187: Energy anchors: using what you’ve got to attract what you want, ft. Jude Daunt

Hello everyone, welcome back to another episode of Canny Crystals, the podcast. My name is Mart Tweedy, I'm your host, and this week's going to be a little bit different than usual. So earlier in the week, I had a sit-down chat with Jude Daunt, who has been on the podcast before. She is a life coach, she has the Unbreakable Mindset Academy, she's just amazing. And she's recently been to see Esther Hicks. And for those of you that don't know, Esther and Jerry Hicks were a married couple. I think Jerry's dead now, but Esther channels this spirit called Abraham, and she gives life advice basically tells you how to manifest your best life and stuff like that. So I thought that the chat was so good with Jude that I actually asked her for the recording because there are some real key nuggets in this chat. So we covered a whole host of topics on this podcast episode, but the main one was about finding an easy existing match when we try to manifest, using memories, objects, scents, and even music to instantly shift your energy and align with what you're trying to manifest. So it's almost like instead of forcing a new vibration, we were trying to talk about how to tap into our feelings that we've already experienced, you know, like joy, abundance, pride, love, and use those as energetic anchors to help us attract more of what we want. So, you know, whether it's a bracelet that reminds you of a milestone, a diffuser scent from a key moment in your journey, or a song that just lights you up, it's those simple tools that can help us to reconnect with our power in an instant. So we also talked about, you know, how manifestation isn't always about the next big leap and how sometimes it's just about noticing how far you've already come. And by consciously surrounding yourself with things that remind you of your growth, you then stay grounded in gratitude and you open the door to more. So this episode is a huge reminder that your proof is all around you and the energy you need is already within you. Okay, so I'm going to hand over to Jude now. This is the recording. I'll be back at the end. Hope you love it.

So, Mart, I just want to know from you first of all, because you're somebody who knows about Abraham Hicks. Yeah. What would be your question to me from me going to it in terms of what would you want to know if we were sat having a coffee now, which we both are because we both make cups of coffee before we sat down? What would be your questions to me before we get into the key tool or technique, the takeaway?

Well, first of all, I would probably want to know if she's just like she is on YouTube and stuff like that. Because when you said that you were going to Esther Hicks, because you sent me a photo on your WhatsApp and I saw it on the night, and I even Googled to see where it was because I was like, oh my God, Esther Hicks. And I was like, oh, it's in Edinburgh. And then I was like looking at what it was and stuff. And I just thought, I wonder if she'll just sit there and just invite the audience to get up one by one and ask questions, or if she'll actually do like a seminar or something. Like, I wasn't entirely sure. So what kind of concept was it?

What would you, what would you have prepared for if you were going to it? What would you have been thinking?

Probably how it was on YouTube.

I was thinking, right, I've got me notebook, I'm gonna be making loads of notes, she's gonna tell us step 1, step 2, step 3, step 4. I'm gonna have a total step-by-step process of how Abraham tells you to manifest.

See, I just assumed that, you know, she would just be answering questions because that's what she does, she channels Abraham. And obviously because she channels Abraham, it's like his wisdom. So it's just constantly like, you know, just her giving advice to people. So she is like an Agni Ant but with, you know, the answers from above basically.

She came on stage as Esther and introduced the— to us like, you know, has anyone ever been here before? There was a couple of people put their hands up, but everyone was very, very new. But what I will say is, which I think I talk about in the episode on Tuesday, that energy in that room was nothing like I've ever experienced. As soon as she walked on stage, I thought I was going to burst into tears. And that— I mean, I love the woo-woo, but I'm not that woo-woo.

Yeah.

Oh my God, the energy was so strong in that room. It was unbelievable. It definitely felt like there was something else in that room other than humans, if that makes sense.

Oh, okay.

That's interesting. Yeah, it really did.

Do you know, I've heard a couple of other people say that as well, because, you know, Alicia, Alicia Bradley from the Beauty Growth Academy—

she went to the Amsterdam one, didn't she?

She went to Amsterdam with Mandy, and Mandy was on my podcast a few weeks ago talking about it, and she said the atmosphere is electric and it's almost as though you could feel something spiritual in the room with you.

100%. And I wasn't expecting it, so it wasn't like I made it up in my head. And I was saying on my Monthly Manifest this morning in the group, I was saying If I'd been in a bad mental headspace, like, I don't know, say like something, something happened in life, or I'm really desperately trying to manifest something, if I'd been in that space, then I could have understood the emotion that I was feeling because I would have been like expecting so much from it that it was almost like a release that someone was coming and going to give me the answers. Yeah, I wasn't in that headspace at all. If anything, like, I was in the best headspace I've ever been. Like, if we think of, you know, if we think of alignment, which I'm definitely going to do this as a skill where we're talking through it, if we think of alignment as 10 is those moments where manifestation is easy and you're just like, tick, tick, tick, everything's getting moved off that vision board and you're putting new stuff on. It's like those beautiful times of alignment. That's a 10. And 0 is, oh my God, it's awful. It's like you're getting more of what you don't want. It's like the worst space. You want to manifest the thing, but you get more of what you don't want. That would be 0. I would say I was definitely at a 10 when I went to it. So the fact that she came on stage and I was emotional, I was like, Whoa, where's this come from? Like, this is weird. And then I came out and there was a break, and I said to my husband, that was really weird. Like, when she came on stage, I thought I was going to cry. And he went, yeah, it was a weird energy, wasn't it? And that's not my husband. Like, he's not like that at all. He's not woo-woo. And he was like, yeah, there was a weird energy, wasn't there? You could feel it. So, so there was definitely that.

You say he's not woo-woo, but doesn't he have a copy of The Secret when you first met him?

