EP 60: Giving Yourself PERMISSION To Succeed In Life And In Business?

Welcome to the Making of a dm. Have you given yourself permission to succeed in life and business? With that said, let's get started.

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Hey there, it's your boy, Mark Evans, dm. Welcome to another podcast show, the Making of a dm. Hey, I want to take a quick second and say thank you guys and gals very much. I got a lot of you reposting the shows with amazing messages. So seriously, thank you very much. And if you get a chance, if you haven't done so, hop over to itunes or wherever you listen to the podcast show and leave a five star review. It really helps people get more visibility to see the show and find more people that we can all connect with as a, as a whole. Guys, this is a community and a connection of high quality people. So again, thank you guys for the support, sharing and, and caring. It means a lot to me, for real. Today's show is going to be very powerful. I got a lot of cool stuff to share with you. I just got back. I'm sitting here in Parkland, Florida again, but I just got back from Lake Powell, hanging out with my buddy Sean Whan. Lion's not sheep. If you guys don't know him, who he is, you should check him out over on IG or Facebook. Lions not sheep. Buy some of his apparel. Support the vision and, and purpose and all that very cool stuff. But anyways, it's kind of cool. Sean and I met on social media. He messaged me or I messaged him. We kind of talked about that. We're not sure how it all started, but. And it wasn't about business. How we met is actually through a picture of cigars. I shot him a picture, he shot me a picture. And it's like, hey, what's up, man? Thinking about you. And it's just a picture of us smoking a cigar. His book called Making Shit Happen has sold over 600,000 copies. And there's two pictures in the book. One of him snapping a pic to me and one of me snapping a pic to him of how to connect with people in today's world and a lot of times in business. You know, I'm in real estate and I own a bunch of other companies and he does as well. A lot of times we think the way to get to people is talking business and this and that. The truth is find this is a tip, by the way. Find something they're passionate about. You know, a lot of times it could be charities. A lot of times it could be just simple cigars, maybe bourbon, maybe beer. I don't know what you're up to, but whatever it is, you could find a lot of cool ways to connect with people at a different level and get away from all the noise. So picture someone's calling me every day, dude, I need help, man. I need money, I need help, I need this, I need that, I need this, I need that. As opposed to like, yo, man, sitting out here by the pool, smoking a great stick, thinking about you, appreciate everything you've done, keep up the great work. Boom. You almost have to reply to that. I don't have to reply when you say, yo, man, I need money. Yo man, I need your help. Hey, do you have a buyer for this property or that or hey, man, I need, you know, my business is stuck at a million dollars a year. Can you help me get to 5 million a year? These are things that were never taught to me, ever. It's something I've done because I genuinely like people, for real. And I'm not saying that to be silly. I like people. I love to connect with people at a deeper level. Most people out there are very surface level driven that I've noticed and I've been a part of. I've seen it happen many, many, many times. So this is a great hack if you want to connect with people. Another great way is charity. Connect with people at a high level through charity. You understand? I know you're chasing the money. You're trying to build a business, you're trying to build your life, you're trying to make more money, which is cool. But there are another level of people out there that's accomplished high level things in business and life and that the financial, they have the financial resources, right? And what they're dreaming about and laying in bed thinking about is, how do I give back? See, how I grew up is I thought you, if you made a lot of money, you just made a lot more money and didn't do anything good with it. The truth is, everyone I know personally, we're trying to make a lot of money to give a lot of money away. And it's something we think about, we dream about, we write our goals about. See, right now you might be journaling like, I want to make A lot of money. There's someone else on the other side of that journal, journaling like, money's not my problem. I want to give away my wealth. I want to share. I want to help other people. And this is how I met Richard Branson. I donated to his mother's charity. So it's cool, right? Think about this. Richard Branson, billionaire. His mother has a charity and I donated to it. Me and Dina were hanging out with him and like 200 other people at a nice dinner. Celebrities galore. We're hanging out, talking to them, they're talking to us. We're seeing where they're at, what's going on. And it's neat to