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Repair It Or Repeat It

16 Oct 2026 · 1 min

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In this personal reflection, the speaker describes a moment of intense anger that was projected onto her young daughter. She traces the origin of this emotional flashback to a memory from age four, when she first experienced self‑abandonment and felt that her own needs were unimportant. The speaker acknowledges the resentment that built up toward her daughter, who she sees as a beautiful free spirit, and emphasizes a therapeutic insight: unresolved wounds will either be repeated in future behavior or will cause the same pain to re‑emerge. The core message is that awareness and active repair of past emotional injuries are essential to prevent their repetition in relationships, especially in parenting.

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What the fuck is this? And it was like projected right at my daughter. And thankfully I was self-aware enough to know like this anger and rage has absolutely nothing to do with her. The age of 4 is the first time I remember self-abandoning and that my needs weren't important. And all of a sudden I have this 4-year-old who's this beautiful free spirit, and I had so much resentment. Wow. You can't just move away from it and expect To not— you know, if you don't repair it, you repeat it, or it gets repeated, or both.