Everything You Know About Success is Wrong...Try This Instead
Russell Brunson argues that success comes from changing subconscious patterns, not willpower. He uses wrestling and weight-cutting to show how repeated practice becomes automatic, then points to Viktor Frankl's idea: there's a space between stimulus and response where you can choose differently.
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Hey, what's up, everybody? This is Russell Brunson. Welcome back to the show. Excited to be hanging out with you guys today. And mostly excited because today I could talk about one of my favorite topics of all time and excited to go deep on it with you guys. Now, the title I have for this presentation, for the video, for the podcast, whatever you want to call it is, it's the master key that unlocks all success. And I've been geeking out over the last, I mean, honestly, two decades of my life, three decades of my life trying to figure out how to be successful in wrestling and then in business, other things in my life and my family, with my kids, like, all sorts of stuff. Like, I geek out on it. I buy a lot of books. I study. I go, like, to the, you know, the obsessive compulsive level. I think I'm at, like, 18,000 books I bought in the last two years. All based on success. Yeah. So I'm into it deep, and I want to simplify so much of it for you guys because there's a lot of stuff, and you can get down the weeds and the rabbit holes, but there's some things that are really, really simple and you understand them. It literally is the key. I'm calling it the master key. Napoleon Hill's call. He has a course called Master Keys. Charles Hannel has a course called Master Keys. Both these guys have courses from way back in the early 1900s. But this, for me, is like my version of that. This is the master key that when you understand this and you plug it in and you use it, it can literally unlock all your success in any area of your life. I don't care if you're trying to be more successful an entrepreneur, as a fa, as a father, as a wife, as a spouse, as a, like, as an athlete, like, whatever it is, like, this key is the key, and it's so simple and so powerful after you understand it. And so I want to spend some time going deep into today. So if you guys are cool with that, I'm going to jump right in. I got three core things I'm going to talk about. Each one will go kind of deep on because they're all. They all kind of build upon the other. So make sure you don't skip to the end to make sure you don't miss anything, because first one builds on the second, which builds on the third, and then you place all three of them together. It's like, oh, that's the secret. That's the whole key. And so that's kind of the game plan that we're going to go deep into right now. So hopefully you have some fun with that. Hopefully you're okay with that because it's gonna be a lot of fun for me and I just enjoy talking about this stuff. So let me know in the comments down below if you're cool with that. And if so, I'm going to jump right in. Okay? So the first thing you gotta understand this is one of my favorite things to study and to learn about is understanding the difference between the conscious mind and the subconscious. Okay? I talk a lot about this. If you've ever been to my selling online event, I go deep in this. But from a standpoint of like helping, like learning how to sell people stuff, right? Because I'm having a con conscious conversation with somebody. But if I want to sell them, I'm actually speaking in a way that I'm speaking directly to their subconscious mind because that's what gets them to break their false belief patterns, gets them to move. And you have to understand how to do that. So I have a whole event about that, like in context of selling. But this one, I want to explain it in context for you, just understanding your life and why you do the things you do and why you sometimes don't do the things you want to do, right? And it all comes down to this conscious and subconscious, like how these two, these two minds of ours work, okay? And I'm not going to get deep into like the, you know, the science behind it. I just want you guys to understand what you need to understand to be successful with it, okay? So the first thing you understand is that like by default, when we're born as kids, like we're blank slates, right? And everything we're learning is patterns. We're learning these patterns and they get ingrained into our body, into our mind. And that's like, that's the, the like really what's happening. So consciously we decide like, hey, I want to go do this thing, you know? And like, I think one of the easy examples to think about is like, let's say when you wanted to learn a car the first time, right? You jumped behind the car and you're consciously have to be aware of all these things, right? Okay, here's the steering wheel, here's the clutch. If you're, you know, old school like me or like, you know, here's the things, here's the radio, here's the. And so like all these things, you're driving, you're trying to stay within lines. And you're like, consciously keep going back and forth. Like, you know, stay in line, stay in line. You know, you go back and forth. You try to figure out where you're going, and you've got a map and you're trying to. And, like, you're consciously doing all this stuff. That's why the very first time that you. That you drive somewhere, it's really hard. It's a really difficult thing, right? But then what happens is we do it once, we do it a second time, a third time, and a fourth time, right? We keep consciously doing, but consciously we're. We're doing this thing, but it builds a subconscious pattern, right? And so eventually you jump in the car and you start driving, and you don't even know what's happening. Your brain's consciously thinking about something else. All these things are happening. And your subconscious mind's like, I know how to get into the office. And boom, you show up to the office, right? And you get outta your car. You're like, how did I get here? I don't know how I even got here. Or sometimes you think you're gonna go somewhere else, but then you stop paying attention. Your subconscious