Oh yeah, absolutely. But then I think, yeah, but there's plenty of entrepreneurs who believe in law of attraction who aren't woo-woo. Yeah. Who, you know, just have those goals in life but know that, you know what, they can ask the universe and it would get delivered because that's how Law of Attraction works. I think there are a lot of men who, who believe in it. Yeah, who aren't woo-woo, and he's definitely one of them. Okay, so, so coming back to it, sorry, yes, you're absolutely right, that's exactly what it was. It was very much the YouTube style videos that you see where she literally just— people put the hand up and she would pick it. What was really strange though, which I couldn't get my head around, is you didn't know she was picking you. She'd go, "Right, no, sit down. No, not you, not you." Whereas it would have been much easier if she'd said, "Pink top, right?" But she didn't. And I don't know if that was because it was the spirit. Like, I don't know. It was really weird because I remember saying to Luke, like, it would have been so much quicker if she'd said, "The girl in the pink top." But she'd just have to keep saying, "No, no, no, sit down. No." 'You, you stand up.' That was really weird.

I think that was probably like Abraham speaking through her and just thinking, 'I've got a message for this person, they need to be heard.' Yeah, Esther never talks at all throughout the two days unless she's introducing it.

Yeah, yeah, that was it. And the rest was all through Abraham. It was surreal. Like, even as I'm saying it to you now, I'm like, that is mental. Yeah, we were talking to a spirit anyway. It was really, really good. What I found was that she gave answers, but they weren't specific to the people who were asking the question, which again, she does on the YouTube video, which is great because then it's relevant for everyone rather than the specific question that was asked. But my question throughout, and Luca was nervous. He was like, I can't believe you put your hand up. You're seriously going to go out. I feel sick about you. And I was like, no, I'll be fine. I think you would have been hand up, hand up, hand up throughout the whole day, wouldn't you? Yeah, yeah, you would have known your question weeks in advance. I didn't. It just came to us, and I was like, do you know what? I'd love a simple process that I could pass on to people that helps them to go from 0 to 10. Because that zero space is one of the most painful places to be. It's like if you're trying to manifest money, all you can see is debt, isn't it? All you can see is that fear of not having money. If you're trying to manifest a relationship hip, all you can see is the fact that you're on your own.

Like, it's like our brains are wired to just go straight to that scarcity mindset because it's a protection mechanism.

It is. But when you're in that space of abundance and things are going really well, it's just easy. It just is. And it's like, you just— it's like a smile, isn't it? It's like, it's just lovely and it feels so good. And, and it's funny because like everyone that was on Monday Manifest today, what I was saying I was asking them to do this process that I'm going to go through with the listener, and I was asking them to think of a good thought. And every single one of them was like, oh, well, that's easy. Like, I'm in such a good place right now. Like, every single one of them was in such a good place right now that they're getting more of what they want. And that's the difference, isn't it? It's like when you're in alignment, oh my God, do you know you're in alignment? You get that space at the supermarket, you get a refund on something, you get Karen, who's in it, was saying like everywhere she went she was getting free things on holiday. Like whether it was a free bottle of water, free room upgrade, like she was getting free desserts, like she was just getting everything free. And it's like, that is alignment, you know, that is alignment. You're just constantly getting more and more abundance, you know. You might think of somebody and you get in touch with them, but the hardest bit is going from 0 to 10. It's like 0 is like a prison of your own making, and you're so frustrated and you're so sad because although you're desperately trying and you're probably manifesting, you really, really want that, I don't know, 10 grand a month or whatever it is, but you know for a fine fact that every single thought you're having outside of that ask and it is given, you're having is, oh my God, but what if? Oh my God, but what if? It's all of that, isn't it? It's like the worst space to be in. And so what I wanted was like an easy step process. How do you go from 0 to 10? How do you go from feeling so anxious to, oh my God, it just feels good. Alignment. It's like sun on your face. It's all that. And although nobody asked that directly, she definitely gave that answer in various forms. And what she talked about was trying to find an easy existent match. So everything she's saying, or Abraham saying rather, isn't anything new, I guess. It's just every time she says it, and again, if you listen to the YouTube video, she's just saying it in a different way so it lands differently for the person that's asked.

That she overcomplicates things sometimes, like, like what you were saying, like she'll give a really roundabout answer. Whereas I listen to people, you know, like Denise Duffield-Thomas, who probably regurgitates the same information, but in a much more concise and relatable way. And I love Denise for that because, you know, I'm part of Money Bootcamp and I've learned so much about this kind of topic through the same teachings. But it's Denise's way. It's like two people can tell you the same bit of information, can't they? But we all learn differently, we all learn from different perspectives. So it's like, I can watch a whole hour of Abraham Hicks and think, what the hell was that? What was she—

yeah, yeah, my mind starts to wander.

Yeah. And then I can listen to a 30-minute episode of Denise talking about the same podcast and have so many little spiritual downloads or thoughts. Little takeaways that I can be like, I can implement that, I can implement that. So yeah, I do think she overcomplicates things, but I'm eager to hear what she had to say about like finding an easy match, because I know quite a lot about this through Denise as part of Money Bootcamp. So I'm eager to hear what she had to say.

So my head is very much, how do I simplify this? How do I turn it into a tool or a process? And that has always been me, whether it was me doing my first coaching diploma to manifestation where I am now. It's like, how do I make this easy? What's my key takeaway? Mainly for me, because I hate anything overcomplicated. And so there wasn't a step-by-step process, and it was very much about how can I strip away what I've heard to be able to find the process and, and go into it.

Yeah.

And this is my version of the takeaway that I got, the process that I think will be And to be fair, it's no— I'll be honest, it's no different to what I do already. Like, I think I've always done this, but now I feel like it's a really good reminder because what happens is when you get in that negative headspace, you kind of forget all the things that you know. Yeah, it's like, you know, it's like, um, uh, when you're in such a bad headspace, you forget to do the things that you know would make you feel better, or you don't have the energy to do it. Whether it's like, I don't know, going to the gym will always make you feel better, you know, there's never a bad exercise session.

And when you feel down, the last thing you want to do is work with him.