support someone else's vision. There's something really powerful to it. I'm not like best friends with them. But again, at the end of the day, if you want to deepen relationships, find what they're passionate about, find what's driving them. It's not money, by the way. Typically, very rarely is. It's going to be their purpose driven pieces, I. E. Charity. Find out what they're passionate about. Maybe it's kids, maybe it's the schoolwork, maybe it's art. You know, whatever it is, just say, hey, man, I'm thinking about you. It reminds me of a marketer. His name's Dan Kennedy. He and I've done this many times too. So that's why I'm thinking about it, because he's the one. I think that's who I learned it from, is back in the day, before the Internet, before cell phones could take pictures and all that. I would actually see news clippings in the newspaper and I'd cut it out and send it to people I thought about. Like I would send it to my buddy in New York. Hey, man, I see the New York real estate markets booming. This is an article written in Columbus, Ohio. Great job. Keep up the great work. I'm thinking about you. Just that second, that minute, they them receiving that letter really changes the relationship. He's still my buddy 20 years later. And I've done this many, many times. I'm not doing it just to be your buddy. I'm doing it because I genuinely are thinking about you. If we happen to become friends after that, cool. If not, it is what it is. I'll probably still be thinking about you eventually. So these are things that you can do. And how Sean Whalen and I met is, like I said, through social, through the cigar post. And then I'm in his book. He didn't even tell Me, I was in it. He actually launched it. And then I was just in it, and people started reaching out to me. And then through that process, I was in the Caribbean on a yacht, and I shot him a call and said, yo, man, why don't you hop in down here for three days with me and my fam? It'd be awesome hanging out on a yacht. It doesn't suck. Come down. And he said, I'm in. And within 24 or 48 hours, he flew in to the Caribbean. I had the dinghy pick him up. And the first time Sean and I met, it was on the back of a yacht. Him pulling up on the dinghy, me sitting on the back of the yacht, hanging out, ready to chill with them with the cigar. And that's how the story goes. And that's real. And he hit me up. He's. And by the way, we've been on the yacht multiple times now, and we've done a bunch of other stuff. But one interesting note, we've never done business together. We talk a lot of business. We talk about growth, we talk about life. We talk about, you know, how to be a better human being and this and that, but we don't. We. We. It's not that we don't want to. It's just. It's not something that's driving us to connect with, to do business. I don't need anything from him. He doesn't need anything from me. Those are usually pretty good relationships from my experience. So. Not to say we won't, because I know there's huge opportunities somewhere, but it's a timing thing. It is what it is. I'm not in a rush. He's not in a rush. And who knows? Maybe we'll never do business together. But one thing we will do together is we'll help support each other. We'll be there if we need a friend or a call, like, to connect. It's always real talk, too. It's not some fluffy, you know, bullshit like, oh, you're doing a great job. It's more like, yo, man, step your shit up. You know, you're slacking. And I think a lot of people are afraid that everyone says they want accountability until they're held accountable. Let me say it again, because this is a real thing. Everyone says they want accountability partners until they're held accountable, Right? So I see this all the time where people are like, dude, I need an accountability partner. Well, you have number one. If you're not accountable to yourself, you're in trouble already. And Number two, it's cool to have someone to connect with. But if your accountability partner is a slacker like you are, the accountability is only good as the accountable person to the situation. You following. So for me and you, what we need to realize is that you got to set a bigger goal. You gotta get bigger. I did a show about this. You know, most people are trying to lose five pounds. The accountability is lacking. If you're trying to lose a hundred pounds, accountability is a little bit different. You got your emotions, your actions, your efforts are drastically different. But as I digress, I want to share with you about Lake Powell. I've never been there. He called me up, he's like, yo, man, you want to come out? I was like, yep, I'll be there a week later. Me and my fam's there. A couple things I do, and I just want to share this. This isn't meant to be douchey, by the way. I'm just sharing with you my thoughts about taking care of people. So we have a nanny and we have a homeschool teacher, and when we take a vacation, we pay them. We pay them to be off. I do that because, one, they didn't make the vacation. We made it. And two, when you have great people