A short YouTube talk by Richmond Dinh reflecting on personal experiences of betrayal, rejection, and hurt. Dinh emphasizes mutual imperfection, the role of pain in causing harmful decisions, and advises replacing expectations with appreciation and self-acceptance as a path to peace and success (defined as being able to sleep proud of who you are).
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Have you ever been betrayed, rejected, or let down by someone you care about? Or has somebody that you deeply trusted cheated on you, lied to you, or stolen something from you? If you have, then I know exactly how you feel. Because I, too, have been cheated on. I, too, have been betrayed. I, too, have been taken advantage of and been rejected many times over. But here's the truth, and I'm going to be honest with you. I am not perfect. And I, too, have hurt my loved ones. I, too, have let my family down. I, too, have broken people's trust. And it's not because I'm a bad person. And it's not because I'm meant to do it. But it's because I, too, was also in some form of pain and suffering. And here's the thing. We all make bad decisions when we're hurting. We all think the worst when we're fearful or scared or worried. We all say things we don't mean when we're angry or frustrated or pissed off. And we all act irrationally when we're feeling uncertain about someone or something. And this is what I've learnt. Anytime you feel like someone is causing you pain, and anytime you feel like someone is hurting you, it is because, first of all, you're forgetting that you, too are not perfect. And secondly, it is because you are projecting your own expectations and your own references and your own judgments on how you think they should be. You see, if you keep on expecting yourself to be someone you're not, and you keep on expecting other people to be who they're not, you're always going to feel like you're being betrayed and let down. And the only way you can free yourself from that pain is to trade your expectations for appreciation and be at peace with who you are. And be at peace with who they are. Now listen carefully. Success is not a measure of how much money you make, how big your house or how many fancy cars you drive. It's a measure of how well you can sleep at night being proud of who you are. And I can assure you, the more you're at peace with every part of who you are, the more successful you will be.