So therefore you don't do it, so therefore you feel worse. And it's like, actually, there's things that you could do. So it's remembering that. So this, I'm gonna go through it. I've like made loads of notes and written it all down, so I'm going to go through it. But there's a reason why I wanted Mart on, because Mart's going to come in and help us all with part of the process that I wanted to talk about. So one thing that Abraham talked about was find an easy existing match. Now, if we break that down and again, remember, I've peeled away everything from what she said and tried to make it really simple. But I'll be honest, before I get into this, sorry, my key takeaway was it's all overcomplicated. Yeah, there is simple ways. But to be fair, if she did a simple way, then it's just a one-step process and then she never needs to come back again. Do you know what I mean? Like, if it's just a series of like, do this, do this, do this, do this, then you don't need her again. But to be fair, to her— to Abraham, rather. Everyone else in that room made it complicated. Yeah, everyone else, because their emotions are involved and, you know, they've got their own specifics, they've got their own agenda, their own ego. They all made it complicated. She just added to that complication, and she did try to make it simple. So what I took from it was it's finding an easy existing match, right? So if you are trying to manifest money but you've got a lack of money, if we think of what Amanda Francis teaches, it's like you are not an energetic match for that. Yeah, you can't pull on it no matter how much you try and pull on a 10K a month. You can't pull on that because your energetic match is currently at minus 10 grand or whatever it is. The easy and existing match is not that you're trying to get to, trying to feel good about that £10,000 to manifest it in. It's not what you're trying to get to is how do I get to that place of alignment and feeling good. Because when we feel good, it all just opens up. The layers peel away, stuff starts happening. And then, like you, it's like, if I think of all the crazy stuff that happens to you in one year when you're in a good alignment space, it's like baby, holiday, free holiday, like, you know, 60K a month, whatever. Like, you, when you're in alignment, like, crazy stuff happens?

I think the reason that it happens, and it's something that I've learned quite recently as well, is that, you know, finding an easy existing match is something that you can find instantly, but it tends to be like a memory of something. So, you know, the day that you held your first child, the day that you got your first house, the day you bought yourself a brand new car, just a memory or a thought, you know, having something tangible and that feeling and that emotion to come back to. Yeah, it's, it kind of takes you back to that place. And there are so many different anchors that we can use, and crystals are obviously perfect for that because they bring you back, they ground you, they anchor you. But some people obviously don't even believe in the power of crystals. But at the same time, it's almost like even if you don't, as long as it has some kind of meaning to you, it's going to take you back and transport you back in time to that memory of when you had what you wanted. So when you were in a good mindset, when you were on that 10, on top of the world. And then it's going to help you to be able to manifest more because your emotions inside are telling you, I'm not at this zero, I'm back up here, I'm on this 10.

100%. I mean, there's my notes gone. I need to switch my iPad back on. Mart's just said everything.

You know what's funny? Like, when we got our mortgage in 2019, this is something that I did because at the time I'd only read The Secret at that point. I hadn't really got into crystals or anything because, you know, me granddad hadn't passed away yet. So that was what would lead me down the road of getting into crystals. But someone told me to anchor myself into getting that mortgage because we're having so many difficulties around this. And they said, all you need is— it was like a token, basically, that you were going to look at and it was going to remind you of the feeling of how good it's going to be when. So I got a key ring and I put it on one key, okay? And that was just to signify this is our house. And it was a picture of me, Johnny, and our dog JJ. And it was literally just a little key ring, and on the side it said first house. That's all it said. So, you know, there's things like that, like a bracelet that I made. I still wear it to this day. This bracelet I made myself at a workshop that I did when I first started getting into crystals. And it reminds me of when I first started the business and how happy I was to be able to get out of the NHS and quit that 9 to 5. I've also got a bracelet here that I was given from Happy Place that reminds me of the power that I have inside of us to stand on that stage and be able to deliver, because also to manifest being there.

Like, you really, really wanted to talk at Happy Place.

Yeah.

And you got it. You manifested it.

And I wear that bracelet now as not just because of its power, but as a reminder that, you know, I am capable of this. And something that Denise Duffield-Thomas does, obviously her book was called Get Rich Lucky Bitch, but the word bitch was kind of seen as like a profanity online. So what she started doing is she started calling everyone lucky bees, as in the letter B. So then all of a sudden she's got loads of bees in her branding, literally like a little bee, like a bumblebee. And because of that, I bought myself a bumblebee pen. I bought myself a bumblebee journal. So it's like a nice black journal with a gold embossed kind of bee on it.. And it's like every time I write in that, I feel like wealthy because I'm reminding myself of the wealth that I can create for myself, for my family. You know, even using my MacBook, it anchors me into the fact that I always wanted a Mac growing up, but my family could never afford one. So every time I use it, I feel thankful that I live this life now. So it's kind of tying it in a gratitude as well. It's like a constant reminder to me to always be grateful for where my business can take me.

Yeah, 100%. I love my math for that because I just imagine I'm Sarah Jessica Parker. Slightly different to yours, still the same though. Still makes us feel good. Um, yeah, absolutely. And that's exactly where I was headed with that in terms of when you're in that manic manifestation, you are not energetically matched to the thing that you're trying to get. So why try? You're literally trying to break down a wall that you don't have a key to. Like, you can't do that. However, You absolutely can go from a 0 to a 10 by thinking a lovely thought. Like, yeah, if you were sat with your friends and you were so miserable but you forced yourself to go out, at some point in that night you wouldn't be thinking about how miserable you are. You would, at some point, I'm guessing, be having a nice time. And it's like, how can you move up that scale of alignment? And one of the quickest, easiest ways is to pull on a thought that you were already at a 10 for.

Yeah.

So if we go through, like, I'm gonna go through my list of like alignment 10s, and then I want some of yours, right? So my easy existing match for a high alignment thought is— and I always talk about this, like, the, the house that I've got, one of the biggest things that I love about it is the drive up to it.

Yeah.

Because, you know, I've told him about this before, is the drive up to it. And even when— so like you and everyone else who's trying to buy a house, it is— I don't care who it is, you're always on the cusp of it going, but it might not happen. Like, because it's just, it's in the hands of so many other things. It's in the hands of mortgage companies, um, surveyors, the other person dropping out, all that type of thing. Like, there's so much resting on, on a house sale that it is on the knife edge. And, and while we were in this space, Mima, my partner at the time, now husband, we decided to— I don't think we were intentionally going to manifest, but this is exactly what we did. We drove up to the house and we decided to go for a run near the house.

