. It's all about the process. Time to get over to the DM project from a small town in Ohio, so I know how it is. Can I come from a lot of money. I remember as a kid, wanted to make a honey breath and see no one making more than that. Graduated high school with a 1.8 should have held me back. I hope my principals and teachers are alive just to witness this. I'm own boss. I'm out here running two way figure businesses. I can walk away from it all and I'll be good But I've been called to help people just like y' all learn the game. It's time to ball everybody chasing the money but I'm not chasing the money I'm out here chasing the purpose. Yo I've been working my whole life what got us where we at? Is it going to get us where we want to go? It's time to push time to learn time to grow I'm more g I'm here to helping teach him what I what I know and I how I did it to discover freedom There ain't no question mark Kevin's when he stepping the doubt he's closing deals Time to tell him what the DM stand for I'm a deal maker a deal maker But I'm not just a deal maker I'm a dream maker. The journey's where it's at. It's all about the process. Time to get over to the DM project I'm working here. Deal maker Deal maker maker Deal maker. Deal maker Deal maker.

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