Don't Pray For Life To Be Easier, Pray To Be Stronger

Don't wish it was better. Wish you were better. Why is this important? Because the only thing you can control is yourself. The only thing you control is your mindset, your thoughts, your beliefs, your focus. You can't control what the external environment can do. You can't control what other people think. You can't control other people's judgments. And the more you focus on what you can't control, the more misery you'll feel in life. And there's an actual inverse correlation to how successful you are versus how much you focus on what you can or can't control. And how do you know you're focusing on what you can control? You have a sense of fulfillment. You have a sense of freedom. You have a sense of feeling like that you can actually do something about that. You have a sense of power. But when you have a sense of powerlessness, that means you're focusing on what you can't control. And we have a lot of studies on this. And even with my girls, my three daughters, when they come home from school, and one of my daughters may say, this person picked on me. It's so tempting for me as a parent to go to that child or go to the parent of that child and tell them to stop doing that. And sometimes you may need to do that, but that, at the end of the day, focusing on what you can't control, you can't control what other kids do. So what I do first and foremost when I'm helping my daughter out is that I help her reframe on what that means, because that's what she can control, on what she makes that event mean. So if you want a happier life, you want more success in your life, focus on being better. Don't focus on it being better.