Ah, yeah.

Um, so we drove up to it, parked near the house, not on the drive because that would have been weird. Um, but we parked near the house and then we did the run that we would do if we were living there. This was before we had the 7-year-old. Um, so we could go out for nice little joint runs We don't do that now. So, yes, we ran down the bank and along the beautiful countryside that it is and then back up again. And I just remember that feeling of thinking, oh my God, it'll be amazing to live here. So that day, so that anchored with the day that we drove up in his van with the cat on my lap. I remember the cat on my lap. Oh, my mom has made us a corned beef pie. Even that's a lovely memory because my mom's not here anymore. But my mom, because she didn't know when we were going to eat, had made us a corned beef pie. Pie and a quiche. I mean, I don't even eat like a combi pie in a day, let alone a quiche as well. But Jade made us that for moving day. So we're like sat in the van on the drive waiting for the keys for confirmation. And even just that day, the sun was shining and like that. Oh my God, that is that anchor moment where you just go, we did it. Can we get to live in? We get a look on the balcony and So those are definitely moments. I would say an anchor moment for me is one of yours. Like that day that I got a text off you to say that you were bringing Jake home.

Like, oh, I think that was probably my biggest anchor if I think back of like the last few years especially. I mean, I've had loads of like amazing like moments like that, but that one day in particular when You know, we'd gone through 2 and a half years of adoption training and all of these psych tests, all of these, um, social worker visits and stuff like that. And it was almost like it culminated in this day that we got a phone call to say, there's a baby here, the mum has relinquished, um, would you be willing to take him on? And it was just so sudden. And then all of a sudden we're meeting the mum for the very first time who's concealed her pregnancy from the rest of her family. Very young, 19 years old, no longer with the father, didn't feel like she could give this baby the life that we could. And so she was more than happy to hand him over. And just a week later, there we are getting another phone call to say, baby's been born. However, mom wants to spend 24 hours in hospital with him. And we were told that at any point she can change her mind. Yeah. Until that adoption order goes through, she can click her fingers and just say, sorry, I've changed my mind. And it's a huge emotional kind of rollercoaster for us. So we're sat there, my mum's on standby because she would have to look after our dog JJ while we went to the hospital, um, and I just constantly was thinking, is this going to go the way that we wanted to?

Are you going to be bringing the baby home?

Yeah, the thing that got me the most is that for the months leading up to, um, us having Jake is that I said to Johnny, what would you call a little boy if you had him? And he said, I'd call him Jacob, or Jake for short. And I said, right. We said that to our social worker and she said, no, no, no, under no circumstances can you name this child. It has to come from the mother. They have to be given a name from the mother because sometimes in adoption that's the only thing that is passed down. And I said to Johnny, right, okay. She also said, you will never have a boy. She said, you will not get to choose. She said, you probably won't— it's very highly unlikely. She said something like a 99% chance that you will not get a brand new newborn because in the whole 14 years that this adoption agency has been going, they've had 9 relinquishments over the 14 years. And she said it's very likely that your baby will come from a broken home that is to do with child abuse or, you know, like alcohol, drugs. Yeah, yeah. So I was like, right, okay. And I thought, you know what, I'm not having this, I'm not having this. So I was like coming into my house on a night walking into the house, feeling gratitude for the house, and shouting up the stairs, Jake, your tea's ready. And Johnny would like look over the banister and be like, what's going on? Who's Jake? And it was so funny. And I even bought a token item. I bought a little baby grow that said, baby Dodds coming. And I think I put something like December 2023. Now what's funny is we got the phone call in December. He was born in January. And when we got that phone call and I was like, this is an emotional rollercoaster. They said, would you like to know what the mother's called the baby? And I went, yes, please. And she went, so it's a baby boy and she's called him Jacob. And my jaw hit the floor and it was almost like, okay, I know that he is ours. Do you know what I mean? So it, for me, that is a huge anchor, just that joy, that excitement, that fulfillment that we finally had our family complete on that day. And I can constantly go back to that every time I walk in my door because I know exactly where I was stood when I got that phone call. I remember how much I was shaking with excitement. I remember making that phone call to my mom to say, it's happening, it's now. I remember like being stood there in the hospital room and seeing them for the very first time and holding them and feeding them and changing them all for the very first time. And whenever I think of that, it takes me straight away. I could be on the worst day ever. I can be on a zero and I can think about that and it'll take me straight up to an 11. Do you know what I mean? Straight away.

100%. And the reason why I gave that as an example is because some of those feel-good moments don't have to be yours. They can be an experience of someone else. Like, I remember waiting for the message, like, because I knew it was still touch and go. I knew you'd message to say, like, she's asked to spend an extra 24 hours. And I was feeling sick and I was like, no, I've got to imagine I'm walking out with the, with the, um, the car, the, the baby seat. And I've got a picture, you and Johnny, that lovely picture that everyone does. Yeah, of them walking out of the hospital holding the baby carrier. I was like, I've got to imagine that. So then when I did eventually get the message off you to say, like, he's home, I was like, Oh, God, it was like the best feeling. I was celebrating for you. But I've got so many examples of that, of when amazing things have happened to my friends that have got me into a 10. You know, like a friend of mine who was in an abusive relationship, and she'd only told me about it. She hadn't told her family, and they were a strict Muslim family. And so it didn't feel like she had a way out at all and that she was going to have to stay in it. God, this is going deep. Anyway, long story short, she rang us one day and she was like, I'm coming home. And I was like, and I remember that feeling. I can picture myself at my mum's house because I just pulled up. I was popping in to see my mum for something and I ran in and I was like, I'll not say her name, confidential, but I rang and I said the person's name, we'll call her Sharon. And I was like, Sharon's coming home. My mum was like, oh my God, that's amazing. And it was just just like, ah, it's those moments. And you know, you might be in such a low space that you don't have those anchor moments for a lot of your own stuff yet, because maybe you've just been in such a bad manifestation bind. But there are probably other things that you can anchor to that aren't necessarily your existing match, but you definitely felt it.

Yeah.