mind will take you to where you, like, you end up the office. Like, I was trying to go to church. Like, what just happened, right? Because it's that the pattern's so there. And so all we say is, consciously, I want to go this place. So subconscious mind takes over, the pattern happens, and then, boom, we just go, okay. And so these patterns happen over and over and over again. Like, first time we do something, it's consciously. Second time, it's consciously third time. We keep doing it over and over and over again until it becomes a pattern, and then it becomes part of us, okay? In sports, athletics, a lot of times they call this muscle memory, right? Again, I didn't know. I didn't understand conscious or subconscious back then, but I was competing as an athlete. That's what they said. Like, you gotta drill something so many times, it becomes muscle memory. It's just part of you, right? And that's what they're talking about, right? When I was in wrestling practice, I consciously would sit with the coach, and they would say, okay, here's how you do a single leg, right? And you go through. Here's where the arm goes and the other arm. And we walk through all the pieces, right? And then we drill it, and we drill it and we drill it, and we'll drill that same move hundreds and hundreds, if not thousands of times, right? And it's like, I'm not. Like, it's not that hard to get the move right, but I'm doing is. I'm taking this consciously. I'm turning it into a subconscious reaction, right? And so I know that, like, when somebody moves this way, right, I'm not thinking, okay, the person stepped here. Now I'm going to go take a shot, right? Instead, what happens is you've done so many times, your subconscious mind just feels it all since, like, there's less pressure, something's opening here, something's moving, and you don't even know what's happening. But boom. Your subconscious mind, because you've drilled it so many times, consciously, it's become subconscious. Now your subconscious mind just takes it and it happens, okay? And it's really fascinating. And the reason why it's so important. I was doing some studies and looking this up. Like, the speed of our conscious mind versus our subconscious mind. It's like our conscious mind can handle, like, I think it's like 50 bits per second or something that. Where our subconscious is like 400 billion bits per second. It's insane. In fact, the stat I found, and there's a bunch of different stats, they all kind of conflict a little bit, but basically it was 27,500 times faster. That's the speed difference, right? And so when I started wrestling again as an old man, I started going these tournaments. It was crazy because I get out there and start wrestling, and I would be wrestling out there. All of a sudden, I see the move. Like, there's the move, like his legs open. But I'm very conscious, right? Because I've been doing it. So I was conscious. I go to shoot, and I'm like, slow. And by the time I'm like, halfway there, the guy's leg's already gone. Because I move so slow, right? That's what's happened when we're conscious, okay? But when you get back to the spot you're drilling, you're drilling, it gets in your subconscious. You're not thinking. You're just out there playing, having fun. All of a sudden, it's like, boom. You just go because you felt it. And subconsciously, 27,500 times faster, that much faster, boom. Your brain just subconscious goes, right? That's why they always talk about, like, if you're in your head, you're dead. Because as an athlete, if you're in your head, you're consciously thinking, okay, what do I do now? What do I do now? Right? It's when you get out of conscious and in subconscious, that's when you get into flow state and you can do so much more because your subconscious is so much faster because it's built patterns. And you've done those patterns so many times that just that part of your brain takes over and it's so much faster than your conscious mind, okay? So anytime you're doing things consciously, that's when you struggle. I see this happening when I'm speaking on stage. If I'm on stage and I'm very conscious, like, I'm like too slide driven or too much. Like I get out of the rhythm and. And it's just hard to explain where, like, I'll get in a spot where I'm doing something and also, like, I don't know what happens. I feel like something else takes over and it's a different experience. Like, I can tell the times that I'm teaching consciously versus subconsciously. And when I'm teaching subconsciously, like, that's when magic happens. People are crying, like, things are happening, like, and it's hard to get to that point. But it's just tons and tons and tons of repetition that transitions you from conscious to subconscious, right? And so it's the key. Now, a couple things to note, and this is gonna set up the next part. So it's important to understand this. I had a really good coach one time and he asked everyone, he said, you know, we're practicing. We're practicing the same thing over and over and over again. He says, what do you guys know about practice? And some of my team's like, practice makes perfect. And my coach was like, well, that's not actually true. Like, what are you talking about? Then why are we practicing all day, right? We're trying to get perfect. And he said, perfect, practice makes perfect. Okay, so this is what happened. I see this every, actually every jump, right? I wrestled in middle school, I wrestled in high school, I wrestled at college. I wrestled like, you know, I trained at Olympic level. Never got to compete that level, but I trained there. So, like, what's interesting is that the each level, what happens is you come in with your good habits and your bad habits, right? So as a kid, I'm learning a single leg. And you know, my coaches, my dad, everyone's like, just trying to get me to actually shoot. Like, just, just grab, like shoot and grab their legs, right? So I do it and eventually I get better. I get pretty good at it. Cause I've done it so many times. And like, I have some success, you know, I'm aggressive So, like, I start winning some matches that way, and it's like, cool. I'm good on my feet, right? I'm good at shooting and