in your life, you want to keep them around in your life. And a lot of people, especially in those roles, would leave, right? They're like, I can't handle the, you know, not making 800 a week or whatever the number is. I don't even know what it is, but whatever it is. So instead of, like, I see so many people nickeling and diming them way to great people. Like, dude, I want a players. I want amazing people in my life, but all their actions are C level at best. And you got to stop for a minute and put yourself in their shoes. They're working hard. They're showing up every day. They're working 40 hours a week or whatever hours a week. And are you getting the results you want? It's either yes or no, by the way. And if it's yes, you got to figure out how to make them a part of your family. You got to make sure that they're taken care of because they're taking care of you and your family. And this is not what I used to do. I used to do like, dude, that's just the babysitter. No big deal. Don't pay him. This is a long, long time ago. But now, like, understanding. It's a very amazing gesture, creates amazing connections at a whole nother Level with your team. She loves our kids. The kids love her. Why wouldn't we want her to be financially happy? See, this is not about just money. It's about the relationship. It's about the longevity of the relationship. And when you find a people, A plus people, you better keep them around because it's few and far between. So I see a lot of you guys and gals that have great people in their lives, but always make money a thing. And then when money becomes a thing, they go away. So make money, not a thing. Focus on the results of what they're getting you and make sure it's, you know, like what you expect or where you want to be. That's just a side note, but as we go to Lake Powell on the jet with the kiddos, I start I like, I don't know about you guys, but when I travel my mind's thinking a little bit differently. So I have my notebook, I'm on the jack, kids are running around under my feet, you know, hanging out, whatever they do, eating Cheez, its everywhere. But I start thinking about, I'm on a jets $50,000 for this flight, right? And again, this isn't bragging, these are facts. But who gave me permission to spend $50,000? 47, eight to be exact. But round up for 50 GS. Who gave me permission? Who gave me permission to leave my company for a week without cell phone reception, without Internet connection, I have zero contact with the team. Who gave me permission to do that? Who gave me permission to be able to hang out with my family and disconnect, to reconnect? Who gave me permission to leave at that next level? Right? Kind of what we're talking about. The number one thing I see people not succeeding at the level they could is they're not giving themselves permission to do the things they want to do, do the things that they've been dreaming of. So I want to ask you a couple questions here. Do you deserve success? Seriously, do you deserve success? Do you deserve amazing friends? Do you deserve amazing health? My goal in life is to help people stop struggling. And unfortunately I talk to people every day struggling at all levels. See, a lot of times most are looking for permission. But the question is, who are you calling to get permission from? Who do you ask for permission? Number one, let me just be very crystal clear. You don't need fucking permission from anybody but yourself. Let's just be clear on that. However the world we live in, we live in a world from outside influence of permission. Like, hey Mark, do you think this is a good idea. Yeah, it is. Hey Mark, you think I'm getting ready by a Rolls Royce Wraith? What do you think? Yes, Buy it. Hey Mark, I'm thinking about taking a trip with my family for a week to connect. What should I do? Take the fucking trip. But make sure you do a first class style. Who's giving you permission? Most of you are calling your friends or asking family members that don't have what they want. The truth is you're asking permission from others that's never given themselves permission to be fucking amazing. Do you understand that? Picture this, you're sitting there trying to make an investment of $40,000 in something yourself, probably. And you're going to ask a person that might make that in a year about what they think about this. Oh, it's a scam. Jesus. If that's works so well, why is it only 40 grand and blah blah blah, whatever horseshit they say. And you could listen to them and actually believe them. So you have to be careful who you ask permission from. Absolutely careful. I would never ever, and I love my parents to death, I would never ever, ever call them and say, hey dad, I'm thinking about buying a $5 million house. What do you think? He couldn't even wrap his head around it, let alone give me fucking permission to do it. His permission would be excuses and protection. My permission is, if not me, then who? If not now, then when? If not why? You know why. Why not me? I'm not saying go out here and be reckless, by the way. I'm talking about