And there's loads of things that you can do with that. Well, go on, that was an obvious one for me to pull on for you, obviously, because like, why would you not be a 10? You just got your baby. Like, what would be, uh, Another like, oh my God moment.

I've got loads. Like, do you know what I've even started doing recently is turning my phone off mute because I use Shopify for my website and every time you make a sale you get a little ka-ching, like a little old style.

I've heard it on the Shopify advert, but I don't use Shopify, so I wouldn't know. But I've heard it on a Shopify advert.

That Shopify ka-ching noise. Every time I get that, I think, God, I'm so grateful to be able to make money even when I'm asleep. You know, it's just something that you can touch or hear that will connect to that memory of my very first sale. When I got that very first sale, when I launched my website in 2021, I was like, oh my God, someone's just paid me money for something that I can send them. You know, it's almost like a grounding mechanism. So I have these everywhere. Like, it brings you back to the present moment. And even this, this is the first £50 note that I ever made in business, right? So I wrote across the front of it, thank you for all the money I've been sent in my life. More is always on its way to me. And I framed that and I put that on my desk because it reminds me every time that I come into my office and see it that I, I'm capable of doing this. So even when I'm having my down days, when I'm feeling like on a zero, I come into my office and I'm thinking, you know, it's safe for me to be here. It's safe for me to make money. And like I say, it is kind of a grounding mechanism for me. And, you know, something I also use are playlists. I have a gratitude playlist, right? And I've listened to music all my life. I have music on constantly. Sometimes a song that I listen to will trigger a feel-good moment of the first song I played in my new car, for example, or music that was playing when I held my son for the very first time. Another good example is every time I listen to ABBA, right, it reminds me of that joyous time that I took my mum to see ABBA in London on a 60th birthday. On the way back on the train, I gave her a Canicrystals contract and I retired her from a 48-hour-a-week working job.

Oh, so ABBA means a lot, doesn't it?

Every time I hear ABBA, it's a memory that feels so special to me because it enabled me to give back to her after all the years that she gave me. But even smells, like I was just saying, like I've recently just come back from a project doing something exciting for 3 weeks, can't talk about just yet, but I bought myself a new aftershave for that and it was recommended to me by a friend because smelt just like Creed. Creed is about £350, right? This is a fraction of the price. And while I was away, the amount of people that gave me compliments about my aftershave was insane. People said they could smell me hotel room as they walked down the corridor. So everyone was asking where I got it from.

And even this morning, after he was doing— he was in a hotel room, people.

And even this morning, I put it on and I was immediately thrown back to that memory of what I'd been up to. And it just makes me think like, God, how lucky was I to have had that experience and to go through what I went through, you know? But then on the flip side, there's also other things. So for example, when I was running Amber's social media account back in 2019, I put a picture on, on Instagram of myself, Amber, and Kim Woodburn.

Go into detail who Amber is just for people who've not heard this story.

Sorry, so Amber was on Love Island and—

Amber Gill.

Amber Gill. She went on Love Island. She asked me to look after her social media. While she was on there, I put on a picture of myself, Amber, and Kim Woodburn, right? Kim Woodburn's PR reached out to me and sent me a Kim Woodburn mug. That was in 2019, right? And this is really weird because it was like I'd given her support, she'd give me a mug. I was like, oh, amazing. It had Kim Woodburn on it saying, don't start with me, you little bitch, or something like that. And I had to get rid of that mug because it reminded me of the tough time that I went through losing me granddad. So every time I would actually drink out of that mug, it would take me back to a negative time. So every time I opened the cupboard to make myself a cup of tea or coffee, I would see that and it would remind me of how bad I felt. So, you know, it works both ways, I think, with anchors. Do you know what I mean? It's not always positive.

100%. 100%. Yeah. That's why I redid my, uh, when Toby passed away. So my dog, very unexpectedly. Yeah, I hated coming into work and I've never hated my office. And I was like, I need something to shift. I need the energy to shift in the office. I completely redecorated it. It feels so different. Yeah, you're absolutely right. Sorry, there was something else I was going to say as you were talking there. Oh, so one of my— when you were talking about music. Yeah. Beyoncé's Love on Top. Oh my God, that takes me to another space. That absolutely takes me to back when I had my BMW convertible and the roof was down and I was like doo-doo-do-doo! And I was just in this space of release, like I'd left a relationship that wasn't healthy for me and it felt free. Oh God, that music— I love it, love it, love it. Okay so we know, we've really pushed on that now, we really know that you can anchor to a good feeling thought or feeling which isn't in alignment necessarily with your manifestation. But what you're trying to do is get your mood and your mindset into alignment first, which to be fair, everything should be about how your mood is, not necessarily the thing that you're trying to achieve. Because the thing that you're trying to achieve, you'll get it and then you'll be like, oh no, I want a bigger house. Yeah, I want a better car.

Yeah.

So it'll always shift. So it's all about getting you into a higher vibration alignment because higher vibration, what does that mean? It means happy. It means you feel good. And one of the things that I do, and this is why, not randomly, so you could just hear me and Mart reminiscing, was why I got Mart on, because my little Victoria Beckham pouch that when I open it up, I have my little, it's my feel-good pouch, Mart. And in it is my Rose Isle. And then in the little pouch, the orange pouch is, you're going to be like a diamond specialist. Mar, tell everyone, what is this crystal I'm holding?

It's your moldavite.

