When men try to change, reminding them of past mistakes triggers anger and sabotage. Partners need to hold them accountable while also reminding them who they can become, not just who they were.
I believe there's a really good man inside everyone and he's just trying to figure out how to come out. I mean, this. If there was one thing that anybody got on this podcast, it'd be the worst thing you could do is remind a man of who he used to be when he's trying to change. Because then we get furious and we're like, all right, fine, you want that guy? Fine, fine. Those overbearer us and we're like, and we will be a bad person in spite of even wanting to be good just because we want you to see what that bad person looks like that you keep talking about. And dude, it's literally self sabotaging sabotage. Yeah, it is like totally burning the whole freaking family to the ground. And so that's why also the woman has to trigger the man, tell him the truth, but then also remind him of who he is.