taking people down. Then I get to the high school level, and also I go out there and like, I didn't realize this, but I have bad habits. I'm standing too straight, my elbows are out. Like, it didn't affect me at this level because, you know, the kids weren't that good. But the next level, those kids who are better than me, like, they pick it apart really easily. Like, you're out of position, you're out of stance. It's really easy to beat me. So, like, I have to go back and relearn the pattern. Like, I have this pattern that I've been doing in middle school, right? I go to high school, and the pattern doesn't work anymore, right? So I had to break the pattern. I have to redo it. So I have to come back, I have to relearn and how to shoot, how to keep my elbows in, how to keep my arms small, how to keep, like, in. In stance, and I shoot over. And so all through high school, for the next four years, I'm drilling, drilling, and I'm building this new muscle memory, right? Gets better and better and better. The spot where I get to a certain level, right? For me, it was like I became a state champ, went to. Went to nationals, took second place in the country. I was. I was really good, right? And then I got a college scholarship. So I go to college, I show up the very first day, and again I'm. I'm a state champ. I'm second place in the country, All American. Like, I think I'm gonna just kill everyone. I walk in this room with these college kids, and I get destroyed. And it was humbling for, like, what just happened. Like, I'm. I'm really good. Like, how are these guys beating me so bad? And I realized it's because I had been practicing to that level, but I was. I was out of positioning in so many places. I didn't know, right? I get to the next level, and it's like, these guys are so much better that, like, I can't do things sloppy. My hips are out. This, like, little. Little tiny, little nuances, like, changed everything. So I had to go learn how to re. Like, rebuild these patterns and in a way where I could beat the guys to the next level, okay? And so I saw it so much in wrestling. Every single area I'd go to, right? But the key was, like, understanding first off that, like that. Just by default, you have these patterns, right? Whatever level you are, okay? Now, obviously, I'm sure I got a handful of wrestlers listening this. Most of you guys aren't wrestlers. Most of you guys are entrepreneurs who are listening. And so I want to liken this to entrepreneurship, right? And just any area of your life, actually, with your family, with your kids, with anyone, right? We have these patterns, and. And the pattern started when we were young, right? And we don't remember consciously making these, but they happened, right? And so the pattern, it could be. It could be all sorts of things Tony Robbins talks about, you know, when you're a little kid and you're trying to get attention, trying to get love and stuff. And all of a sudden, like, one kid goes and he trips and makes everyone laugh. And he's like, that day, a comedian was born. Cause you saw the pattern. Like, oh, I tripped. They laughed. I'm gonna do that again. And so you start doing funny things, and, like, that's how you get love, right? And someone else, like, they tried a bunch of things and their family wasn't paying attention to them, and they went and they achieved something, right? And all of a sudden, like, they saw they had success achieving, and he's like, that day, an achiever was born, right? Like, if I achieve something, something's gonna happen. So, like, we start building these patterns just based on things that are happening, right? As when we're 2 years old, 3 years old, 5 years old, 10 years old, right? We don't even know they're happening. These patterns start happening, right? And a lot of times, these patterns will serve you in some areas of life, and they will hinder you in other areas of life, okay? But you're showing up to your life right now with a whole bunch of patterns that have been programmed, right? It's me wrestling in middle school, doing something that got me through life. Now I'm trying to operate at this level, and my pattern is wrong. Okay? It was. Okay. It was good enough to let me win at that level, But I'm at the next level now, and, like, I just keep failing and failing. And I don't understand why I'm so confused, right? And so that's the. That's the first step to understand is that this is what's happening in our whole brain. There's this conscious thing we want to do, and we're building subconscious patterns, right? And the subconscious patterns, if done correctly, will lead you to the next level of success. If done incorrectly, will hold you back, okay? And Again, a lot of times it's something that served you, which is why it's so frustrating. It served me for so long, but. But now it's not serving me right, and it's understanding that it's coming back, say, okay, I'm in a pattern that's not correct, Right? My subconscious programming that got me to this level is not getting to the next level, and I gotta fix that. Okay? And this is where most people make the mistake when they want success is they're trying to figure out, like, I work harder, I gotta do more things, I gotta. It's like, no, no. Usually it's not that usually it's literally, it's fixing this pattern that's. That you're struggling with. Okay? So that's the first step, is understand that. Okay? Now I'm gonna move into step number two, which is kind of building upon this. Right? Step number two, then, is understanding patterns. And, man, we had funnel hacking live two or three weeks ago, whenever it was. Tony Robbins came and spoke at the very end of the event. And as Tony does, he shares a million cool things. But he shared one of my things. One of the things I've heard him talk about a lot. It's one of my favorite things, but it's understanding patterns. He's like, patterns are the key to everything in life, right? Like, when you start understanding, like, everything's happening as a pattern. Somebody punches you, you instantly are going to a pattern, right? You're subconsciously moving to a pattern. You get a bad email more, you instantly hit a pattern. Somebody says something to