It's my moldavite. So that is something that I have on me all the time, and the, the current handbag that it's in has been upgraded over time, and it's now a really nice handbag, but the crystal remains the same. Gorgeous amount of crystals in here, but this is the one I anchor to the most, and the reason why is because, well, one, As Mart will tell us, it's one of the most powerful crystals in the world, but it's tiny and it's not heavy and it fits inside the little orange pouch and I can carry it with me and it feels nice. Now I know that when I hold this, if I'm just in a space where maybe I'm sat in the car outside of school waiting for the school gates to open and I want to just anchor myself to that higher vibrational space, I will pop some little rose oil on my wrist and I'll hold my little moldavite and I'll think a good thought. That is the easiest way for me to get into alignment really, really quickly. So the reason why I got Mart on was because I wanted him to just go through almost a whistle-stop tour of crystals that can match some of the things that you're trying to manifest. Because although what we're saying is don't think about the manifestation, the thing that you want, What I thought would be a fantastic idea is if you held on to the crystal that is still matching the manifestation that you want to bring in. So although you're working towards feeling better about that manifestation, why don't you add a bit of magic to it by holding on to a crystal that symbolizes— so for example, if you're looking for money, you're going to hold on to a crystal that's representing money, even though you're not working towards that alignment just yet. You're working towards alignment in general, um, but equally if you're thinking about love and things like that. And so what— that was the reason why I asked Mart Tweedy. So Mark, could you go through a list of crystals that you think would be really good for all the different almost criteria of what people would want to manifest and bring in?

Yeah, because I think the thing that I get asked the most about— and you know, obviously like I've got cannycrystals.co.uk I can see what people search for, and that's the interesting thing. So it's usually peace, protection, love, and money. They are the 4 top— well, fertility as well, actually.

Um, what do people want protection from? What do you think that the altar— what's the pain? Is the pain anxiety?

No, I think it's negative energies, negative people, you know, like mood hoovers and stuff. So, um, I always say to people, you know, black obsidian or black tourmaline because I think anything kind of black is going to protect you. But, um, there are so many different crystals. I mean, most people would have that kind of thing, do you know what I mean? They would have a black tourmaline or black obsidian. But things like labradorite, you know, labradorite is a transformational crystal because it transmutes negativity into positivity. It also protects against people who drain you, but it also increases your intelligence and aids in your transformation as well. And I love labradorite, but there are so many different crystals, like atlanticite, for example. Like, it lowers stress and anxiety, it protects you from negativity, it assists with conflict resolution as well. So if you're having any arguments with people, you know, yeah, there are so many different crystals. And the good thing is that when you go on akanicrystals.co.uk and you click on shop, you can click on a category that says by category., and I've got the most common ones on there for like anxiety and stress, fertility and well-being, um, health, love, look, peace, you know what I mean? So there's like so many different crystals, but I think people just stick to the ones that they, they know about. Like I say, like black obsidian, black tourmaline, but labradorite is my go-to for protection. I have a massive piece behind my front door because I just think, why would I want negative energy in my you know what I mean?

Also, if negative people come in, you just hit them with it.

Yeah, get out! Um, fertility as well. Like, a lot of people tend to go to carnelian because it's all about passion, fire energy, do you know what I mean? So people think, oh my God, it's gonna like create that fire in the bedroom that's going to lead to a baby. But moldavite is one of the most transformationally, uh, fertile crystals out there. And I always say to people, like, try moldavite.

Ooh, so if you're wanting to manifest a baby, that would be it.

Yeah. And I mean, I used moldavite in my journey when we were going through the adoption journey. I would take that moldavite with me everywhere and look what happened to me. Um, I think we are on to something crazy, like our 24th or 25th Connie Crystal baby from people that were going through IVF or people that were going through other treatments., and they fell pregnant after they've had a piece of moldavite. So what I will say is just like, you know, just keep your legs closed if that's not what you want moldavite for, because we don't want everyone falling pregnant. But, um, there are so many different things like Libyan desert glass, moldavite, um, prophecy stone, Campo Meteor. They all have the same kind of high transformational, high vibrational energy that could create new life. So stuff like that, I always say. When it comes to love and romance, you know, people always go for the standard rose quartz because they think, oh, rose quartz love, rose quartz love. Not always, right? So rose quartz is more about self-healing, so it's about self-love, self-esteem, self-confidence. Whereas if you wanted to, you know, promote love and loyalty, long-term relationships, Dalmatian jasper is your go-to. Keeps you heavily grounded. It reconnects us with our playful nature. But like I say, it promotes long-term relationships, uh, similar to what strawberry quartz does as well. So everyone goes for rose quartz. Strawberry quartz attracts your soulmate. It increases your own understanding around your own purposes, Naif, but it aids in healing the heart after heartbreak and loss as well. It's a crystal that I used after I lost my granddad.

That's a pretty one. It does look like a strawberry.

Yeah, I love strawberry quartz. It's such a good crystal. Um, and I think Unicorn Stone is another good one as well because it enhances self-love, compassion, emotional healing. It boosts your self-confidence, your self-trust, but it acts as a filter for negative energy as well. So a lot of these have a few like crossovers and stuff. And obviously the big one for me, what I get asked about the most, is manifesting wealth and abundance. Now most people will go immediately to pyrite, you know. Um, but I always say citrine.

Is this pyrite what I'm holding? The one that looks like a poo?

No, that's prophecy stone. Pyrite is gold. It's what we used to call fool's gold. So pyrite is highly known for like luck boosting abilities, you know, cash flow, that kind of thing. But if we were looking at this on a deeper level, citrine raises your joy and abundance, which obviously helps you to be the best person that you can to get that wealth into your life in the first place. Green aventurine is a really lucky crystal.

Remember when you first came in my office and I told you I had citrine and you were like, I don't think that's citrine. And I was like, I did. I bought it from a really reputable place. It came in a lovely, lovely container. It was so pretty. And look at it, Mart. And he was like, that is definitely not citrine. I went, well, that's what they advertised.

Where was that from?

I don't want to say. That's not very nice. Sorry. Well, mute that bit. But what I will say is Google it because know what these things look like that Mart's saying as well, so that when you, I mean, order them off Candy Crystals, obviously, because then you know you're getting the right one. But I genuinely thought for a long time I had citrine and I didn't, and I just wanted to put that out there because Mart went, um, no, this is what citrine looks like.

But I think with wealth, like I say, like, rather than just using pyrite, use things that you think are going to attract money. If you if you were in a better position for. So for example, I use tiger's eye all the time for attracting abundance and wealth, right? And tiger's eye is brown, it's shimmery. And the reason I use tiger's eye is it's good for focus, determination, willpower, and strength. And I think of all the qualities of the person that I need to become if I want to attract abundance. Yeah, I don't think about, right, I'm just going to use pyrite and that's my A to Z. I'm thinking what are all the steps in between? If I want to create wealth, I've got to focus, I've got to be determined, I've got to have that willpower and that strength to be able to pull that off. Does that make sense?