awareness. See, for me to take that flight, true story is when I first took my jet, I was scared. I did not feel like I belonged. I felt like, why in the hell am I doing this? I'm being naive, I'm being silly. I'm taking advantage of a situation, my kids. I could use that money somewhere else, in so many other places. I could donate it and help people. And then here's what I really did. I just started asking a different question. Why can't I do both? Why can't I do both? Why do I have to put myself through fucking misery to give away? Who am I asking permission for and why? When I was on the jet for the first time, like I said, I was scared, overwhelmed, frustrated. But why can't I do both? Entrepreneurs, people in general tend to put themselves through misery. I have a lot of entrepreneur guys I've helped over the years. Many hundreds if not thousands of guys and gals. And one of the number one things I See is most entrepreneurs I work with are amazing people. They truly want to give at the highest level. They're really building it for themselves and their family. But what's always interesting to me is very little of them have exactly what they want because they've genuinely never given themselves permission to be able to get what they want. So, for example, I have a group called the DM Family. It's 35 grand a year, about to be 50 grand a year, small group, 33 guys. And we're talking about this particular subject as of now, one guy is very wealthy, has enough money, he could do this in his sleep, but he's never given himself permission to be able to pull the trigger on this one thing. And this one thing is a Lamborghini. He wants to buy a new Lamborghini, and he wants to buy a cool second house on the beach. Costs millions of dollars. The Lamborghini is 300,000, let's say. And he's asking, what should we do? What should I do? Well, you guys know my answer. I know this guy's situation. He's very selfless. Not selfish, but selfless. And it's like, dude, buy the fucking Lambo. Next question. What color is it? What's the stitching look like? Which model are you getting? What year? Blah, blah, blah, blah. Right? That's where I instantly go to. So it's interesting to me, an entrepreneur could be dreaming about something for 20 years and never get and be able to get it, be able to accomplish the dream, but yet never pulled the trigger because they've not given themselves permission. Here's what they instantly move to. Well, what will others think? Answer, who gives a fuck? I can't. I don't care what you think. I don't control you. FYI, you control you. I don't. I could give two fucks if what you think about me, period. I don't care if I drive a Pinto, a Ferrari, a Bugatti, whatever. It doesn't matter to me what you think. By the way, everyone has an opinion, right? Most don't count. Actually, none do, but. Except mine. But permission. And then he says, okay, I get that a little bit, but what does it say about me? Am I being naive? Couldn't I take this money and put into an investment? Yeah. The answer is always yes. See, this is the catch 22. The answer's always yes. You can put it in another investment. But the next question on that is, what does that mean? And why can't I do both? See, it's not this or that. It's why can't I do both? Why can't I do it all? Why are you even here if you're not trying to do it all anyways? The people that do it all are the ones that are giving themselves permission at the right time or actually at all times. You can be healthy, you could be wealthy. You could be amazingly impactful. The truth is, when he buys this Lamborghini, he will literally make more money to be able to give more money away. Why? Because Lamborghinis, exotic cars in general, typically attract eyeballs. Yeah, but Mark isn't that shallow. No, you're fucking shallow if you think that's shallow to me, it's inspiring to me. It says, I have balls, I have grit. I've worked my ass off to get this car. It's all how you frame it. What do you see when someone pulls in a Lambo? I see hard work and effort. I see determination. I see someone actually living their dream. You don't buy a fucking Lamborghini because it's not your dream. You buy it because it is your dream. See, that's what I love about exotics. I've been buying nice cars. Really? Like, I've always been a car guy, right? Or a watch guy, or whatever. Funny thing is, here's what happened. This is a true story. I'm telling you about the guy with the Lambo, and then he's talking about his house, which is cool, whatever. And then the next day, we message him like, yo, dude, you in motion on this Lamborghini. See, we're holding him accountable. He's like, man, me and my big mouth. Ah, see, that's the problem. You, you talk to guys like us, we're going to make sure you get results. It's not your big mouth. It's your small mindset that's holding you back. Two different things. See, you're not taking. You're actually getting. And then he says something very interesting. And I've seen this happen multitudes of times in my life. I've done this myself. So I'm not knocking. I'm talking about real