you, like, someone honks at you, like, like a million different things, right? You. You're scrolling on Facebook and something happens, or Instagram or YouTube. And like, like, these patterns are just automatically being fired off from things that you've been doing for the last. You know, however, how old you are right now, all those years, these subconscious patterns you've built to, like, survive life have been in the program, right? And so what's happening is, like, these patterns keep happening, and then you react to them and you don't even know. Right? Right. A trigger happens, and then you react to the pattern, and you're stuck in this pattern. Okay? And so what Tony talked about, there's three levels of this. And honestly, when I met Tony Robbins back 15, 16 years ago, like, of all the things he did, he did so many great things for me, so many things that I learned, and, like, I could go on to, like, all the frameworks I learned from him, but really, like, one of the Most powerful things is he helped me become aware of my patterns. And when you become aware of something, then you can actually do something about it. Most of us, most people live their lives not even knowing that they have these patterns, and they're frustrated that they're not having the success they want, the happiness they want, the health they want the whatever. And they don't realize it's all just because of these patterns. They have their middle school wrestling patterns, and they're trying to wrestle in college, and they're not having success, and they're just frustrated. Like, I'm working harder, but it doesn't matter if you're out of position. Right. For the analogy, if I'm out of position, those guys are going to beat me every single time. It's not me working harder. It's me realizing that. That I practiced imperfectly, and perfect practice makes perfect, not practice makes perfect. Right? So I got to come back to the drawing board, reset my patterns, and then practice perfectly to build the correct patterns. Okay. All right. So here's Tony's three levels of patterns. Level number one, he says you have to recognize the pattern. Okay. And this is, again, one of the greatest gifts I can give you is helping you to start recognizing patterns. Okay? He said, you gotta identify patterns in your life, such as history or in your own habits or things that are happening. Right. So what are the patterns? So I think about this all the time. Like, with myself specifically, like, the same struggle with my wife. I'm like, okay, every time we get to this certain circumstance, situation, whatever, like, things. Things unravel, like, why, you know, and most times, like, oh, we're so frustrated versus, like, okay, what's the pattern that's happening here? There's. There's this input, and then I'm slipping into a pattern. What is the pattern? Right. We figure that thing was. I'll show you a really good example with this. So growing up in wrestling, a lot of you guys know wrestlers. We cut weight. Like, that's what we do. Especially when I was in high school, like, we used to cut a lot of weight. In fact, all the way until, man, my senior year in high school, there were three kids in the country that all died from cutting weight. And so they changed the, like, the rules and stuff, which was way better for the sport. But prior to that, like, I would come in on a Monday morning weighing 160 pounds, and by Thursday, I was weighing 130. So I'd lose 30 pounds, and then by Sunday, I'd be back to 130 or, sorry, 160. And by next Thursday, back down to one. Like, I was losing 30 pounds a week, week in and week out, right? But that's just the game and it's water weight. So don't send me your health advice. Everyone. Always, every time I talk about weight, kidding. People send me all the health advice. I'm like, you understand you don't lose 30 pounds by eating less calories. Like, you do it by, like squeezing the water out of your body, right? It's a different, it's a different mindset. But I did that every single week for 12 years of my life through middle school, high school and college. Like, I was coming in and losing, you know, 15, 20, 30 pounds every single week. So what happened is, like, you were, I was so strict all week long, right? Like, I, I, I ate healthy, you know, cut out water, you know, all, all, all the things. I'm not, I'm not going to teach you. Maybe I'll do a training in the future on how to cut weight. That could be a whole different video that, like four of you guys would care about. But I had a whole pattern then we'd weigh in after weigh in. You take as much nutrients to your body as possible because you're wrestling an hour later. So you get the right nutrients, light things, get energy back up. Then you go out there and wrestle, right? And then you're like, hey, I have a week 10x weigh in. So what do you do? You eat everything you haven't eaten in five days. So you eat so much and you drink so much and it's just like you're consuming because you're like, you're just starved, right? And so then I blow up, gain my 60, you know, back to 160 pounds. Monday came on jump on the scale. Oh, crap. 30 pounds over. Now we start the process, eating perfectly, dieting, losing weight, like all this stuff back down. And so, like, that was the pattern for 12 years of my life, okay? Then I get done wrestling and are no longer competing. My wife and I are, you know, living our life. We have twins. She gets pregnant with twins, you know, and it's a funny season of our life because she's now got two babies inside of her and so she's eating for two. I just got done wrestling and so I like, I'm no longer working out and my wife's eating ton of food and I' e food too. So we both start eating and both of us gain in the next, you know, four or five months. We both gained like 5060 pounds, right? And so I'm like, you know, and she's big because she's pregnant. And then the craziest thing happened. One day, December 11, she has twin babies and loses, like, 50 pounds overnight. And I'm sitting here like, my weight's still here, right? And I had that weight for the next eight years. Could not get it off. Tried everything. And when I started realizing, I started seeing to myself is I would come in every single Monday, I eat superhuman. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, I see my weight dropping, dropping, dropping. Then Friday would happen. Weekend starts. What I would do, I just made weight, and I'd go in all weekend long, boom, boom, boom. Come back over the weekend. I was like, I gained a pound, right? From the. From the weekend prior. And I lose weight, lose weight, lose weight, lose weight. Weekend party, you know, eat a ton of food. You know, this is Mormon partying. So this is me just eating a lot of food, going to Burger King, and eating all sorts of stuff, right? And then start. It's like, for eight years, I was this cycle happening over and over and over, and it's crazy. It wasn't until my friend Carrie Woodward, she. And she had wrestling brothers and stuff, but she looked at me one day and she's like, you realize you have an eating disorder, right? Like, what are you talking about? I'm an eating disorder? And she's like, no, you do. She's like, look at, like, the pattern. You literally are in the same pattern that you were in your entire wrestling career. Like, you eat healthy, eat flawless. Like, perfect execution. And the weekends, you gain it all back and you do that thing, and, like, you're in the exact same cycle the last eight years you've been doing for the 12 years prior. And I was like, oh, my gosh. And suddenly I was aware of the pattern, which is phase number one, right? Recognizing the pattern. I recognize the pattern. This is why I can't lose any weight. There's this pattern that was built subconsciously, right? And it's there, and I didn't even know it was there. So if I don't know it's there, it controls me forever. Unless I'm aware of it, I can't fix it. So, number one, step number one, phase number, write this down, tattoo it to your hand, recognize the pattern. What is the pattern you're rolling into? Okay, again, health, fitness, business, whatever it is, right? What is the pattern that is negatively holding you back? You have to recognize it. Okay, Phase number two now in Tony's process is then you have to learn how to use the patterns, okay? So after you see the pattern, it's like, okay, now I know this is my pattern. How do I use that pattern for my good, right? So for me, with the eating thing, it was like, okay, now I know this. So I'm like, if I can just survive Saturday and Sunday, Friday night, Saturday and Sunday, I'm going to be okay, right? It's. The pattern is the weekends I'm going to party because I feel like I made weight so I can eat whatever I want, right? And so for me, it was like, okay, now I know the pattern. I'm aware of it, I recognize it. I can use that pattern, right? So I start figuring out how to use that pattern. How do I use that in a way that's going to be beneficial? So for me, it was like, okay, now I know this is my weak spot, so I got to fortify myself. How do I make sure Friday, Saturday and Sundays, I'm good? And then when I do that, then Monday starts, and now I'm starting back off again, right? And so I started tweaking things around. And so. And I'm not gonna go deep into all the things I was doing. But as soon as I was able to recognize the pattern and figure out how to use the pattern, right, how to manipulate it, then I started having more and more success, right? My weight started coming down, things got better. And, like, so much of that came from, like, understanding the pattern. Okay? So phase number two is, like, using the pattern, but there's the better. There's. There's the next phase, which is even better. And I'll get to that here in a second. But that's. That's for a lot of you, gets to be next phase, right? So it's like, I keep trying to launch my funnel, but I'm not having success. Well, why not? And, you know, I probably asked a couple questions. You're like, well, you know, I'm on my 30th try. Or you're like, I don't have an offer yet. And I'm like, how long you been listening to me? Like, I'm listening to you for three years. Read every book. I'm like, you don't have an offer yet. That's step number one. You gotta create an offer, right? Or it's like you get in this learning cycle, right? Cause it feels good to learn. I see this all the time where people are like, the pattern they have is like, I love learning. I go to seminars, events, listen to podcasts, read the book, and they get in this learning pattern. Cause they love it. It feels good. But they're not in a pattern to be successful, right? So it's like, oh, my gosh, I'm in a learning pattern. When I was in college, I was in high school, I used to love to learn. I felt smarter. I felt, like, significance, the fact I was smarter than other people. So I love learning. So I went to school, went to. You know, and for some of you guys, especially you guys who are like, you've got your master's and your doctorate, and you're like. Like, you're just this pattern of, like, I love to learn. I'm going to. I'm going to acquire all this knowledge. But you're not in a pattern of executing, getting things done, right? So. So you realize, like, the reason I'm not successful, I've been stuck in this pattern. And I'm in this pattern. Cause it gives me significance and happiness and all these things from back when I was in high school and then middle school and college, right? It's like I'm in the same thing now where I'm just learning and I'm learning and I'm stuck in this pattern, right? Maybe it's not you. Maybe it's like, you got the thing out, but now you got the funnel live and you did all the pieces. Like, you created it all, but you're not getting traffic. And it's like, why am I getting traffic? It's like, well, what's your pattern? Okay, there's a pattern that. That's holding you back from doing it, right? What's the subconscious pattern? Like, every day I wake up, and then I come and I. And what are you doing? Like, I don't know. I would ask these questions to figure out what the pattern is after you're aware of. It's like, hey, well, the pattern to get people to come to your funnel is this, right? There's two ways, either free or paid. If you're doing free traffic, it's like, you need to create a new pattern. Oh, sorry. I'm showing you guys what phase three is, but