Yeah, 100%. I'm buzzing that I have a lot of these already. I'm like, I'm going through, I'm like, got it, got it, got it. This is amazing, this is amazing.

You've got one of me advent calendars though, so I think that's why you've got loads of them, isn't it? But I think they're really good.

But I've also collected loads of really good ones along the way.

I think a really good one for people just starting out— like, everyone seems to go to rose quartz, but clear quartz is an incredible all-round healer. It aids in your manifestation process, it boosts your power, do you know what I mean? It kind of boosts your energy and takes it to that next level on a much softer way than moldavite would, for example. Oh, but a cheaper alternative and a more powerful alternative to moldavite is Prophecy Stone. So it's the one that you held up earlier. It helps you make the best decisions. Yeah, it helps you make the best decisions in life. It's got very high vibrational energy, but it's also grounding as well. So it's almost putting you up on that pedestal but keeping your feet firmly on the ground. So rather than rocketing you up into the sky, it's kind of just stretching your legs up, so making you higher. You know, it promotes that feeling of success and abundance as well. So for me, Prophecy Stone is an incredible crystal. Crystal, and it's a lot cheaper than moldavite as well.

Wow. So why am I not carrying that around with us? Right, question, crystal man. Right, question. One thing that I'm always a bit nervous about is where— so say, for example, you just told me about that, that one that looks like poo. What did you say? Prophecy Stone, right? See, if I carried prophecy— yeah, um, with my moldavite around in my little orange thing. Do the energies— how am I trying to describe it? Like, say for example, right, if I took too many tablets or too many vitamins, right, one would cancel the other out. Like, sometimes it's not good to take too many vitamins. Having all my crystals like I did, does that send you crazy that I've got them all together, or is that okay? Like, do they not really—

as long as, as long as you're not using them, like, that's fine.

Not using them in my head, I'm using them because they're in my room.

Yeah, but they're not doing anything, they're just sitting there.

What do I need to do, Mart?

Well, I could say to you, like, if you put your mobile phone in that box there, what use is that? Well, yeah, are you going to get texts? Are you going to get calls? Probably. Are you going to be able to look at them? No. In a month's time, that phone will have died. Nobody will be able to get in contact with you. So what you're doing is essentially you're taking all this energy, you're putting it in a box, and you're just leaving it there. So them crystals, their battery will have like depleted over time. We need to be refreshing them. So as a matter of principle, Today, Sunday, as we record this, um, today is my cleansing day. So every Sunday before the full moon, just as a reminder, basically, you don't have to do it at that time, just as a reminder, I will gather all my crystals. I'll take my—

every Sunday or just before a new moon?

Every Sunday. I just do this once a month, so I use the full moon as my kind of trigger and a reminder. You don't have— you can do this any point. You can do it once a week if you wanted to. I just think that once a month is ample for me. I take all my crystals, take them outside, take an incense or a sage, you know, put them on selenite plates, just kind of waft that over them, let them bathe in the sun, let them bathe in the moonlight overnight, take them all back in the next day. Then when I come to use them, you know, I'm setting intentions, so I'll just grab one and I'll just get hold of it, put it in my hand, talk to it, ask it for support in a specific way of what I want it to support me with. Then I'll put it in my pocket and use it. If I put it back in there, it's just going to be mingling with all the other energies. Like you say, some energies can cancel each other out. It's like, I always think, what's the point of buying moldavite if you're then going to soften its energy? Do you know what I mean? Why would you want this huge transformation to bring yourself back down?

So, which then does definitely answer my question of, I'm not necessarily canceling them out, but the fact that I'm not using them means they're not doing anything anyway.

I mean, you can have them sat around in your room just to be around their energy, but make sure you refresh that energy. Like, when was the last time you cleansed any of them crystals?

Oh, not long ago. I did put them out in the sun. Okay, well, the most I can do, because I'm in an office, the most I can do is just put them on the windowsill.

Yeah, but then did you set intentions?

I do kind of send to it.

Did you, did you set intentions though when you got them back? No, no, just put them back.

Mart Tweedy.

Yeah, so the battery will have been charged back up and that will just gradually depleting again.

This has been, do you know what guys, I did this episode for you guys to have this, but this has been a great lesson for Jade. It's been a great lesson for me because you know what, I forgot how much power I have in this little box with my one little one and my moldavite. So let's see, yeah, I do what you said, I'm refreshing them and I'm setting an intention and I put them in my little bag and I use them. It's fine to use them together in my hand.

Yeah, absolutely fine.

Okay.

And it's like just taking this whole back to, you know, finding an easy existing match as to what the episode was about and stuff. What I will say is like, you don't have to create a new vibration from scratch. Like sometimes the most powerful energy is one that's already been lived in your body. You felt abundance, you felt joy, you felt pride, you felt excitement at some point in your life.

Nothing's a new feeling, is it? It's something you've lived already.

Yeah, so just recall it and relive it. And that's why I use crystals. Like, think of it like emotional muscle memory. Like, the more you revisit that match, the easier it's going to become to anchor in that same energy again. But objects like crystals, they hold energy. But more than that, they hold stories as well. And that's what makes them so potent. It's a simple object, but it becomes a portal to a moment where you felt something powerful. Even something silly like a hoodie that you wore on your first speaking gig. Or a notepad that you bought yourself for your big ideas, they can instantly take you back to who you were becoming in that moment. So I keep very specific crystals on my desk right here, not for what they mean energetically, but because it was on the table that the first time I sold out a course. It just reminds me that, you know, I can do this again. Even visuals work, like your phone wallpaper. You know, it could be a photo of your kids, a dream destination, a screenshot of an old bank balance next to a new one. Something that says to you, look how far I've come. What I tend to do as well is I have a drawer, the top drawer of my, um, underneath my desk, you know, it's full of little reminders. There'll be, you know, my Kajabi little pin when I hit 10K, you know, there's a printed email in there, there's an old affirmation card, there's photos from events where I felt magic. It's kind of my evidence box that manifestation works. But what I will say on this is that your nervous system, it remembers safety. Yeah, so when we consciously revisit these safe, proud, joyful memories, we are telling our body that we're okay, we've done this before, we can do it again. And like I said earlier, don't underestimate music, sense— use all of your senses. You know, you can intentionally assign meaning to something right now. For example, every time I light this candle, I'm stepping into the energy of abundance. You know, it becomes a ritual. It's kind of your cue to align.. And I even have an old envelope with the words paid in full scribbled on it from when I made my final payment to clear my debt. That envelope now lives in my drawer in there because your energy flows where your attention goes. So I think that when you surround yourself with physical reminders, whether in your office, your bag, your car, it keeps you tapped in without even trying. And what I will say just to round this up is that, you know, when we talk about manifestation, I think sometimes, like what we're saying at the start, we do overcomplicate it.