talk. He said, man, I think I just like watches better, actually. Huh. Well, why the didn't we talk about that then? So what this is called? It's called downplaying a situation because you're being held accountable to something that's scaring the holy out of you. See, he can fathom spending 30 G's on a watch, but he can't fathom spending $300,000 on a car. Isn't it too flashy? Isn't this. Blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, dude, here's the thing is, buy both or none. Oh, man, you're busting my balls. No. Buy both or none. You can afford both. You can do both. But why are you now downplaying. The thing is. He thinks he's downplaying it. I'm actually adding to it. Buy the Lambo and buy the 30k watch. Buy them both. You just cost yourself an extra 30 grand for opening up your big mouth. And when you do these things, guys, again, if you ask your spouse, typically Jews, oh, my God, we can't afford that. Or your friends from high school that are barely skimming by, or people around you that have given up on their dreams. They don't even dream anymore. You don't have to fucking believe me. Go ask them what their dreams are. Go ask your best, closest friends what their dreams are, what their goals are. Oh, man, I just hope I get the raise this month. That ain't a dream. That ain't a goal, by the way. That's a wish. My dad always told me, wish in one hand, in the other, and see which one fills up first. See if you desire this. These are dreams without action steps. You have to. I'm.

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I have so many big dreams. True story. When I was in Lake Norman. Lake Norman? Lake Powell. Lake Norman's amazing, too. In North Carolina as well. But Lake Powell out in Page, Arizona. We closed on a new house here in Florida. It's not the house that I want, but there's no houses that I want on the market. And I have people messaging them, trying to buy them. But we paid cash for another house. I couldn't call my dad and say, hey, dad, I'm paying cash for another. He'd be like, oh, my God. How does anybody afford to do that? What are you talking about? Are you crazy? You already have another house. Like, it's always something, right? And I'm not knocking him or them. You gotta understand, this is my life, and I barely understand it. I'm still learning from it. How can I expect them to get it right? But it's cool because technology's allowed us to do. I wired the money days before my team was able to initiate the contracts, get the insurance set up, and close the deal out. Why I'm there with no Internet, no wifi, no cell phone service, nothing except time to think. I gave my permission to live in the place we live in. I gave my permission to buy the house in Ohio with 14 acres. Because I didn't want to deal with the shit around me at the other house. I gave my permission myself. Permission to drive the Rolls Royces, to have the nice cars, to have the nice houses, to take the cool trips, to take the jet when I want. None of this happens without giving yourself permission, by the way. The car you're driving, the house you live in, the things where you go to dinner, all that. You've given yourself permission to have those things. You know that, right? Or it wouldn't even happened. Have you even put any thought into why you live in a shitty house or have a shitty car? When I had shitty cars and shitty houses, I. I gave myself permission to buy those shitty things. But the extra side of that coin is I actually made it sound normal. I normalized shittiness to protect my ego. You've got permission from me and people way beyond us to live the life of your wildest dreams. To buy any car you could ever imagine. To buy any yacht you've ever imagined, to buy any house you've ever. And again, it's not materialistic. If you think it's materialistic, that says more about you than me. I'm just using these as examples. Go give bigger to a charity. We just gave over almost $300,000 away. When I'm paying cash for a house the same week to help 500 people in a country in Haiti that I'll probably never ever meet. Because I know we gotta give back. If I can't give back with a little, I can't give back with a lot. These are the things that run through my head. But I've given myself permission to give at a bigger level. Do you understand, folks? Three hundred fucking thousand dollars. Where I'm from, my parents don't even have that in their life savings. The retirement, not even actually. Probably like 20% of that. And I just gave it away to help people I'll never meet in a country I don't even live in. This isn't bragging. This is the facts. Permission to live the life of abundance. How do you walk around saying you're fucking abundant when all your action steps are minimalist? You minimize them all. You don't have to believe me. Look at your checking account. Look at your house, look at your cars. Look at where you're vacationing. Look at your thought process when you book shit. Look at your thought process when you go to give. I'm not saying this shit's easy. It's taken me years to figure this out. I'm