it's like, I got to create a new pattern. Then it's going to get me the outcome, right? So what's the pattern? Okay, it's me, and my wrestling coach is saying, russell, you're losing because your elbows are out. Okay, what's the new pattern? Coming back. Elbows in. Now. I'm going to drill and drill and drill a thousand times, two thousand, five thousand times this way, until it becomes subconsciously inside of there and then now instinctively when it hits I, the pattern is the correct pattern I go to, right? So I kind of skipped ahead. But phase number three for Tony is then creating a new pattern. Okay? So phase one, recognizing pattern. Phase two, learning how to use those patterns to be more successful. But step number three, phase number three is way better, which is now creating a new pattern. Okay? You have a soul pattern. It's been great, okay? But now you got to create a new pattern. So what's the new pattern that we're consciously creating? Not the one that was given to us because our dad said something to us or our family member or someone at school made fun of us or whatever the thing is, right? It's like, what's the pattern I want to create? And I consciously create this thing, okay? And this is where, you know, morning routines people talk about or habits, like how do we make something habitual? Habitual habits or things that you just do over and over and over again until it becomes a pattern, right? And so the beginning though, you don't like, you have these pre built patterns that are either helping you or they're holding you back, right? When I get to the third phase of me creating new patterns, like it's coming back and saying, okay, I'm gonna create a pattern, but I'm doing it consciously, right? And so very first consciously, it's gonna be slower. I gotta do the thing, I gotta practice, I gotta practice again. I gotta practice again. I gotta practice again. I'm drilling the move, I'm drilling the move, right? I'm driving to the office, I'm driving to the office till eventually, like it becomes the pattern, okay? And you gotta drill that thing like repetition over and over. Like repetition is such a big part. Like you do the repetition until it becomes a new ingrained pattern, okay? Patterns are kind of like ruts in a field. Like think about a tractor, right? A tractor's out there in the field, is doing the tractoring thing and it's going through all the field, right? Let's say the field's wet a little bit, right? So it goes through and it starts digging these like these ruts into the, into the mud, into the dirt, right? And then the, the, the mud hardens and stuff. And now these huge, these huge divots, these huge ruts, right? And if I'm driving a tractor, I could drive to the rivets, I could jump out of it and they'll snap into those ruts, right? And it'll just follow, it'll follow that pattern, right? That's what's happening. Our brain, we've done things so many times, there's these ruts. So for us it's like, hey, if, if I'm going to be successful, like I could understand, okay, here's the ruts, here's what's happening. I'm aware of it now, I'm seeing it. But if I want to really be successful, I got to create the new ruts, right? The new pattern. So I got to stop the tractor, get some boards, drive it out of these ruts and say, okay, now what's the ruts? I need it to be in to be successful. And you start building it, cultivating it, drilling it over and over and over until it becomes a new pattern. Okay? And so that's the, that's the, the key there. On step number two, right, is the pattern. So again, Tony's three phases. Phase numbers, recognizing patterns. Phase number two is using the patterns. And then the best phase is moving into creating your own patterns, right? They're gonna get you the new moves, get you the success. Okay? All right, so before I move on to step number three, I got something really cool to share with you guys and it happens to be about my favorite company on the planet called ClickFunnels. Now obviously if you want to sell stuff online, you're gonna need a good funnel. But if you want a great funnel, you're gonna need to use ClickFunnels. ClickFunnels is the number one funnel builder in the world, helping more first time entrepreneurs to leave their 9 to 5 and to launch their dreams to than any other company that you've ever heard of. ClickFunnels was built for the dreamers and the doers. And you can get a free 14 day trial by clicking on link in the description or going to clickfunnels.com YouTube right now. Click funnels because you're one funnel away from changing the world. Okay, so with that said, the third piece, and this is the key, this is the master key. Okay, I told you guys this episode, there's a master key. And this is what the master key is. When you understand this, this is the part that is the key. And I found this randomly. You guys know Viktor Frankl, he wrote Man's Search for Happiness, like one of the best books of all time. But there's a quote, I can't remember if it came from that book or another book. I bought everything he's ever written because he's amazing. But there's this quote and this is one thing that unlocked everything for me, okay? You think about patterns, right? There's usually something that happens. There's like. There's the stimulus and there's a response, right? And so someone hits us, we get the email, we see the thing on swipe, someone shoots on our legs. Someone like, fill in, like, whatever that version is for you. You get depressed, you get anxiety, you get fear, you get whatever. Like, there's some stimulus and then there's the response, right? And that's what happens. And so this response, typically, by default, is going to be the pattern that you've done the most, right? Stimulus happens, boom. You instantly hit into. Or stimulus hits you instantly into your subconscious pattern, okay? And so this quote, like, it gave me so much freedom when I understood, like, again, this is the master key. So this is what he said. You guys ready for this? This is the writer downer. I'll read it twice because it's so important. Now, Victor Frankli said, between the stimulus and the response, there's a space. And in that space lies our freedom and power to choose our responses. In our responses lies our growth and our freedom. Do you guys catch that? Between the stimulus and the response, okay? So the thing happens, the trigger happens, your subconscious response. He said, between the stimulus and the response, there's a space, okay? It's a gap. It's a little tiny space, and it's not long. It. It's very, very short, right? There's this gap, there's a space. It says, in that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our response, to choose the pattern we want. Okay? That's the problem most people have. They don't choose the pattern. Stimulus hits response, boom. In subconscious pattern. And it's going to either serve them or it's going to destroy them. And it happens every single day, 100 times, every single day or more, right? Okay? In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our responses. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Okay? That's the key. That's the master key, is understanding that we have a choice. We need to become aware of our patterns because there's going to be a stimulus and there's going to be response, okay? And by default, you are running off of response. You know, again, wrestling. It's me. It's my middle school thing that I drill, right? I'm at a college level trying to compete, and all of a sudden the stimulus hits, and my response is a middle school wrestling response, right? The guy takes me down easily, and I'm like, man, I got to work harder. No no, no, you got to work harder. You got. You have to fix the response. Okay? The pattern is incorrect. Okay? Perfect. Practice makes perfect. Not just practice makes perfect, right? So right now you have been living your entire life at this point, practicing imperfectly. Like the subconscious responses have been happening because of just life happening. You were not aware of it, right? Now you're aware of it, right? Phase of morphotoni. Become aware of the pattern, right? Now when the stimulus hits, I'm aware. Oh, my gosh. My pattern is always to do this, okay? My pattern is when Friday happens, I'm going to go eat as much as possible because I feel like I just earn, like free food because I've been cutting weight all week, even though I'm not cutting weight anymore, right? Stimulus, response, stimulus. I become aware of the pattern. Stimulus hits, I become aware of the pattern. And now there's this space, and this space happens. And it's very short, okay, Where I can go and I can figure out what is the pattern I want to move to, okay? And then we start doing that, right? We build a new pattern, we create a new pattern. We go there over and over and over again until it becomes the correct response, okay? But until it does, and it's going to take a while, right? You have to realize that there is a space between the stimulus response. Somebody says something to you instead of responding, you stop. You're like, okay. The pattern I normally go to is anger. The pattern I normally go to is fear. The pattern I normally go to is tears or whatever, right? No, no. What's the pattern I need to go to? That's going to give me the, like, what's the new ruts I got to create? What's that look like? Okay, here's the new ones. I. I gotta create the new pattern, okay? And that's how you start growing in life, you guys. That's how you start having more success. That is the master key is starting to come back and looking at this whole thing. Stimulus, response, okay, here's the stimulus. What's the pattern that I'm responding to? And so think about any area of your life you're not happy with. It could be your finances, it could be your family, it could be your spouse, your kids. It could be your coworker, it could be whatever, right? When you start becoming hyper aware of the stimuluses that are happening, right? What is the stimulus? And then when that stimulus happens, what's your response? Okay, I watch this all the time with coaching clients. I have a chance. I don't do A lot of it. But I have my inner circle. I do one on one coaching with them. It's always interesting because, like, I'll ask them a ton of questions. People like, you just sit there for like. Because, like, there's this thing we call decade. I give people 15 minutes and I'll spend 10 minutes just asking questions. And they're like, why do you keep. Like, I just want you to solve my problem. And I'm like, and I keep asking questions, they're like, so interesting. And then I ask a question, like 10 minutes or so, and all I'm really doing is trying to understand, like, their stimulus response. Like, what's the pattern that they're in? And I ask the question, ask the questions. Eventually I'm like, okay, this is the pattern you're in. And because they paid for me to coach them, I'll tell them, like, this is the pattern you have. Like, you got, like, here's the tweak. This is how you change the pattern, right? Right. Now, every time you say this, you default it. And you see sometimes in their face, like, they'll talk about their business and they'll sigh and they'll get sad and they're like, look around. Like, I can see you. Like, you're not going to have success in the business. I can see that, right? I see the response. It's happening. The pattern's happening. It's showing up on your face. And I can see it by asking a couple questions. And sometimes they're excited about the business, but then you ask them about their team or you ask them about traffic or about whatever the thing is, right? And you see, they see the response, the physiological shift in their countenance happens because of that. And I can stop and be like, okay, you were so happy. Tell me about your vision. And the second I asked you about your team, everything dropped. I was like, I saw the pattern. We got to fix that pattern. If you hate your employees, you got to go like, there's the pattern. So either you got to learn how to love them or you got to get new employees or like, whatever that thing might be, right? Or sometimes I see people who, they have this response where it's like, they want to grow a business, but they have pain associated with it, right? I have a friend who, man, this is probably 20 years ago, he had way too much success too fast, and it destroyed him, his life, his marriage, got into drugs, alcohol, like, lost everything. And it's fascinating. Now he's come on the other side of that. And I watch him as he, as he starts new eras of his life, he starts having some success. And every time he gets this little glimpse of success, he just self implodes. And he doesn't understand why I keep trying to tell him, because you liken success to ultimate failure. So even though you consciously want success, your body's like, last time I had success, this is what happened to me, right? And so it's built patterns to make sure that you never happen, that ever happens to you again. So because of that, he can never have success. I'm like, you gotta become hyper aware of that pattern, right? And then you gotta go create new patterns because until you do, you will never. Like, your subconscious is moving so fast, right? 