100%.

Thinking that we need to create this massive shift in our energy from scratch, like we've got to build this big new identity before we can attract what we want. But the truth is, you've already felt everything that you're trying to manifest. You've already lived it, even if it was just for a moment. And that's the trick— it's finding something that brings you back to your energy quickly and easily. Could be a memory, the first time you held your child, like I said, the memory that you signed for your first house, you know, even something simple like a keyring, a bracelet, a song, a scent, something that takes you back to when you felt totally in alignment. And that's what I mean by finding an easy existing match. It's something that reminds your body and your mind that you've already been here. Okay, so it's like I've got these little things everywhere, like what I've just been talking about. It's constantly reminding myself, look where you are now, look what's possible.. But these aren't just things, they're anchors. They bring me into the present, back into the frequency of everything that you're calling in. And you don't need to try so hard when you're already surrounded by proof that it's working, that you're already becoming the best version of you who already has it all. So if there's something that I want you to take away from this is that you don't have to wait for the energy to send you something new to feel aligned. Yeah, you can work with anything that you already have— the energy, the evidence, the emotion. It's already there right now within you and around you. And like I say, it's not, you know, the beauty of manifestation isn't some far-off perfect version of your life. It's learning how to recognize the magic in what's already happened. You know, the little wins that you brush past because you were just too busy chasing the next big thing. They all count. They're all proof that manifestation works. But when you can train your mind to seek for those little reminders, whether that's through an object, a feeling, or a scent, you create the most powerful shift of all because you start to live in the energy of your desires instead of just daydreaming about them. So what I will say is maybe tonight, instead of journaling a brand new future that you're trying to create, that you just sit with a memory of a time when everything just clicked in your life. You let that be enough. Let that be your alignment and let that be the frequency that you radiate from. Because the more often that you let yourself feel that, even in the tiniest, smallest of ways, the easier it's going to be to believe that your next level life isn't out of reach. It's just waiting for you to remember who you are. And I think that that's the real secret, that you're already so much closer than you think to manifesting what you want in life.

100%. And, and, you know, I absolutely couldn't have said it better myself. Mart said everything there. Like, absolutely, definitely do exactly what Mart said there. There is so much, and listen to this back, there's so much in what Mart said there that's so powerful. And wherever you are now, if you were in the most uncomfortable headspace, what Mart and I both know and are proof of this, and you will have friends that are proof of this, you will have even just people that you look at and you think, well, how did that happen for them? For a lot of things that we get in our life, as much as it feels like it took ages, sometimes it just happened in a moment and you're like, you know, like, oh my God, like, I cannot believe my life, you know, from a year ago feeling X, Y, and Z to then a year, to year on, and you have so much that you were inviting in. It just happened. And the reason why it happened is because you opened up the space. It's got to be about that. It's got to be about making sure that you are constantly— because we both know, Mart and I, that actually You pretty much can manifest whatever you want, even if you're in the most difficult headspace. Eventually it comes to you. But what happens is, because you're not in a great headspace, something bad will equally happen, or you'll lose it, or it'll just go back to— it's almost like the vibrational match for where you were will just go back. It's almost like you can pull on, you can pull out, you could get the £10,000, but I guarantee you there'll be a £10,000 worth payouts that you've got to do because you were never in alignment with £10,000. So you could make it happen, but actually the real power— what Mart said was the secret, um, he's just created a new secret. Move over, Rhonda. Mart's created a new secret. The secret is, is getting into alignment and staying there, not just briefly. There are so many people that I know that when they're in the best head headspace, they manifest unbelievable things. And yet when they're not, oh my God, does it constantly feel like they're getting brick wall after brick wall after brick wall. Like, it's like, yeah, thing keeps happening, things keep happening to them is how it feels for them. And, and it's being able to consistently stay in vibrational alignment. That should always be the goal, because the end goal is to feel good, irrelevant of what you're trying to manifest.

Yeah.

Oh, Mart, what an amazing episode. Thank you so much. Mart's time is so precious right now, and I really value that. And God love him, it's a Sunday. I mean, she says that she works on a Sunday as well. Meaning me. I can see in the background of Mart, he is frantically packing. You must have— right, how many orders is that in the back?

They're empty boxes.

Oh, getting ready to pack though.

I was getting ready to pack. I was putting myself in vibrational alignment for the orders to come through.

But I know Mart's got loads to do today, and I really, really appreciate his time on the podcast. I love, love having Mart on, and I can't wait to share everything from Manifest when we do. Like, it would be lush maybe to get you back in after Manifest, and we can talk about that. For anyone who— there's still a few tickets left, but there's not many. So if you don't manage to get a ticket, I might get Mart back on to just do a lovely episode around what we got from those key takeaways as well and how you can access that as well. Anything you want to promote? Anything, anything you want to push?

Nothing at the moment.

I think honeycrystals.co.uk, everyone.

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And for those who couldn't get travel as well, I know there's a lot of my, yeah, my students and graduates, yeah, who haven't been able to make it for whatever reason, um, because I don't know, they've got kids to take to school or whatever.

The website for that is mani-fest.uk. So M-A-N-I-F-E-S-T.UK.

Amazing. Thank you so much, Marsh.

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