still trying to figure it out. I'm still trying to think, oh my God, I made that commitment. Commit and execute. Permission, commitment, execution. When you do this, things start opening up to a whole other level. A level that you probably don't even know it exists. When do you get sick and tired of being sick and tired? When do you say, enough's enough? I'm busting my ass for all of this. I'm not saying go out there and cause financial distress. I'm saying pay attention and put stress on different environments where you can grow. If you can make a million a year, why can't you make 10 million a year? If you can make 100 grand a year, why can't you make a million a year or 500 grand a year? And then a million and then 2 million and then 20 million? It's because you haven't given yourself permission to unlock the doors that allow that thought process to become a reality. This sounds so simple, but yes, so complex. Are you giving yourself. I've seen this at the smallest levels. I'll go to dinner specifically with people I love the most. My parents or family members. We'll sit down at a nice steakhouse. Actually, I got a cool story to share with you in a second about this, but a cool steakhouse. And I have to tell my dad to order from the left side of the menu, not the right. What's on the left side, Mark? Glad you asked. It's the meal that you want. What's on the right side? The price. Dad, get the filet. I'm not paying $62. Well, number one. Dad, you're not paying for it. I am. Well, I'll just settle for the boom. Always settling. I'll take the T bone, I'll take the whatever steak. It's less. It's. Mark, it's only steak at the end of the day, I'm going to enjoy either one. Dad, what do you want? Not what can you afford? Not. What do you think you can afford? Not what you think you want to settle for? What the fuck do you want? Folks, this is real. What are you not giving yourself permission to do every single day? Every day. My mom's mom's in town, we call her Mommy Jeannie. She hasn't been to town in many, many, many years. At my parents house in Ohio as I'm speaking to you. Today's Friday when I'm recording this, and Saturday, I asked my mom. I'm like, mom, I'm not in town, obviously, I'm in Florida. I was like, hey, what do you want me to do for you guys? What can I do to make. Give you guys a great day, great experience, great time? Whatever it is, you tell me. Well, number one, I have to follow up 23 times on it because my mom, I don't. We don't need anything, right? We're just hanging out. Cool. What do you would like to do? And then after a lot of probing and pushing, I said, hey, here's what we're gonna do. We're gonna get you a car service. And you know, because my mom, my dad, my aunts and my mother, my grandmother take them out and they want to go and travel, like go up an hour and a half to this place called Washington Courthouse, see her family, her grave, her parents, graves that she's never seen. And just a lot of stuff, right? Just family stuff. And I called my assistant, I said, hey, let's get him a limo for the next. Well, I don't care if it's six hours or 10 hours or 100 hours, whatever, just make it needs to be at the house Saturday at 11am, pick them up, and then give them the all the full experience. So we got the limo, we're getting the limo. It's already gotten. Pick them up tomorrow at 11am and then I was like, well, what else could you want, Mom? I was like, she's like, well, I'd love to go to Hyde Park. And Hyde Park's a really nice steakhouse that I have, I've been going to for many, many years. I love that place. And my boy Paul is one of the servers. He's been there forever. He served me many, many times and many people have sent to Ohio. And I was like, dude, like, get with Paul, my assistant, and make sure we can get him in at 5 o'. Clock. And he serves them and I'm paying, obviously, and doing all this stuff. So it's like I've given myself permission to invest a couple thousand dollars for my mom and her mom and my aunts and my father to go have a relaxed day, something they would never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever do. They're not renting a limo. They're not. They're not going to a nice steakhouse and spending $700 for dinner. They would never do it. It's not even a thought in their brain. They don't. They don't even know that place exists until I introduce them to it. So seriously, I'm not being silly. That's the truth. So when they go, like, again, it's like, I've given myself permission to share my blessings with other people I care about. I'm trying to think about how to give them experiences that make them, you know, come like, holy cow, there's another world out there. I want my dreams to become their dreams, the guy to show them what's possible. And I do this with family, I do this with friends. I mean, it's again, we live in a massive, abundant world. Yesterday we were on a yacht with 12 other entrepreneurs, investors and business owners across the country. You know, we do that once in a while. It's $5,000 a ticket for one day, eight hours, literally from 