Start a difficult conversation with "the story I'm telling myself is..." instead of an accusation. It makes you realize your reaction is based on a narrative, not fact, and invites your partner to help rewrite it together rather than defend themselves.
So even just using the language, the story I'm telling myself is, is so profoundly powerful because it reminds you first that what you're experiencing is simply a story.
Yep.
And the second is it allows your partner to rewrite that story for you. So if you say, the story I'm telling myself is that every time you forget to take out the trash, you don't love me anymore,
right?
Help me rewrite that story.