20 what? I say 27,000 times faster than your conscious mind. As soon as you're thinking about it, sorry, not happening, you can feel it, you can see it. People can see it externally on you, right? When, when you think about it, when you start going towards it. And so it's just such a key to start understanding those things. And so think about any area of your life, you're not happy. And think about this. Excuse me, Think about the stimuluses that are happening and then the pattern that automatically responding, okay? Then you have to come back and say, look, for me being more successful, it's not for me to work harder or work longer hours or do anything. It's me fixing the stimulus, the response to my stimulus, fixing the pattern, rebuilding the pattern a new way, right? Me coming from middle school to wrestling in college, like I could put in 20 hours a day and I'm not going to get any better because my elbows are always out. Because that's the pattern I drilled my entire middle school, right? I have to stop that. I have to change the pattern, get in the right stance and then drill that as many times as possible till that becomes the pattern. The ruts get deeper, deeper and deeper, right? It moves from being conscious to subconscious. Now I'm out there wrestling, I don't even know what's happening. I shake hands, everything disappears. And I'm wrestling and all of a sudden it's like I feel like I don't even know. Subconsciously, 27,000 times faster. Subconsciously, my brain's like feels. He moved. That means his legs open. Boom, right? And like that. Fast in position, shot, elbow, correct. Like boom. And like it happens, right? But that's the way the game is played. And it's not just athletics, it's in business, it's in entrepreneurship, it's in relationships, it's everywhere. And so that is the key. That's the thing you guys have to learn and understand and master. Okay, really quick, before we move on, do you guys have a funnel, but it's not converting? If so, the problem, 99% of the time is your funnel is good, but you suck at selling. If you want to learn how to sell so your funnels will actually convert, then get a ticket to my next selling online event by clicking on the link in the description or go to selling online.com YouTube right now. Okay? So to wrap everything up, if you want to change your life, the master key, okay, is getting, number one, you have to start becoming really, really good at recognizing the patterns, right? What's the pattern? Okay. Number two is realizing that between the pattern, or between the stimulus and the response, the trigger and the pattern, there's space. And in that space, you have the opportunity to stop and to choose the pattern you want. Right? It's the pattern interrupt. You had to. You gotta, like, interrupt the pattern. There's some space, and then from there you're rebuilding with a new pattern. And you gotta drill that new pattern until it becomes second nature, till it becomes the default, until it becomes the response. And if you do that, then when life comes at you, business, personality, whatever, like, you've created the correct pattern that's going to take you to the result you want. And that's literally the key. It's so fascinating because for years, my life, I've tried so much to, like, outwork it, outdo it. And, like, there's. There's a lot that goes to hard work, right? Hard work is good at helping you build the habits and the things I have. So I'm not against hard work. Like, I love hard work probably more than most people. But what's crazy is, like, instead of, like, trying to push a car up a hill where someone inside's got foot on the brake, if I can stop, like, take the foot off the brake and, like, fix things, you know, change the pattern, then it becomes really simple and really easy. And so, yeah, that's what I want to share with you today. I hope it was helpful for you. It's fun for me to talk about this kind of stuff, because most time I'm talking about business. It's like, the reality is, like, the squeeze page isn't things holding you back. It's your ability, your willingness to follow, like, to. To get out of the pattern that's holding you back and get the right pattern. That's really, like, the bulk of what I do with people. And I have a chance to work one on one with them. It's less about the tactics because the tactics of business is actually pretty easy. The hardest thing is like recognizing and rebuilding your patterns that'll allow you to actually execute the game plan. The game plan is simple. I've read about all my books. You've got any of them? You got dotcom secrets, expert secret. You have all the books, you've got the plans. It's just your response when the thing hits you. What does Mike Tyson say? Everybody's got a plan until you hit in the face, right? You have a plan consciously and you hit the face and your subconscious takes over. And depending on how you've trained that, depending on the patterns you have consciously built, to correctly response to the punch in the face is how the success looks on the other side of it. So that's that. Hope that helps. Thank you guys so much for listening to the show. I appreciate you all. Thank you for allowing me to serve you guys. I love it. I love you. I cannot wait to see how you change the world. Thanks so much and we'll talk to you guys all soon. Bye.