10am to 6pm on a yacht. We're hanging out, just talking shop, having some drinks, got the chef there, the food's coming out, the drinks are flowing, the jet skis cranking, that sandbar is rolling out. And if this is something that ever interests you, I don't, I don't have anything scheduled on this yet, but like send me a message over on Instagram and saying, yacht trip. Send me details and then my team will put you on a list and when we're ready to have a yacht trip, we'll let you know. But it is five grand. And the reason I bring that up is like, we get people that will say, hey man, I'm in. And then when we present it to them, they're like, oh, well man, you know, that's kind of too close to what I got going on. It's like, well, what's too close? Well, I need at least three weeks. Three weeks to do what? Three weeks to plan a one day trip. See, if you, if it takes you three weeks to plan a one day trip, you have bigger problems. You don't have a company. Right. It's impossible. All entrepreneurs, I know you could call us up today, we could be somewhere else tomorrow. Obviously something's pending, but like, we're very flexible because we're business owners. We have thing, we, we have teams, we have structures, we have an infrastructure, we have CEO, coo, cfo, accounting. Like, I mean, it's a business and if you don't have that, that's why you need to be on the yacht, because that's the shit we're talking about. If you're struggling with pain points, struggling with staff, struggling with these things, like you go on a yacht, give yourself permission to invest $5,000 in yourself, show up for a day on a yacht. Yes, the yacht's a cool thing, but the real truth is the $5,000 investment says more about you than the Act. It's the action because you've given yourself permission to invest in yourself. You're worth $5,000, aren't you? I hope the answer is yes. The yacht and the conversations and the people you're around will just be an extra bonus for what you're about to embark upon. Do you think if you invested five grand in yourself for one day and there was 11 other guys that did the same thing, that the conversations and what would we would talk about and such would be beneficial financially to you. The struggles you have might not be struggles at all with the right people. The conversations that you have at home as opposed to the conversations you have on the back of a $7 million yacht with 11 other guys could be life changing. How do I know? Because I've done it twice and I've seen it happen. Every single time. Every single person on the boat, literally three minutes into it, they're like, holy shit, I could not imagine if I missed this just within three minutes. Then we have lunch, then we have conversation around the top and then we're jet skiing and you know, like smoking cigars, drinking whatever. And things change. The biggest thing that's changed is they've given themselves permission to take the next step. I'm not saying it's easy. I'm not saying you won't be scared. I'm not saying you won't doubt it often. But lean into it, don't avoid it, don't run from it. Because here's something me and my boy Matt were talking about when we were working out this morning is after we go and say sold out, the yacht trip. Sold out. We get bombarded. Bombarded. Dude, I'll be on the next one, man. I just saw this, man. Well, no you didn't, dickwad. You've looked at the stories for the last week. I know you have because I see your face on there and you've commented multiple times. You're just being a pussy, protecting your ego, saying this out loud, acting like you're going to step up and do something. See, people that do don't have to say they're too busy doing. We don't have time to talk about it. We're too busy fucking doing it. So next time you catch yourself wanting, hey, man, I'll be on the next one. Sure you will. Sure you will. Why the fuck weren't you on this one? Well, man, you don't understand. I don't need to understand. You do. And the real truth is it comes down to permission. Very few people have given themselves Permission to invest in themselves. Very few people have given themselves permission to take this step to the next level. They all talk about it, they all act like they're doing it, but very few actually do. And when you catch yourself talking about it, just to talk about it. To talk about it. No, that's the people that typically never step up. Why? Because they're too busy talking about it. I don't have time to talk. We're too busy doing. We've given ourselves permission to fail. We've given ourselves permission to succeed. We've given ourselves permission to become who we need to become to get what we want. The question is, are you doing that? Are you willing to do it? Actually invest in yourself? Why do you think the DM family pumps out amazing people day in and day out, year after year? It's because they've all given themselves permission to invest $35,000 a year, about to be 50, to get to the next level. When you unlock that door, there's no turning back because you really, truly believe abundance at the next level. It's most talk about it, but when you do it, you actually experience it. When do you say, enough's enough. I'm done talking. I just want to start doing. Lean into it. It's going to be scary, it's going to be overwhelming, it's going to be frustrating sometimes. But the truth is, at the end of the day, it's the only way to get to the next level. And then once you get to that level, you have to keep pushing on it again. There's another level in the level and then another level on that level. It never stops until you die. For guys and gals that want to keep pushing the boundaries, I want you to know, at the end of the day, you're worth so much more than you think you are. You really are. You're an amazing human being. If you listen to this show, period, you have a fucking edge. You're an amazing human being. I know we all have our flaws. Maybe you've done bad shit. We all have. Get over it. But what you do with the today, tomorrow and beyond, you have a choice. You have that decision to make. And I'm giving you permission to step outside of your comfort zone. I'm giving you permission to. To lean into this, to the next level, to grow to where you can grow. I'm giving you permission to dream bigger than you've ever dreamed. I'm giving you permission to buy your dream house, your dream car, your dream watch, your dream ring for your spouse, whatever the fuck you want? I'm giving you permission. If it exists in your brain, there's a reason. It's not by accident. And I want to just be crystal clear before we depart today, when I'm giving permission to buy the Lamborghini, for example, buy it because you want it, not because of what others will think. Genuinely, I don't care what you think. Some will think it's cool cool. Some will think it's douchey cool. I don't care. It doesn't hold any weight. So when I say, give yourself permission to dream big and go big and do big, do it for you, and what it will help you do, it doesn't matter about the other people or the outside influence. It matters about you. And when you really start opening up and understanding it, no one gets like, dude, everyone's talking shit. Who cares? Let them do what they do. They're shit talking. I'm dealmaking. You have my permission to crush it, grow it, build it, execute at the next level. And give yourself permission to invest in yourself. Give yourself permission to get in the right rooms. Give yourself permission to become a better husband, a better wife, a better spouse, a better brother, better sister, better lover, better health. You have the permission to do all these things. Don't settle. Do not settle. And again, I urge this with massive warning. Be careful. If you're asking for permission from others, please, please be careful who you ask permission from. Very ultra. Few have given themselves permission to be amazing, to get what they want. Don't let your dreams die. You need new dreams. How do you get new ones? Accomplish the ones you have today. Buy the Lambo. You realize you want a Bugatti. Buy the Bugatti, you realize you want the Enzo. It's not about chasing the next thing. It's about building you who you become through the process, through the journey. And I'm excited for you and I appreciate you being here. Please share the show. Please let me know, keep me posted with your journey and let me know what you're willing to give yourself permission to accomplish in the next 30 days. I'd love to hear it. Thinking about you, rooting for you. Appreciate you being here. Have an amazing day.

I'm Mark Kevin's deal. I'm here to help and teach him what I know and how I did it, to discover freedom. There ain't no question Mark Kevin's when he stepping the doubt, he's closing deals. Time to tell him what the DM stand for. I'm a deal maker, a deal maker. But I'M not just a deal maker I'm a dream maker the journey's where it's at it's all about the process Time to get over to the DM project from a small town in Ohio so I know how it is Can I come from a lot of money I remember as a kid wanted to make a honey rack didn't see no one making more than that Graduated high school with a 1.8 but it should have helped me back I hope my principal and teachers are alive just to witness this I'm my own boss I'm out here running two way figure businesses I can walk away from it all and I'll be good But I've been called to help people just like y' all learn the game it's time to ball everybody chasing the money but I'm not chasing the money I'm out here chasing the purpose yo I've been working my whole life what got us where we at Is it gonna get us where we wanna go? It's time to push Time to learn, time to grow I'm over giving DM I'm here to help and teach him what I what I know and how I did it to discover freedom There ain't no question mark Kevin's when he stepping the doubt he's closing deals Time to tell him what the DM stand for I'm a deal maker a deal maker But I'm not just a deal maker I'm a dream maker the journey's where it's at it's all about the process Time to get over to the DM project.

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